Is it easier for men to be "Husband Material" than it is for women in "Wife Material"

[NastyNasty]

Wrong. They pass up the good, low-key women who act right for the drinking, smoking, sex having, slutty dressing party goers.

Foolish men do. Some of them are just going for the low-hanging fruit looking to get laid quickly. But I disagree with the "sex having" descriptor of yours being negative if we're talking about on a small-scale, relationship level before marriage.

 

[Sourpatch Kid]

basically for a woman to truly become prepared to be a wife..is her lifestyle going to be harder to hold up?

Pretty much, all you have to do is make alot of money, no matter how ugly you are and your qualified as husband material

 

[Elle_Music]

Being my husband would take a lot of work... I'm sure not many will qualify

 

[alvarez_313]

It's interesting. For us as long as we have a job, somewhat intelligent and can be charismatic we are good to go lol. Women on the other hand are lil trickier. Most of us still like a woman that does certain things like cook dinner etc but a lot of women feel that those expected duties are not in line with her independence. I have a headache now. Funny I find that most women want a man that is willing to still play most of the traditional role while their own role is constantly evolving.

 

[Soulljah T]

Foolish men do. Some of them are just going for the low-hanging fruit looking to get laid quickly. But I disagree with the "sex having" descriptor of yours being negative if we're talking about on a small-scale, relationship level before marriage.

No sex is okay in a long-term, loving relationship, shit you don't think I yearn??? lol. But nah I was talkin' bout the slutty girls who all they do is have sex and the nasty men who all they do is "try to get laid".

 

[ms.jones]

There is a difference when you speak on your own experience and actuality.

# 22 percent of married men have strayed at least once during their married lives.
# 14 percent of married women have had affairs at least once during their married lives.
# 70 percent of married women and 54 percent of married men did not know of their spouses' extramarital activity.

Ok....not speaking from my own perspective, but from a realistic point.

No, it is not easier for men to be "husband material". It's hard for a man to fight the natural urge to roam freely. Yeah, it feels good to have that one main companion, however it feels just as equally good to feel the "hunt".

 

[politicalthug202]

I would say a guy settling down before the marriage is hard depending on his situation, if he really wasnt a player beforehand

then hte idea of fucking one person for the rest of they life might be easy.

Now i think inside the marriage guys just want a girl who looks decent has a tolerable personality.

but woman wanna have some super romantic super husband, and they dont realize that the flame will go out and things will become

bored and stale. boredom is gthe price you pay for stability. you cant expect your marriage to be the way was the 1st 6 months in the 5 th yr

sometimes a dude just wanna come home from work have a beer watch the game not talk to u and got to sleep

im not even going to start with issues of money and give and take

 

[alvarez_313]

are most of the men cheating with the same woman? I hear women say how it's hard for a man to be faithful etc but in that same vein there has to be a large contingent of women that are the one's men are cheating with. I run into quite a few women that cheat on their "good" man at home for whatever reason so it's not always us hunting them. And no not all of them are single women being played. I think it boils down to most of us just enjoying a piece of "strange" from time to time.

 

[Soulljah T]

It's interesting. For us as long as we have a job, somewhat intelligent and can be charismatic we are good to go lol. Women on the other hand are lil trickier. Most of us still like a woman that does certain things like cook dinner etc but a lot of women feel that those expected duties are not in line with her independence. I have a headache now. Funny I find that most women want a man that is willing to still play most of the traditional role while their own role is constantly evolving.

Well the right good woman will cook dinner for you, like a meal she knows you love as a surpise sometimes or pamper you from a long day of work. It's the stank ho's who got that "independent" attitude....they're selfish and give all us black women who mean well a bad look....but anyway as for the last bolded sentence, men were meant to work hard and get the money....but you cannot expect women to stay in a domestic setting all day everyday, not working, not stimulating her mind or utilizing her God-given talents, not surrounding herself with other people she an establish relationships with...there are other aspects and ways of life that women are discoving....and it's rightfully so as long as she's good to you still....which the good ones are, just support them and their needs as individuals oppsed to robots who are only good for being maids stuck in a house.

