How Many of Y'all Have Taken Care of Someone Elses Child, Because of a Relationship?

[LPast]

this thread just reveals that most of you kneegrows be faking the funk when it comes to all that "it takes a community" shit ya'll be talking

pro black my ass

so taking responsibility for others fuck up helps the community how, or would it make more sense to force others to take care of their responsibilities and offer help along the way

I respect your opinion on this subject, but you don't think other people won't step up to help take care of your children since you can't always be there?

I'm not always there but i take care of mine, so why would i want someone else to do it, that would mean I'm not doing my job granted could i do better, surely i can. i can admit that but fuck no

One day the mother's of your children will be wifed up, more likely than not, the men will play daddy to your kids.

How many BMs do you have?

 

[CP203]

niggas in here talking that positive role model shit, why not join a big brother program and mentor young kids, i know @cain does that

 

[damobb2deep]

Nigga yall acting like the step pops is gon last for ever.....after you go through 2 step parents your outlook on relationships and family changes

you never know he might... from your post in almost sure you trolling but still..

 

[CP203]

this thread just reveals that most of you kneegrows be faking the funk when it comes to all that "it takes a community" shit ya'll be talking

pro black my ass

so taking responsibility for others fuck up helps the community how, or would it make more sense to force others to take care of their responsibilities and offer help along the way

I respect your opinion on this subject, but you don't think other people won't step up to help take care of your children since you can't always be there?

I'm not always there but i take care of mine, so why would i want someone else to do it, that would mean I'm not doing my job granted could i do better, surely i can. i can admit that but fuck no

One day the mother's of your children will be wifed up, more likely than not, the men will play daddy to your kids.

How many BMs do you have?

bro when that day comes i'll deal with how i see fit, but the point still remains i don't want no other man raising my kids

 

[damobb2deep]

this thread just reveals that most of you kneegrows be faking the funk when it comes to all that "it takes a community" shit ya'll be talking

pro black my ass

so taking responsibility for others fuck up helps the community how, or would it make more sense to force others to take care of their responsibilities and offer help along the way

because this child would have a positive influence in their life? maybe having a structured family.... maybe the fact that it would further change stereotypes that "men ain't shyt".. you niggas are so selfish.. and you niggas keep acting like there is only one reason for a female to be a single mother... a child is not a "fuck up" or "mistake" all the time..

btw how the fuck are you going to "force" a grown person to do anything? you can't...

the funny thing is you niggas are indirectly perpetuating the stereotypical shyt of broken homes and don't even know it...

because none of you said you wouldn't fuck a woman with kids... just not date... so say you get her pregnant... are you gonna dash out on her? are you going to take care of that child... hopefully most of you would choose the latter... but apparently you still wouldn't date her... but then you would go to the next chick with a child because you have one now... you going to be around her kid now.. now depending on the situation you have a child's mother and father on the outside you have to deal with...

so in the end you have a potential to be "worse off" just smashing a chick with kids then just flat out dating one...

bruh not once did i say i wouldn't date a chick with kids, i said i wouldn't raise another mans kids just like i wouldn't want another man raising mine

That post was in general but now.. so you would date a chick but don't want any part of her child? that post has more meaning to you than you think.. because now you saying if you have a child with her your kid is good but not the child she had before yours... smh

explain to me why i should take care of a kid i didn't create

I've never said you should but i have posted plenty of reasons why that thinking is backwards... stupid (imo)... and counterproductive...

 

[Dupac]

yall funny as shit

 

[CP203]

this thread just reveals that most of you kneegrows be faking the funk when it comes to all that "it takes a community" shit ya'll be talking

pro black my ass

so taking responsibility for others fuck up helps the community how, or would it make more sense to force others to take care of their responsibilities and offer help along the way

because this child would have a positive influence in their life? maybe having a structured family.... maybe the fact that it would further change stereotypes that "men ain't shyt".. you niggas are so selfish.. and you niggas keep acting like there is only one reason for a female to be a single mother... a child is not a "fuck up" or "mistake" all the time..

btw how the fuck are you going to "force" a grown person to do anything? you can't...

the funny thing is you niggas are indirectly perpetuating the stereotypical shyt of broken homes and don't even know it...

