Is There Anyway To Avoid Child Support

[MsSouthern]

If you don't want to pay support then you have to be the primary parent ....even with joint custody. So hire a lawyer for that. You'll probably need one.

One parent has to be the one to designate residency. That's the primary parent who can apply for support

Not sure why you HAVE to get a DNA test...they are usually requested in court and a judge orders the test. If you sign an acknowledgement of paternity then that's a legal Document stating you are the father.

Keep track of what you do. When you see your child.... Even if she denies you. Keep track of that. And anything you give her like cash/checks... pay bills ... daycare too. You don't get credit for buying pampers , clothes, etc ....that's what you are supposed to do

 

[aneed123]

First off we need full story

2nd shes a bird that wants a prison BF

3....get 50/50 custody so u dont have to pay $$$?

^^^^I'm thinking pretty similar shit. But I'll leave that shit alone. Got one serious question, though.

Have you actually tried talking to her and working out joint 50/50 custody with her?

Overtime this kind of shit is brought up on the IC, it seems like when the breakup happens, it's automatically assumed without any discussion that the kid is going to be with mom and dad will have weekends or visitation or whatever the fuck. And I never really understand why that's the default.

Me and my son's mom literally never had a conversation at all about custody when we broke up. She already knew it was gonna be 50/50 and so did I. Only thing we had to talk about was the actual logistics. I feel like ANYTIME two people break up, 50/50 should be the default. Ideally, that removes the need for any sort of support from either side.

So have you tried to arrange that with her? If so, what was the outcome?

ur forgetting most women don't act like yours.. u blessed homie

 

[Lou Cypher]

Could move to Canada or mexico. Anywhere outside the US really. Or just work under the table and lay low

 

[aneed123]

i hate to say it but u lost. she gonna make ur life hell and it sint nothing u can do about it. file for joint u still gotta pay. document everything

 

[Trollio]

Run

 

[NCswag]

Kill yourself.

 

[deadeye]

An another thing whats da point of me signing the birth certificate if i can only get legal rights to him through court? What in gods name type of backwards shit is this

Bruh.........DO NOT SIGN ANYTHING........until you get a dna/paternity test that proves you're the father.

Otherwise, you could end up paying child support for a kid that isn't even yours.

Something seems off about the way your babymama's moving.

I mean, for most chicks like that child support would be the first thing on her mind.

But she doesn't even seem to be stressing over it.........at all.

It's almost as if she knows the dude she's been cheating with is the baby's real father and that the......"we".....she was talking about when she said "we don't need your money" was her and him; not her and the baby.

She's trying to avoid all contact with you because she doesn't want to deal with all the stress and drama of you finding out the kid isn't yours.

 

[2stepz_ahead]

1. Dont give her cash. Check or money order only. If she got a problem with that then save the money. Open an accound just for that and keep record of deposit.

2. If you dont want to pay support the only thing you can do is get physical cusotdy. Thats gone cost and will be an uphill battle. You're going to have to prove shes unfit.

not true

 

[2stepz_ahead]

First off we need full story

2nd shes a bird that wants a prison BF

3....get 50/50 custody so u dont have to pay $$$?

^^^^I'm thinking pretty similar shit. But I'll leave that shit alone. Got one serious question, though.

Have you actually tried talking to her and working out joint 50/50 custody with her?

Overtime this kind of shit is brought up on the IC, it seems like when the breakup happens, it's automatically assumed without any discussion that the kid is going to be with mom and dad will have weekends or visitation or whatever the fuck. And I never really understand why that's the default.

Me and my son's mom literally never had a conversation at all about custody when we broke up. She already knew it was gonna be 50/50 and so did I. Only thing we had to talk about was the actual logistics. I feel like ANYTIME two people break up, 50/50 should be the default. Ideally, that removes the need for any sort of support from either side.

So have you tried to arrange that with her? If so, what was the outcome?

you stay outta this......ole good situation ass nigga

 

[2stepz_ahead]

Wassup y'all ain't made a thread in a while ain't been on in a while to. Anyway i been dealing with shit in life and well i might as well talk abt it.

