Pros / Cons About Marriage

[aneed123]

Look niggas this shit is simple, all the pros of marriage is due to choosing the RIGHT woman and all the cons are due to choosing the WRONG woman. I can't stress this enough, if you're gonna bend the knee, make sure that woman deserves to sit on the throne.

It's actually not simple at all. Choosing the right woman is easier said than done.

Chosing the right woman is easier said than done cuz people change... bitterness and just life .. so that good man or woman from 28 ain't that same person at 37... so it's a crap shoot in today's society

 

[blackrain]

Ok so now lets hear from our happily married people.

The floor is yours.

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Pros: Somebody that is there without question. I know should something happen to me our son would be being raised by a wonderful person. Having someone to grow and build with that I can actually trust. Someone that actually gives amd gave enough of a fuck to point out my bad habits and watch me change them. Putting time and energy into something and seeing it come back 10 fold.

Cons: Having to take on another persons emotions at times when you just wanna be left alone. That's the biggest one to me and that's more because not only being in a relationship but a marriage when you're living with someone their mood can affect your mood and ain't nothing worse than 2 pissed off people in the same place.

Ain't no magic playbook on making a marriage work. It always will boil down to those 2 people and what works best for them. I will say the one constant though is being able to have complete blind trust in another human being. If you cant even fathom that idea then don't ever get married

 

[2stepz_ahead]

Lot of niggas let this lovey dovey romance shit fuck em out their paycheck.

You have to look at any relationship as a business.

When you are bf and gf you're two sole proprietorships going in on a business venture. Y'all break up or dissolve you leave with what you came with.

A marriage is a contract involving a third party (the state) that in the likelihood the legally binding partnership is dissolved, this third party comes in and decides how the holdings are split: houses, vehicles, income, children. And 9/10 it goes to the female partner because she makes less money.

If you take the emotions out of it, logically, marriage is the most illogical thing a man can do. But can't do a man's thinking for him.

Marriage is a business first and foremost. It is a contract. If you look at it like anything else, your pockets gonna get raped.

bad example

being the owner of a business...I can sell it or start another business or businesses.

I'm not a pimp .

while both take hardwork...they are very different an can't be compared.

lovey dovey did not make me pursue business... freedom did.

 

[aneed123]

Curious in the whole pros and cons no female will say as,a pro we get all his money if it don't work out.. why?

 

[LordZuko]

I wish y'all the best.

 

[freshb651]

con- being reduced to 1 room in a house you paying mortgage on.

fukk a mancave....I want say so in all decorations, all around the house.

why walk into a house an see only one person's ideas? that's not team shit. that's the small shit people overlook....but then be surprised when she try to control everything else.

more dudes need to hold they chicks accountable for fukkery...but also be willing to be held accountable.

niggas keep acting like lil shit don't matter...yea it do.

pralims wanna choose the drapes

 

[ineedpussy]

another thang is that my cousin is married. he younger than me. she had a baby before they met. now they got a son together and a daughter that will be born friday. but dawg my cousin wears the skirt in the relationship. his wife be controlling like a muthafucka and this nigga said he didnt see the signs. yeah right

one time she told that nigga to cut the grass and i guess he didnt cut it fast enough.....that bitch went and cut the grass.....guess what she aint have to cut that motherfucka again. they got a newer car and he lets her get it while he drove his beat up lincoln. asked him why he give it to her and he said because shes the women and has the kids so

i understand kind of. well she only got to drive it and he drove it when the whole family is together. well they just got a newer denali. and guess who's driving that muthfucka? you guessed it she is and she holler about you said you always wanted the chrysler...hear you go. smmfh

and to add insult to injury my other cousin got caught up in some cheating shit with his wife and my other cousins wife caught wind cause i was kinda of involved in the cheating shit....well why come this nigga come calling me hollering bout you fucking up my marriage cause she mad at me. im like dawg how are you letting something that didnt even happen in your marriage let it even become a factor in yours? man i was about to beat the shit out this nigga. that nigga got no balls. he's a sucka for real.

oh one more thang. he wanted to move to the hood cause he could get a bigger house for a nicer price. well she forced the nigga to get a house farther out cause "she" felt safer. and the thing is, is that they had to use his credit score to get a mortgage and this bitch only works three days a week.

and to put a cherry on top his brother in law (her brother) told me personally that they(her other three brothers and mother) respect my cousin because they never thought she would find a man let alone get married. smmfh. that told me right there she found the right sucka.

 

[Lefty_]

I wish y'all the best.

Take your scorned ass up the block damn.

 

[Lefty_]

Taking two personalities from two totally different backgrounds, with potentially two totally different sets of values and goals and meshing them into one unit is never, ever going to be simple.

