Is there a shortage of Black men, or are women just too picky?

[Blue Virgo]

Exactly. But this what I don't get. If a brotha is nice, he gets the "oh he's too nice" response. If he's sensitive, then gets the "I think he's gay" response. If he does nice things for her, then he gets the "its just too good to be true" response. It's like a lose/lose situation for us.

I mean, it just depends on the person that's receiving the "actions"....it's about having that nice balance of all those traits.

And it really goes both ways.

Some men like aggressive/assertive women, but to some she'd come off as a bitch. ya know?

 

[king hassan]

I was chatting with the doctors in my office the other day and this one chick (Asian doctor) made that comment that when she was on the bus some man offered her his seat. But she was offended by it because she says she neither Old, crippled or pregnant. A lot of women nowadays have a I can do it, I don't need a man for shit attitude. So guess what, men don't want to deal with you. Let me carry the heavy bag, let me change the tire, but noooooo, they got it, and they will forever be single

 

[Recaptimus_Prime360]

I mean, it just depends on the person that's receiving the "actions"....it's about having that nice balance of all those traits.
And it really goes both ways.
Some men like aggressive/assertive women, but to some she'd come off as a bitch. ya know?

True. I don't mind an independent woman. But there is a such thing as being TOO independent. U can't do it all. Like my ex. When we had our fallin out, she emails me how she wants a man to take charge, come up wit ideas, and be assertive. But by response to her was, how can u say u want a man to take charge, when u don't wanna give up the reigns? Or when I do come up wit ideas, you shoot them down. Or when I'm assertive, u ignore it and do what u wanna do. Like u said, it is a balance. Man gotta know his role, and a woman gotta know hers.

 

[blackrain]

I was chatting with the doctors in my office the other day and this one chick (Asian doctor) made that comment that when she was on the bus some man offered her his seat. But she was offended by it because she says she neither Old, crippled or pregnant. A lot of women nowadays have a I can do it, I don't need a man for shit attitude. So guess what, men don't want to deal with you. Let me carry the heavy bag, let me change the tire, but noooooo, they got it, and they will forever be single

exactly...what I think the past 2 generations of women have really fucked up at is in giving off this "I don't want a man" attitude...it's cool if you feel you don't "need" a man in your life, that's fine, but everybody wants companionship of some kind and I think alot of women don't know how to show a man they WANT him in their life even if they don't "need" him to do certain things...i don't NEED a woman in my life to do certain shit but I'd be lying my ass off if I said there's certain shit I don't simply want a woman around for

 

[Recaptimus_Prime360]

I was chatting with the doctors in my office the other day and this one chick (Asian doctor) made that comment that when she was on the bus some man offered her his seat. But she was offended by it because she says she neither Old, crippled or pregnant. A lot of women nowadays have a I can do it, I don't need a man for shit attitude. So guess what, men don't want to deal with you. Let me carry the heavy bag, let me change the tire, but noooooo, they got it, and they will forever be single

Bingo!! U hit the nail on the head dawg

 

[king hassan]

exactly...what I think the past 2 generations of women have really fucked up at is in giving off this "I don't want a man" attitude...it's cool if you feel you don't "need" a man in your life, that's fine, but everybody wants companionship of some kind and I think alot of women don't know how to show a man they WANT him in their life even if they don't "need" him to do certain things...i don't NEED a woman in my life to do certain shit but I'd be lying my ass off if I said there's certain shit I don't simply want a woman around for

that's the main reason why I stay in my daughter's life my dude. I open doors for her, take care of things she can't handle and the whole time showing her what type of dude to look for. Now what she does later in life is on her, but at least I'm instilling something in her now.

 

[J-GUTTA]

I was chatting with the doctors in my office the other day and this one chick (Asian doctor) made that comment that when she was on the bus some man offered her his seat. But she was offended by it because she says she neither Old, crippled or pregnant. A lot of women nowadays have a I can do it, I don't need a man for shit attitude. So guess what, men don't want to deal with you. Let me carry the heavy bag, let me change the tire, but noooooo, they got it, and they will forever be single

exactly...what I think the past 2 generations of women have really fucked up at is in giving off this "I don't want a man" attitude...it's cool if you feel you don't "need" a man in your life, that's fine, but everybody wants companionship of some kind and I think alot of women don't know how to show a man they WANT him in their life even if they don't "need" him to do certain things...i don't NEED a woman in my life to do certain shit but I'd be lying my ass off if I said there's certain shit I don't simply want a woman around for

Bingo!! U hit the nail on the head dawg

It's these same women who consider themselves divas and clear the dancefloor when Single Ladies comes on.

