Pros / Cons About Marriage

[LEMZIMUS_RAMSEY]

Like ive said before its a TENDENCY.

We just have to WATCH PEOPLE instead of HEARING PEOPLE TALKING AND PRETENDING.

The general patern is to move to the best thing, material, pussy,dick,mobile phone, fast food chain WHENEVER WE CAN. Most of us think that we are COMMITING whereas we just HANGING ON TO until an OPPORTUNITY comes up.

We are subconsciously designed to not commit for long term regarding anything. A heavy consummer has higger chances to fail his marriage. Our whole lives are about getting something new. KEEPING SOMETHING / SOMEONE comes into consideration when we think that WE CANNOT DO / HAVE/ GET BETTER.

And most of thos who are happily married dont have that approach on life imo.

 

[EmM HoLLa.]

Like ive said before its a TENDENCY.

We just have to WATCH PEOPLE instead of HEARING PEOPLE TALKING AND PRETENDING.

The general patern is to move to the best thing, material, pussy,dick,mobile phone, fast food chain WHENEVER WE CAN. Most of us think that we are COMMITING whereas we just HANGING ON TO until an OPPORTUNITY comes up.

We are subconsciously designed to not commit for long term regarding anything. A heavy consummer has higger chances to fail his marriage. Our whole lives are about getting something new. KEEPING SOMETHING / SOMEONE comes into consideration when we think that WE CANNOT DO / HAVE/ GET BETTER.

And most of thos who are happily married dont have that approach on life imo.

Hence my blurb about unrealistic expectations going into marriage to begin with.. You ain't told a lie here..

I'm not pro or against.. Im about knowing what you're getting yourself into before doing so.. Im also about knowing what your alternative are as well.. And making the best decision for you..

 

[EmM HoLLa.]

The problem is thinking there is a difference between a hoe and a regular bitch.

Because you contrive this distinction you end up applying the wrong solution to the problem.

A hoe is nothing but a female willing to use her pussy to extract resources from a man.

Name five bitches you know that wouldn't use their pussy to get what they want.

Being a hoe is a basic program of a female. It ain't even an intentional thought it's just the way they move.

So to say that you simply have to choose the right female ignores the fact that hoe is encoded in her. The female you with used pussy to get you, uses pussy to keep you, but you think she's above using it to get something else from another man? Why? Because principles? Hoes don't have principles. They don't operate on an honor system.

If you with a female long term it is because she doesn't feel she can do better than you.

If she does find someone she thinks is better she'll do something called monkey branching. Shell pull back affection from her current, withdraw from sex become emotionally distant pick petty arguments, basically tank the relationship until he breaks up with her. She will swear there is nobody else, but look on her fb two weeks to a month later you gonna see her boo'd up with the nigga she was cheating on you with.

Now if she wants a man who she isn't sure is available she will cheat but won't leave right away. Maybe the dude is married or has a gf but she will fuck him in order to mate poach.

Some females will play a game where they hook up with a beta for the resources, cheat with an alpha, get pregnant by him and pass the baby off as the beta's.

Lot of niggas outchea thinking they chose the right one. Holding Ls.

Paying child support on kids not even theirs.

I already went over the other Ls.

Understand the nature of the thing you dealing with

Some of what you say is 100.. But it's too rigid.. You type like you got the game mastered... But there's a Grey area there that you can't plan or account for.. And that's the Grey area that will get a nigga burned..

 

[EmM HoLLa.]

@LordZuko you better finish part 2 bruh i was reading that shit intrigued then you go gone on a bitch raid. nigga just finish that shit. niggaZ like to be in the know

Part two is on gf vs wives.

You gotta understand what a man is to a woman. He's a lottery ticket. She tryna figure out if what she holding in her hand is a winner. If not she gonna move on, if she smart. Females understand that they age like athletes. Their prime years are between 19-29. After that it's a wrap you got a old bitch on your hands, those are dangerous.

A bitch is always tryna get a man to commit to her emotionally, that's why she needs constant validating. She needs to hear you say the i love you, needs you to buy her gifts and prioritize her over lifelong friends. That indicates to her the man's level of commitment. Men don't give commitment easy but once they do, it's hard to take back outside of her betrayal. So once she feels a nigga is committed she starts to move towards marriage.

This is where Niggas lose.

When a bitch is at the gf stage you as the man run the show. A bitch Got two options, she can stay or she can go. But if you the man, you already let her know that there's bitches waiting to come off the bench. 1)no bitch wants a nigga with no bitches. 2)no bitch wants to see another bitch prosper off her progress.

3)you gotta pimp these hoes, you gotta have that bitch mentally, she has to know that you're better than her. This seems harsh because the average nigga don't wanna pimp his girl. But if you don't pimp her another nigga will. No bitch wants to be with a lame nigga. Every bitch wanna feel like they nigga got the juice because that mean they got juice. This why rappers, dboys, athletes stay with hoes, and bitches on waiting lists just to try out to be a hoe. And a nigga gotta keep bitches because having hoes is how you keep your swag. You ever see a nigga that you know is bitchless try to talk to another bitch. It's sad. This all self explanatory tho.

So when she just a gf and she know she competing with other Bitches she either gonna work hard or fall off. Either way next bitch up.

Part 3: Marriage aka Every hoe think she a pimp

Yo bro.. You believe all of this?...

It's 2017.. This may have worked a generation ago.. But these women are moving different out here.. Pay attention..

No females not moving different. The year don't matter, the race don't matter the country don't matter.

