if you play stepfather to another mans kid(s).......

[Sh0t]

If I was just trying to get a chick's pants, I wouldn't care if she hid her kids from me.

But if it was a "serious dating" attempt, and she gave an answer like that, I would leave. For one, chicks without kids don't get defensive like that. Secondly, most women understand kids can be a problem, so many try to give you a heads up early on in the dating process to avoid the drama later if things get serious.

Anything else and I would assume they are hiding something or are just nutty.

If women think it's reasonable to know if I am employed, I think it's reasonable to know something a lot more serious. I've yet to see any woman with kids give me a defensive answer. Most seem pretty proud about it, even if they shouldn't be. It's not like telling me on a first date "you have kids" threatens the kids. I'm not going to climb into their window at night and steal their transformers sheets. But I might not want a second date. Which is probably the motivation.

 

[-Vincenzo-]

@Ms. Jones lets break down your so called relationship history that you are trying to feed us...

7 years with your babydaddy
+4 years with the dude from Chicago
+3 years with the dude that might be "the one or no"
__________________________________________

14 years of relationships and all you gott is
2 crying BASTARDS
1 big ass C-section scar
1 Wornout pussy

You also belong to:
"The delusional Single mother" category
but is NOT entirely your fault...
Your friends and family (mom aunts, cousins) probably gas u up all the time
"Some day you will find your knight in shiny armor...Just keep looking"

just another nigga hoe basically

 

[ms.jones]

If I was just trying to get a chick's pants, I wouldn't care if she hid her kids from me.

But if it was a "serious dating" attempt, and she gave an answer like that, I would leave. For one, chicks without kids don't get defensive like that. Secondly, most women understand kids can be a problem, so many try to give you a heads up early on in the dating process to avoid the drama later if things get serious.

Anything else and I would assume they are hiding something or are just nutty.

If women think it's reasonable to know if I am employed, I think it's reasonable to know something a lot more serious. I've yet to see any woman with kids give me a defensive answer. Most seem pretty proud about it, even if they shouldn't be. It's not like telling me on a first date "you have kids" threatens the kids. I'm not going to climb into their window at night and steal their transformers sheets. But I might not want a second date. Which is probably the motivation.

And that's fine. You can go if you don't like the answer. If this is our first date, why would I even look at it as something that is serious? I will let you know what I want you to know. It's a first date. Nothing more nothing less. You aren't even on the radar for consideration, in my eyes.

 

[ms.jones]

just another nigga hoe basically

Yep, you're right. Just another hoe.

You niggas show your hand way too soon....and females are the illogical, emotional ones. LMAO!!!

 

[philly_soldier]

I guess I'm biased, my stepdad raised me since I was one so I don't see it as simping. My wife had a kid before I knew her and back then I was a bit hesistant to fuck with her but I realized it took people like my dad to give a kid a good childhood so I stepped up to the plate and I never regretted it.

 

[nex gin]

adopted kids and step kids arent the same as biological kids because there not blood.i don't know if i can see myself running into long-time friend or relative at a groceir store,mall etc..... and they got their kids with them and i got my "step" kids with me.....they say"these are my kids" and i say "these are my step kids" then they tell me "when u gone have your own kids?".t i dont would bother me.

fuck some step kids,i want my own blood.

^^^ I can dig where you coming from, but I think that is a lot of the problem w/ some people in general. There are grown ass adults on here still worried about what the next person is gonna say or think. Are you living for you or the next person's opinion? I'd wife a "worthy" (EMPHASIS) single mother w/o thinking twice. Once you commit to a woman, you also commit to any children she may have. You can still have kids of your own w/ that person if you want to. I can understand having preferences, but not wanting to do it because of what someone else thinks????

 

[nex gin]

chicks make mistakes and get defensive about the shit... hilarious... *not directed at anyone in particular*

O how true. I know a single chick w/ 5 kids and all she does is complain about them...having to take care of them by herself and not having time to herself. She takes a lot of her frustrations out on them when the truth is..it's her fault for having 5 kids by 2 deadbeats. She gets mad defensive when I mention anything about her choices and how they relate to her current situation. The kids are here now so my thing is "shut up and deal w/ it". To late for regrets and getting mad at the obvious.

