When they "miss" you, Do you "miss" them? really?

[HafBayked]

Happy wife is happy life mane

niggas will lie all day to get outta trouble but a "fib" here and there to make her smile is too much smh

to be real I found out I like being "missed", just not being bothered about it lol

yea it gets on your nerves when she does that, but let her stop and dont say shit for a couple days yo ass gone be lookin hurt

"wyd....."

"you been real busy lately huh" lmao

everybody wants to know somebody is thinking of them.....we're just stubborn and take longer to come around to that type of shit

 

[i ro ny]

Sometimes honesty is not the best policy. Just tell the woman you miss her, it's not that deep.

I have just recently learned this and I am 30 years old lol, if you plan on staying with the women and living a peaceful life then you are gonna have to lie sometimes, about 3 weeks back my girl spent the night at her parents due to a wedding and the day after she said she missed me and asked if I missed her I just said yes and kept it moving, always be aware of the words you choose with a women because one wrong word can cause you a lot of problems, they are fucking crazy!

Fuck that.

So I gotta hinge my sanity on the words I choose.

Fuck that.

Lol I have been telling the truth for many years to her and all it has gotten me is bullshit after bullshit, now that I am 30 with a wrinkle on my forehead I realize it's time for me to live my life in more peace, if that means telling her what she wants to hear from time to time then so be it.

so lemme make sure i got you correctly...

so she can be happy, you tell her what she wants to hear from time to time.....to alleviate your own stress...because the truth got you bullshit after bullshit. you've surmised thhat its time for you to live your life in more peace and the key to doing so is to lie.

im 31 and i refuse to live that way.

 

[Kat]

Sometimes honesty is not the best policy. Just tell the woman you miss her, it's not that deep.

I have just recently learned this and I am 30 years old lol, if you plan on staying with the women and living a peaceful life then you are gonna have to lie sometimes, about 3 weeks back my girl spent the night at her parents due to a wedding and the day after she said she missed me and asked if I missed her I just said yes and kept it moving, always be aware of the words you choose with a women because one wrong word can cause you a lot of problems, they are fucking crazy!

Fuck that.

So I gotta hinge my sanity on the words I choose.

Fuck that.

Lol I have been telling the truth for many years to her and all it has gotten me is bullshit after bullshit, now that I am 30 with a wrinkle on my forehead I realize it's time for me to live my life in more peace, if that means telling her what she wants to hear from time to time then so be it.

so lemme make sure i got you correctly...

so she can be happy, you tell her what she wants to hear from time to time.....to alleviate your own stress...because the truth got you bullshit after bullshit. you've surmised thhat its time for you to live your life in more peace and the key to doing so is to lie.

im 31 and i refuse to live that way.

Which is why your angry ass is single.

 

[aneed123]

Happy wife is happy life mane



niggas will lie all day to get outta trouble but a "fib" here and there to make her smile is too much smh

to be real I found out I like being "missed", just not being bothered about it lol

yea it gets on your nerves when she does that, but let her stop and dont say shit for a couple days yo ass gone be lookin hurt

"wyd....."

"you been real busy lately huh" lmao

everybody wants to know somebody is thinking of them.....we're just stubborn and take longer to come around to that type of shit

This type of thinking is why all these women are foolish today

 

[Lurkristocrat]

personally, im just not for the extra movie magic shit.

i know when people are full of shit and are just saying things because they are supposed to.i hate that shit.

"i miss you". yeah the fuck right. you havent even had a chance to miss anything. i left 20 minutes ago. shut the fuck up and stop lying to yourself and me.

Lmaoo this nigga

 

[Lurkristocrat]

On the real tho @irony who hurt u fam? What was her name?

 

[i ro ny]

Sometimes honesty is not the best policy. Just tell the woman you miss her, it's not that deep.

I have just recently learned this and I am 30 years old lol, if you plan on staying with the women and living a peaceful life then you are gonna have to lie sometimes, about 3 weeks back my girl spent the night at her parents due to a wedding and the day after she said she missed me and asked if I missed her I just said yes and kept it moving, always be aware of the words you choose with a women because one wrong word can cause you a lot of problems, they are fucking crazy!

Fuck that.

So I gotta hinge my sanity on the words I choose.

Fuck that.

Lol I have been telling the truth for many years to her and all it has gotten me is bullshit after bullshit, now that I am 30 with a wrinkle on my forehead I realize it's time for me to live my life in more peace, if that means telling her what she wants to hear from time to time then so be it.

so lemme make sure i got you correctly...

so she can be happy, you tell her what she wants to hear from time to time.....to alleviate your own stress...because the truth got you bullshit after bullshit. you've surmised thhat its time for you to live your life in more peace and the key to doing so is to lie.

im 31 and i refuse to live that way.

Which is why your angry ass is single.

im not angry but if you dont see the trouble in what dude is saying, thats a bigger issue.

and i'm single now by choice. i dont want to be the sole cause of someone's happiness. i know me and i know that i dont have time to cater to someone's needs like that. that shit is a LOT of work and if you're not down to "play the game" (like i'm clearly saying) then, it is what it is.

 

[Kat]

It literally takes 1 second to say I miss you, not after 10 minutes of absence, but while you are apart for days or weeks.

Y'all making checkers into chess.

Shit is sad how difficult some of you are..we're doomed.

 

[HafBayked]

Happy wife is happy life mane



niggas will lie all day to get outta trouble but a "fib" here and there to make her smile is too much smh

to be real I found out I like being "missed", just not being bothered about it lol

yea it gets on your nerves when she does that, but let her stop and dont say shit for a couple days yo ass gone be lookin hurt

"wyd....."

