if you play stepfather to another mans kid(s).......

[CapitalB]

how is it different exactly?

"chicks" for the most part dont have pride issues..

a man looks at it "weak" takin care of someone else's child BUT feels like a man not dealin with a woman he has feelings for because she has a kid..
he'll fuck her but wont "fuck" with her..

retarded right?? but its a "man" thing.. u wont understand. lol

u aint know.. for us to love a woman she has to be PERFECT!!!

 

[5th Letter]

There really is no right or wrong answer if you feel comfortable taking on the responsibity then it's fine. If you don't feel bothered that's fine too.

 

[CapitalB]

thus the reason for this thread...........

I give Kai credit cept she don't discipline her son which is weird to me but whatever.

my step dad didnt really discipline me either..
i think the only whoopin i got was the day after i got arrested in 9th grade.. i didnt get whooped for goin to jail.. the next day i got suspended from school for gambling...

i got home nigga tough my ass up.. i blacked out for a sec. lol

but he discipline my brother or sister either.. my mom was the wicked witch from the west. lol

 

[CapitalB]

thank you huruma. i am the woman/person my parents raised me to be.

how many of these men are perfect themselves? i don't understand it either. so some of these guys would overlook a perfect woman because she has a kid.

let's say she's a great mom, her child is an angel, and the father is totally involved and she's not asking you to do anything, it's still a no go?

NOPE! imperfections only can love a perfection..

but jus take solace in knowing that its a good thing some of these cats dont want a woman with kids..
lets say for the sake of argument the woman would actually want they ass.. i dont think them bein together is in the best intrest of the kid..

im jus sayin..

 

[creativestyles]

yes it's still a no go because i don't want to share kids with another man,when i look at her kids,i don't see myself,i see another man.those kids look like him

 

[CapitalB]

his dad handles all of that, i don't think his mother even disciplines him much. he has rules, which i enforce when his dad isn't here, but that's about it. i don't discipline him because i don't want him to have any resentment towards me and i just don't feel like it's my place. he's a really well behaved kid anyway so this isn't much of an issue.

@The bolded.. what kid DONT resent their parents?? key word parent.. NOT friend..
@the underlined.. u earned that bein there since the nigga was 5..

i resented my step pops.. til i got older and moved out the house.. and then it all made sense..
now i have nothin but the upmost..

 

[CapitalB]

He was fair across the board it seems which I can understand

fair with the rewards and fair with the punishments.

No kids deserves to feel unlove or mistreated in their own home and it seems the nigga's who don't want to take of their stepkids go outta their way to make the stepchild feel like shit

Me, i plan on whooping everybody ass cause someone should have stop the other one from fucking up, but this mentality may change.

if anything he overcompensated.. he didnt have to.. i loved him none the less..
but yeh.. he's fair across the board.. when it comes to me and my bro.. my sister gets away with murder.. he's partial towards females.. and its crazy cause i think im the same way because of bein around him..

 

[Dupac]

kai one of those

"i ain't mad..i'm just disappointed" type parents...

have you mind fucked, depressed, and embarassed for days..cuz you hurt your mom's feelings n shit....

 

[CapitalB]

true, true........

@ Cap, most men are impartial with they daugthers, it's hard not to be.

yeh.. im like that with her too! mu'thafucka be workin me and him! hahaha
which reminds me.. i need to hurry up and go put money in her account for she gets mad at me. smmfh

i can definitely appreciate that. i'm don't believe in corporal punishment anyway, so my way of disciplining is grounding, taking away privileges/toys etc, and we usually discuss that.

i'm a bleeding heart, i don't think i could ever give any kid a whooping

shiiiiiiiiiiiiiiit.. id kick a kid ass!
but its crazy.. i raised a kid that wasnt mine.. he's 10 now.. he's my cousin's son.. my cousin died before his son was born and iv been in his life since day one..
and i be fuckin his ass up! lol

i let kids do they thing.. only things i dont tolerate is lying.. disrespect.. and destruction.. other then that.. "nigga go play!"

 

[one_manshow]

the superstar of any relationship for a woman is a man..
but for the sake of argument lets say it is the child.. if this is a woman we're dealing with she know good and goddamn well the best interest of that child is havin a man in his/her life..

so if she deems u worthy there shouldnt be a problem on that front..

So the best interest of the child is having a seasonal man who will be around for football season and dips after the superbowl? Some of these dudes is foul they will get comfortable build some sort of bond with the children and they are gone. The same females saying they don't introduce men to their kids are the same ones that just need a quick fix. A female with some sense will put her child first...everything revolves around that child time, resources and decisions. Bringing men in and out of the child's life is something only trife hoodrats do but the real single mom makes the child or children "superstars" hence you will always be the second option..your a role player on the squad your contract isn't guaranteed. Now once again....why join an established team when you can make one yourself?

If your a single man with no kids, successful career and ambition why should you settle? If your there to be a mentor or working as a volunteer for the Big Brother then that's cool but like I said earlier no need to life luggage you can't pick up.

 

[desertrain10]

So the best interest of the child is having a seasonal man who will be around for football season and dips after the superbowl? Some of these dudes is foul they will get comfortable build some sort of bond with the children and they are gone. The same females saying they don't introduce men to their kids are the same ones that just need a quick fix. A female with some sense will put her child first...everything revolves around that child time, resources and decisions. Bringing men in and out of the child's life is something only trife hoodrats do but the real single mom makes the child or children "superstars" hence you will always be the second option..your a role player on the squad your contract isn't guaranteed. Now once again....why join an established team when you can make one yourself?