Yo son.. These woman are definitely moving different.. Hoeism is applauded in today's society... These women have no shame. They'll fuck you and your friend and and give 0 fucks.. It is because of this that it might be in some dudes best interest to get married if they actually find a good woman.. Cuz it's a dirty game out here..

Hoeism is lauded but at the end of the day these hoes want validation. For example Amber rose. Notorious hoe. For all the shit she talks she still wants a man. However, based on her own actions there's only a certain level of man willing to be publicly seen with her. Enter 21 Savage. A nigga clearly dealing with mother issues and lack of father. Amber came in and played a role.

Blacc Chyna another hoe only could get someone that is a public joke. No serious nigga would ever cuff her.

Hoeism is lauded by hoes.but as much shit as these hoes talk they cannot validate themselves. They need a man to want them to desire them to love them.

The game is played differently at different levels. The level you talking about, is a basic bitch level.

This guy... What are we talkin about here? Amber got married to wiz and got a million outta the divorce settlement. Chyna is gonna take Rob to the cleaners and they ain't even get married. If you ask me they've been validated not only by the men they were dealing with.. But by the general public.. And most importantly by the courts.. Look at Future.. Again what are we really talkin about? Since when do niggaz gotta get married to get raped by the courts?

Don't let bravado and ego blind you to what is really happening out here. I'm all for being the pimp/alpha male.. But today.. You gotta be careful because they use that against you..

this lil nigga kickin tall nigga knowledge....lol

you my nigga tho

5'5" with the soul of a 6'4 nigga lmao..

On the cool though.. Marriage and to a further extent failed marriage isn't the issue. It's gender roles.. And how we as men and women deal with each other.. And how society has shaped expectations to the point where certain things just aren't realistic.. It's a multi layered onion with failed marriage being a symptom of a larger issue.. But I digress..

^^^cosign all of this

with the biggest factor of all: RESPECT

a lot of people in marriages don't truly respect their spouse

marrying for love is not enough.......hell u could genuinely love a person and it's best that ya'll not be together

but if u have that basic respect, the way u handle each other will be what makes ur relationship become better or worse as life happens

also mofos have an immature perspective about what a long term marriage is supposed to be like...........u think that dimey chick u married in ur 20s won't get fat 1 day (especially after she has a kid or 2), u think when ya'll get older it's not possible for 1 of ya'll to get cancer, or to deal with the death of a parent, death of a child, etc...........mofos be ready to sign up but don't understand that u will have to take on all of that

if u ain't still gon find ur wife attractive while she getting cancer treatments and losing her hair and/or a breast, then u had no business even thinking about getting married in the 1st place

100 percent facts my nigga.. No one wants to face these facts b..

 

[2stepz_ahead]

The problem is thinking there is a difference between a hoe and a regular bitch.

Because you contrive this distinction you end up applying the wrong solution to the problem.

A hoe is nothing but a female willing to use her pussy to extract resources from a man.

Name five bitches you know that wouldn't use their pussy to get what they want.

Being a hoe is a basic program of a female. It ain't even an intentional thought it's just the way they move.

So to say that you simply have to choose the right female ignores the fact that hoe is encoded in her. The female you with used pussy to get you, uses pussy to keep you, but you think she's above using it to get something else from another man? Why? Because principles? Hoes don't have principles. They don't operate on an honor system.

If you with a female long term it is because she doesn't feel she can do better than you.

If she does find someone she thinks is better she'll do something called monkey branching. Shell pull back affection from her current, withdraw from sex become emotionally distant pick petty arguments, basically tank the relationship until he breaks up with her. She will swear there is nobody else, but look on her fb two weeks to a month later you gonna see her boo'd up with the nigga she was cheating on you with.

Now if she wants a man who she isn't sure is available she will cheat but won't leave right away. Maybe the dude is married or has a gf but she will fuck him in order to mate poach.

Some females will play a game where they hook up with a beta for the resources, cheat with an alpha, get pregnant by him and pass the baby off as the beta's.

Lot of niggas outchea thinking they chose the right one. Holding Ls.

Paying child support on kids not even theirs.

I already went over the other Ls.

Understand the nature of the thing you dealing with

nooo no no

just no

hoes, slut. whores, women ....all different.

bruh you just...

nooooo

your veiw is jaded as hell.

hell yes my wife can do better than me.

she has options...just like I have options.

but she's with me....an I take keeping her seriously as she does me.

two way street

 

[blackrain]

Marriage is a fucking scam. I just spent the last 7-8 months sitting in court watching men get jerked over because of that "legally binding" relationship. I watched a mf making $250 K / year getting raped in court by his wife. Left that nigga w/ crumbs. Had me sitting there wanting to kill that broad for him. Why? All because somebody didn't want to be w/ the other person any more. Kurt Russell and Goldie Hawn been together damn near 30+ years and never got married. Society tells people that you have to be "married" to prove your love for your partner. Marriage is mostly beneficial for women. My girl and I both are like "fuck getting married again". Bout to be on our Kurt and Goldie shit.

YOU AND LOTS OF WITNESS POSTERS ARE GIVING LIVING PROVES, LIVE AND DIRECT EXPERIENCES, NUMBERS.

YET THESE NIGGAS ARE STILL ON THEIR DISNEY SHIT : BUT BUT BUT !!!

DONT BE MAD AT THEM. THEY ARE WELL PROGRAMMED TO FOLLOW THE PATH OF THOSE WHOM YOU ARE TALKING ABOUT.

YOU CANNOT SAVE THEM ALL BRUH.

