What's worse being raped? or being falsely accused of rape?

[_God_]

If I was falsely accused I would be ashamed embarrassed and mad. If I was raped I would be on the brink of suicide. For a woman rape is so degrading n belittling embarrassing the worst but I think women are able to handle rape better because they still have their essence of womanhood. But for a man if u are raped you are no longer a man. The psychological consequences of the actual can destroy ppl, the court destroys the falsely accused lifestyle but they make it thru

 

[2stepz_ahead]

i cant call it....

being raped would be giving up all power and you are forced to bend to someones will and they control you , your body for their own sick desires until they are done.

being accused falsely.. you are living with someones lie and forced to defend yourself against something you didnt do and people wont believe you because why would someone lie like that. it can grow to your family and they can be affected too and carry that burden as well. you would literally have to relocate otherwise it will always be in the back of your mind that someone is whispering. you'd be afraid to trust people and visa versa. an thats if you didnt get put in a cell because of this.

 

[Dupac]

i think rape edges out the faulty accusation. because in your heart you know you did nothing wrong in the false accusation. even if you have trouble proving it, and you even have to face the consequences, you know that you're innocent. but rape victims often feel guilty about something that was way outside of their control and that imo would be worse. then again i've never experienced either so i really don't know. I was just pondering it.

 

[Dupac]

some answers i got from facebook asking the same question

I would say being falsely accused of rape is worst because there is a sterotype that comes with that allegation regardless of if you are/not guilty the sterotype stays. Now let me be a lil personal and say that i am surviving rape victim and living with that experience is not easy at all as it affects all areas of my life but there are resouces I use to help me cope with having had that tramatic experience. However there is no realistic help for a person that has been wrongfully accused of such a crime.

And i agree thats true to a certain extent. From what I havr heard and studied, often times thise that have been falsely accused and did jail time are held captive kinda by their thoughts because they know they are innocent however the jail time becomes a mental breeding ground for resentment and bitterness towards a judicial system that is supposed to protect them but ended up being the very thing that wronged and scared them. There are noresources to deal with that and even if it was how would one approach dealing with it?

I disagree because I believe a false accusation is a form of rape itself! You're rapung someone of their reputation, life, livelihood and freedom. I believe to know you're innocent is worse than of you actually committed the crime. The lasting effects of both are detrimental to whoever is in the receivding end! Just look at the guy who was falsely accused and lost his scholarship and chance to play in the NFL and spent 5yrs in jail before the girl came clean! I bet he'll disagree with you.....

all these are from women

 

[Elzo69Renaissance]

what?

 

[The Lonious Monk]

From the other topic;

what's worse?

being raped..or being falsely accused of rape?

In the moment, I'm sure being raped is worse, but I'd say the after effects are probably the same. Either way, your life is likely ruined. At least if you're the rape victim you probably have some control. If you can get past it, you can pick up the pieces and move on. However, if the falsely accused person is going to be treated differently by others, and that person has no control over that.

Poll should have had a "Equally Bad" option.

 

[2stepz_ahead]

i mean what if the woman being raped has an orgasm....that must be a fukked up feeling that your body is betraying you during a time when you are being violated.

thats like a man getting raped in prison and he nuts while being violated....

yukky yuck

 

[obnoxiouslyfresh]

I think I'm gonna have to go with rape being just a titch more unpleasant.

 

[_Lefty]

Man hell no. Ain't no comin back from rape bruh. Especially for a man. You can clear your name if you're falsely accused. You can even take solace in knowing in your heart that you really didn't do it. You can chalk it up to God's plan, anything.

What part of God's plan type shit can you attribute to rape ma nigga? Even @DoUwant2go2Heaven Can't come up with a bible verse for that one. Hell naw, no comin back, i'd never be right again. I'd rather somebody take my integrity or perception of it or whatever than to take my fuckin manhood completely.

If I was to ever get raped, ever b, instant death sentence, and even then, it won't quite do it for me. If you accuse me of rape, I can half way laugh it off because i'd feel the evidence could get me up outta there.

Ain't no silver lining in a rape victim cloud B. None whatsoever.

 

[Idiopathic Joker]

@5 Grand

 

[mryounggun]

The fuck type of shit is this?!?