Anyway me and my bm are no longer together. We broke up in March and she left me for another dude. But im not going to get into that messy business, this is more so focused on my kid. I'm in his life and want to continue to do so but things have become strained between me and my bm. (While her current bf was locked up me and her started fckin again which ended in disaster but thats for another story)

Any who seeing my kid has become difficult starting as of Saturday. She took my son to her boyfriends house (she had been taking my kid over there without telling me when i didn't even know she had a nigga, she was seein me and him i found out we got into it she left me for him) but anyway i was suppoused to get my son Saturday night cuz she tells me she's coming home that night. So i pull up to her mama crib and told her momma what she said, her momma tell me my bm told her she was coming home sunday......so i hit her line multiple times getting no answer and around 10pm she jst straight up turns her phone off. Now she know i had plans for me and my son sunday this bitch don't turn her phone bck on till 4pm sunday and don't come home till 9pm that night.

She i go to spazzin and she all like "i aint have no way bck blah blah blah"....(why da hell she at his house with no way bck anyway df)

But anyway yesterday i was thinkin bout filing for joint custody which requires a dna test....which means they automatically gonna put me on Child Support maaaaan i aint tryin to pay dis bum ass bitch no 300 or 400 a month when i jst wanna be in my kid life. Ain't child support suppoused to be for dead beat dads not niggas who got a trifflin bm. Im jst wondering have any of yall had this experience, know somebody who going through this, and if theres a way i can get joint custody of my son without getting put on child support cuz she don't got a job so im the one getting my kid his shit anyway.

first off dont hesitate. shit, why you hesitating?

if you want your child go for it. aint got time to be debating the what ifs. everyday that passes is another day your child sees this nigga and this nigga might be feed you child oatmeal off a dirty spoon.

2. have a paper trail for everything

3. why joint custody and not full? you may still have to pay support.

4. you dont have to prove shes unfit. you have to prove you have the childs best interest in mind,.

4a. you have to understand why you want your child. if its about not paying support then you doing it for the wrong reason. and judges can see right thru that and make your life harder for loving money over your child.

fukk the money. you had the child so money is not an issue anymore. if you get full custody, kids cost a fucking grip. if you get joint custody...you still have to pay support. if you get joint legal, you may still have to pay support but only consult and agree on any decision for the child...so many different custody types...only way you not paying support is with physical or sole custody..in which it will all fall onto your shoulders an then you will be the one needing to file for support.

but i will say this. and maybe alot will disagree with me. but if shes being toxic and hiding the child you need to show that you can be the bigger parent but if you need to cut her out of your childs life. kids have no room for toxic people. especially in this era. your mind should be focused on your child....fukk the mother, fukk the nigga she with and fukk the money.

get your life together, prove you can be the better parent and make your child an asset to society. use crime stats, education stats and you might even have to shit on your own people to do it. but use the system to your advantage. if she doesnt allow visitation that count mandated...get the cops involved. keep your composure. allow her to blow up. shit, say lil shit to set her off.

but first you need to be sure you want your child vs not wanting to pay money.

 

[2stepz_ahead]

Well...as a mom, if I'm tryna lay up, I'm tryna be kid free too. Don't know why chics like playing house with a nigga that's not the daddy but to answer your question...

In TN, child support and visitation are two separate things. Ask the clerk in your city.

-keep receipts. Anything bought can be classified as a 'gift'.

-log how much you do/don't see your child.

its not about how much you see the child.

its if the other parent is stopping you from seeing the child.

word it as "the other parent is stopping you from creating a parental bond and not encouraging a two parent system."

 

[TayGettem]

First off we need full story

2nd shes a bird that wants a prison BF

3....get 50/50 custody so u dont have to pay $$$?

^^^^I'm thinking pretty similar shit. But I'll leave that shit alone. Got one serious question, though.

Have you actually tried talking to her and working out joint 50/50 custody with her?

Overtime this kind of shit is brought up on the IC, it seems like when the breakup happens, it's automatically assumed without any discussion that the kid is going to be with mom and dad will have weekends or visitation or whatever the fuck. And I never really understand why that's the default.

Me and my son's mom literally never had a conversation at all about custody when we broke up. She already knew it was gonna be 50/50 and so did I. Only thing we had to talk about was the actual logistics. I feel like ANYTIME two people break up, 50/50 should be the default. Ideally, that removes the need for any sort of support from either side.

So have you tried to arrange that with her? If so, what was the outcome?

