Fellas: If you were dating a chick...

[John_Blazini]

If she or I are not serious with someone... they dont meet the kid..... so they dont participate in family things... how is that disrespectful?

It's not if you're not serious. There will be times you and the baby's mother will be with the child alone. But what happens when your current relationship evolve into something more? By all means I know my kids come first to make them happy, but what about your self happiness?

my happiness in what regards?

 

[BlackThor356]

@BlackThor356

was your mom in another relationship at that time?

I get along with my son's dad and he and his family are inculded in various things that have to do with our son. But I wouldn't leave out my man no matter what we were doing.

that's disrespectful

I got a homeboy who going thru this exact same SHIT....he be leaving his current wife to go hang with his ex wife n kids....I feel he totally foul for it

if he's being deceitful in any way, then he is foul. like if he fuckin his BM, or not tellin his current g/f what he doin.

Naw he foul cuz he let his ex wife bring her new NIGGA n dnt be a man, stand up, n bring his current wife n child....it ain't like she a random hoe, this his wife n she just had his son...ain't no excuses for that shit

ok see, thats foul

 

[BlackThor356]

I went to several activities with my ex, her kid, and the pops... school plays, birthday shit, ect... no beef...

aint no need for them to go on no "family adventures" where its just them 3...

jus them 3?? really??? are yall really that insecure??? u acting like they finna fuck in front of the jit.

thats they seed, not urs.

 

[Mr.Audigier216]

@BlackThor356

was your mom in another relationship at that time?

I get along with my son's dad and he and his family are inculded in various things that have to do with our son. But I wouldn't leave out my man no matter what we were doing.

that's disrespectful

I got a homeboy who going thru this exact same SHIT....he be leaving his current wife to go hang with his ex wife n kids....I feel he totally foul for it

if he's being deceitful in any way, then he is foul. like if he fuckin his BM, or not tellin his current g/f what he doin.

Naw he foul cuz he let his ex wife bring her new NIGGA n dnt be a man, stand up, n bring his current wife n child....it ain't like she a random hoe, this his wife n she just had his son...ain't no excuses for that shit

ok see, thats foul

Man i cud make a platinum thread on that whole situation......its almost like an episode of Jerry or some SHIT like that

 

[BlackThor356]

I went to several activities with my ex, her kid, and the pops... school plays, birthday shit, ect... no beef...

aint no need for them to go on no "family adventures" where its just them 3...

jus them 3?? really??? are yall really that insecure??? u acting like they finna fuck in front of the jit.

thats they seed, not urs.

what purpose does it serve for them to go out as a "family" when they are not one?

its not even a matter of trust or security...

u cool with your chick going out on dates with other dudes?

boundaries nigga...

when they are not one?? i didnt know splitting up meant ur no longer someone's mother or father. cuz the way i see it, they are still a family

and u consider 2 adults and one child goin to see whats more than likely some kid movie to be a date??? screams insecurity to me breh

and the purpose it serves is to spend time with the kid together. smh how does a grown ass man or woman tell another grown ass man or woman not to spend time with THEY seed and the BM or BD without them there. that shit is dripping with jealousy and insecurity

 

[Niggersauce]

If a chick still cool with her baby daddy to the point they still doing shit like that together all she can ever be is pussy to me. Cuz they are one "sweet family moment" away from putting differences aside and working it out. Thats a beautiful thing that i dont want to interfere with.

 

[desertrain10]

I went to several activities with my ex, her kid, and the pops... school plays, birthday shit, ect... no beef...

aint no need for them to go on no "family adventures" where its just them 3...

jus them 3?? really??? are yall really that insecure??? u acting like they finna fuck in front of the jit.

thats they seed, not urs.

what purpose does it serve for them to go out as a "family" when they are not one?

its not even a matter of trust or security...

u cool with your chick going out on dates with other dudes?

boundaries nigga...

what purpose does it serve? maybe the child wants to enjoy a movie with his two most favorite people in the world? lol...

sounds corny but shit like that means a lot to kids. especially small children.

 

[BlackThor356]

y'all making a hell of a case for not fucking with these chicks... lol

personally i agree with what audiger said on the 1st page. more than likely i wouldnt make a chick with an active BD my main...but if i did i wouldnt be all uptight about the way they got their family working

 

[BlackThor356]

I went to several activities with my ex, her kid, and the pops... school plays, birthday shit, ect... no beef...

aint no need for them to go on no "family adventures" where its just them 3...

jus them 3?? really??? are yall really that insecure??? u acting like they finna fuck in front of the jit.

thats they seed, not urs.

what purpose does it serve for them to go out as a "family" when they are not one?

its not even a matter of trust or security...

u cool with your chick going out on dates with other dudes?

boundaries nigga...

what purpose does it serve? maybe the child wants to enjoy a movie with his two most favorite people in the world? lol...

sounds corny but shit like that means a lot to kids. especially small children.

I bet it wouldn't mean as much as those same favorite people being together all the time..why not make that happen as well?

lol damn Kat, i thought u were ms middle ground. why does it have to be either we're a couple or we dont do things with our kid togther? why cant there be some middle gorund??

 

[Dupac]

hopefully i got a good enough read on her by then to determine on what i think she's capable of...

if my intuition tells me it's not a good look...then i'm running with that....

 

[Niggersauce]

Kat dont play that middle ground shit when it come to children, especially black ones

 

[NYCeeCee]

At what point does the parents sit the child down and explain to them that some ish just doesn't work out, but we both love you the same and will support you and do whatever we have to do to ensure your well being and blah blah blah, BUT we are no longer a family UNIT, so we won't do everything Timmy's mom and dad (who're still together) do? These kids are being coddled too much. Reality is reality. Just b/c something makes a kid "happy" doesn't mean that that's what's best for them.

