thru thick and thin .....but could you still stay after

[kzzl]

I wouldn't leave, but the OP doesn't do that kind of situation justice. Sex and conversation are no where near the only things you could lose. That shit is heavy.

It's all love and understanding them first few weeks. But after that 6th month and hundredth changing of the shit bag hanging from the hole in they stomach at 3am, anybody might flake. Not to mention the financial burden, the strain on the relationship, kids being involved, that abomination from hell they call a medical bill. Changing your entire life around their handicap. The depression. And you're fucked if you don't have any support from other people as well.

Shit, people get divorced over less everyday.

It's cold blooded, but I'd understand if a person left. Some just ain't built like that. Plus it's for the better, when they start doing it for the wrong reasons that resentment sets in. That hate can be a blinding and powerful thing. Shit could have you lashing in any kind of way.

so basically, the vows you took don't mean a thing when the situation causes YOU stress and hardship....

sound selfish to me. But do you fam....

I wasn't selfish at all during those times. I did all type of things for the people that needed me and no vows were even necessary. But having gone through such situations multiple times, I've seen how the shit can go.

 

[Purr]

Yes.

Love isn't about sex, it is about the spiritual connection that you have with that person.

I would never leave anyone that I love for such a vain reason.

When you love someone nothing matters anymore, not the physical shell that protects our soul, because when you love someone that connection out weighs everything else.

Wrong....wrong.....

@chicity please enlighten me. You seem pretty great at relationships. *sarcasm*

 

[2stepz_ahead]

that shit tough...my wife's brother got into a bad accident in March and is paralyzed from his belly button on down. Him and his wife were already beefing and on the verge of breaking up and just had a baby in November of 2013

Shit is a lot of work. He can't feel when he has to piss or shit. she has to wipe his ass. Dude don't have any will power and is still depressed and complains about everything. Nigga acted a fool with the medical staff at the rehab to the point they were like nigga you gotta go. And he's 6'5 300+. Gotta use a lift to get him outta the bed and into the wheelchair. Then when he got home the wheelchair doesn't fit through all of the doors in the house. Fellas at the church built them a ramp. She still hanging in there but she recently asked him about can she have permission to smash off some other dude b/c she wants to have sex. Before and after the accident tho he treats her like shit. Talks down to her. Ran her other son off and some more shit. And I didn't even bring up all the finanacial issues, and once his job cut off his insurance and shit.

this is why you should treat people better....you never know when you gonna need them....

second....this chick talkin bout sex?

she cant buy a dildo?

if its about her now...then she should roll out

 

[S2J]

Yes.

She's my bestfriend and I made a vow.

I understand if this may be confusing to most of you, seeing how yalls fathers have never shone any level of commitment to anyone or anything except for being a shit human being.

^^^This is what i call 'posting for pullitzers'. All fluff.

I wouldn't leave, but the OP doesn't do that kind of situation justice. Sex and conversation are no where near the only things you could lose. That shit is heavy.

It's all love and understanding them first few weeks. But after that 6th month and hundredth changing of the shit bag hanging from the hole in they stomach at 3am, anybody might flake. Not to mention the financial burden, the strain on the relationship, kids being involved, that abomination from hell they call a medical bill. Changing your entire life around their handicap. The depression. And you're fucked if you don't have any support from other people as well.

Shit, people get divorced over less everyday.

It's cold blooded, but I'd understand if a person left. Some just ain't built like that. Plus it's for the better, when they start doing it for the wrong reasons that resentment sets in. That hate can be a blinding and powerful thing. Shit could have you lashing in any kind of way.

^^^This is what i call real talk.

And thats not to say i wouldnt stay, i would, but unless you seen somebody go thru somethin like that you cant make it sound like its easy or obvious

 

[S2J]

But yea homeboy is in a bad space. Its fukin Friday. Who thinks of this type morbid shyt. On a gotdamn Friday...

 

[leftcoastkev]

Realistically at least half of dudes gon stay and play the "good man" at home, but fuck other broads on the side.

