Why Are People So Selfish?!?! (the ho thread)

[spiritgod87]

its cause the kids today are exposed to so much, ratchet parents, wrong values.........would your daddy be proud ho??

 

[Dupac]

I thought the women would particpate more in this thread...

@kat

@grumpychuck

@piyonce

@sixsicksins

@taeboo

@mzkb

As soon as I posted I got called a hoe.

Part of the problem is that women are supposed to stay as close to virginal as possible, but in a world where most people aren't getting married until their late 20's/early 30's, living together, and having causal sex being way more acceptable, that shit aint as easy as it used to be. A 30 year old woman is now expected to remain chasten when back in the day the average woman only had to hold out to her early 20's. Marriage kept so called "ho activities" to a minimum and for the most today men don't want to actually date let alone get married.

the older you get it's more so about the behavior vs the numbers....

if you in your 30's partying on a tuesday night, while your 4 kids at home watching eachother....

that's that hoe shit......

constantly griping about you can't find no good man, and overdoing everything about yourself trying to bait yourself a man....yea....shit's not a good look....

but if you taking care of what you supposed to take care of,and carrying yourself accordingly.....well you already know...

and it's not simply about being chaste and virginal when you 30+....you just can't come across like you constantly chasing dick or money.....that shit just not attractive.....but again....you prolly already know that...

 

[Stew]

I thought the women would particpate more in this thread...

@kat

@grumpychuck

@piyonce

@sixsicksins

@taeboo

@mzkb

As soon as I posted I got called a hoe.

Part of the problem is that women are supposed to stay as close to virginal as possible, but in a world where most people aren't getting married until their late 20's/early 30's, living together, and having causal sex being way more acceptable, that shit aint as easy as it used to be. A 30 year old woman is now expected to remain chasten when back in the day the average woman only had to hold out to her early 20's. Marriage kept so called "ho activities" to a minimum and for the most today men don't want to actually date let alone get married.

I dont mind dating tho, lets just go ahead and take care of that on the 1st or 2nd If everything is going well.

 

[blackrain]

this shit remind me for some strange reason of a debate/argument we was having at a cookout that got rained in the house one summer....

the chicks won control of the tv for some reason and we were watching one of those hgtv shows where this house had a pink and purple bathroom....and the fellas led by me of course just started clowning on how that was a bitchified bathroom, and no self respecting man would allow that shit....

of course a debate ensued about double standards, homophobia and whole lotta other bullshit.....

then i deaded the shit by saying..

"iight well..if you go to a single nigga house right now and you walk in his bathroom and the shit all pink and purple...u still fucking?"

pin drop silence......

i don't know if this relate to the issue at hand or not, but i basically wanna say alotta this logic, and shit about how yal think things should be don't really play out in practice...

women want a stud that's been around.......men want a pure diamond....

all those other arguments sound good on paper, but in reality, that's not how it works out...

yall want it to be one way......but it's the other way

Now this is true because there's been threads and posts on here with women saying they'd be weary of a guy with a low body count or who was even a virgin past a certain age and think something is wrong with him. Not that he simply doesn't try to fuck everything moving, but because he doesn't he must have a problem. The main issue is people too often confuse sexual experience with the ability to be in a relationship. The two have NOTHING to do with each other

 

[Arya Tsaddiq]

Here come the hypocritical whoremongering woman haters.

And I'm out.

wait what happened?

 

[desertrain10]

when did patriarchy die?

because as far as i know women been expected to b more seleccompatibleith their ce the of time.

how is it a fantasy?

just because u see sluts in your hood given respect usually reserved for wholesome ladies doesn't mean the rest of the planet has totally succumb to low expations, faux feminism, and dignified harlotry.

people also don't like to acknowledge that the double standard is really due to biology. you can't undo thousands of years of evolution just cuz you wanna say oh women can/should do everything men do

biologically, sexually promiscuity has a much higher risk than it does reward for women, the opposite is true for men. men are literally biologically driven to mate with as many partners as possible, women aren't and therefore societal expectations bloomed out of these basic biological differences

Now scientist are examining the females of the animal kingdom who have the innate surge to sample many different sperms to find the seed most compatible and the male who could better protect her offspring ...so the outlook on whther or not female promiscuity has any evolutionary benefit is quickly changing

Besides most slut shamers dont do so in the name of science or in name of human survival they do so because they feel as though they are somehow morally superior

 

[Arya Tsaddiq]

Did this nigga just call me a simp? Lol

 

[desertrain10]

I just have a problem with how we encourage sexual promiscuity among young boys, men ....their bodies are just as sacred as females

Same with how we associate physicality, violence with masculinity...

