Who comes first, kids or spouse?

[BEAM]

.. You don't choose who your kids are....you just choose to be in their lives ..

Wow.. Yeah, and instead you birth and raise kids.

Stop tryna minimalize the bonds between even decent Parents and their children.

A spouse can change up and negate all the shyt you thought you knew about them / chose them for. That shyt could all be a front, a lie. Spouses cheat and lie, have history that has nothing to do with you, have grown in ways that have nothing to do with you, ideas and motives that have nothing to do with you.

Just stop.

 

[Dupac]

So you've never heard of adoption or a single parent home?

 

[gorilla]

Lol @ ppl talking about your kids are always your kids

wait till yall have teens.....it is during those years will realize ppl are still ppl, blood or not. AnYBODY can fuck you over.

 

[The Lonious Monk]

lol Ya'll going to the left. Nobody is saying that your kids will never do wrong by you or that you'll never have differences with your kids. Nobody is saying that parents can't ditch their kids.

But guess what, regardless of all that stuff ya'll are saying, those kids will still be your kids. Yeah, there are plenty of deadbeat dads out there that abandon their kids for decades. Even after all those years they can still go find those kids, and those kids are still their kids. They may never develop a close relationship, but they still have those ties.

Get married, and walk out on your spouse for 20 years, do you think you can stroll back and consider that person your spouse still? No.

There is literally nothing you can do to stop your biological child from being your biological child. lol This shit ain't rocket science, its elementary school biology. Your spouse can stop being your spouse as easy as it takes to sign a name on a paper.

 

[DarcSkies]

Pretty vague to just ask that question without a scenerio. BUt I think it would all depend on if it's a life and death situation? How old the child is and what the circumstances are in general.

For non-dramatic shit I'd choose the Wife over the kids. FUCK THEM. I actually PICKED her. Those little fuckers are just the result of a happenstance.

HOWEVER, If I dont like my wife and I know we'll be divorced soon anyway I'd always pick the kid. I'd pretty much treat that bitch like she didnt exist. That way when she gets custody the kids always like me more. Cuz Dad always bought them the good cereal and all the new cool video games.

Kids: DAD GOT US MADDEN 32 AND U ALWAYS SAYING U AINT GOT THE MONEY! I SAW DAD GIVES US CHILD SUPPORT BUT U NEVER BUY US SHIT!

And amma smooth throw mad subliminal around my kids like, "I would get you a new car for your birthday junior but you know your Mom wont let me. She might tell the judge and then we cant see each other no more."

Knwoing damn well I cant afford it.

So in synopsis: IT DEPENDS ON IF I STILL FUCK WIT THAT BITCH OR NOT.

 

[MrMinimalist]

I'll take a backseat for my own kids, not somebodies elses' if she had one from a previous relationship.

 

[blacktux]

I find it hard to believe that anyone that is in a long term, loving relationship would put their kids (that they had with their partner) before their partner.

My woman comes before our kid.

No biblical shit either.

 

[damobb2deep]

kids... what kinda stupid Jody momma shyt is this....smh...

 

[BlackThor356]

It depends on ur views on marriage and parenthood. U and your spouse need to have the same views on the subject if ur marriage is to stand a chance.

Personally when it comes to tangible things (food, clothes, gifts) we both put the children first. When it comes to spending time together, kids come 2nd. Our job is to raise these kids now, when they grown we'll still be there for them but they gotta find they own way. At which point it's jus me and the wife, and if we spent all those years putting the kids first in everything We 'd become domestic partners as opposed to a married couple.

But these are OUR children. I can't imagine how this shit goes when u get with someone with kids already.