Everybody gonna expect you to do that, but a higher expectation is for you to keep the shit on the low and not bring "shame" on the family.

 

[2stepz_ahead]

But yea homeboy is in a bad space. Its fukin Friday. Who thinks of this type morbid shyt. On a gotdamn Friday...

this aint morbid shit.

nigga you always got something to say....either im ina bad space or im stuntin

you niggas dont understand reality and how it can come on a friday right after you smashed the big booty chick at the club.

my thinking doesnt limit itself to days nor topic

only someone looking for weakness thinks questions like these means someone is ina bad space.

so we only talk about smash and pass, what teacher smashed a student, whats cop killed a black man, and if we would try a new food?

G&S right?

well the topic is for grown folk. soooooooo

 

[Strokenoff]

Of course... till death do u part, you take those vows to heart

 

[S2J]

that shit tough...my wife's brother got into a bad accident in March and is paralyzed from his belly button on down. Him and his wife were already beefing and on the verge of breaking up and just had a baby in November of 2013

Shit is a lot of work. He can't feel when he has to piss or shit. she has to wipe his ass. Dude don't have any will power and is still depressed and complains about everything. Nigga acted a fool with the medical staff at the rehab to the point they were like nigga you gotta go. And he's 6'5 300+. Gotta use a lift to get him outta the bed and into the wheelchair. Then when he got home the wheelchair doesn't fit through all of the doors in the house. Fellas at the church built them a ramp. She still hanging in there but she recently asked him about can she have permission to smash off some other dude b/c she wants to have sex. Before and after the accident tho he treats her like shit. Talks down to her. Ran her other son off and some more shit. And I didn't even bring up all the finanacial issues, and once his job cut off his insurance and shit.

Damn near got emotional, sheesh that hurts. Be thankful for what ya got man. Smh Might have to tip a few back for ol boy tonight nh Thanks for the fuking thread Pralims

 

[2stepz_ahead]

Leave and never look back.

@BabyBugatti‌

you see this..

yea nigga im snitchin

 

[Negro_Caesar]

I'd stay

And have a side chick

 

[leftcoastkev]

that shit tough...my wife's brother got into a bad accident in March and is paralyzed from his belly button on down. Him and his wife were already beefing and on the verge of breaking up and just had a baby in November of 2013

Shit is a lot of work. He can't feel when he has to piss or shit. she has to wipe his ass. Dude don't have any will power and is still depressed and complains about everything. Nigga acted a fool with the medical staff at the rehab to the point they were like nigga you gotta go. And he's 6'5 300+. Gotta use a lift to get him outta the bed and into the wheelchair. Then when he got home the wheelchair doesn't fit through all of the doors in the house. Fellas at the church built them a ramp. She still hanging in there but she recently asked him about can she have permission to smash off some other dude b/c she wants to have sex. Before and after the accident tho he treats her like shit. Talks down to her. Ran her other son off and some more shit. And I didn't even bring up all the finanacial issues, and once his job cut off his insurance and shit.

Sounds like it's almost time to cut their loses and roll him down that ramp into the traffic. He must be bringing everyone down.

....once resentment grows and she stop feeling sorry for his physical state vs. her own mental health that shit gon boil over.

As a man pride is a muthafucker but at some point you gotta be humble realize who's buttering your bread so to speak.

 

[God_Yunn]

Leave and never look back.

@BabyBugatti‌

you see this..

yea nigga im snitchin

shouldn't worry about him tho lol

 

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[VIBE]

your spouse or long term mate got into a very serious accident that cause them to be mental challenged/ physically challenged or both.

That would mean no more of the acrobatic sex, no more long conversations with feed back on date night.

you would have to live the rest of your life taking care of this person you once said you loved and will continue to love thru it all.

but you never expected this.

Can you stay?

My wife and I have had these conversations. We both agree it will be difficult, stressful and over-whelming but have both said we would care for the other if they're in this position.