 

[ICame4Pussy]

chicks make mistakes and get defensive about the shit... hilarious... *not directed at anyone in particular*

Yes the fuck it is. And I Totally Agree. Its ashame how she takes no responsibility for her fuck ups, and tries to place all the negative connotations on the man

 

[J-GUTTA]

^^^ I can dig where you coming from, but I think that is a lot of the problem w/ some people in general. There are grown ass adults on here still worried about what the next person is gonna say or think. Are you living for you or the next person's opinion? I'd wife a "worthy" (EMPHASIS) single mother w/o thinking twice. Once you commit to a woman, you also commit to any children she may have. You can still have kids of your own w/ that person if you want to. I can understand having preferences, but not wanting to do it because of what someone else thinks????

I don't think a lot of guys generally care what other people think. Some guys just know they cant get over that mental hurdle of that's not my kid(s). To be honest yo I can see their point.

 

[Sh0t]

And that's fine. You can go if you don't like the answer. If this is our first date, why would I even look at it as something that is serious? I will let you know what I want you to know. It's a first date. Nothing more nothing less. You aren't even on the radar for consideration, in my eyes.

Well, questions like that are very common on first dates. That's part of the "get to know you process". What do you do, what's your background like, divorced? Kids? Hobbies etc. It's very common stuff on first dates versus meeting somebody in a club/bar and trying to take them home that night, where the conversation is very light and flirty.

All that extra stuff about "you aren't on my radar" just seems off. Why go on a date with somebody if they aren't on the radar? I'm sure you turn down date offers, those rejected men are really the ones "off the radar". Unless the woman just wants a couple of free dinners, which is common, too.

MEETING the kids is pretty serious. Admitting you have kids or not is not very serious.

 

[Trollio]

hoes i luv em

 

[-Vincenzo-]

Yep, you're right. Just another hoe.

You niggas show your hand way too soon....and females are the illogical, emotional ones. LMAO!!!

which hand did i show exactly?

Yes the fuck it is. And I Totally Agree. Its a shame how she takes no responsibility for her fuck ups, and tries to place all the negative connotations on the man

not wanting to take responsibility for your mistakes -> typical loser mentality

 

[ms.jones]

Clearly, critical thinking it not the norm, so I will break it down.

I don't talk about my children when I'm on a date. Plain and simple. You have a choice to answer yes or no...yes it matters or no it doesn't. If it does, then we don't need to continue. If it doesn't, let's see where it goes...because to me, a child or kids aren't dealbreakers.

Get mad all you want, but that's how I live my life. Its not for any of you to agree with, because its not yours to live.

In regards to not accepting responsibility, my life has been talked about on here...and me admitting my fuck ups is cronicalled....so miss me with that shit.

 

[nex gin]

I don't think a lot of guys generally care what other people think. Some guys just know they cant get over that mental hurdle of that's not my kid(s). To be honest yo I can see their point.

I can dig that too.....as well as the arguments regarding wanting a woman w/o kids ( acceptable preference )...or not wanting to have to deal w/ baby daddy drama ( shit can get real real quick ). However, IMO simply not wanting to because of what others may think or feeling like it is simp behavior to be a step father is on some highschool mentality ish.

 

[ICame4Pussy]

She goin say all chicks out here getting nutted in. No, YOU were out here getting nutted in.

All women dont live they lives making dumb ass decisions, Just the dumb asses

 

[ceothachosen1]

a real man......... I will never talk down on a nigga that raises kids whether they are his or not

 

[ms.jones]

She goin say all chicks out here getting nutted in. No, YOU were out here getting nutted in.

All women dont live they lives making dumb ass decisions, Just the dumb asses

Since you having a hard time speaking to me directly, I'll speak directly to you....yes nigga, a female will let some guy nut in her besides you. Get the fuck over it.

 

[ICame4Pussy]

There Are Differences Between Bitches & Women. Choose Your Side

[video=youtube;9ss8ZKshgI0]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9ss8ZKshgI0[/video]

 

[J-GUTTA]

I can dig that too.....as well as the arguments regarding wanting a woman w/o kids ( acceptable preference )...or not wanting to have to deal w/ baby daddy drama ( shit can get real real quick ). However, IMO simply not wanting to because of what others may think or feeling like it is simp behavior to be a step father is on some highschool mentality ish.

IMO also if your a guy in your 20's you should not date a women with a child period same for a women. I tell everyone enjoy your 20's, live it to the fullest. I know I did B Word Up.

 

[-Vincenzo-]

She goin say all chicks out here getting nutted in. No, YOU were out here getting nutted in.

All women dont live they lives making dumb ass decisions, Just the dumb asses

One word: projection