 

[blackrain]

that's the main reason why I stay in my daughter's life my dude. I open doors for her, take care of things she can't handle and the whole time showing her what type of dude to look for. Now what she does later in life is on her, but at least I'm instilling something in her now.

man i do that with my oldest cousin and my niece now...they're both 11 and I take them out just me and them and do all those little things...pulling out her chair, walking on the outside of curb and making them walk on the inside little stuff like that they know should be done...

 

[dr. zero_ahh]

It's both. However, the question is...how many of these "successful" women deserve a man? Until I see stats breaking down black women from A-Z like the ones for black men, I really don't think we can have a fair conversation about it. Black women in general need to stop being so fucking desperate and worrying about a relationship in the first place.

 

[Dupac]

lol, i was just coming in the thread to co-sign Drax, and make the same point BR made...

majority of black men in college are between 18-22...with another large group from about 21-27...

once you hit the 30's you have blackmen who are pursuing a higher education, but the numbers get smaller as time go on..

jails on the other hand....

from 18-death

that shit was never a fair statistic..

you're going to ahve to do a comparision of each age group to accurate take toll on how many in jail vs college...

 

[dmv_use2thewait]

Nah, there is no shortage.

Once you factor out the females who are extremely obese, have multiple kids, and the ones you receive a 1 on the 1-10 scale, it's all even.

 

[haute]

Both...but then again idk. Cause if u let all the black men out of jail, we'd still be picky cause I ain't datin no jail nigga.

Black women just need to expand their horizons and be willing to date people for who they are and not just black men. Cause them niggas sure ain't standing round lookin for us.

Word........

 

[blackrain]

lol, i was just coming in the thread to co-sign Drax, and make the same point BR made...

majority of black men in college are between 18-22...with another large group from about 21-27...

once you hit the 30's you have blackmen who are pursuing a higher education, but the numbers get smaller as time go on..

jails on the other hand....

from 18-death

that shit was never a fair statistic..

you're going to ahve to do a comparision of each age group to accurate take toll on how many in jail vs college...

anytime i hear somebody quote that statistic I want to throw a book at their fucking head...that's one thing that really pisses me off

 

[JadaRoss]

It's both. However, the question is...how many of these "successful" women deserve a man? Until I see stats breaking down black women from A-Z like the ones for black men, I really don't think we can have a fair conversation about it. Black women in general need to stop being so fucking desperate and worrying about a relationship in the first place.

alot of them feel they deserve a good man no matter how trifling they may be

 

[JadaRoss]

42% of Black women are unmarried. 70% of professional Black women are single. The numbers don’t lie and there is a real gap between “datable” Black women and men. Even if there is some degree of inaccuracy in the numbers, if you just talk to Black women, many will agree that there are some challenges finding a “good black man, ” that is… one that is not behind bars, gay, or with other races. So, the statistics do play a role in this challenge, but it does not tell the whole story.

 

[dmv_use2thewait]

alot of them feel they deserve a good man no matter how trifling they may be

love them for their flaws and all but will they do the same for you? cuz if your flaws are different than their own...it ain't happening.

 

[Colin$mackabi$h]

............................the second one

 

[Dupac]

again, just being a professional does not automatically qualify you as a "good black woman"...

and how many women have never been married before?

how many have no children?

how many are good communicators?

how many are victimes of verbal and/or physical abuse?

how many are now verbally and/or physically abusive themselves??

how many are considerate partners?

how many can hold a good conversation?

how many have a nice delicate personality?

how many of them are controlling?

how many of them smoke?

how many of them are unattractive?

how many of them flat out rude and obnoxious people?

yea numbers don't lie, but they damn sure can imply things that are not at all specified....

all those percentages tell you is that those women are single.. it doens't say shit else about them other than they are single...

you would have to interview each one in depth..to find that out...and trust me.....you'll find out quickly....

either they want to be single by choice.. or they're just not high quality of a catch as they would like to beleive they are...

 

[Sun God]

I dont think women are too picky or there is a shortage of men. There are plenty of aint shit black men and women around to choose from the hard part is figuring out who is about something and also sifting through those that act like they are about something but really aint.

 

[JadaRoss]

Too Many Black Women Have Bought Into the Stereotypes On Who They Are: The perception that Black women are hard to get along with, mean, bitchy, argumentative, bitter, etc. has become a reality for too many black women. It is not an attractive quality to have when trying to maintain a relationship with a man.A wise man once told me that anything with two heads is a monster, so only 1 can be head of the household.