because none of you said you wouldn't fuck a woman with kids... just not date... so say you get her pregnant... are you gonna dash out on her? are you going to take care of that child... hopefully most of you would choose the latter... but apparently you still wouldn't date her... but then you would go to the next chick with a child because you have one now... you going to be around her kid now.. now depending on the situation you have a child's mother and father on the outside you have to deal with...

so in the end you have a potential to be "worse off" just smashing a chick with kids then just flat out dating one...

bruh not once did i say i wouldn't date a chick with kids, i said i wouldn't raise another mans kids just like i wouldn't want another man raising mine

That post was in general but now.. so you would date a chick but don't want any part of her child? that post has more meaning to you than you think.. because now you saying if you have a child with her your kid is good but not the child she had before yours... smh

explain to me why i should take care of a kid i didn't create

I've never said you should but i have posted plenty of reasons why that thinking is backwards... stupid (imo)... and counterproductive...

my nigga so why not join a big brother program and mentor young niggas without fathers in their life(bigger picture) not raise but mentor because no matter what you'll never be daddy to the kid, because look at the answer few people said raised by someone not my father or dad

 

[jetlifebih]

Nigga yall acting like the step pops is gon last for ever.....after you go through 2 step parents your outlook on relationships and family changes

you never know he might... from your post in almost sure you trolling but still..

I'm serious now. He might he might not, that is called a risk, are you willing to risk your child's psychology for your happiness

 

[damobb2deep]

this thread just reveals that most of you kneegrows be faking the funk when it comes to all that "it takes a community" shit ya'll be talking

pro black my ass

so taking responsibility for others fuck up helps the community how, or would it make more sense to force others to take care of their responsibilities and offer help along the way

because this child would have a positive influence in their life? maybe having a structured family.... maybe the fact that it would further change stereotypes that "men ain't shyt".. you niggas are so selfish.. and you niggas keep acting like there is only one reason for a female to be a single mother... a child is not a "fuck up" or "mistake" all the time..

btw how the fuck are you going to "force" a grown person to do anything? you can't...

the funny thing is you niggas are indirectly perpetuating the stereotypical shyt of broken homes and don't even know it...

because none of you said you wouldn't fuck a woman with kids... just not date... so say you get her pregnant... are you gonna dash out on her? are you going to take care of that child... hopefully most of you would choose the latter... but apparently you still wouldn't date her... but then you would go to the next chick with a child because you have one now... you going to be around her kid now.. now depending on the situation you have a child's mother and father on the outside you have to deal with...

so in the end you have a potential to be "worse off" just smashing a chick with kids then just flat out dating one...

bruh not once did i say i wouldn't date a chick with kids, i said i wouldn't raise another mans kids just like i wouldn't want another man raising mine

That post was in general but now.. so you would date a chick but don't want any part of her child? that post has more meaning to you than you think.. because now you saying if you have a child with her your kid is good but not the child she had before yours... smh

explain to me why i should take care of a kid i didn't create

I've never said you should but i have posted plenty of reasons why that thinking is backwards... stupid (imo)... and counterproductive...

my nigga so why not join a big brother program and mentor young niggas without fathers in their life(bigger picture) not raise but mentor because no matter what you'll never be daddy to the kid, because look at the answer few people said raised by someone not my father or dad

nigga i know niggas that have been in kids life most of their lives that they call "dad".. so that is false... and you can mentor a kid that's cool... you can help raise a child if you are serious with the mother also... neither of them are bad choices. .

 

[CP203]

this thread just reveals that most of you kneegrows be faking the funk when it comes to all that "it takes a community" shit ya'll be talking

pro black my ass

so taking responsibility for others fuck up helps the community how, or would it make more sense to force others to take care of their responsibilities and offer help along the way

because this child would have a positive influence in their life? maybe having a structured family.... maybe the fact that it would further change stereotypes that "men ain't shyt".. you niggas are so selfish.. and you niggas keep acting like there is only one reason for a female to be a single mother... a child is not a "fuck up" or "mistake" all the time..

btw how the fuck are you going to "force" a grown person to do anything? you can't...

the funny thing is you niggas are indirectly perpetuating the stereotypical shyt of broken homes and don't even know it...

