thru thick and thin .....but could you still stay after

[Cinco]

that shit tough...my wife's brother got into a bad accident in March and is paralyzed from his belly button on down. Him and his wife were already beefing and on the verge of breaking up and just had a baby in November of 2013

Shit is a lot of work. He can't feel when he has to piss or shit. she has to wipe his ass. Dude don't have any will power and is still depressed and complains about everything. Nigga acted a fool with the medical staff at the rehab to the point they were like nigga you gotta go. And he's 6'5 300+. Gotta use a lift to get him outta the bed and into the wheelchair. Then when he got home the wheelchair doesn't fit through all of the doors in the house. Fellas at the church built them a ramp. She still hanging in there but she recently asked him about can she have permission to smash off some other dude b/c she wants to have sex. Before and after the accident tho he treats her like shit. Talks down to her. Ran her other son off and some more shit. And I didn't even bring up all the finanacial issues, and once his job cut off his insurance and shit.

This s@@@ was depression as hell to read. Brotha on the verge of running everybody off, and then offing himself.

Word man she already picked who she wanna fuck and asked dude for permission smh

 

[shit happens]

this exact situation happened to my grandparents when they were in their 50s. (still young in my opinion.)

my grandmother had complications from a medical procedure that left her brain damaged and paralyzed. she had a trachea in her throat and a feeding tube in her stomach. she couldn't talk anymore and it took a long time before she recognized her husband and her adult children. (She never was able to acknowledge her grands again)

she was in intensive care and then intensive rehab for a long time and when she was released she needed 24/7 home care. our family put my grandmom's hospital bed in her living room and my grandfather spent the rest of his life sleeping on the couch next to her.

he never left her side. he took care of her and would talk to her every day. at best she would moan and cry.

I remember my dad giving my grandpop the 'ok' to move on. (My grandpop was my dad's stepdad, and had been since my dad was 12.) my grandpop gave him a look and was like 'nah I'm good.'

my grandmother ended up outliving all of her children and my grandfather. he had diabetes and ended up having renal failure in his 70s. she passed shortly thereafter from pneumonia complications.

This touched a g

Bout fo-fi thug tears landed on my chest

 

[earth two superman]

yeah id stay. If I would do it for my son, why wouldnt I do it for the woman he popped out of? it would be financially and mentally stressful and difficult, but I think what would hurt me more would be knowing my son lost his mother. I couldnt just abandon them like that. what kind of example is that?

I saw years ago on American Idol this happened to a chick the month before they got married. He (the contestant) still stayed and helped take care of her even though he really didnt have to. thats love right there.

But if im a vegetable fuck that. pull the plug on me and bury me in a good suit.

 

[2stepz_ahead]

alot of people say it would be stressful mentally.

would it really?

is it because you want to do what you want to do?

are you becoming selfish because its all about them now?

or because the relationship was already stressful?

somethings just shouldnt stress you mentally.

like caring for a child, or a recently handicapped loved one, or an elderly parent.

seems like alot of people dont see the bigger picture in most things, only the good shit

 

[DarcSkies]

Its all well and good that you niggas seem to think you're just such awesome people that you'd stay with your crippled ass wife. But lets keep it 100. Most of you niggas cant even keep your dick in your pants when you have a girl let alone keep your promises when she has an accident.

I'm calling BULLSHIT on 90% of you niggas. And when it comes to the IC bullshit is on speed dial.

I aint saying you ALL lying. BUt this site isnt exactly a collection of wholesome, kindhearted individuals. You niggas aint shit...lets just stop for a second, take a couple of breaths and remember yall aint shit. And then post again.

 

[Breaducce]

Its all well and good that you niggas seem to think you're just such awesome people that you'd stay with your crippled ass wife. But lets keep it 100. Most of you niggas cant even keep your dick in your pants when you have a girl let alone keep your promises when she has an accident.

I'm calling BULLSHIT on 90% of you niggas. And when it comes to the IC bullshit is on speed dial.

I aint saying you ALL lying. BUt this site isnt exactly a collection of wholesome, kindhearted individuals. You niggas aint shit...lets just stop for a second, take a couple of breaths and remember yall aint shit. And then post again.

This post got my girlfriend look at wierd cause I'm laughing so hard. I think everyone should have to read this post as a subtext, than press an OK button indicating that you understand what you read, before posting on anyone subject in this forum. That's some good shit yo lol.

 

[2stepz_ahead]

we all know what we want to do but what we will actually do might be different. unless you have been close to the situation then you dont know.

i just know my personality, i would just add it as part of my day.

alot of people do speak bullshit but you dont give people enough credit. some of the most loyal might break and run and some of the dogs might cut all side chicks and stay.

only way i woundnt do it or it would wear on me is if i already had my mind made up to leave and just havent left yet before the said accident. even then it would have me re-evaluate things.