The rising counterculture of being an adult without kids.

[T. Sanford]

I seen this status the other day on facebook & it gave me the Gary Coleman confused look gif

"Sitting back thinkn about my future & my kids! Thinking how I want a family wit a man dats MINE & only MINE! How I wana get married one day But until then, im not claiming no nigga Not sayn I want mr. Perfect but I would rather be single until I find that someone Until then ian studdn nobody Im focused on me & the two I created! Babydaddy cool but until he fix his situation There is no future wit us Im cooln rite now anyway but ian fina wait on him forever! u can neva claim somebody thats already taken "

So you have 2 baby daddies that you're not currently with but NOW you wanna get married? You need to get the f alllll the wayyyyy outta here with that.

 

[Mister B.]

Bumps.....

 

[s_a_m_r_i_o]

Don't know if I posted this but people want to get their life together and have kids with someone without them also.

 

[So ILL]

Maybe one day, but I'm just 27, I'm still working on myself.

But it kills me when people my age say I'm going to be too old to have children in a minute. Like, really? Or that I should be married and settled down right now. Like I'm going to see you being stressed out and looking worn out because you're dealing with your kids and all of that, and not being able to kick it how you really want to because you're married and with kids -- and seeing all of this is going to make me want to jump into that life? Nah, I'm straight, I'll just keep doing me, without a wife or kids.

 

[So ILL]

And I really hate when older relatives want to pressure you to have kids. Nigga, are you going to help me raise them? I didn't think so. Let me worry about that shit.

 

[Rasta.]

And I really hate when older relatives want to pressure you to have kids. Nigga, are you going to help me raise them? I didn't think so. Let me worry about that shit.

They stopped bothering me when i told them i'll have them when i deem it fit...i feel like this is one of the ways blacks can close the disparity. Kids are expensive yo!

 

[caddo man]

This is not a counter culture. People have been making this decision for years.

on the other hand............

Don't know if I posted this but people want to get their life together and have kids with someone without them also.

and.........

If you dont want to have kids then it is obvious that you have inferior genes and I dont want you to reproduce.

this.

 

[Rasta.]

This is not a counter culture. People have been making this decision for years.

on the other hand............

Don't know if I posted this but people want to get their life together and have kids with someone without them also.

and.........

If you dont want to have kids then it is obvious that you have inferior genes and I dont want you to reproduce.

this.

This nigga done lost his gaddem mind lol @Zombie you have an authority on peoples opinions too? lmfao

 

[aneed123]

I want kids but I chose to do it the supposed right way "marriage" God had other plans... I dont wanna have a baby moms who ruins my life so its a catch 22.... I got a few pregnancy pacts with chicks on deck tho lol

 

[LEMZIMUS_RAMSEY]

I am 31 single and no children.

I first finish my studies, realize all my sexual fantasm left. After that period of experiment i ll probably be 36 and ready for familly life

 

[LEMZIMUS_RAMSEY]

You are never 'ready' to be a parenr . But if you have unprotected sex you may become one.

Also unless you are living a poor life you could raise at least one child. The problematic is that one : values over material.

Values and knowledge are free and that are what your kidds really need to advance in their lifes.

The shoes and other material stuff is not education. Many grown ups failed their parenthood because they thought that buying stuff to their children would replace the teaching of values...

 

[rip.dilla]

Who the fuck is this @noodles nigga? ..

 

[LEMZIMUS_RAMSEY]

Where i work on of my coworker is 26 with one child. Our boss is 42 and got his first child last year.

They are happy because they both had their children when they REALLY felt like it them and their women.

They never complain their faces are shining.

On the other hand you got the ' i got kidds because of the familly and society pressure' parents. They are always complaining, their faces are tired. The latter group is the quickest to ask me why i still dont have children . I answer to them that THEY are the reason why .

You dont have to be a millionaire to raise your children but you dont have to be poor neither. But please have babies because YOU and you love feel like it for human reasons. Children are not trophies or proof that you are a worthy man or woman.

 

[T. Sanford]

Another facebook drop post that gave me the Gary Coleman confused look (also she is best friends with the girl in my previous post)

"ITS CRAZY HOW A PERSON CAN SAY WAT THEY WANT N A MAN/WOMEN BUT NOT SHOW IT.....ITS ALSO CRAZY HOW THEY CAN HAVE IT RIGHT N THERE FACE N NOT C IT UNTIL ITS TO LATE N THE OTHER PERSON HAS GIVEN UP...

WORD OF ADVICE: WHEN U GOT SOMETHING GOOD PLZ HOLD ON TO IT!"

Also, so you have 2 kids with 2 separate daddies, 3 fuking last names in your household but you are something good that they should've held on to?....................you need to get the f**k all the way outta here with that

 

[bkkbully]

I'm 25 and in no way mentally or financially ready for kids. I do want a huge family in the future but thats for when I meet the right woman. Right now its all practice...

 

[bkkbully]

With technology and mainstream pop cultures current state, I dont plan to have kids in todays society. This world is getting crazier and crazier every year. Its just not the same like it was back in the day. Shits fucked up. This world is already over populated. If I wanna play with kids or give advice, ill visit my nieces and nephews.

Bruh, just move to the South, the West (certain parts), or somewhere other than the US if u feel that way. I feel u tho, sadly ALOT of these offsprings aint shit and never will be. Same with the women who helped make them, yall will c later in life, just watch. U got all tha time in tha world

Like I said man. Technology & U.S. mainstream pop culture. I'm currently living in South East Asia right now on business and these kids nowadays are so caught up in trying to be westernized that their favorite shows are "Keeping Up With The Kardashians" "Pawn Stars" or "Jersey Shore." (currently showing the older seasons but its new to them here) and they think that lifestyle is normal/acceptable because its from the States. I shit you not. Kids with bootleg "YMCMB" snap backs. It's crazy.

where in South East Asia you @ ? I'm in Thailand

 

[playmaker88]

counter culture is wearing shoes on your hands and gloves on your feet this isnt a rebellion against a norm...some people have and want kids others dont its always been like that

 

[Ghostdenithegawd]

This thread is dumb you won't know the ups and downs you can't forsee the effects of having kids through other parents. Imo between the fact I'm a big kid and my son thinks he's grown/immediately likes everything I like

We watch sports together he has his koolaid I have my beer when I'm yelling at the game hes yelling to

When doing insanity and my fatass sits down to gasp for air he makes me get up

I spent so much time with him he is primarily an extension of who I am now or mayb even a clone

He laffs when kids bust they ass in then park like me

He threw me a ally opp yesterday on the little playskool hoopnthingni almost cried the nigga 2

He was throwing accurate bounce passes was hitting the js consistently we had fun

He threw a bitchass tantrum because I wasn't going to buy him an icey because he was acting like a dick wtf these 2 bad bitches came, picked him up then the elder bad joint ran down the got dam block and backb so we won't miss the bus and brung him back a got dam box of iceys

That burden feeling comes whe u aint maki the right moves and enjoying your kids/ getting some space for yourself

A lot of people complain about not getting time for yourself etc but the kids do t have a bed time and you ain't clean the house foh

 

[Mister B.]

Anyone read this story yet? TIME dropped that vat of ether.

time.com/time/magazine/article/0,9171,2148636,00.html?pcd=pw-edit

 

[Little JJ]

Im 20, I really dont wanna have any kids until im at least 30...

If I had a choice I would NEVER have kids, but I love pussy way too much for that....I know ima slip up at one point...