Ya'll niggas keep talking like the shit ain't a 2 way street. Like I said before ya'll talking like a woman just wakes up randomly one day and decides to file for divorce. A marriage is still a relationship and just like any other you should be well aware of when it's fucking up and it rarely is just 1 person's fault when a relationship fails. But ya'll keep coming with the scenarios of a woman taking you for everything you got when most you niggas ain't even got shit. Niggas using celebrity divorces as a measure for why they won't get married like you got millions in the bank.

LOL so u saying that it's better for a nigga to be forced to give up half his chik fila check like @2stepz_ahead said? :joy:

yeah I agree that these niggaz have irrational fears about taking a financial L

but I also think it makes more sense for a regular nigga to be concerned more than a mofos with millions to lose

a nigga forced to give $50 out of a $100 check is gon suffer way more than a dude forced to give up $500K out of a $1M check....just sayin haha

In the words of Chris Rock "If you got 20 million and you got to give up 10..you still got 10. But if you got 50 thousand and you got to give up half you just might have to kill her" lmao. It's a funny joke but let's be real. Most the niggas talking about they don't want to be taken to the cleaners don't have shit to be taken from jump and are in a 2 income household where they would be just as hurt to lose their wife's income as she would be to lose theirs. That's why seeing that shit is so funny to me. Niggas talking like they're supporting stay at home wives who don't do shit but look at a magical clock to decide when they want to divorce. Shit don't work like that. Ask anybody who has actually been divorced. Rarely does that shit hit you out of nowhere. The actual relationship goes downhill for a while before it gets to that point.

 

[blackrain]

Marriage is a fucking scam. I just spent the last 7-8 months sitting in court watching men get jerked over because of that "legally binding" relationship. I watched a mf making $250 K / year getting raped in court by his wife. Left that nigga w/ crumbs. Had me sitting there wanting to kill that broad for him. Why? All because somebody didn't want to be w/ the other person any more. Kurt Russell and Goldie Hawn been together damn near 30+ years and never got married. Society tells people that you have to be "married" to prove your love for your partner. Marriage is mostly beneficial for women. My girl and I both are like "fuck getting married again". Bout to be on our Kurt and Goldie shit.

YOU AND LOTS OF WITNESS POSTERS ARE GIVING LIVING PROVES, LIVE AND DIRECT EXPERIENCES, NUMBERS.

YET THESE NIGGAS ARE STILL ON THEIR DISNEY SHIT : BUT BUT BUT !!!

DONT BE MAD AT THEM. THEY ARE WELL PROGRAMMED TO FOLLOW THE PATH OF THOSE WHOM YOU ARE TALKING ABOUT.

YOU CANNOT SAVE THEM ALL BRUH.

Ya'll niggas keep talking like the shit ain't a 2 way street. Like I said before ya'll talking like a woman just wakes up randomly one day and decides to file for divorce. A marriage is still a relationship and just like any other you should be well aware of when it's fucking up and it rarely is just 1 person's fault when a relationship fails. But ya'll keep coming with the scenarios of a woman taking you for everything you got when most you niggas ain't even got shit. Niggas using celebrity divorces as a measure for why they won't get married like you got millions in the bank.

I was thinking like you bruh. Then i did some researches. Its deeper than money bruh believe me.

I know it's deeper than money that's why these "Well she just decided to leave one day" scenarios aren't telling the whole story.

 

[blackrain]

@LordZuko you better finish part 2 bruh i was reading that shit intrigued then you go gone on a bitch raid. nigga just finish that shit. niggaZ like to be in the know

Part two is on gf vs wives.

You gotta understand what a man is to a woman. He's a lottery ticket. She tryna figure out if what she holding in her hand is a winner. If not she gonna move on, if she smart. Females understand that they age like athletes. Their prime years are between 19-29. After that it's a wrap you got a old bitch on your hands, those are dangerous.

A bitch is always tryna get a man to commit to her emotionally, that's why she needs constant validating. She needs to hear you say the i love you, needs you to buy her gifts and prioritize her over lifelong friends. That indicates to her the man's level of commitment. Men don't give commitment easy but once they do, it's hard to take back outside of her betrayal. So once she feels a nigga is committed she starts to move towards marriage.

This is where Niggas lose.

When a bitch is at the gf stage you as the man run the show. A bitch Got two options, she can stay or she can go. But if you the man, you already let her know that there's bitches waiting to come off the bench. 1)no bitch wants a nigga with no bitches. 2)no bitch wants to see another bitch prosper off her progress.

3)you gotta pimp these hoes, you gotta have that bitch mentally, she has to know that you're better than her. This seems harsh because the average nigga don't wanna pimp his girl. But if you don't pimp her another nigga will. No bitch wants to be with a lame nigga. Every bitch wanna feel like they nigga got the juice because that mean they got juice. This why rappers, dboys, athletes stay with hoes, and bitches on waiting lists just to try out to be a hoe. And a nigga gotta keep bitches because having hoes is how you keep your swag. You ever see a nigga that you know is bitchless try to talk to another bitch. It's sad. This all self explanatory tho.

So when she just a gf and she know she competing with other Bitches she either gonna work hard or fall off. Either way next bitch up.

Part 3: Marriage aka Every hoe think she a pimp

Yo bro.. You believe all of this?...

It's 2017.. This may have worked a generation ago.. But these women are moving different out here.. Pay attention..

No females not moving different. The year don't matter, the race don't matter the country don't matter.

Yo son.. These woman are definitely moving different.. Hoeism is applauded in today's society... These women have no shame. They'll fuck you and your friend and and give 0 fucks.. It is because of this that it might be in some dudes best interest to get married if they actually find a good woman.. Cuz it's a dirty game out here..