It dones more harm then good especially among blk young men who may over compensate

This is my point...

there is foul with both genders. This is the point I was trying to get to. Children learn these behaviors and mimic them. Then they become apart of who they are and the cycle continues. But the whole premise is that it honestly stems from selfishness...

Can anyone truley give me one benefit from promiscuous sex other than self gratification?

I don't think its selfishness necessarily unless u are out here deceiving people in order to get a nut...its deeper than that

Most people I know who are promiscuous I've come to discover are tryna fill a void or like I was saying over compensate for maybe a sense of powerlessness, hopelessness, etc

Its just now sleeping around is the cool thing to do, at least for guys... there was a time when even men were shamed

when was this?

Name a time?

Well back when Christianity first shaped america

Male, female promiscuity was shameful...at least it was publicly shamed

Even back in my grandmas day men and women who got around weren't considered marriage material

 

[S2J]

Did this nigga just call me a simp? Lol

Lol Hey hey hey, i never called you a simp. I said you were simpish. You toein the line my ngga.

 

[Arya Tsaddiq]

I just have a problem with how we encourage sexual promiscuity among young boys, men ....their bodies are just as sacred as females

Same with how we associate physicality, violence with masculinity...

It dones more harm then good especially among blk young men who may over compensate

This is my point...

there is foul with both genders. This is the point I was trying to get to. Children learn these behaviors and mimic them. Then they become apart of who they are and the cycle continues. But the whole premise is that it honestly stems from selfishness...

Can anyone truley give me one benefit from promiscuous sex other than self gratification?

I don't think its selfishness necessarily unless u are out here deceiving people in order to get a nut...its deeper than that

Most people I know who are promiscuous I've come to discover are tryna fill a void or like I was saying over compensate for maybe a sense of powerlessness, hopelessness, etc

Its just now sleeping around is the cool thing to do, at least for guys... there was a time when even men were shamed

Ok then....answer the question....

Other than personal gratification....what good comes from promiscuous sex?

 

[Arya Tsaddiq]

This thread is 12 pages long and I've asked so many posters questions and niggas ducking them save a few....

 

[mryounggun]

What's the question, fam?

 

[Arya Tsaddiq]

when did patriarchy die?

because as far as i know women been expected to b more seleccompatibleith their ce the of time.

how is it a fantasy?

just because u see sluts in your hood given respect usually reserved for wholesome ladies doesn't mean the rest of the planet has totally succumb to low expations, faux feminism, and dignified harlotry.

people also don't like to acknowledge that the double standard is really due to biology. you can't undo thousands of years of evolution just cuz you wanna say oh women can/should do everything men do

biologically, sexually promiscuity has a much higher risk than it does reward for women, the opposite is true for men. men are literally biologically driven to mate with as many partners as possible, women aren't and therefore societal expectations bloomed out of these basic biological differences

Now scientist are examining the females of the animal kingdom who have the innate surge to sample many different sperms to find the seed most compatible and the male who could better protect her offspring ...so the outlook on whther or not female promiscuity has any evolutionary benefit is quickly changing

Besides most slut shamers dont do so in the name of science or in name of human survival they do so because they feel as though they are somehow morally superior

my comments were more focused on human evolution

and i agree that people shouldn't be judgmental. my concerns are more about mental and physical health. i think it's rare that a person is promiscuous simply because they like sex. often, especially for women, they are using sex a method to cope with whatever emotional issues they have and that is unhealthy and damaging. and that's not even to talk about stds

this is isn't whole point...not to mention accidental conception which leads unplanned and often times unwanted children...and we know how unwanted children can turn out...

I continue to ask other than personal gratification....what good comes from having promiscuous sex?

The answer is nothing! Since yall dont wanna say it. But it does potentially come with a whole hell of a lot of negative things though...some of which can directly effect both parties involved as well as others...

I posed the question why are people so selfish because continuously having promiscuous sex is a very selfish act indeed. And it honstley is one of those things that is contributing to the moral and societal degradation of our nation. And black people specifically are experiencing the effects harder than anyone else.

