How Many of Y'all Have Taken Care of Someone Elses Child, Because of a Relationship?

[LPast]

this thread just reveals that most of you kneegrows be faking the funk when it comes to all that "it takes a community" shit ya'll be talking

pro black my ass

so taking responsibility for others fuck up helps the community how, or would it make more sense to force others to take care of their responsibilities and offer help along the way

I respect your opinion on this subject, but you don't think other people won't step up to help take care of your children since you can't always be there?

I'm not always there but i take care of mine, so why would i want someone else to do it, that would mean I'm not doing my job granted could i do better, surely i can. i can admit that but fuck no

One day the mother's of your children will be wifed up, more likely than not, the men will play daddy to your kids.

How many BMs do you have?

bro when that day comes i'll deal with how i see fit, but the point still remains i don't want no other man raising my kids

But it's inevitable. We don't always get what we want.

 

[jetlifebih]

if yall content on making extended families more power to you I'm not one to impose my beliefs on anybody

Had this been ya first post in this thread I would have believed ya

Never said you must or else, just strong in my beliefs

 

[T. Sanford]

*no kids post*

Ain't trying to be a step daddy, ain't Hit man Sammy Sam

 

[jetlifebih]

Nigga yall acting like the step pops is gon last for ever.....after you go through 2 step parents your outlook on relationships and family changes

you never know he might... from your post in almost sure you trolling but still..

I'm serious now. He might he might not, that is called a risk, are you willing to risk your child's psychology for your happiness

Honestly I don't think it will hurt the child's psychology if the men the woman dates are few and far between. . but if the mother is thotting it out and the child sees multiple men come through in a shorter time span.. that would be different. .

Are you willing to gamble on that just for YOUR happiness or is your child's mental state more important

Long story short the mom should be a mom and the dad should be a dad...no step dads/moms no "aunts" or "uncles"

If you had one chance to do it like you have one life a lot more people would be careful, but since niggas can smash n dash and chicks can find you to play step daddy, what's gonna change

its not about making it absolutely one way or another... yes females can find a dude to be a stepfather to their child and there is nothing wrong with that... ain't shyt men will be ain't shyt men....

and if the woman is conservative enough it's not a gamble... there are plenty of factors to consider in that..

When it's not one way or the other you wind up with bi-sexuals and transformers and all the other "gray" area issues lol

 

[ShencotheMC]

so is this why the donkey thread about the step mom cutting the kids hair is getting so much fire??

lol, i called the broad stupid and niggaz swooping in windows to save the chick like yall a swat team after hostages....

Yea she straight up emasculated the kid. Dude's dad need to check his woman on that one

 

[ShencotheMC]

Also we need to stop calling folks who simply disagree with us "coons." It's gotten watered down. Say what you want but Sotomayor be accurate on a lot of stuff. Especially with some of the characters on this forum.

But hopefully P.O.P. can hold it down for some of y'all

 

[S2J]

Im 98% on the 'fuk your fort lil man' camp. But i met ONE woman who i deadass would be new daddy to her kid. First off she was gorgeous. 2nd she was slick, she invited me to her crib and unbeknownst to me her son, her sister, her nephew, AND the damn dogs was there. Awwwkwaaaard

But it reminded me of my family next thing you know im cookin hamburger helper in the kitchen, helpin lil man wit his homework. damn i wonder what Kim and lil Ivan is doin these days

 

[Kat]

Hamburger Helper :-&

 

[MR.CJ]

Their father better be dead in a coffin buried under six feet of dirt and rocks ,for me to even consider taking over the responsibility of his offspring that he help bring in to this world.

This

 

[S2J]

*raises hand*

raised by a man that wasnt my father...

raising a boy that isnt my son..

the only males that are not men in this equation is the absent fathers.. whether u choose to deal wit a women with or without child is a matter of preference..

to be honest.. majority of niggas cant take care of their goddamn selves so good for the child..

jus dont let ur eyes loose sight of reality.. the same niggas sayin single mothers aint shit probably aint shit niggas themselves... give it a couple years.. single mothers is gonna be all ur able to pull. lol

Nah, we good ngga

Thats the tricknology right there. "If you dont mess wih single mothers YOU got the problem." Straight hoe logic.