Hoeism is lauded but at the end of the day these hoes want validation. For example Amber rose. Notorious hoe. For all the shit she talks she still wants a man. However, based on her own actions there's only a certain level of man willing to be publicly seen with her. Enter 21 Savage. A nigga clearly dealing with mother issues and lack of father. Amber came in and played a role.

Blacc Chyna another hoe only could get someone that is a public joke. No serious nigga would ever cuff her.

Hoeism is lauded by hoes.but as much shit as these hoes talk they cannot validate themselves. They need a man to want them to desire them to love them.

The game is played differently at different levels. The level you talking about, is a basic bitch level.

This guy... What are we talkin about here? Amber got married to wiz and got a million outta the divorce settlement. Chyna is gonna take Rob to the cleaners and they ain't even get married. If you ask me they've been validated not only by the men they were dealing with.. But by the general public.. And most importantly by the courts.. Look at Future.. Again what are we really talkin about? Since when do niggaz gotta get married to get raped by the courts?

Don't let bravado and ego blind you to what is really happening out here. I'm all for being the pimp/alpha male.. But today.. You gotta be careful because they use that against you..

this lil nigga kickin tall nigga knowledge....lol

you my nigga tho

5'5" with the soul of a 6'4 nigga lmao..

On the cool though.. Marriage and to a further extent failed marriage isn't the issue. It's gender roles.. And how we as men and women deal with each other.. And how society has shaped expectations to the point where certain things just aren't realistic.. It's a multi layered onion with failed marriage being a symptom of a larger issue.. But I digress..

^^^cosign all of this

with the biggest factor of all: RESPECT

a lot of people in marriages don't truly respect their spouse

marrying for love is not enough.......hell u could genuinely love a person and it's best that ya'll not be together

but if u have that basic respect, the way u handle each other will be what makes ur relationship become better or worse as life happens

also mofos have an immature perspective about what a long term marriage is supposed to be like...........u think that dimey chick u married in ur 20s won't get fat 1 day (especially after she has a kid or 2), u think when ya'll get older it's not possible for 1 of ya'll to get cancer, or to deal with the death of a parent, death of a child, etc...........mofos be ready to sign up but don't understand that u will have to take on all of that

if u ain't still gon find ur wife attractive while she getting cancer treatments and losing her hair and/or a breast, then u had no business even thinking about getting married in the 1st place

I've said it before people forget an actual relationship still has to be maintained after marriage. Motherfuckers think marriage will solve issues between you and your s/o when all it does is magnify them. Lack of communication, lack of respect, and a lack of understanding the actual work needed to make a relationship work is why these shits fail. People want that fairy tale life thinking it's all sweet and then bitch up at their first bump in the road or rush into a marriage w/o actually learning and knowing the person they're committing to. It takes 2 people to make those vows so niggas is just as much at fault as the women they're worried about

 

[blackrain]

emm in here killing emm....lol

We gotta keep it a stack with each other if we are going to get anywhere.. There are some ain't Shit women who don't deserve a ring and some ain't Shit men who don't deserve a good woman.. On top of that people only do what they are allowed to do.. If the respect is there a woman will straighten her ass up.. And vice versa.. Everything else is Grey area..

Where my nigga Kap at what's his @ these.. Come join this discussion..

Most people who ain't shit won't admit they ain't shit. They not honest with themselves.

 

[EmM HoLLa.]

emm in here killing emm....lol

We gotta keep it a stack with each other if we are going to get anywhere.. There are some ain't Shit women who don't deserve a ring and some ain't Shit men who don't deserve a good woman.. On top of that people only do what they are allowed to do.. If the respect is there a woman will straighten her ass up.. And vice versa.. Everything else is Grey area..

Where my nigga Kap at what's his @ these.. Come join this discussion..

Most people who ain't shit won't admit they ain't shit. They not honest with themselves.

Fax Machine

 

[EmM HoLLa.]

@LordZuko you better finish part 2 bruh i was reading that shit intrigued then you go gone on a bitch raid. nigga just finish that shit. niggaZ like to be in the know

Part two is on gf vs wives.

You gotta understand what a man is to a woman. He's a lottery ticket. She tryna figure out if what she holding in her hand is a winner. If not she gonna move on, if she smart. Females understand that they age like athletes. Their prime years are between 19-29. After that it's a wrap you got a old bitch on your hands, those are dangerous.

A bitch is always tryna get a man to commit to her emotionally, that's why she needs constant validating. She needs to hear you say the i love you, needs you to buy her gifts and prioritize her over lifelong friends. That indicates to her the man's level of commitment. Men don't give commitment easy but once they do, it's hard to take back outside of her betrayal. So once she feels a nigga is committed she starts to move towards marriage.

This is where Niggas lose.

When a bitch is at the gf stage you as the man run the show. A bitch Got two options, she can stay or she can go. But if you the man, you already let her know that there's bitches waiting to come off the bench. 1)no bitch wants a nigga with no bitches. 2)no bitch wants to see another bitch prosper off her progress.

3)you gotta pimp these hoes, you gotta have that bitch mentally, she has to know that you're better than her. This seems harsh because the average nigga don't wanna pimp his girl. But if you don't pimp her another nigga will. No bitch wants to be with a lame nigga. Every bitch wanna feel like they nigga got the juice because that mean they got juice. This why rappers, dboys, athletes stay with hoes, and bitches on waiting lists just to try out to be a hoe. And a nigga gotta keep bitches because having hoes is how you keep your swag. You ever see a nigga that you know is bitchless try to talk to another bitch. It's sad. This all self explanatory tho.