 

[BackInWhite]

early in the morning
later in the evening
i'm all about that money, mane
even when i'm sleepin
i'm all about that money

 

[alvarez_313]

I would say a guy settling down before the marriage is hard depending on his situation, if he really wasnt a player beforehand

then hte idea of fucking one person for the rest of they life might be easy.

Now i think inside the marriage guys just want a girl who looks decent has a tolerable personality.

but woman wanna have some super romantic super husband, and they dont realize that the flame will go out and things will become

bored and stale. boredom is gthe price you pay for stability. you cant expect your marriage to be the way was the 1st 6 months in the 5 th yr

sometimes a dude just wanna come home from work have a beer watch the game not talk to u and got to sleep

im not even going to start with issues of money and give and take

Great points. I think females need to think more realistically sometimes.. A dude isn't always going to be coming home after work with a bouquet of roses, champagne and strawberries. That's one reason why I hate that most relationships start out so strongly with those things because it set's an unrealistic precedent.

 

[Soulljah T]

I would say a guy settling down before the marriage is hard depending on his situation, if he really wasnt a player beforehand

then hte idea of fucking one person for the rest of they life might be easy.

Now i think inside the marriage guys just want a girl who looks decent has a tolerable personality.

but woman wanna have some super romantic super husband, and they dont realize that the flame will go out and things will become

bored and stale. boredom is gthe price you pay for stability. you cant expect your marriage to be the way was the 1st 6 months in the 5 th yr

sometimes a dude just wanna come home from work have a beer watch the game not talk to u and got to sleep

im not even going to start with issues of money and give and take

But it doesn't have to stay boring...women don't want a boring relationship....no one does....you need that emotional, mental and physical stimulation as a woman...smart women understand that relationships will get dull long-term, but the solution there is to correct it...not to let it stay that way, if your woman is telling you she's gotten bored with the relationship you both need to put your heads together and figure out a way to spice things to suit the both of your needs....change things up from where y'all have sex, to what y'all do together....it's all an effort worth putting itno when you're with the right one.

 

[alvarez_313]

Well the right good woman will cook dinner for you, like a meal she knows you love as a surpise sometimes or pamper you from a long day of work. It's the stank ho's who got that "independent" attitude....they're selfish and give all us black women who mean well a bad look....but anyway as for the last bolded sentence, men were meant to work hard and get the money....but you cannot expect women to stay in a domestic setting all day everyday, not working, not stimulating her mind or utilizing her God-given talents, not surrounding herself with other people she an establish relationships with...there are other aspects and ways of life that women are discoving....and it's rightfully so as long as she's good to you still....which the good ones are, just support them and their needs as individuals oppsed to robots who are only good for being maids stuck in a house.

I feel you but personally I don't want a housewife.. I want a wife that has a career and all that so we can have shit to talk about at the end of the day lol. As far as cooking, even though my girl doesn't cook every day she does surprise me with shit that she knows I like to eat so that's a plus.. Besides I'm a great cook and there's nothing sexier than me and my lady flippin pastries in the kitchen like a Simmons lol.. Guess that's why I'mma marry her lol..

 

[one_manshow]

# 22 percent of married men have strayed at least once during their married lives.
# 14 percent of married women have had affairs at least once during their married lives.
# 70 percent of married women and 54 percent of married men did not know of their spouses' extramarital activity.

Ok....not speaking from my own perspective, but from a realistic point.

No, it is not easier for men to be "husband material". It's hard for a man to fight the natural urge to roam freely. Yeah, it feels good to have that one main companion, however it feels just as equally good to feel the "hunt".

Do you mind posting the stats for the "top main reasons why women file for divorce"? I'm pretty sure income is right next to infidelity or "irreconcilable differences". A female who is "wifey material" must have the skills and attributes outside of image alone but most niggas are quick to use the she "wifey type" card because she looks a certain way. These attributes and skills are not given they are learned but most females smut around from ages 19-30 regardless so they are disqualified...

If a man is a devoted family man its not hard for him to fight the natural urge to roam freely and fuck random pussy, yet women draw to the conclusion that all men are dogs without taking into consideration culture, religion and upbringing. I'm sure immigrants from different backgrounds view "marriage and husband material" differently than the average American born and spoon fed in a society that downgrades the image of a man by saying he is a deadbeat, cheater or abuser.