This topic is a lot deeper than a lot of people wanna admit.

 

[Arya Tsaddiq]

What's the question, fam?

I just have a problem with how we encourage sexual promiscuity among young boys, men ....their bodies are just as sacred as females

Same with how we associate physicality, violence with masculinity...

It dones more harm then good especially among blk young men who may over compensate

This is my point...

there is foul with both genders. This is the point I was trying to get to. Children learn these behaviors and mimic them. Then they become apart of who they are and the cycle continues. But the whole premise is that it honestly stems from selfishness...

Can anyone truley give me one benefit from promiscuous sex other than self gratification?

I don't think its selfishness necessarily unless u are out here deceiving people in order to get a nut...its deeper than that

Most people I know who are promiscuous I've come to discover are tryna fill a void or like I was saying over compensate for maybe a sense of powerlessness, hopelessness, etc

Its just now sleeping around is the cool thing to do, at least for guys... there was a time when even men were shamed

Ok then....answer the question....

Other than personal gratification....what good comes from promiscuous sex?

What's the question, fam?

 

[mryounggun]

What's the question, fam?

I just have a problem with how we encourage sexual promiscuity among young boys, men ....their bodies are just as sacred as females

Same with how we associate physicality, violence with masculinity...

It dones more harm then good especially among blk young men who may over compensate

This is my point...

there is foul with both genders. This is the point I was trying to get to. Children learn these behaviors and mimic them. Then they become apart of who they are and the cycle continues. But the whole premise is that it honestly stems from selfishness...

Can anyone truley give me one benefit from promiscuous sex other than self gratification?

I don't think its selfishness necessarily unless u are out here deceiving people in order to get a nut...its deeper than that

Most people I know who are promiscuous I've come to discover are tryna fill a void or like I was saying over compensate for maybe a sense of powerlessness, hopelessness, etc

Its just now sleeping around is the cool thing to do, at least for guys... there was a time when even men were shamed

Ok then....answer the question....

Other than personal gratification....what good comes from promiscuous sex?

What's the question, fam?

Sexual satisfaction. Simple.

 

[aneed123]

With what I'm reading a lot of u nigga Went with every chick yall fucked...

 

[Arya Tsaddiq]

What's the question, fam?

I just have a problem with how we encourage sexual promiscuity among young boys, men ....their bodies are just as sacred as females

Same with how we associate physicality, violence with masculinity...

It dones more harm then good especially among blk young men who may over compensate

This is my point...

there is foul with both genders. This is the point I was trying to get to. Children learn these behaviors and mimic them. Then they become apart of who they are and the cycle continues. But the whole premise is that it honestly stems from selfishness...

Can anyone truley give me one benefit from promiscuous sex other than self gratification?

I don't think its selfishness necessarily unless u are out here deceiving people in order to get a nut...its deeper than that

Most people I know who are promiscuous I've come to discover are tryna fill a void or like I was saying over compensate for maybe a sense of powerlessness, hopelessness, etc

Its just now sleeping around is the cool thing to do, at least for guys... there was a time when even men were shamed

Ok then....answer the question....

Other than personal gratification....what good comes from promiscuous sex?

What's the question, fam?

Sexual satisfaction. Simple.

Either niggas trollin...or tall comprehension off den a bitch lmao got damn...bruh I said except personal gratification....

 

[aneed123]

I'm still trippin off niggas caping for ho behavior... U would tell ur daughter it's acceptable to be promiscuous... If a man wife's a hoe cuz he ain't know her history it ain't the same a willingly proposing to the hoar of Babylon... It ain't rocket science

 

[mryounggun]

What's the question, fam?

I just have a problem with how we encourage sexual promiscuity among young boys, men ....their bodies are just as sacred as females

Same with how we associate physicality, violence with masculinity...

It dones more harm then good especially among blk young men who may over compensate

This is my point...

there is foul with both genders. This is the point I was trying to get to. Children learn these behaviors and mimic them. Then they become apart of who they are and the cycle continues. But the whole premise is that it honestly stems from selfishness...

Can anyone truley give me one benefit from promiscuous sex other than self gratification?

I don't think its selfishness necessarily unless u are out here deceiving people in order to get a nut...its deeper than that

Most people I know who are promiscuous I've come to discover are tryna fill a void or like I was saying over compensate for maybe a sense of powerlessness, hopelessness, etc

Its just now sleeping around is the cool thing to do, at least for guys... there was a time when even men were shamed

Ok then....answer the question....