Say bruh, you've gon soft. Pimp down. I'm disappointed in you Hamburglar @bossexcellence

 

[bununs alias]

never had hamburger helper, they had the goat commercials back in the day

 

[S2J]

Bitches know all about real men but yet still have babies with the wrong ones

(got eem)

 

[YC11]

MAN EVERYTHING IN LIFE IS A GAMBLE!!!

THERE IS 50/50 CHANCE YOU DONT MAKE IT HOME TODAY FROM WORK.

LAWD

You're right, but I'm not gonna continue gambling while she's still at the table with me. Once she's grown and I'm back to just me, then I can take those risks.

Honestly I'm looking forward to showing her it's okay to be alone too.

I don't want her growing up co-dependent.

Teach her to learn to weed out deadbeats and look for a gentleman.

Nobody likes to be alone.

Make sure to teach her to not act on impulse and to see through the fog and think years ahead.

Women got more responsibility than men when it comes to this because women got more power. Women are the gatekeepers to love. Teach her to find a provider, not an asshole. Girls waste their youth on assholes and end up looking for providers later on in life. NEVER a happy ending.

Let her know she needs to not give that power away unless the dude is showing proof that he is about it.

Good to be independent but don't go off on that I'm a strong single mother shit, it's so stereotypical because single moms end up producing future single moms.

If anything, teach her to learn from what you did wrong. Saddest thing to see youth wasted and gone on some garbage, kids are the future.

 

[MR.CJ]

Hamburger helper with ranch is GOAT

 

[Kat]

Thanks Dr. Phil.

Lol..nah but sound advice.

I'm not on that strong single mother shit though, I'm on that strong woman shit.

Nothing wrong with committing to a man that compliments your life, but it's okay to be alone for a chapter too. And by alone I mean without a man..you can still have a full life surrounded by positive people as a single person.

 

[S2J]

Hamburger Helper :-&

Nah bc see i would chop the lil green peppers in the joint! Yea lil man loved green peppers! In the taco seasonings hamburger helper joint. Yep, Taco Tuedays...But nah fuk them kids! Ha ha

 

[Chi Snow]

Aww shit, we got real life bonding going on in this bitch

Nigga's dropping real knowledge and shit

Teaching these single mothers how to raise they daughter while not raising they own sons and shit

Single mothers ready to give they life to Christ and fuck the fuck buddies in the motel and shit

Nigga's running back to that one chick they couldn't keep her baby daddy and got you over there chopping vegetables for a well balance meal and shit

Nigga's saying fuck ya seed unless they paying that YMCA or Big Brother/Big Sister membership and shit

Brings a tear to my eye, I knew this thread could find a happy resolution yo.........

 

[manofmorehouse]

You don't have to be a fuck nigga to not want to deal with other people's kids. Hell, I grew up with both parents and they've been married 40+ years. My dad always stressed to me to find a woman that had both of her parents in her life as well as little to no baggage. I can't start a life with a woman when she already started one with someone else.

Also, isn't it hilarious how some women give their best years to the worst niggas possible?? Then, by the time they realize they've been going after the wrong ones, the milk has gone bad and NOW they want to check for good guys to "man up". I'll pass. I volunteer at Boys and Girls Club and 100 Black Men. It's too many beautiful women out here that don't have kids. I'll smash a couple single mothers though.......with a condom

 

[texas409]

Dude on the first page said it takes a certain amount of real nigga minerals hahahahaha imma start using that phrase

 

[rico_ENS]

Yo, this nigga named d-rugs

My moms dates him

Swear to God I hate him

If I could I would break him

When he comes around, her brain sizzles like a Steakum

Damn, can't jakes take him

She neglecting me