if you play stepfather to another mans kid(s).......

[Bussy_Getta]

im surprised this is jus now commin up..

can tell niggas dont give a fuck about kids..
iunno.. i jus love kids period.. it aint even gotta be a bitch im dealin with.. i aint go see no kid go hungry...

but yeh.. when i use to date and be on that square shit i never let bitches bring they kids around me.. 1. i knew i wasnt go be around long enough.. 2. i didnt wanna get attached and feel i have to stay.. but they tried to bring them around alot..

cs the bolded. if a guy had a kid i didnt want no parts of it cause when you form that bond with a child it means a whole lot more the you think, shit actually helps form the morals, values and out looks that child has. I dont wanna be responsible for that fucked up feeling of abandonment.......

 

[atribecalledgabi]

yeh.. im like that with her too! mu'thafucka be workin me and him! hahaha

which reminds me.. i need to hurry up and go put money in her account for she gets mad at me. smmfh

shiiiiiiiiiiiiiiit.. id kick a kid ass!

but its crazy.. i raised a kid that wasnt mine.. he's 10 now.. he's my cousin's son.. my cousin died before his son was born and iv been in his life since day one..

and i be fuckin his ass up! lol

i let kids do they thing.. only things i dont tolerate is lying.. disrespect.. and destruction.. other then that.. "nigga go play!"

i think that's pretty much how most fathers are. at least that's the common theme in my family. i remember when i was driving around with my dad after i just got my license. it was in his city so i wasn't used to the streets, the traffic, the signs, etc. i almost crashed the car in the middle of an intersection & that nigga stayed cool as shit lol.

 

[Mendy Rosen]

Real shit.......I dont have kids yet but wouldnt mine being a step pops cuz my sperm donor left my moms hanging..................without my steppops i wouldnt be shit

real shit for those wit a cool step pops

 

[CapitalB]

i think that's pretty much how most fathers are. at least that's the common theme in my family. i remember when i was driving around with my dad after i just got my license. it was in his city so i wasn't used to the streets, the traffic, the signs, etc. i almost crashed the car in the middle of an intersection & that nigga stayed cool as shit lol.

hahahaha yeh.. fuck it! im sure he had insurance. lol

i mean i may come off materialistic.. but i really aint.. shit get broke go get another one..
kids go fuck up.. part of the growin process.. now say u did wreck his shit.. if yo dad is anything like me he wouldve been like "son, now why did u crash?" and have u explain urself..

cause now that u know the reason why it wont be a reason again.. cause THEN im go trip.. u get one with me..

and @ Pico.. my sentiments exactly..

 

[atribecalledgabi]

hahahaha yeh.. fuck it! im sure he had insurance. lol

i mean i may come off materialistic.. but i really aint.. shit get broke go get another one..

kids go fuck up.. part of the growin process.. now say u did wreck his shit.. if yo dad is anything like me he wouldve been like "son, now why did u crash?" and have u explain urself..

cause now that u know the reason why it wont be a reason again.. cause THEN im go trip.. u get one with me..

and @ Pico.. my sentiments exactly..

@ the bolded my grandpa (my dad's dad) says that same shit. his phrase is "if you wana break it get a hammer, honey" lol. that's probly where my dad gets it from. when i was younger i used to think my dad didn't discipline me cuz i didn't grow up in the same house as him, so he didn't really know how to discipline me. but now that i'm older & after spendin more time with my grandpa i realize he's just doin how his dad did him.

& what else you said is exactly like my dad. he lets me do whatever & don't have anything to say until i fuck up. he lets me learn for myself even though he know damn well what i'm about to go do is stupid as shit. he might drop some "you sure about that?" in there to make me think twice about whatever it is, but in the end it's always my decision & i have to live with whatever the outcome is.

 

[CapitalB]

@ the bolded my grandpa (my dad's dad) says that same shit. his phrase is "if you wana break it get a hammer, honey" lol. that's probly where my dad gets it from. when i was younger i used to think my dad didn't discipline me cuz i didn't grow up in the same house as him, so he didn't really know how to discipline me. but now that i'm older & after spendin more time with my grandpa i realize he's just doin how his dad did him.

& what else you said is exactly like my dad. he lets me do whatever & don't have anything to say until i fuck up. he lets me learn for myself even though he know damn well what i'm about to go do is stupid as shit. he might drop some "you sure about that?" in there to make me think twice about whatever it is, but in the end it's always my decision & i have to live with whatever the outcome is.

u got u a good one.. carry on the tradition..

 

[IamtheVILLE]

lol.. this nigga's relentless..

here's some advice..

BE YOU.. and want the bitch that wants u because of it..

i need details nigga. i need like REAL help

 

[Rey Negro]

I would have to be in my 30s, desperate, the father would have to be dead and the child would have to be less than 7 months old.