because none of you said you wouldn't fuck a woman with kids... just not date... so say you get her pregnant... are you gonna dash out on her? are you going to take care of that child... hopefully most of you would choose the latter... but apparently you still wouldn't date her... but then you would go to the next chick with a child because you have one now... you going to be around her kid now.. now depending on the situation you have a child's mother and father on the outside you have to deal with...

so in the end you have a potential to be "worse off" just smashing a chick with kids then just flat out dating one...

bruh not once did i say i wouldn't date a chick with kids, i said i wouldn't raise another mans kids just like i wouldn't want another man raising mine

That post was in general but now.. so you would date a chick but don't want any part of her child? that post has more meaning to you than you think.. because now you saying if you have a child with her your kid is good but not the child she had before yours... smh

explain to me why i should take care of a kid i didn't create

I've never said you should but i have posted plenty of reasons why that thinking is backwards... stupid (imo)... and counterproductive...

my nigga so why not join a big brother program and mentor young niggas without fathers in their life(bigger picture) not raise but mentor because no matter what you'll never be daddy to the kid, because look at the answer few people said raised by someone not my father or dad

nigga i know niggas that have been in kids life most of their lives that they call "dad".. so that is false... and you can mentor a kid that's cool... you can help raise a child if you are serious with the mother also... neither of them are bad choices. .

i know them too, but at some point the kid damn near always inquired about their real father

 

[damobb2deep]

this thread just reveals that most of you kneegrows be faking the funk when it comes to all that "it takes a community" shit ya'll be talking

pro black my ass

so taking responsibility for others fuck up helps the community how, or would it make more sense to force others to take care of their responsibilities and offer help along the way

because this child would have a positive influence in their life? maybe having a structured family.... maybe the fact that it would further change stereotypes that "men ain't shyt".. you niggas are so selfish.. and you niggas keep acting like there is only one reason for a female to be a single mother... a child is not a "fuck up" or "mistake" all the time..

btw how the fuck are you going to "force" a grown person to do anything? you can't...

the funny thing is you niggas are indirectly perpetuating the stereotypical shyt of broken homes and don't even know it...

because none of you said you wouldn't fuck a woman with kids... just not date... so say you get her pregnant... are you gonna dash out on her? are you going to take care of that child... hopefully most of you would choose the latter... but apparently you still wouldn't date her... but then you would go to the next chick with a child because you have one now... you going to be around her kid now.. now depending on the situation you have a child's mother and father on the outside you have to deal with...

so in the end you have a potential to be "worse off" just smashing a chick with kids then just flat out dating one...

bruh not once did i say i wouldn't date a chick with kids, i said i wouldn't raise another mans kids just like i wouldn't want another man raising mine

That post was in general but now.. so you would date a chick but don't want any part of her child? that post has more meaning to you than you think.. because now you saying if you have a child with her your kid is good but not the child she had before yours... smh

explain to me why i should take care of a kid i didn't create

I've never said you should but i have posted plenty of reasons why that thinking is backwards... stupid (imo)... and counterproductive...

my nigga so why not join a big brother program and mentor young niggas without fathers in their life(bigger picture) not raise but mentor because no matter what you'll never be daddy to the kid, because look at the answer few people said raised by someone not my father or dad

nigga i know niggas that have been in kids life most of their lives that they call "dad".. so that is false... and you can mentor a kid that's cool... you can help raise a child if you are serious with the mother also... neither of them are bad choices. .

i know them too, but at some point the kid damn near always inquired about their real father

okay and they have a right to... niggas act like the child will be less appreciative because you not their father but still in their life.

 

[CP203]

this thread just reveals that most of you kneegrows be faking the funk when it comes to all that "it takes a community" shit ya'll be talking

pro black my ass

so taking responsibility for others fuck up helps the community how, or would it make more sense to force others to take care of their responsibilities and offer help along the way

because this child would have a positive influence in their life? maybe having a structured family.... maybe the fact that it would further change stereotypes that "men ain't shyt".. you niggas are so selfish.. and you niggas keep acting like there is only one reason for a female to be a single mother... a child is not a "fuck up" or "mistake" all the time..

btw how the fuck are you going to "force" a grown person to do anything? you can't...

the funny thing is you niggas are indirectly perpetuating the stereotypical shyt of broken homes and don't even know it...