So when she just a gf and she know she competing with other Bitches she either gonna work hard or fall off. Either way next bitch up.

Part 3: Marriage aka Every hoe think she a pimp

Yo bro.. You believe all of this?...

It's 2017.. This may have worked a generation ago.. But these women are moving different out here.. Pay attention..

No females not moving different. The year don't matter, the race don't matter the country don't matter.

Yo son.. These woman are definitely moving different.. Hoeism is applauded in today's society... These women have no shame. They'll fuck you and your friend and and give 0 fucks.. It is because of this that it might be in some dudes best interest to get married if they actually find a good woman.. Cuz it's a dirty game out here..

Hoeism is lauded but at the end of the day these hoes want validation. For example Amber rose. Notorious hoe. For all the shit she talks she still wants a man. However, based on her own actions there's only a certain level of man willing to be publicly seen with her. Enter 21 Savage. A nigga clearly dealing with mother issues and lack of father. Amber came in and played a role.

Blacc Chyna another hoe only could get someone that is a public joke. No serious nigga would ever cuff her.

Hoeism is lauded by hoes.but as much shit as these hoes talk they cannot validate themselves. They need a man to want them to desire them to love them.

The game is played differently at different levels. The level you talking about, is a basic bitch level.

This guy... What are we talkin about here? Amber got married to wiz and got a million outta the divorce settlement. Chyna is gonna take Rob to the cleaners and they ain't even get married. If you ask me they've been validated not only by the men they were dealing with.. But by the general public.. And most importantly by the courts.. Look at Future.. Again what are we really talkin about? Since when do niggaz gotta get married to get raped by the courts?

Don't let bravado and ego blind you to what is really happening out here. I'm all for being the pimp/alpha male.. But today.. You gotta be careful because they use that against you..

this lil nigga kickin tall nigga knowledge....lol

you my nigga tho

5'5" with the soul of a 6'4 nigga lmao..

On the cool though.. Marriage and to a further extent failed marriage isn't the issue. It's gender roles.. And how we as men and women deal with each other.. And how society has shaped expectations to the point where certain things just aren't realistic.. It's a multi layered onion with failed marriage being a symptom of a larger issue.. But I digress..

^^^cosign all of this

with the biggest factor of all: RESPECT

a lot of people in marriages don't truly respect their spouse

marrying for love is not enough.......hell u could genuinely love a person and it's best that ya'll not be together

but if u have that basic respect, the way u handle each other will be what makes ur relationship become better or worse as life happens

also mofos have an immature perspective about what a long term marriage is supposed to be like...........u think that dimey chick u married in ur 20s won't get fat 1 day (especially after she has a kid or 2), u think when ya'll get older it's not possible for 1 of ya'll to get cancer, or to deal with the death of a parent, death of a child, etc...........mofos be ready to sign up but don't understand that u will have to take on all of that

if u ain't still gon find ur wife attractive while she getting cancer treatments and losing her hair and/or a breast, then u had no business even thinking about getting married in the 1st place

I've said it before people forget an actual relationship still has to be maintained after marriage. Motherfuckers think marriage will solve issues between you and your s/o when all it does is magnify them. Lack of communication, lack of respect, and a lack of understanding the actual work needed to make a relationship work is why these shits fail. People want that fairy tale life thinking it's all sweet and then bitch up at their first bump in the road or rush into a marriage w/o actually learning and knowing the person they're committing to. It takes 2 people to make those vows so niggas is just as much at fault as the women they're worried about

They don't hear you bro..

 

[AZTG]

This thread got crazy.

Ill say this, everyone is different. Some people arent marriage material.

For example, I never considered myself marriage material because I could not trust ME. It aint even being faithful, the pussy, new or old, was never my issue.

My issue was always the fact that I didnt know if I could give the love, and respect, and effort that my wife deserves in a marriage in the long run.

A lot of yall though scarred over what happened to the next man.

Man nothing that ever happened to someone else ever scared me not to do something. I consider myself smart enough to make the best decision possible, and so, if I was to get married, I have full trust that id make the right decision.

Now what happens if that decision was wrong? Ill deal with that shit like I dealt with all my other bad decisions, regardless of consequences. Life goes on.

But to sit here and be scorned and scared over what happened to the next man? Nah man. Im not wired like that.

But again, im aware enough to realize my potential marriage will likely fail because im too selfish and dont trust myself to love a woman for 5 years straight let alone 50.

If the feeling of staying together with a person ever overpowers my love of freedom, id take the step and deal with the potential consequences, good or bad.

 

[MizuryLillith]

@LordZuko you better finish part 2 bruh i was reading that shit intrigued then you go gone on a bitch raid. nigga just finish that shit. niggaZ like to be in the know

Part two is on gf vs wives.

You gotta understand what a man is to a woman. He's a lottery ticket. She tryna figure out if what she holding in her hand is a winner. If not she gonna move on, if she smart. Females understand that they age like athletes. Their prime years are between 19-29. After that it's a wrap you got a old bitch on your hands, those are dangerous.

A bitch is always tryna get a man to commit to her emotionally, that's why she needs constant validating. She needs to hear you say the i love you, needs you to buy her gifts and prioritize her over lifelong friends. That indicates to her the man's level of commitment. Men don't give commitment easy but once they do, it's hard to take back outside of her betrayal. So once she feels a nigga is committed she starts to move towards marriage.

This is where Niggas lose.