 

[Sh0t]

I dated one single mother seriously, didn't work out but not really because of her kid. Mostly location. I'm not sure I would have stayed with her if she lived in the same city, though.

Being a step dad isn't for me, I'm not even 100% sure I want to be a biological dad. But if I'm going to make the sacrifices, I would at least want the payoff of watching my own child flower.

Dating single mothers casually seems fine to me, often very enjoyable. But dating them seriously seems to have an air of bottom feeding to it. Despite our modern world's tendency to praise every bad decision women make, single moms are broken merchandise. If men fantasize about maidens with latent nymphomania, what are we to think of single mothers? What could be more proof of your woman's past sex life than a living, breathing child running around disrespecting you because "You ain't my daddy!".

If you're a decent looking male with a decent career, they should be no reason for it. True love exists, love conquers all, yada yada, but her kid will always come first, so it's only true love in one direction.

 

[ms.jones]

Why you speaking in absolutes like it's impossible for a chick to never have had a nigga bust in her, etc? Just because you've let nigga(s) bust in you, don't be salty cuz it's some females out there who were smart enough to make the dude wrap up.

And this makes zero sense.

You're living in a fantasy world. LMAO @ this.

c/s...

1. Keep dreaming, nigga. As much as you hoe-cakin' ass niggas complain about females, and how they ain't shit, I beg to differ.

2. What's so hard to understand? I keep a man in a place that I need him to be. I don't let my pussy decide how I feel about him, I use analytical reasoning. You should try it, too.

3. What can't you get? A man and a woman being friends? No strings, no commitments, until wanted. Yes, its possible. Grow up and try it. You just might like it.

 

[black caesar]

Well in the lion kingdom, there is no such thing as the males raising another male lion's cubs. With the exception of murder, maybe they got the right idea. See here. Not for the squeamish.

[video=youtube;T8cnEXIwjWA]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T8cnEXIwjWA[/video]

[video=youtube;17hGhaE0YgU]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=17hGhaE0YgU[/video]​

This is a great thread. Me personally, I'm not raising another man's child. I don't knock those that do, but for me, that's not it.

 

[ms.jones]

Yo, just to be sure sure, you're saying you don't even tell the dude your dating that you have kids? What do you say to him if he asks at the beginning?

No I don't. And if they ask, I shoot a question right back. "What does it matter if I do or don't? Let's just see where this goes." And just like that, the question is handled.

I live my life like I want it because I have kids to protect. They don't have anything to do with what I'm doing with the other person until I deem it necessary. If it bother's you, fuck off. Otherwise, enjoy the fucking ride.

 

[creativestyles]

wat if u a stepdady,been with kids mom for a while,u and they mom avs arguements everday and u not happy,are u obligated to stay with the mom just because u the step daddy of her kids?

 

[Dupac]

No I don't. And if they ask, I shoot a question right back. "What does it matter if I do or don't? Let's just see where this goes." And just like that, the question is handled.

I live my life like I want it because I have kids to protect. They don't have anything to do with what I'm doing with the other person until I deem it necessary. If it bother's you, fuck off. Otherwise, enjoy the fucking ride.

i know a lotta chicks like that....

like i said earlier in this thread.. women may fake at a lotta shit.. but you see who they really are by the way they riase their kids....

 

[ms.jones]

i know a lotta chicks like that....

like i said earlier in this thread.. women may fake at a lotta shit.. but you see who they really are by the way they riase their kids....

Whaddup Du..

 

[Go figure...]

nothin wrong with dating a single mom. it all comes down to whether or not ur comfortable with it and the circumstances surrounding it (i.e. situation with father, how she raises child, if or what she expects from u, etc).

i can see a lot of reasons why guys wouldnt wanna deal with that, but u do got sum good chicks with kids that will hold a relationship down.

to each his own.

 

[creativestyles]

adopted kids and step kids arent the same as biological kids because there not blood.i don't know if i can see myself running into long-time friend or relative at a groceir store,mall etc..... and they got their kids with them and i got my "step" kids with me.....they say"these are my kids" and i say "these are my step kids" then they tell me "when u gone have your own kids?".t i dont would bother me.

fuck some step kids,i want my own blood.

 

[Dupac]

Whaddup Du..

nuttin much...chillin chillin..how bout urself..

 

[ms.jones]

nuttin much...chillin chillin..how bout urself..

Same here bruh...congrats on the wedding, my man. Ya'll made a few colored folks proud that day.

 

[Dupac]

Same here bruh...congrats on the wedding, my man. Ya'll made a few colored folks proud that day.

lmao.. thanks..much apprciated