because none of you said you wouldn't fuck a woman with kids... just not date... so say you get her pregnant... are you gonna dash out on her? are you going to take care of that child... hopefully most of you would choose the latter... but apparently you still wouldn't date her... but then you would go to the next chick with a child because you have one now... you going to be around her kid now.. now depending on the situation you have a child's mother and father on the outside you have to deal with...

so in the end you have a potential to be "worse off" just smashing a chick with kids then just flat out dating one...

bruh not once did i say i wouldn't date a chick with kids, i said i wouldn't raise another mans kids just like i wouldn't want another man raising mine

That post was in general but now.. so you would date a chick but don't want any part of her child? that post has more meaning to you than you think.. because now you saying if you have a child with her your kid is good but not the child she had before yours... smh

explain to me why i should take care of a kid i didn't create

I've never said you should but i have posted plenty of reasons why that thinking is backwards... stupid (imo)... and counterproductive...

my nigga so why not join a big brother program and mentor young niggas without fathers in their life(bigger picture) not raise but mentor because no matter what you'll never be daddy to the kid, because look at the answer few people said raised by someone not my father or dad

nigga i know niggas that have been in kids life most of their lives that they call "dad".. so that is false... and you can mentor a kid that's cool... you can help raise a child if you are serious with the mother also... neither of them are bad choices. .

i know them too, but at some point the kid damn near always inquired about their real father

okay and they have a right to... niggas act like the child will be less appreciative because you not their father but still in their life.

Not saying that, just saying I don't want to be a father figure to any kids but my own, much rather be a big brother or a mentor but more power to dudes who are dads to kids not theirs

 

[AP21]

man, my nigga CP trippin...I cant deal

"this is tew much"

- @chuck_

 

[damobb2deep]

Nigga yall acting like the step pops is gon last for ever.....after you go through 2 step parents your outlook on relationships and family changes

you never know he might... from your post in almost sure you trolling but still..

I'm serious now. He might he might not, that is called a risk, are you willing to risk your child's psychology for your happiness

Honestly I don't think it will hurt the child's psychology if the men the woman dates are few and far between. . but if the mother is thotting it out and the child sees multiple men come through in a shorter time span.. that would be different. .

 

[CP203]

Ok me personally I would never be able to love a kid that's not me the same as I do mine so that wouldn't be fair to even attempt it

 

[jetlifebih]

Nigga yall acting like the step pops is gon last for ever.....after you go through 2 step parents your outlook on relationships and family changes

you never know he might... from your post in almost sure you trolling but still..

I'm serious now. He might he might not, that is called a risk, are you willing to risk your child's psychology for your happiness

Honestly I don't think it will hurt the child's psychology if the men the woman dates are few and far between. . but if the mother is thotting it out and the child sees multiple men come through in a shorter time span.. that would be different. .

Are you willing to gamble on that just for YOUR happiness or is your child's mental state more important

Long story short the mom should be a mom and the dad should be a dad...no step dads/moms no "aunts" or "uncles"

If you had one chance to do it like you have one life a lot more people would be careful, but since niggas can smash n dash and chicks can find you to play step daddy, what's gonna change

 

[Elzo69Renaissance]

niggas in here talking that positive role model shit, why not join a big brother program and mentor young kids, i know @cain does that

*board member of a non profit that mentors at risk youths.....we re self financed as well*

 

[Kat]

Nigga yall acting like the step pops is gon last for ever.....after you go through 2 step parents your outlook on relationships and family changes

maybe in your case..both my parents have been remarried and with the same person for 20+ years.

 

[jetlifebih]

Nigga yall acting like the step pops is gon last for ever.....after you go through 2 step parents your outlook on relationships and family changes

maybe in your case..both my parents have been remarried and with the same person for 20+ years.

For debate purposes, let's say that is your case and the opposite is my case

The odds are still 50/50 which makes it a gamble

Are you willing to risk your daughter Paige's happiness for the sake of replacing tar'vais ?

 

[Kat]

1st off, keep my child's incorrect name out ya mouth.

I took a risk with my bf, but personally I'm not comfortable taking any more risks before she's grown.

I told him when we first got serious that he would be it.

I wouldn't judge another woman for choosing a different path.