Also, couldn't parading around like a family unit (when you're really not) confuse the kid even more and give them false hope?

 

[Dupac]

everybody make mistakes...

so if i'm wrong about not trusting her... then fuck it i'm wrong...

obviously i wasn't the first nigga who was wrong about shorty....

 

[BlackThor356]

At what point does the parents sit the child down and explain to them that some ish just doesn't work out, but we both love you the same and will support you and do whatever we have to do to ensure your well being and blah blah blah, BUT we are no longer a family UNIT, so we won't do everything Timmy's mom and dad (who're still together) do? These kids are being coddled too much. Reality is reality. Just b/c something makes a kid "happy" doesn't mean that that's what's best for them.

Also, couldn't parading around like a family unit (when you're really not) confuse the kid even more and give them false hope?

did i say they shuld do EVERYTHING together, no. but yall separting doesnt mean yall still aint parents of the same child, and doing things together SOMETIMES aint a big deal.

 

[Niggersauce]

Who you pick at one point in your life isnt always who you end up with...

With the best motives, tests,trials etc you can still end up with someone that you stop loving/being interested in. Life and relationships just isnt as black and white as some seem to try and paint it.

 

[BlackThor356]

and Kat i never said do EVERYTHING the kid wants. so the parents wont get back together cuz they prolly know it wont work, i mean they did split for a reason. but aside from ur differences with ur BD relationship wise, yall shuldnt let it affect what yall do parent wise

again sit ur child down and let them know moms and pops wont be getting back together. but if u and ur BM or BD dont hate each other then theres no way yall shuldnt be able to kick it as freinds with ur child

 

[NYCeeCee]

At what point does the parents sit the child down and explain to them that some ish just doesn't work out, but we both love you the same and will support you and do whatever we have to do to ensure your well being and blah blah blah, BUT we are no longer a family UNIT, so we won't do everything Timmy's mom and dad (who're still together) do? These kids are being coddled too much. Reality is reality. Just b/c something makes a kid "happy" doesn't mean that that's what's best for them.

Also, couldn't parading around like a family unit (when you're really not) confuse the kid even more and give them false hope?

did i say they shuld do EVERYTHING together, no. but yall separting doesnt mean yall still aint parents of the same child, and doing things together SOMETIMES aint a big deal.

Well, DUH, of course they're still parents of the same child and doing things together is a given. I expect mature adults to be able to get along/be cordial and unite to support their child/ren together for things that are important to the child's well being. School functions, birthday parties, sporting events, Dr appointments, etc are all things that are expected. Movies? Why? Where do you draw the line? If the child has a bad dream, should the father go over there in the middle of the night to comfort the child, too? Why not just stay together if watching the Lion King as a family unit is so important to you?

 

[NYCeeCee]

At what point does the parents sit the child down and explain to them that some ish just doesn't work out, but we both love you the same and will support you and do whatever we have to do to ensure your well being and blah blah blah, BUT we are no longer a family UNIT, so we won't do everything Timmy's mom and dad (who're still together) do? These kids are being coddled too much. Reality is reality. Just b/c something makes a kid "happy" doesn't mean that that's what's best for them.

Also, couldn't parading around like a family unit (when you're really not) confuse the kid even more and give them false hope?

This is y ya Baby daddy and my baby momma gon hate us together

logic on logic on logic

True True. LOL I gave you an Awesome

 

[BlackThor356]

At what point does the parents sit the child down and explain to them that some ish just doesn't work out, but we both love you the same and will support you and do whatever we have to do to ensure your well being and blah blah blah, BUT we are no longer a family UNIT, so we won't do everything Timmy's mom and dad (who're still together) do? These kids are being coddled too much. Reality is reality. Just b/c something makes a kid "happy" doesn't mean that that's what's best for them.

Also, couldn't parading around like a family unit (when you're really not) confuse the kid even more and give them false hope?

did i say they shuld do EVERYTHING together, no. but yall separting doesnt mean yall still aint parents of the same child, and doing things together SOMETIMES aint a big deal.

Well, DUH, of course they're still parents of the same child and doing things together is a given. I expect mature adults to be able to get along/be cordial and unite to support their child/ren together for things that are important to the child's well being. School functions, birthday parties, sporting events, Dr appointments, etc are all things that are expected. Movies? Why? Where do you draw the line? If the child has a bad dream, should the father go over there in the middle of the night to comfort the child, too? Why not just stay together if watching the Lion King as a family unit is so important to you?

cordial?? lol...why dont yall admit it...yall are uncomfortable with ur man/woman actually being firends wit da BM/BD? nothing wrong wit admitting jealousy. its a natural human emotion.

oh and ur line...i say its drawn at any romantic activity between the mother and father

 

[BlackThor356]

and Kat i never said do EVERYTHING the kid wants. so the parents wont get back together cuz they prolly know it wont work, i mean they did split for a reason. but aside from ur differences with ur BD relationship wise, yall shuldnt let it affect what yall do parent wise

again sit ur child down and let them know moms and pops wont be getting back together. but if u and ur BM or BD dont hate each other then theres no way yall shuldnt be able to kick it as freinds with ur child

No reason at all, EXCEPT for actually considering the feelings of the person you're in a relationship with currently.

It's unreasonable to expect someone to accept that. Sure you may find a Pico or a you, but it's definitely not the majority.

and that we can agree on.