Is there a shortage of Black men, or are women just too picky?

[Recaptimus_Prime360]

Both...but then again idk. Cause if u let all the black men out of jail, we'd still be picky cause I ain't datin no jail nigga.

Black women just need to expand their horizons and be willing to date people for who they are and not just black men. Cause them niggas sure ain't standing round lookin for us.

now that's not true at all. ok well maybe the celebrity mofos. them niggas definitely ain't checkin for black women AT ALL.

 

[blackrain]

dude stats dont lie,there are more blk men in jail and outta work then blk woman.

so therefor there is a shortage. succesful blk woman have a point. plus there 1.5 million

more blk woman then man.

funny the article talks about bullshit stats and this is one of the biggest myths...when you limit that scope to the age most people are in college there are NOT more black men in jail than college...of course the numbers go up if you include a larger age range...it does for EVERY race

 

[BReddy2]

bitches ain't shit lol

 

[2stepz_ahead]

i think its a bit of both....

i bash women on the ic from time to time but i have to say this time its both.

dudes now are careless and kill each other for nothing and everybody got a gun because they are trying to prove something. then you have the guys that are flaming gay. then you have the guys that dont know how to be a man and make kids an run and make more careless non guided men...

but then you have women that if they dont see the opportunity that someone can take care of them...they want to keep it moving and just sleep with the sexy mandingo thats blowing her back out yet treating her like shit

 

[Blue Virgo]

And what is too picky?

I think it's perfectly acceptable for people to have preferences as long as they can match/compliment what they're asking for.

I don't think not dating a jail nigga is being picky...it's just a preference/standard that you have.

 

[blackrain]

And what is too picky?
I think it's perfectly acceptable for people to have preferences as long as they can match/compliment what they're asking for.

I don't think not dating a jail nigga is being picky...it's just a preference/standard that you have.

i think what is meant is pretty much said in the situations she literally described...ignoring the man who gives you a polite greeting but complain that "chivalry is dead"...saying you can never meet/find a good man but you work all day and spend your free time with your friends so you're never making yourself available to the opposite sex...stuff like that

 

[Recaptimus_Prime360]

I blame the media, and a lot of these magazines. And also Tyler Perry. Lot of these media outlets got a lot of black women wanting the same kinda men they see in movies, tv shows, or books. The type of brotha that's over 6th, built, romantic/thuggish/sensitive, financially set to take of them, understands her, reads her mind, listens, blah blah blah. It's just goes on forever. All those things i listed, a lot of women expect to find that the instant they meet a man. This why I hate "waiting to exhale". This hefa already exhaling at the beginning of the movie, for a brotha SHE JUST MET!! WTH??

Yea I kno we have our faults, but c'mon now. I'm not sayin just choose ANYBODY, but sometimes u gotta look yourself in the mirror, and ask yourself what are YOU doin wrong.

 

[Blue Virgo]

i think what is meant is pretty much said in the situations she literally described...ignoring the man who gives you a polite greeting but complain that "chivalry is dead"...saying you can never meet/find a good man but you work all day and spend your free time with your friends so you're never making yourself available to the opposite sex...stuff like that

Oh, gotcha.

 

[caddo man]

lol dude but if its 3 chicks trying to get at that 1 guy what she gonna
do.

That one black guy is you! Think about it.

 

[blackrain]

Oh, gotcha.

it's true in a sense...i've had women not speak to me at all in the morning when i hold the door open for them until they see what company i'm headed towards when walking into my building for work and i've also worked with and heard alot of women my entire life complain about not being able to meet a good man while she's working, going to school, and doing 10,000 other things...you can't complain about not being picked if you don't make yourself available to be chosen

 

[Recaptimus_Prime360]

i think what is meant is pretty much said in the situations she literally described...ignoring the man who gives you a polite greeting but complain that "chivalry is dead"...saying you can never meet/find a good man but you work all day and spend your free time with your friends so you're never making yourself available to the opposite sex...stuff like that

And stop listening to advice from your bitter girlfriends. There's always that one hefa who's relationships wit guys always go bad. Mainly bcuz she sleeps wit the mofo the 1st 19mins she met him. That 1min is her gettin bent over in the club bathroom. Those type of hefas do not give good advice at all. Y'all need to start realizing that misery loves company

 

[Blue Virgo]

it's true in a sense...i've had women not speak to me at all in the morning when i hold the door open for them until they see what company i'm headed towards when walking into my building for work

Not even a "thank you" or "good morning/afternoon/evening"?