 

[obnoxiouslyfresh]

i mean what if the woman being raped has an orgasm....that must be a fukked up feeling that your body is betraying you during a time when you are being violated.

thats like a man getting raped in prison and he nuts while being violated....

yukky yuck

I haven't heard this really about grown women, but with children it's not uncommon for this to have a lot to do with why they have trouble telling their parents. For kids, there is so much confusion and no perspective, so while they understand that what's happening feels wrong and bad, physiologically they sometimes respond to being stimulated and there are times where they experience pleasure. So for a 4 year old, there is no way to process that kind of trauma, and they have shame and secrecy about that, which makes telling a parent so much more difficult.

 

[Dupac]

just so yall know i thought abut this after the "he molested my brother" argument that validated the shitin the other thread, and people saying anyone can throw that accusation out to validate anything....

people have died over that accusation....

someone can accuse you of rape.....and their family members will straight out immediately place a deathwish on you....and if any of them are about that life you could literally die off of a lie if it's a false accusation....

i mean that's a powerful accusation to make on someone especially if it's not true......if my wife came home today and said she was raped... i wouldn't even investigate......my immediate reaction would be that dude gotta die....

call it stupid all you want... but it's just like that....

dude just killed a man the other day in his hallways cuz his wife was attempted to be raped.....granted the accusation was true... but i'm just pointing out the power of saying you were raped by someone.....

that shit is powerful as hell....you can lose your job, the trust of your friends and family,your freedom and your life....all off of a false accusation...

 

[Dupac]

Brian Banks, a promising high school football player who had committed to play at Southern Cal, was an innocent man accused of rape. He remembers sitting at the defendant's table 13 years ago and not one person in the courtroom would look at him or talk to him or acknowledge him.

"It was like I was not even in the room," he said Monday. "I felt like I wasn't a human being. I was a number."

He naturally has been paying close attention to the rape case of Stanford swimmer Brock Turner, 20, who was convicted on three felony counts related to a 2015 sexual assault on an unconscious and intoxicated woman, who is now 23. Santa Clara County Superior Court Judge Aaron Persky sentenced Turner on Friday to just six months in county jail — he could get it reduced to three months with good behavior.

Banks, who works in the NFL's Los Angeles office, was 16 years old when he was accused of rape and tried as an adult. He was sent to juvenile hall for a year before his case came up. He faced 41 years to life in prison and first turned down plea deals for 25, 18 and nine years. Why? He didn't do it. He finally agreed to undergo 90 days of observation in Chico State Prison with assurances from his attorney that he would then get probation. It was a better option, he was told, than a young black kid facing an all-white jury.

 

[obnoxiouslyfresh]

I'll play but Du you know this shit ridiculous right?

Oh, and congrats on your platinum thread.

 

[Dupac]

I'll play but Du you know this shit ridiculous right?

Oh, and congrats on your platinum thread.

i don't think it's going platinum... people are acting scarey to jump....

my face book conversation about the topic is getting much more burn....

 

[TonyDubbz]

I wouldn't want to be accused of being a rapist nor would I wanna be raped

the fuck....

Ayo man this is a fuckin trick thread cause if you accused of raping somebody and you go to court and dont win then its a chance you gonna end up getting raped your damn self when u doing time/nh

 

[CapitalB]

never been raped..

but at the end of the day.. or the argument..

its jus sex..

to be falsely accused of it tho and the ramifications of it financially.. socially.. judiciously and professionally is devestating..

iv seen it happen..

all a bitch has to do is yell rape and the witch hunt begins..

 

[obnoxiouslyfresh]

I'll play but Du you know this shit ridiculous right?

Oh, and congrats on your platinum thread.

i don't think it's going platinum... people are acting scarey to jump....

my face book conversation about the topic is getting much more burn....

Du, that's cause this is weird. One thing is bad. The other thing is also really bad. So, the only thing it accomplishes is supporting other people's attempts to minimize what happened to another person. Like, "Well, you may have been falsely accused of rape. But at least you weren't raped!" Then we dismiss the bad thing that happened because it's not bad enough.

 

[Louis Devinear]

This is tricky. Because if you're falsely accused of of rape and get convicted, you're still going to jail, still have to register as a sex offender. Even after release the stigma will still be there. Family/friend relationships will be broken. And your life will be in complete shambles. Almost impossible to repair.

This also applies to someone who is actually guilty of of rape. But the victims of actual rape suffer more. They become shells of them former selves.

To me they are both horrible offenses. If anyone rapes someone they deserve all the possible time they can get. And vice versa if you falsely accuse someone of raping you, and the falsely accused does time behind it. All the years that person was made to serve behind your falsities, you should be made to serve the same time. These people can never get back what you took from them.