what are your everyday stressors and how do you handle them?

[rickmogul]

@blackrain Very mature response! Where is @kat the weekend girl? I'm a bachelor so it's books, podcasts, roaming my city 4 new adventures ( Vegas) new strains 2 try weekly, building my foreign film collection and edifying my fellow brethren when the opportunity permits. PS4 got mad dust on it. It comes in waves for me when I get on the sticks.

 

[blackrain]

*Working long hours at work. They’re laying folks off trying to find some money somewhere, so that stays on my mind.

*Got a baby at the crib, so after work, I go home and pretty much give her all of my attention and she tires a nigga out lol.

*My relationship with my girl. Both of us are engineers who work long hours. Then we come home, and pretty much devote our time to the baby. It’s almost like we forgot about each other. We’re working on that, but the whole situation is a huge stress builder

I drink lol. My company offers me free flight benefits, so I fly to different spots when I’ve got the time. I drive around in my truck to clear my head. I fish. Just picked up smoking cigars - this helps a lot. I also read my bible and a prayer book each morning before I start my day.

The hardest part of a new baby is all the attention they require and also still having to maintain the actual relationship with your S/O. Y'all going to have literally create time to spend together or take those moments when the baby is napping to do shit...also family and friends come in handy for just a night or 2 of babysitting so y'all can have some private time.

Yea, we getting better but it’s hard as hell. I recently just promised her that every month, we’ll atleast do something, just her and I. That, along with just having a conversation at night once the baby’s in bed every night. It’s small, but it’s a start. Breaking point was a few months ago, she just started crying and telling me I forgot about her and didn’t feel the same about her. A nigga felt like shit after that. Realized I had to get better and try a little harder.

Yeah that can happen. When my son hit about 4 months old my wife didn't break down but we did have a talk about making a concerted effort to make sure we didn't forget "us". Its definitely something that you have to purposely do when you have a newborn because of all the attention they require. Add in having careers and there only being 24 hrs in a day and its not hard to see how somebody can fall into a bad routine of not paying the same attention to their s/o they did in the past. I lucked up not only in that my mother in law retired a month after my son was born but also my son is her 1st grandchild so her family is always offering to watch him overnight or for a weekend usually once a month without us even asking so we can just have a night to ourselves. We haven't always taken them up on it but having that option damn sure makes it nice.