Internet=Being attracted to their personality first Bar=Looks first

[John_Blazini]

seems like some people need to go outside and mingle, network....its easy

im sure people get out to but most folks spend over 8 hrs a day online.... its only natural your going to utilize the Net as a social resource. Evolution of dating man.

 

[Bussy_Getta]

Yea...i agree with that. I mean idk about dating sites and crap cause i've never been on em. But u definitely get drawn in by a person's personality more than anything when online. To the point where sometimes after u see their pic- they might not be ur type but ur still like fuggit...cause ur just that attracted to their personality.

Thats totally diff than in face to face mtgs etc lol i dunno if it's better or worse. I mean the concept is better but i've never tested it out to see if those type of connections actually work

cs cs cs cs cs cs

its a couple folks on here who cool but idk what they look like

 

[Conscious__Nkechi]

With internet dating you can be drawn into more of what they present themselves as, more so than you would their looks. I def agree with this -but- you can front on the net a lot easier than you can in person.

i've done a fair amount of internet dating, from BP to Okcupid, both free, to AFF and Blackpeoplemeet, both pay, and it is very similar to going out and dating, but more deceptive. I've had girls mention artist I mention in my profile and other shit, only to be completely clueless about them in person. Talkin bout being independent and owning their own cribs, but neglecting to mention that they have 2 cousins a brother and best friend sleeping on the couch.

If you start off chatting with folks, most put their best foot forward and try to present a very pleasurable side of their personality. Its just like on here, folks can type and claim all types of lifestyles, but be completely different in real life. Its like the "myspace angle" for personalities.

I guess in theory it makes sense but then again people are saying their online personalities vary from their real personality....so it's a crap shoot still. I dont know why people have such a hard time being honest and refuse to admit how lonely they really are. It's the only way to get to what you really want

That can go both ways, on and offline meetings. I don't think one method is more reliable than the other at this point. With all the con artists dating, marrying and getting their way I think it is all dependent on the person who is being fed the BS, the one feeding it and how well they sell themselves.

 

[kat2180]

I wish Kat would just let me live. How do you know we havent PM'd.

@ Blackfiyahg: Hate is ugly. Blackens the soul.

Anyway, J Gutta is right. you can develop a crush without meeting ppl. But you know whats odd? regarding IC females, i can tell who is attractive and who isnt just by their posts.

ugliness literally seeps through the text. same with prettiness.

Name names.

And you know I have to fuck with you...

 

[American.Loo]

seems like some people need to go outside and mingle, network....its easy

go outside and mingle during working hours eh? interesting concept.

why do people act like if you meet people online you must not have a social life in the "real world"

it truly is possible to have both

 

[Sh0t]

The female posters on here don't seem very bitter at all.

Tons of male posters seem extremely bitter, for whatever reason. Too young to be that bitter. Credit to the ostensibly female posters, considering how every thread has 3-4 male posters attacking them, no matter what the topic is.

I notice because it derails almost every thread I'm interested in. Good topic starts up, but before it gets meaty, some dude has a bout of attention seeking making fun of somebody's deformed child, etc.

 

[Bwoahmizzee]

it was a movie about this a long time ago

it was called you've got mail or some shit like that anyway

anyway the two people fell in love before they even met each other

I'm pretty sure that type of stuff happens in real life more often than not

 

[phantom0900]

That can go both ways, on and offline meetings. I don't think one method is more reliable than the other at this point. With all the con artists dating, marrying and getting their way I think it is all dependent on the person who is being fed the BS, the one feeding it and how well they sell themselves.

I'm not gonna lie, when I would holla at chicks who I thought were a catch, I would be selective about what I told em based off their profile and their responses. Its a whole lot easier to sell a positive image of yourself if you have a log of every statement made and you got a buffer between your responses.

 

[Coby Vibes]

That can go both ways, on and offline meetings. I don't think one method is more reliable than the other at this point. With all the con artists dating, marrying and getting their way I think it is all dependent on the person who is being fed the BS, the one feeding it and how well they sell themselves.

exactly. I think it is the same but some people cant trust themselves to put personality first so they have to "trick" themselves.

 

[DEE-LICIOUS]

I wish Kat would just let me live. How do you know we havent PM'd.

@ Blackfiyahg: Hate is ugly. Blackens the soul.

Anyway, J Gutta is right. you can develop a crush without meeting ppl. But you know whats odd? regarding IC females, i can tell who is attractive and who isnt just by their posts.

ugliness literally seeps through the text. same with prettiness.

wow...

really? ugly inside and out?

 

[American.Loo]

Name names.

And you know I have to fuck with you...

Take like Dainty for example. If she had NEVER posted a pic, i wouldve known she was at least attractive.

on the net, like in real life, attractive women (or confident women, which is also attractive) are usually more calm, relaxed.

women that may not be gorgeous, but might still be dateable, tend to be sharp, witty. (like Haute. when i finally saw her pic, she was almost how i expected her to look) she's attractive IMO. partly do to her sense of humor

and then, usually ugly women (or those that were picked on as a kid) are really harsh, short and bitter.

so if you are being genuine in your posts (true to your real self) personality oozes through.