If your a single man with no kids, successful career and ambition why should you settle? If your there to be a mentor or working as a volunteer for the Big Brother then that's cool but like I said earlier no need to life luggage you can't pick up.

its tough dating someone with kids when you don't have any yourself, but there's a difference between settling and falling for someone who just so happens to have a child.... not everything is so black and white.

kudos to all the single parents who don't date while their children are still staying at home. and kudos to the single parents who date yet

are very cautious in who they chose to bring around their kids. there's nothing wrong with that.... live your life the way you see fit...

 

[Platinum Falcon]

You could be like Brad Pitt's sorry ass and adopt some already adopted kids.

 

[Cabana_Da_Don]

this has a potentially disastrous side as well

nothing good about too much traffic w/ a role in a kid's life

I sit back and observe how people (from all walks and shades of life) just play musical chairs w/ spouses and parents of their children

thats the most reprehensible shit ever..shit makes me angry as a spectator

People are people though....

Word a child in your life is priceless lol.

 

[IamtheVILLE]

i would like to thank everybody who posted in my thread and gave their opinion. i thank all of yall for having a mature and distinguished discussion.

@cap-you gone help me out nigga?

 

[CapitalB]

i would like to thank everybody who posted in my thread and gave their opinion. i thank all of yall for having a mature and distinguished discussion.

@cap-you gone help me out nigga?

lol.. this nigga's relentless..

here's some advice..
BE YOU.. and want the bitch that wants u because of it..

 

[kacee139]

So the best interest of the child is having a seasonal man who will be around for football season and dips after the superbowl? Some of these dudes is foul they will get comfortable build some sort of bond with the children and they are gone. The same females saying they don't introduce men to their kids are the same ones that just need a quick fix. A female with some sense will put her child first...everything revolves around that child time, resources and decisions. Bringing men in and out of the child's life is something only trife hoodrats do but the real single mom makes the child or children "superstars" hence you will always be the second option..your a role player on the squad your contract isn't guaranteed. Now once again....why join an established team when you can make one yourself?

If your a single man with no kids, successful career and ambition why should you settle? If your there to be a mentor or working as a volunteer for the Big Brother then that's cool but like I said earlier no need to life luggage you can't pick up.

Real shit.......I dont have kids yet but wouldnt mine being a step pops cuz my sperm donor left my moms hanging..................without my steppops i wouldnt be shit

 

[CapitalB]

So the best interest of the child is having a seasonal man who will be around for football season and dips after the superbowl? Some of these dudes is foul they will get comfortable build some sort of bond with the children and they are gone. The same females saying they don't introduce men to their kids are the same ones that just need a quick fix. A female with some sense will put her child first...everything revolves around that child time, resources and decisions. Bringing men in and out of the child's life is something only trife hoodrats do but the real single mom makes the child or children "superstars" hence you will always be the second option..your a role player on the squad your contract isn't guaranteed. Now once again....why join an established team when you can make one yourself?

If your a single man with no kids, successful career and ambition why should you settle? If your there to be a mentor or working as a volunteer for the Big Brother then that's cool but like I said earlier no need to life luggage you can't pick up.

dont put words in my mouth dude..
bitch already got a kid by a lame nigga.. i said if this is a "woman" we're dealin with she'll be able to spot them foul niggas ur speakin on..

and i still say the "superstar" of any team is a MAN.. not jus some male takin up space.. cause in essence a family is a team.. i know bitches that put their child first and guess what.. them bitches still single.. cause they get with a man and dont allow that man to do his job..

but thats all on the bitch personality.. cause a kid aint even got to be involved.. she'd get with a man and so use to dealin with lames she's apprehensive when she got a real one in her face.. now a woman will realize she has a man and fall back.. cause if that man is indeed one he knows that kid comes first..

and this commin from a nigga who had a step daddy.. so been through it.. was the kid on one end.. the man on the other.. im not jus sittin here speakin hypothetically..

 

[Emerald City Rolla]

dont put words in my mouth dude..
bitch already got a kid by a lame nigga.. i said if this is a "woman" we're dealin with she'll be able to spot them foul niggas ur speakin on..

and i still say the "superstar" of any team is a MAN.. not jus some male takin up space.. cause in essence a family is a team.. i know bitches that put their child first and guess what.. them bitches still single.. cause they get with a man and dont allow that man to do his job..

but thats all on the bitch personality.. cause a kid aint even got to be involved.. she'd get with a man and so use to dealin with lames she's apprehensive when she got a real one in her face.. now a woman will realize she has a man and fall back.. cause if that man is indeed one he knows that kid comes first..

and this commin from a nigga who had a step daddy.. so been through it.. was the kid on one end.. the man on the other.. im not jus sittin here speakin hypothetically..

This is true. My moms put my and my bro first, but she swore off dating. She still single tho so B on to something.

 

[Bussy_Getta]

kai one of those
"i ain't mad..i'm just disappointed" type parents...

have you mind fucked, depressed, and embarassed for days..cuz you hurt your mom's feelings n shit....

man my dad used to say that, it would have me feeling real shitty inside for a cool while

anyways being a step parent wouldnt bother me but alot of things come into play like age, discipline, and what happens if me and the child form a bond but me and his father end up divorcing.

 

[CapitalB]

man my dad used to say that, it would have me feeling real shitty inside for a cool while

anyways being a step parent wouldnt bother me but alot of things come into play like age, discipline, and what happens if me and the child form a bond but me and his father end up divorcing.

im surprised this is jus now commin up..

can tell niggas dont give a fuck about kids..
iunno.. i jus love kids period.. it aint even gotta be a bitch im dealin with.. i aint go see no kid go hungry...

but yeh.. when i use to date and be on that square shit i never let bitches bring they kids around me.. 1. i knew i wasnt go be around long enough.. 2. i didnt wanna get attached and feel i have to stay.. but they tried to bring them around alot..