Everything from diet, to conflict resolution will have to be "married", compromised and made to work for both parties. Add children and your goals as a parent, verses the goals as a parental unit and fitting both parenting styles together is never simple.

People changing as they age and being something different in their 40s and 50s than they were in their 20s and 30s is not simple. The what now after the children are gone and you've lost a part of yourself inside parenthood and looking at your mate and re evaluating is never simple.

The common denominator is love, and the way we maintain the relationship. That's why I said it's the heartbeat of the whole institution. If you found someone who you love, and who truly loves you, and you make certain to keep your core intact, and maintain the love you first found, shouldn't be too many problems keeping it going for ever even through all the strife that you're going to face, not probably going to..... Going to. That's the only simple part, that bond.

Everything else is walking a tightrope of give and take.

The problem lies in the very first thing you said. Marriage is about the foundation you start it on. Meaning you have to be with someone who has the same morals and values as you because if you don't its going to be a rocky build

I peeped it when I posted it, but I ain't feel like changing it. I should have said traditions or somethin like that, you right tho, steel sharpen steel.

 

[blackgod813]

Yall say a pro is kids i hate kids so whats my pro

 

[blackgod813]

Im 33 no kids marriage is just love for me i dont care how they raised kus i dont want them i only love the woman im with

 

[Kat]

Thank you for not procreating.

 

[Kat]

Curious in the whole pros and cons no female will say as,a pro we get all his money if it don't work out.. why?

I wouldn't take his money.

 

[Kat]

Curious in the whole pros and cons no female will say as,a pro we get all his money if it don't work out.. why?

I wouldn't take his money.

Unless he fucked a family member or my best friend.

 

[JoshuaMoshua]

Thank you for not procreating.

This is so mean, the world needs some lil blackgods, mfs would be comedy goldmines

 

[2stepz_ahead]

con- being reduced to 1 room in a house you paying mortgage on.

fukk a mancave....I want say so in all decorations, all around the house.

why walk into a house an see only one person's ideas? that's not team shit. that's the small shit people overlook....but then be surprised when she try to control everything else.

more dudes need to hold they chicks accountable for fukkery...but also be willing to be held accountable.

niggas keep acting like lil shit don't matter...yea it do.

pralims wanna choose the drapes

I don't see a problem with that.

if I don't like the color....we need to compromise.

why come home to shit you don't like to see?

 

[blackgod813]

Thank you for not procreating.

Listen cracker wtf kan a former prostitute say to me back back forth forth i wish it was ya mix breed whore daughter in the roca wear coat

 

[2stepz_ahead]

another thang is that my cousin is married. he younger than me. she had a baby before they met. now they got a son together and a daughter that will be born friday. but dawg my cousin wears the skirt in the relationship. his wife be controlling like a muthafucka and this nigga said he didnt see the signs. yeah right

one time she told that nigga to cut the grass and i guess he didnt cut it fast enough.....that bitch went and cut the grass.....guess what she aint have to cut that motherfucka again. they got a newer car and he lets her get it while he drove his beat up lincoln. asked him why he give it to her and he said because shes the women and has the kids so

i understand kind of. well she only got to drive it and he drove it when the whole family is together. well they just got a newer denali. and guess who's driving that muthfucka? you guessed it she is and she holler about you said you always wanted the chrysler...hear you go. smmfh

and to add insult to injury my other cousin got caught up in some cheating shit with his wife and my other cousins wife caught wind cause i was kinda of involved in the cheating shit....well why come this nigga come calling me hollering bout you fucking up my marriage cause she mad at me. im like dawg how are you letting something that didnt even happen in your marriage let it even become a factor in yours? man i was about to beat the shit out this nigga. that nigga got no balls. he's a sucka for real.

oh one more thang. he wanted to move to the hood cause he could get a bigger house for a nicer price. well she forced the nigga to get a house farther out cause "she" felt safer. and the thing is, is that they had to use his credit score to get a mortgage and this bitch only works three days a week.

and to put a cherry on top his brother in law (her brother) told me personally that they(her other three brothers and mother) respect my cousin because they never thought she would find a man let alone get married. smmfh. that told me right there she found the right sucka.

you first cousin might be a procrastinator... or oblivious.

the second...i once made a thread about my wife's fam....I dint want no negative shit in my shit. if we dint work out....I want it to be cuz I fukked up or her own personal reason...not some outside shit

 

[Trillfate]

Pros: There is no pros. It's nothing a wife can do that a girlfriend can't besides give permission to let you die in a hospital. Not really a pro but that's all I got.

Cons: Not enough time in the day



I believe in marriage. I just don't believe in the man-made laws of a divorce.

@obnoxiouslyfresh

This. Told u this is pitfall that deters men

 

[Kat]

Thank you for not procreating.

Listen cracker wtf kan a former prostitute say to me

I don't know, ask your mother.