 

[1of1]

Great points. I think females need to think more realistically sometimes.. A dude isn't always going to be coming home after work with a bouquet of roses, champagne and strawberries. That's one reason why I hate that most relationships start out so strongly with those things because it set's an unrealistic precedent.

This sounds like something you can control though. Don't get out of hand doing over the top sh!t just to win a chick over if it's not something you'd normally do. She's probably going to expect you to maintain that same type of effort forever (understandably) if you do that type of thing to begin with.

 

[Sourpatch Kid]

I think not living up to the standards of a woman's criteria of what Husband Material is, is what makes men cheat a majority of the time and women do not realize that yet think it's themselves that have caused the problem. Even men that are rich have to deal with feeling inadequate with their wife in a relationship and result to cheating because the chemistry is no longer in love but in how his finances pleases her ability to be a good mom but the qualities to be a good husband is alot easier than being a good wife because it's alot easier to make alot of money than it is to constantly stay in shape, have a good personality, know how to cook and not be a golddigger. As men we have it easier though.

 

[alvarez_313]

as far as being faithful goes I think it depends on the person.. I used to be a BIG PUSSYHOUND for real.. Just didn't give a fuck about who got hurt or whatever.. But I think when you're with someone you truly love it makes it hard to fuck around. Like if I was to try to do some shit now all I'd be imagining is seeing my girl crying from being hurt and that shit makes me stay straight and narrow lol.. Before with other chicks I was kinda like eh get over it or get ta steppin.

 

[alvarez_313]

This sounds like something you can control though. Don't get out of hand doing over the top sh!t just to win a chick over if it's not something you'd normally do. She's probably going to expect you to maintain that same type of effort forever (understandably) if you do that type of thing to begin with.

That is so true. That's why I don't do too much over the top stuff.. I think that when a guy or girl does that it kinda shifts the other persons focus from enjoying getting to know you into enjoying what you are getting and doing for them. This is a great thread..

 

[Soulljah T]

I feel you but personally I don't want a housewife.. I want a wife that has a career and all that so we can have shit to talk about at the end of the day lol. As far as cooking, even though my girl doesn't cook every day she does surprise me with shit that she knows I like to eat so that's a plus.. Besides I'm a great cook and there's nothing sexier than me and my lady flippin pastries in the kitchen like a Simmons lol.. Guess that's why I'mma marry her lol..

Lol yeah reminds me of my relationship, he doesn't know how to cook so whenever I see him, which is limited cuz of our distance, I like to make him something nice or we both in there together, teachin' him how to do things. Lol it's cute watchin' him struggle with peeling potatoes haha.

 

[ms.jones]

Do you mind posting the stats for the "top main reasons why women file for divorce"? I'm pretty sure income is right next to infidelity or "irreconcilable differences". A female who is "wifey material" must have the skills and attributes outside of image alone but most niggas are quick to use the she "wifey type" card because she looks a certain way. These attributes and skills are not given they are learned but most females smut around from ages 19-30 regardless so they are disqualified...

If a man is a devoted family man its not hard for him to fight the natural urge to roam freely and fuck random pussy, yet women draw to the conclusion that all men are dogs without taking into consideration culture, religion and upbringing. I'm sure immigrants from different backgrounds view "marriage and husband material" differently than the average American born and spoon fed in a society that downgrades the image of a man by saying he is a deadbeat, cheater or abuser.

Actually, the number one reason for women filing for divorce is due to irreconcilable differences. The wives felt as if their respective husbands lost touch with the relationship, and who they were as an individual. After that, infidelity followed closely by, with the lack of intimacy:

# Pittman and Wagers offer that 90% of first-time divorces have involved infidelity, mostly during the last year of the marriage, and it often was hidden throughout the divorce process.
# 20-25% of mediation groups say an affair was a reason, but the reason given by 80% is deterioration of intimacy.

Now, I am not saying that all men or dogs, nor am I attempting to convey that. What I am saying is, it is harder for a man to come to terms with married life. A man can very well fight the urge, however the temptation will be burning in his loins to break free, if only for one second.