When a bitch is at the gf stage you as the man run the show. A bitch Got two options, she can stay or she can go. But if you the man, you already let her know that there's bitches waiting to come off the bench. 1)no bitch wants a nigga with no bitches. 2)no bitch wants to see another bitch prosper off her progress.

3)you gotta pimp these hoes, you gotta have that bitch mentally, she has to know that you're better than her. This seems harsh because the average nigga don't wanna pimp his girl. But if you don't pimp her another nigga will. No bitch wants to be with a lame nigga. Every bitch wanna feel like they nigga got the juice because that mean they got juice. This why rappers, dboys, athletes stay with hoes, and bitches on waiting lists just to try out to be a hoe. And a nigga gotta keep bitches because having hoes is how you keep your swag. You ever see a nigga that you know is bitchless try to talk to another bitch. It's sad. This all self explanatory tho.

So when she just a gf and she know she competing with other Bitches she either gonna work hard or fall off. Either way next bitch up.

Part 3: Marriage aka Every hoe think she a pimp

Yo bro.. You believe all of this?...

It's 2017.. This may have worked a generation ago.. But these women are moving different out here.. Pay attention..

No females not moving different. The year don't matter, the race don't matter the country don't matter.

Yo son.. These woman are definitely moving different.. Hoeism is applauded in today's society... These women have no shame. They'll fuck you and your friend and and give 0 fucks.. It is because of this that it might be in some dudes best interest to get married if they actually find a good woman.. Cuz it's a dirty game out here..

Hoeism is lauded but at the end of the day these hoes want validation. For example Amber rose. Notorious hoe. For all the shit she talks she still wants a man. However, based on her own actions there's only a certain level of man willing to be publicly seen with her. Enter 21 Savage. A nigga clearly dealing with mother issues and lack of father. Amber came in and played a role.

Blacc Chyna another hoe only could get someone that is a public joke. No serious nigga would ever cuff her.

Hoeism is lauded by hoes.but as much shit as these hoes talk they cannot validate themselves. They need a man to want them to desire them to love them.

The game is played differently at different levels. The level you talking about, is a basic bitch level.

This guy... What are we talkin about here? Amber got married to wiz and got a million outta the divorce settlement. Chyna is gonna take Rob to the cleaners and they ain't even get married. If you ask me they've been validated not only by the men they were dealing with.. But by the general public.. And most importantly by the courts.. Look at Future.. Again what are we really talkin about? Since when do niggaz gotta get married to get raped by the courts?

Don't let bravado and ego blind you to what is really happening out here. I'm all for being the pimp/alpha male.. But today.. You gotta be careful because they use that against you..

this lil nigga kickin tall nigga knowledge....lol

you my nigga tho

5'5" with the soul of a 6'4 nigga lmao..

On the cool though.. Marriage and to a further extent failed marriage isn't the issue. It's gender roles.. And how we as men and women deal with each other.. And how society has shaped expectations to the point where certain things just aren't realistic.. It's a multi layered onion with failed marriage being a symptom of a larger issue.. But I digress..

^^^cosign all of this

with the biggest factor of all: RESPECT

a lot of people in marriages don't truly respect their spouse

marrying for love is not enough.......hell u could genuinely love a person and it's best that ya'll not be together

but if u have that basic respect, the way u handle each other will be what makes ur relationship become better or worse as life happens

also mofos have an immature perspective about what a long term marriage is supposed to be like...........u think that dimey chick u married in ur 20s won't get fat 1 day (especially after she has a kid or 2), u think when ya'll get older it's not possible for 1 of ya'll to get cancer, or to deal with the death of a parent, death of a child, etc...........mofos be ready to sign up but don't understand that u will have to take on all of that

if u ain't still gon find ur wife attractive while she getting cancer treatments and losing her hair and/or a breast, then u had no business even thinking about getting married in the 1st place

I've said it before people forget an actual relationship still has to be maintained after marriage. Motherfuckers think marriage will solve issues between you and your s/o when all it does is magnify them. Lack of communication, lack of respect, and a lack of understanding the actual work needed to make a relationship work is why these shits fail. People want that fairy tale life thinking it's all sweet and then bitch up at their first bump in the road or rush into a marriage w/o actually learning and knowing the person they're committing to. It takes 2 people to make those vows so niggas is just as much at fault as the women they're worried about

They don't hear you bro..

Is ANYBODY actually reading all this shit but the people spittin it......?

Noooooooooo

 

[blackgod813]

Lord zuko for man of the year

 

[blakfyahking]

Marriage is a fucking scam. I just spent the last 7-8 months sitting in court watching men get jerked over because of that "legally binding" relationship. I watched a mf making $250 K / year getting raped in court by his wife. Left that nigga w/ crumbs. Had me sitting there wanting to kill that broad for him. Why? All because somebody didn't want to be w/ the other person any more. Kurt Russell and Goldie Hawn been together damn near 30+ years and never got married. Society tells people that you have to be "married" to prove your love for your partner. Marriage is mostly beneficial for women. My girl and I both are like "fuck getting married again". Bout to be on our Kurt and Goldie shit.

YOU AND LOTS OF WITNESS POSTERS ARE GIVING LIVING PROVES, LIVE AND DIRECT EXPERIENCES, NUMBERS.

YET THESE NIGGAS ARE STILL ON THEIR DISNEY SHIT : BUT BUT BUT !!!

DONT BE MAD AT THEM. THEY ARE WELL PROGRAMMED TO FOLLOW THE PATH OF THOSE WHOM YOU ARE TALKING ABOUT.

YOU CANNOT SAVE THEM ALL BRUH.

