Reuniting with your dads side of the fam

[tam]

yeah thats fucked up yo. but im pretty sure you aint trippin

the first time i spent the summer with my dad (i was like 13) we were at this cookout

and i overheard somebody say "oh, thats [my dads name] oldest son" someone else was like "he has a son that old??"

that shit was a slight ether. i was 13. to this day i can never FULLY look at that nigga like my dad.

Ya dad must be really young then...
Yea, when i met my dad.. i found it really REALLY hard to call him dad so i just called him by his first name. I never got that chance to live that life.

What's ether to me was when his kids would tell me how much of a good father he was, and how they all went to the same college, my dad's mom was a teacher, how they had the best life growing and how they were spoiled. smh. it was like they were rubbing it in my face. come to find out my older sister was jealous when she found out about me, because she was no longer his "baby girl"

 

[edwardnigma]

I grew up very solitary. My pops was in and out my life. His family would reach out, I knew them but honestly just felt uncomfortable and I stopped reaching back out. I don't really think about it. It is what it is.Me and pops is cool. I dont have beef with anybody I'm just not close to anybody...on either side.I just do me and keep it moving. I have goals that keep me busy. I still wish everybody the best.

 

[atribecalledgabi]

I'm closer/know more people on my dad's side than my mom's, which is ironic cuz I was raised by my mom & I've seen my dad maybe 15 times tops (& that's being generous) to this day. I'm 20 now. I'm super close with my grandpa (dad's dad). He's the man in my life & really the only one out of anyone in either side of my family I talk to on a regular basis. He treats me like my dad shoulda treated me growin up. He flaunts me around to the rest of the family, taught me how to cook, spent mad money on me for whatever I wanted, & takes my side on anything. No matter what I did, he always backed me up. When his time comes & he passes on idk how close I'll be with anyone else in the family though. **Bernie Mac voice** I know em, but i don't know em.

 

[aggboy]

Have any of you been in a situation where your father wasnt present for a long time, then he reaches out? And if so, when you meet his side of the family, aunts, uncles, grandmother etc....do you ever wonder how come none of them ever checked for you..

I didnt connect w/ my pops til i was about 12. he reached out after over a decade of zero involvement. luckily, mom dukes took good care of me, and to be honest, i never really thought about dude. like ever.

lookin back now though (i'm 28, have a kid of my own and cool with his side of my fam) my aunts and uncles show mad love, but i be thinking "damn yall never really tried to reach out and did yall ever urge him to reach out sooner"

i doubt i'll get very many mature responses to this thread, even though this is a "grown" forum but i'm willing to filter through the inevitable childishness to read some real discourse.

I was pretty much like this except I didn't meet my dad til I was 18. I met and keep in touch with most of my siblings and they showed a lot of love, and my nephews but i don't know who knows about me. I think I was the kid that broke up his first marriage and led to his current one

 

[MorganFreemanKing]

Shit I got too many people on both sides I have never met. My dad was only the elder of two and his moms died when I was 3 his dad before I was born. He got locked up 2 years later and didn't get out until I was 17. Got hella cousins though. There are more people on my moms side I don't know. Her siblings all have been estranged due to being split up and put into foster care

 

[kat2180]

damn thats crazy.

cause from what you told me, yall were in a real relationship.

i'm assuming you've met his family before then, right?

that nigga got mad kids, it sound like.

I never told you that. We were in a relationship I guess but it was the early stages. Nobody had met families or anything. He has 3 other children that I know of now but there could be more.