 

[Blue Virgo]

I blame the media, and a lot of these magazines. And also Tyler Perry. Lot of these media outlets got a lot of black women wanting the same kinda men they see in movies, tv shows, or books. The type of brotha that's over 6th, built, romantic/thuggish/sensitive, financially set to take of them, understands her, reads her mind, listens, blah blah blah. It's just goes on forever. All those things i listed, a lot of women expect to find that the instant they meet a man. .

I kind of agree with some of this.

I don't blame the media, I blame the gullible women that eat this up and think they automatically deserve it just for being them.

That kind of man is ideal, but any realistic woman realizes she won't get this immediately after meeting/dating a man. Hell, a lot of men aren't into their emotions like that, so the "sensitive" thing especially takes some time--I know this from experience.

 

[blackrain]

Not even a "thank you" or "good morning/afternoon/evening"?

nope...either i get nothing from the majority of the women or I get a look like "I know you're trying something"...even funnier is I've purposely not held the door sometimes just to see what would happen and some of those same women will get on the elevator sucking their teeth at me and i've overheard little snide comments like "That's so rude"

 

[blackrain]

yo i thought it was just me!
when did it become cool to not say "thank you" when a brother hold a door open?

when women became convinced that just because they have a vagina they're entitled to be treated a certain way

 

[Blue Virgo]

yo i thought it was just me!

when did it become cool to not say "thank you" when a brother hold a door open?

That's very rude. I always say "thank you"...it's almost reflexive.

Also, guys don't have to hold the door open.

 

[Blue Virgo]

nope...either i get nothing from the majority of the women or I get a look like "I know you're trying something"...even funnier is I've purposely not held the door sometimes just to see what would happen and some of those same women will get on the elevator sucking their teeth at me and i've overheard little snide comments like "That's so rude"

lol. lose-lose.

 

[blackrain]

I blame the media, and a lot of these magazines. And also Tyler Perry. Lot of these media outlets got a lot of black women wanting the same kinda men they see in movies, tv shows, or books. The type of brotha that's over 6th, built, romantic/thuggish/sensitive, financially set to take of them, understands her, reads her mind, listens, blah blah blah. It's just goes on forever. All those things i listed, a lot of women expect to find that the instant they meet a man. This why I hate "waiting to exhale". This hefa already exhaling at the beginning of the movie, for a brotha SHE JUST MET!! WTH??

Yea I kno we have our faults, but c'mon now. I'm not sayin just choose ANYBODY, but sometimes u gotta look yourself in the mirror, and ask yourself what are YOU doin wrong.

lol yeah alot of women are out here who want a man who is sensitive enough to hug them while they're crying but tells them "Hold on baby let me move my gun before I hug you"

 

[Recaptimus_Prime360]

I kind of agree with some of this.
I don't blame the media, I blame the gullible women that eat this up and think they automatically deserve it just for being them.

That kind of man is ideal, but any realistic woman realizes she won't get this immediately after meeting/dating a man. Hell, a lot of men aren't into their emotions like that, so the "sensitive" thing especially takes some time--I know this from experience.

Exactly. But this what I don't get. If a brotha is nice, he gets the "oh he's too nice" response. If he's sensitive, then gets the "I think he's gay" response. If he does nice things for her, then he gets the "its just too good to be true" response. It's like a lose/lose situation for us.

 

[Kairo]

So if you cant find a decent mate and you're actually trying...you probably need to take a long look in the mirror. Cuz chances are thats where you'll find the problem.

That's powerful right there.