Ya'll niggas keep talking like the shit ain't a 2 way street. Like I said before ya'll talking like a woman just wakes up randomly one day and decides to file for divorce. A marriage is still a relationship and just like any other you should be well aware of when it's fucking up and it rarely is just 1 person's fault when a relationship fails. But ya'll keep coming with the scenarios of a woman taking you for everything you got when most you niggas ain't even got shit. Niggas using celebrity divorces as a measure for why they won't get married like you got millions in the bank.

LOL so u saying that it's better for a nigga to be forced to give up half his chik fila check like @2stepz_ahead said? :joy:

yeah I agree that these niggaz have irrational fears about taking a financial L

but I also think it makes more sense for a regular nigga to be concerned more than a mofos with millions to lose

a nigga forced to give $50 out of a $100 check is gon suffer way more than a dude forced to give up $500K out of a $1M check....just sayin haha

In the words of Chris Rock "If you got 20 million and you got to give up 10..you still got 10. But if you got 50 thousand and you got to give up half you just might have to kill her" lmao. It's a funny joke but let's be real. Most the niggas talking about they don't want to be taken to the cleaners don't have shit to be taken from jump and are in a 2 income household where they would be just as hurt to lose their wife's income as she would be to lose theirs. That's why seeing that shit is so funny to me. Niggas talking like they're supporting stay at home wives who don't do shit but look at a magical clock to decide when they want to divorce. Shit don't work like that. Ask anybody who has actually been divorced. Rarely does that shit hit you out of nowhere. The actual relationship goes downhill for a while before it gets to that point.

:joy: @ u telling me to ask someone who has actually been divorced

nah what I'm saying is money isn't that important in the grand scheme of things........I would think niggaz would be more concerned about losing their kids, or a great relationship, instead of worrying about financial losses

u can always bounce back with more money so that shouldn't be ur biggest worry, especially if u are young

but I can also understand why a hard working dude out here would be concerned about having to struggle after getting fleeced cuz he don't make that much..........and there are actually more chik fila working niggaz with a stay at home wife than u think haha

u can't just easily dismiss a dude's concerns when u telling him to take a risk that could get out of his control so easily

 

[blackrain]

This thread got crazy.

Ill say this, everyone is different. Some people arent marriage material.

For example, I never considered myself marriage material because I could not trust ME. It aint even being faithful, the pussy, new or old, was never my issue.

My issue was always the fact that I didnt know if I could give the love, and respect, and effort that my wife deserves in a marriage in the long run.

A lot of yall though scarred over what happened to the next man.

Man nothing that ever happened to someone else ever scared me not to do something. I consider myself smart enough to make the best decision possible, and so, if I was to get married, I have full trust that id make the right decision.

Now what happens if that decision was wrong? Ill deal with that shit like I dealt with all my other bad decisions, regardless of consequences. Life goes on.

But to sit here and be scorned and scared over what happened to the next man? Nah man. Im not wired like that.

But again, im aware enough to realize my potential marriage will likely fail because im too selfish and dont trust myself to love a woman for 5 years straight let alone 50.

If the feeling of staying together with a person ever overpowers my love of freedom, id take the step and deal with the potential consequences, good or bad.

Props. Most folks ain't able to be this honest with themselves let alone other people.

 

[blackrain]

Marriage is a fucking scam. I just spent the last 7-8 months sitting in court watching men get jerked over because of that "legally binding" relationship. I watched a mf making $250 K / year getting raped in court by his wife. Left that nigga w/ crumbs. Had me sitting there wanting to kill that broad for him. Why? All because somebody didn't want to be w/ the other person any more. Kurt Russell and Goldie Hawn been together damn near 30+ years and never got married. Society tells people that you have to be "married" to prove your love for your partner. Marriage is mostly beneficial for women. My girl and I both are like "fuck getting married again". Bout to be on our Kurt and Goldie shit.

YOU AND LOTS OF WITNESS POSTERS ARE GIVING LIVING PROVES, LIVE AND DIRECT EXPERIENCES, NUMBERS.

YET THESE NIGGAS ARE STILL ON THEIR DISNEY SHIT : BUT BUT BUT !!!

DONT BE MAD AT THEM. THEY ARE WELL PROGRAMMED TO FOLLOW THE PATH OF THOSE WHOM YOU ARE TALKING ABOUT.

YOU CANNOT SAVE THEM ALL BRUH.

Ya'll niggas keep talking like the shit ain't a 2 way street. Like I said before ya'll talking like a woman just wakes up randomly one day and decides to file for divorce. A marriage is still a relationship and just like any other you should be well aware of when it's fucking up and it rarely is just 1 person's fault when a relationship fails. But ya'll keep coming with the scenarios of a woman taking you for everything you got when most you niggas ain't even got shit. Niggas using celebrity divorces as a measure for why they won't get married like you got millions in the bank.

LOL so u saying that it's better for a nigga to be forced to give up half his chik fila check like @2stepz_ahead said? :joy:

yeah I agree that these niggaz have irrational fears about taking a financial L

but I also think it makes more sense for a regular nigga to be concerned more than a mofos with millions to lose

a nigga forced to give $50 out of a $100 check is gon suffer way more than a dude forced to give up $500K out of a $1M check....just sayin haha

In the words of Chris Rock "If you got 20 million and you got to give up 10..you still got 10. But if you got 50 thousand and you got to give up half you just might have to kill her" lmao. It's a funny joke but let's be real. Most the niggas talking about they don't want to be taken to the cleaners don't have shit to be taken from jump and are in a 2 income household where they would be just as hurt to lose their wife's income as she would be to lose theirs. That's why seeing that shit is so funny to me. Niggas talking like they're supporting stay at home wives who don't do shit but look at a magical clock to decide when they want to divorce. Shit don't work like that. Ask anybody who has actually been divorced. Rarely does that shit hit you out of nowhere. The actual relationship goes downhill for a while before it gets to that point.