 

[Coby Vibes]

go outside and mingle during working hours eh? interesting concept.

why do people act like if you meet people online you must not have a social life in the "real world"

it truly is possible to have both

because people are energy and if you have a hard time attracting people in real life, that raises eyebrows. Yes you can have both but it begs the question "what's wrong with that person? ... why cant they maintain 'organic' relationships?"

 

[blakfyahking]

I wish Kat would just let me live. How do you know we havent PM'd.

@ Blackfiyahg: Hate is ugly. Blackens the soul.

Anyway, J Gutta is right. you can develop a crush without meeting ppl. But you know whats odd? regarding IC females, i can tell who is attractive and who isnt just by their posts.

ugliness literally seeps through the text. same with prettiness.

I'm at peace with my black soul brethren. James Brown would be proud, you need to fight the power as well brother and stop being a victim to the system

but I at least keeps it 95% real on here LOL

that's real shit @ the underlined tho

it was a movie about this a long time ago

it was called you've got mail or some shit like that anyway

anyway the two people fell in love before they even met each other

I'm pretty sure that type of stuff happens in real life more often than not

yeah I'm pretty sure that happens a lot, most likely because people let you know some of their truest thoughts and it gets magnified because of the anonymity

even the most cold-hearted of posters on the IC prob got at least one person on here swooning on the low

 

[John_Blazini]

Take like Dainty for example. If she had NEVER posted a pic, i wouldve known she was at least attractive.

on the net, like in real life, attractive women (or confident women, which is also attractive) are usually more calm, relaxed.

women that may not be gorgeous, but might still be dateable, tend to be sharp, witty. (like Haute. when i finally saw her pic, she was almost how i expected her to look) she's attractive IMO. partly do to her sense of humor

and then, usually ugly women (or those that were picked on as a kid) are really harsh, short and bitter.

so if you are being genuine in your posts (true to your real self) personality oozes through.

Knowledge dropped. I gotta cosign this. Lol at the Haute shit i swear i was thinking the same shit.

 

[Ibex]

Take like Dainty for example. If she had NEVER posted a pic, i wouldve known she was at least attractive.

on the net, like in real life, attractive women (or confident women, which is also attractive) are usually more calm, relaxed.

women that may not be gorgeous, but might still be dateable, tend to be sharp, witty. (like Haute. when i finally saw her pic, she was almost how i expected her to look) she's attractive IMO. partly do to her sense of humor

and then, usually ugly women (or those that were picked on as a kid) are really harsh, short and bitter.

so if you are being genuine in your posts (true to your real self) personality oozes through.

After decoding....I see that shots were fired

 

[American.Loo]

because people are energy and if you have a hard time attracting people in real life, that raises eyebrows. Yes you can have both but it begs the question "what's wrong with that person? ... why cant they maintain 'organic' relationships?"

still, i dont remember anything in this thread that suggested anyone had trouble meeting folks offline.

 

[DEE-LICIOUS]

it was a movie about this a long time ago

it was called you've got mail or some shit like that anyway

anyway the two people fell in love before they even met each other

I'm pretty sure that type of stuff happens in real life more often than not

DUDE!! THATS ONE OF MY TOP 4 FAV MOVIES!! Goldie hawn and tom hanks...i freakin LOVEEEEE that movie! Sleepless in seattle part 2!

 

[louis rich]

go outside and mingle during working hours eh? interesting concept.

why do people act like if you meet people online you must not have a social life in the "real world"

it truly is possible to have both

its not a concept, u can do it during work hours, not everyone eat indoors

n im sure u can do both but since this social networking thing pops up, it makes it easy for people who never had those skills in "real world"

u really think, the dude who created facebook had real world social skills? LMAO

 

[American.Loo]

im not a fan of romantic comedies, but "You've Got Mail"

i love that joint. (yeah i said it) *cocks gun* what.

The ending is epic, "Dont cry, shopgirl..."

@Dee: that was meg ryan, ma

 

[kat2180]

Take like Dainty for example. If she had NEVER posted a pic, i wouldve known she was at least attractive.

on the net, like in real life, attractive women (or confident women, which is also attractive) are usually more calm, relaxed.

women that may not be gorgeous, but might still be dateable, tend to be sharp, witty. (like Haute. when i finally saw her pic, she was almost how i expected her to look) she's attractive IMO. partly do to her sense of humor

and then, usually ugly women (or those that were picked on as a kid) are really harsh, short and bitter.

so if you are being genuine in your posts (true to your real self) personality oozes through.

I don't know if I agree with that. Well I'll just say I've seen and been in situations that would discredit that theory.

Interesting though.