My parents and her parents worked out the schedule cuz anytime me and her talk it breaks down into a argument. Her parents already know she fckin up and she already got a defacs case against her. Shit is truely a up hill battle with this girl

 

[2stepz_ahead]

First off we need full story

2nd shes a bird that wants a prison BF

3....get 50/50 custody so u dont have to pay $$$?

^^^^I'm thinking pretty similar shit. But I'll leave that shit alone. Got one serious question, though.

Have you actually tried talking to her and working out joint 50/50 custody with her?

Overtime this kind of shit is brought up on the IC, it seems like when the breakup happens, it's automatically assumed without any discussion that the kid is going to be with mom and dad will have weekends or visitation or whatever the fuck. And I never really understand why that's the default.

Me and my son's mom literally never had a conversation at all about custody when we broke up. She already knew it was gonna be 50/50 and so did I. Only thing we had to talk about was the actual logistics. I feel like ANYTIME two people break up, 50/50 should be the default. Ideally, that removes the need for any sort of support from either side.

So have you tried to arrange that with her? If so, what was the outcome?

My parents and her parents worked out the schedule cuz anytime me and her talk it breaks down into a argument. Her parents already know she fckin up and she already got a defacs case against her. Shit is truely a up hill battle with this girl

bruh....dont take this as a dis.

but that is YOUR child.

cant let your parents save you here. thats why she feels like she can get away with this shit.

you gotta man up and take your parents out of this.

they raised their kids....why you putting more on them?

you slept with this bat crazy chick so now you got stand tall with THAT decision.

dont look for the easy out.

this is about your child and your child needs to see daddy doing what he needs to do to see her/him.

 

[gorilla]

1. Dont give her cash. Check or money order only. If she got a problem with that then save the money. Open an accound just for that and keep record of deposit.

2. If you dont want to pay support the only thing you can do is get physical cusotdy. Thats gone cost and will be an uphill battle. You're going to have to prove shes unfit.

not true

How so? The courts aren't going to change primary custody unless there's a significant change that will be a negative to the best interest in the child. He can prove all day long he has the childs best interest but there also has to be something to warrant a change in custody. Usually its proving the child is much better of with him.

 

[soul rattler]

Pull out

 

[KamPushMe]

Keep your dick in your pants

 

[fortyacres]

dont get into a beef with The Rock.

 

[gh0st]

<—�— divorced for going on 10 yrs not one CS payment. Fought like hell for 50/50 joint custody (legal and physical) after that was finial I was out trying to live that scumbag life.... I wasn’t good at it had a baby with a jump off and from day one did the same paperwork with my daughter so since I set the precedent with my 1st born judge said I can do the same with other child so no CS for my second either.

I provide financially and emotionally for all my chilrens without getting my pockets ran and having to report to court every time I get a raise or bonus. It costed me a lot upfront in time and legal fees but well worth it in the long run my kids are happy and I get along (well enough) with they Mother’s

 

[MsSouthern]

1. Dont give her cash. Check or money order only. If she got a problem with that then save the money. Open an accound just for that and keep record of deposit.

2. If you dont want to pay support the only thing you can do is get physical cusotdy. Thats gone cost and will be an uphill battle. You're going to have to prove shes unfit.

not true

How so? The courts aren't going to change primary custody unless there's a significant change that will be a negative to the best interest in the child. He can prove all day long he has the childs best interest but there also has to be something to warrant a change in custody. Usually its proving the child is much better of with him.

But that doesn't mean the mother is unfit

 

[LPast]

First off we need full story

2nd shes a bird that wants a prison BF

3....get 50/50 custody so u dont have to pay $$$?

^^^^I'm thinking pretty similar shit. But I'll leave that shit alone. Got one serious question, though.

Have you actually tried talking to her and working out joint 50/50 custody with her?

Overtime this kind of shit is brought up on the IC, it seems like when the breakup happens, it's automatically assumed without any discussion that the kid is going to be with mom and dad will have weekends or visitation or whatever the fuck. And I never really understand why that's the default.

Me and my son's mom literally never had a conversation at all about custody when we broke up. She already knew it was gonna be 50/50 and so did I. Only thing we had to talk about was the actual logistics. I feel like ANYTIME two people break up, 50/50 should be the default. Ideally, that removes the need for any sort of support from either side.

So have you tried to arrange that with her? If so, what was the outcome?

How do y'all do 50/50? Switch every week?