:joy: @ u telling me to ask someone who has actually been divorced

nah what I'm saying is money isn't that important in the grand scheme of things........I would think niggaz would be more concerned about losing their kids, or a great relationship, instead of worrying about financial losses

u can always bounce back with more money so that shouldn't be ur biggest worry, especially if u are young

but I can also understand why a hard working dude out here would be concerned about having to struggle after getting fleeced cuz he don't make that much..........and there are actually more chik fila working niggaz with a stay at home wife than u think haha

u can't just easily dismiss a dude's concerns when u telling him to take a risk that could get out of his control so easily

I ain't dismissing the concerns I'm saying the concerns they are speaking on aren't even something they would encounter. And if a nigga is on a 1 income salary and got a stay at home wife that's his fault. That's some shit you discuss before even making a relationship serious let alone making the leap to marriage. And you make a damn good point about losing your kids and/or the companionship of a good partner. The fact that alot of folks reaction to marriage is "I ain't trying to lose money" as opposed to "I ain't trying to lose my family" speaks to the mindset of them not seeing that a marriage is about more than them and they probably shouldn't be getting married to begin with.

And I said ask any dude whose been divorced to be general not specifically to you. Shit ain't you been divorced? Did that shit just come out of left field or did you know the end was coming before it happened?

 

[OnnaThursday]

Con: the marriage laws haven't evolved with the times. Modern dudes are paying for the fuck ups of a different generation.

 

[LordZuko]

The problem is thinking there is a difference between a hoe and a regular bitch.

Because you contrive this distinction you end up applying the wrong solution to the problem.

A hoe is nothing but a female willing to use her pussy to extract resources from a man.

Name five bitches you know that wouldn't use their pussy to get what they want.

Being a hoe is a basic program of a female. It ain't even an intentional thought it's just the way they move.

So to say that you simply have to choose the right female ignores the fact that hoe is encoded in her. The female you with used pussy to get you, uses pussy to keep you, but you think she's above using it to get something else from another man? Why? Because principles? Hoes don't have principles. They don't operate on an honor system.

If you with a female long term it is because she doesn't feel she can do better than you.

If she does find someone she thinks is better she'll do something called monkey branching. Shell pull back affection from her current, withdraw from sex become emotionally distant pick petty arguments, basically tank the relationship until he breaks up with her. She will swear there is nobody else, but look on her fb two weeks to a month later you gonna see her boo'd up with the nigga she was cheating on you with.

Now if she wants a man who she isn't sure is available she will cheat but won't leave right away. Maybe the dude is married or has a gf but she will fuck him in order to mate poach.

Some females will play a game where they hook up with a beta for the resources, cheat with an alpha, get pregnant by him and pass the baby off as the beta's.

Lot of niggas outchea thinking they chose the right one. Holding Ls.

Paying child support on kids not even theirs.

I already went over the other Ls.

Understand the nature of the thing you dealing with

nooo no no

just no

hoes, slut. whores, women ....all different.

bruh you just...

nooooo

your veiw is jaded as hell.

hell yes my wife can do better than me.

she has options...just like I have options.

but she's with me....an I take keeping her seriously as she does me.

two way street

How old is your wife bruh and how many kids between y'all

@2stepz_ahead

 

[blakfyahking]

I ain't dismissing the concerns I'm saying the concerns they are speaking on aren't even something they would encounter. And if a nigga is on a 1 income salary and got a stay at home wife that's his fault. That's some shit you discuss before even making a relationship serious let alone making the leap to marriage. And you make a damn good point about losing your kids and/or the companionship of a good partner. The fact that alot of folks reaction to marriage is "I ain't trying to lose money" as opposed to "I ain't trying to lose my family" speaks to the mindset of them not seeing that a marriage is about more than them and they probably shouldn't be getting married to begin with.

And I said ask any dude whose been divorced to be general not specifically to you. Shit ain't you been divorced? Did that shit just come out of left field or did you know the end was coming before it happened?

see the bolded is why I give u such a hard time bruh haha

u make it sound like all it takes is yadda yadda ya, and that's why everything is somebody's fault instead of there being a real risk that a marriage can fail without the two people involved being less than perfect

Spoiler

well say a guy and his wifey both make less than $50K and they agree to both work......then she "loses" her job after they get married for whatever reason

u still gon clown and blame chik fila worker dude for trying to hold down wifey while she get back on her feet?

how he know whether he being played if she ain't working and there are external factors outside of both of their control? a recession? an illness? job market is limited to her skillset? or is she maybe just a lazy chick lamping cuz she know she got a nigga who love her enough to struggle to pay for both of them?

how long should he support her? if she is unhappy and decides she don't want to be with dude before she gets another job, is she grimey for leaving with the household that they (he) built for them to live in?

see these are those grey areas that I don't fault mofos for being skeptical about..........and just cuz he a chik fila worker today don't mean he ain't going to school to set himself up to make more money later on........are u saying it's his fault for getting extorted when he went in with the best intentions?

as far as my own shit, that shit had layers.......we didn't know we were going to actually get a a divorce until the decision was actually made.........we could've prob just stayed in an unhappy marriage by trying to live by good intentions

but I knew I didn't want that shit and that things were only going to become dysfunctional if we kept it going