Other than personal gratification....what good comes from promiscuous sex?

What's the question, fam?

Sexual satisfaction. Simple.

Either niggas trollin...or tall comprehension off den a bitch lmao got damn...bruh I said except personal gratification....

Or maybe I consider 'personal gratification' and 'sexual satisfaction' two different things. Ever consider that?

Personal gratification = You been trying to smash some random woman for a while and you finally hit

Sexual Satisfaction = Bussin' that nut

Anyway, your question has been answered. Here's my question:

Does there need to be more good that comes from it? Why is that not good enough? Are you implying that sex with a person you are not committed to is wrong because those are the only good things that come from it?

 

[Arya Tsaddiq]

What's the question, fam?

I just have a problem with how we encourage sexual promiscuity among young boys, men ....their bodies are just as sacred as females

Same with how we associate physicality, violence with masculinity...

It dones more harm then good especially among blk young men who may over compensate

This is my point...

there is foul with both genders. This is the point I was trying to get to. Children learn these behaviors and mimic them. Then they become apart of who they are and the cycle continues. But the whole premise is that it honestly stems from selfishness...

Can anyone truley give me one benefit from promiscuous sex other than self gratification?

I don't think its selfishness necessarily unless u are out here deceiving people in order to get a nut...its deeper than that

Most people I know who are promiscuous I've come to discover are tryna fill a void or like I was saying over compensate for maybe a sense of powerlessness, hopelessness, etc

Its just now sleeping around is the cool thing to do, at least for guys... there was a time when even men were shamed

Ok then....answer the question....

Other than personal gratification....what good comes from promiscuous sex?

What's the question, fam?

Sexual satisfaction. Simple.

Either niggas trollin...or tall comprehension off den a bitch lmao got damn...bruh I said except personal gratification....

Or maybe I consider 'personal gratification' and 'sexual satisfaction' two different things. Ever consider that?

Personal gratification = You been trying to smash some random woman for a while and you finally hit

Sexual Satisfaction = Bussin' that nut

Anyway, your question has been answered. Here's my question:

Does there need to be more good that comes from it? Why is that not good enough? Are you implying that sex with a person you are not committed to is wrong because those are the only good things that come from it?

u avoiding the inevitable "no" answer lol.

when did patriarchy die?

because as far as i know women been expected to b more seleccompatibleith their ce the of time.

how is it a fantasy?

just because u see sluts in your hood given respect usually reserved for wholesome ladies doesn't mean the rest of the planet has totally succumb to low expations, faux feminism, and dignified harlotry.

people also don't like to acknowledge that the double standard is really due to biology. you can't undo thousands of years of evolution just cuz you wanna say oh women can/should do everything men do

biologically, sexually promiscuity has a much higher risk than it does reward for women, the opposite is true for men. men are literally biologically driven to mate with as many partners as possible, women aren't and therefore societal expectations bloomed out of these basic biological differences

Now scientist are examining the females of the animal kingdom who have the innate surge to sample many different sperms to find the seed most compatible and the male who could better protect her offspring ...so the outlook on whther or not female promiscuity has any evolutionary benefit is quickly changing

Besides most slut shamers dont do so in the name of science or in name of human survival they do so because they feel as though they are somehow morally superior

my comments were more focused on human evolution

and i agree that people shouldn't be judgmental. my concerns are more about mental and physical health. i think it's rare that a person is promiscuous simply because they like sex. often, especially for women, they are using sex a method to cope with whatever emotional issues they have and that is unhealthy and damaging. and that's not even to talk about stds

this is isn't whole point...not to mention accidental conception which leads unplanned and often times unwanted children...and we know how unwanted children can turn out...

I continue to ask other than personal gratification....what good comes from having promiscuous sex?

The answer is nothing! Since yall dont wanna say it. But it does potentially come with a whole hell of a lot of negative things though...some of which can directly effect both parties involved as well as others...

I posed the question why are people so selfish because continuously having promiscuous sex is a very selfish act indeed. And it honstley is one of those things that is contributing to the moral and societal degradation of our nation. And black people specifically are experiencing the effects harder than anyone else.

This topic is a lot deeper than a lot of people wanna admit.

there u go