It's hard to have these conversations because I don't like hearing that she would eventually move on, or vise versa.

But realistically, I would expect her to move on. I hate saying I would, too.

I would still love my wife and care for her but there's going to be a point where mentally you will break. All the doctor appointments, all the medical needs that need to be met, being the one who literally does everything for her would be one crazy life task.

I don't feel I would ever stop caring for her, though. I could never do that. But as I am caring for her and meeting all her needs, I need to take some time for my own life, as well.

I expect for her to feel the same way.

As for being brain dead, we have both agreed that we would wait for a period of time before 'pulling the plug'.

 

[topoftheworld]

this exact situation happened to my grandparents when they were in their 50s. (still young in my opinion.)

my grandmother had complications from a medical procedure that left her brain damaged and paralyzed. she had a trachea in her throat and a feeding tube in her stomach. she couldn't talk anymore and it took a long time before she recognized her husband and her adult children. (She never was able to acknowledge her grands again)

she was in intensive care and then intensive rehab for a long time and when she was released she needed 24/7 home care. our family put my grandmom's hospital bed in her living room and my grandfather spent the rest of his life sleeping on the couch next to her.

he never left her side. he took care of her and would talk to her every day. at best she would moan and cry.

I remember my dad giving my grandpop the 'ok' to move on. (My grandpop was my dad's stepdad, and had been since my dad was 12.) my grandpop gave him a look and was like 'nah I'm good.'

my grandmother ended up outliving all of her children and my grandfather. he had diabetes and ended up having renal failure in his 70s. she passed shortly thereafter from pneumonia complications.

 

[2stepz_ahead]

this exact situation happened to my grandparents when they were in their 50s. (still young in my opinion.)

my grandmother had complications from a medical procedure that left her brain damaged and paralyzed. she had a trachea in her throat and a feeding tube in her stomach. she couldn't talk anymore and it took a long time before she recognized her husband and her adult children. (She never was able to acknowledge her grands again)

she was in intensive care and then intensive rehab for a long time and when she was released she needed 24/7 home care. our family put my grandmom's hospital bed in her living room and my grandfather spent the rest of his life sleeping on the couch next to her.

he never left her side. he took care of her and would talk to her every day. at best she would moan and cry.

I remember my dad giving my grandpop the 'ok' to move on. (My grandpop was my dad's stepdad, and had been since my dad was 12.) my grandpop gave him a look and was like 'nah I'm good.'

my grandmother ended up outliving all of her children and my grandfather. he had diabetes and ended up having renal failure in his 70s. she passed shortly thereafter from pneumonia complications.

now thats love.

Hello Ms World. we missed you

 

[Arya Tsaddiq]

this exact situation happened to my grandparents when they were in their 50s. (still young in my opinion.)

my grandmother had complications from a medical procedure that left her brain damaged and paralyzed. she had a trachea in her throat and a feeding tube in her stomach. she couldn't talk anymore and it took a long time before she recognized her husband and her adult children. (She never was able to acknowledge her grands again)

she was in intensive care and then intensive rehab for a long time and when she was released she needed 24/7 home care. our family put my grandmom's hospital bed in her living room and my grandfather spent the rest of his life sleeping on the couch next to her.

he never left her side. he took care of her and would talk to her every day. at best she would moan and cry.

I remember my dad giving my grandpop the 'ok' to move on. (My grandpop was my dad's stepdad, and had been since my dad was 12.) my grandpop gave him a look and was like 'nah I'm good.'

my grandmother ended up outliving all of her children and my grandfather. he had diabetes and ended up having renal failure in his 70s. she passed shortly thereafter from pneumonia complications.

I hope some of you niggas read this...

my grandmother did the something for my grandfather because he had kidney failure and she opted to do in home dialysis for him.

and niggas wanna talk about they couldn't go....smh

 

[Colin$mackabi$h]

Would i still call her to see how she doing?...........yeah.

 

[2stepz_ahead]

why get married if only the good times is what your looking for?