"you been real busy lately huh" lmao

everybody wants to know somebody is thinking of them.....we're just stubborn and take longer to come around to that type of shit

This type of thinking is why all these women are foolish today

ehhh....that aint my problem tho

if people are out here doing that shit but not being seriously invested in the relationship or just fuckin off, yeah I see where that could leave a woman in a skewered reality that the next man will have to grow accustomed to

but me I aint thinking about no "next man" or what he gotta deal with.....I LIVE with this woman every day.....hell yeah ima do shit to keep her happy, no matter how pointless or childish the shit may or may not be sometimes

and yeah its about my peace too....why waste time and energy fighting shit because of some moral code you have with yourself? lol....that shit does not and will not last....you'll go nuts

I can say this shit aint for everybody tho

my nigga Irony can forget it lmao

 

[Westie]

Sometimes honesty is not the best policy. Just tell the woman you miss her, it's not that deep.

I lie a lot anyway so that's what I do. Women don't want honesty.

And men do? HA!

A LOT of fragile male egos are saved by little white lies.

it is what it is, people need validation.

thats true, but the validation that you seek should not be extorted from your partner.

to me thats not sincere... that imo leads to a robotic relationship, where you're just kind of "there".

With that said, I do think as human beings we need to be more appreciative of the little things that our partners do

in general that we admire about them and verbally express it. This way our partners won't feel so obsessively thirsty for you to validate them.

The problem is that " SOME PEOPLE " want a very specific kind of validation.

Lol extortion? Extort what? Reassurance? If you love them, but you don't actually miss them, but a simple yes comes out, so??? How does that create thirstiness? If you have a woman who craves that, that's just her. This isn't pavlov's dog.

"Is this the best dick you ever had?" - "Nah"

Does that work?

OK... I see that we have 2 different ideas about what validation means.... lol... and yes it is extortion.

but hey... if you want a dude to lie to you all the time... cool...

for me, I'm against lying, big or small, mainly because I'm terrible at it. but I'm not for disrespect either.... thats what it boils down to.

I don't like lies at all, not asking for them for ME. EYE don't like fakeass compliments or feelings, but it doesn't need to be a philosophical debacle over something so minor. I know when a niggas ego needs to be stroked, and making him happy will make me happy. Win/win. I don't look at myself in the mirror and hate myself over making someone i love happy. If it doesn't hurt me, i don't see the problem.

great quote... in my experience ... you don't have to ask that question .... they blurt that sh*t out... or just stare at you when you aint looking.

I didn't say you had to ask, but if one does, should only the truth be told?

 

[i ro ny]

It literally takes 1 second to say I miss you, not after 10 minutes of absence, but while you are apart for days or weeks.

Y'all making checkers into chess.

Shit is sad how difficult some of you are..we're doomed.

now wait just a god damn minute. i said SOMETIMES, i question it all.

Sometimes I question it all.

i'm not saying i don't say it back.

 

[Westie]

Cheese and rice i fucked that up

 

[Shuffington]

It literally takes 1 second to say I miss you, not after 10 minutes of absence, but while you are apart for days or weeks.

Y'all making checkers into chess.

Shit is sad how difficult some of you are..we're doomed.

lol...

i think you just want things to be a certain way.

You have to accept that not everybody will subscribe to your approach on relationships.

doesn't mean that those who you disagree with will be damned to a life of misery and loneliness.

Also being single is not an insult to some of us.

I will say.... if Homeboy wants to tell little white lies because it makes his girl feel better... cool...

If other people don't like lying to themselves in an effort to reassure their mate at their mates demand... then thats cool to.

We're not doomed either way.

 

[Kat]

I couldn't care less, I'm not a I miss you baby ass bitch anyway. Ijs..overthinking shit could cause migraines. Take it easy, tiger.

 

[HarlemThumzUp]

I be too busy tryin to kicc it for the arguing shit just say I miss you cant wait to see you then hang up the fuccin phone. Last thing you want is to have a argument on the brain and tryin to party that shit is WOAT.

 

[Shuffington]

Sometimes honesty is not the best policy. Just tell the woman you miss her, it's not that deep.

I lie a lot anyway so that's what I do. Women don't want honesty.

And men do? HA!

A LOT of fragile male egos are saved by little white lies.

it is what it is, people need validation.

thats true, but the validation that you seek should not be extorted from your partner.

to me thats not sincere... that imo leads to a robotic relationship, where you're just kind of "there".

With that said, I do think as human beings we need to be more appreciative of the little things that our partners do

in general that we admire about them and verbally express it. This way our partners won't feel so obsessively thirsty for you to validate them.

The problem is that " SOME PEOPLE " want a very specific kind of validation.

Lol extortion? Extort what? Reassurance? If you love them, but you don't actually miss them, but a simple yes comes out, so??? How does that create thirstiness? If you have a woman who craves that, that's just her. This isn't pavlov's dog.

"Is this the best dick you ever had?" - "Nah"

Does that work?

OK... I see that we have 2 different ideas about what validation means.... lol... and yes it is extortion.

but hey... if you want a dude to lie to you all the time... cool...

for me, I'm against lying, big or small, mainly because I'm terrible at it. but I'm not for disrespect either.... thats what it boils down to.

I don't like lies at all, not asking for them for ME. EYE don't like fakeass compliments or feelings, but it doesn't need to be a philosophical debacle over something so minor. I know when a niggas ego needs to be stroked, and making him happy will make me happy. Win/win. I don't look at myself in the mirror and hate myself over making someone i love happy. If it doesn't hurt me, i don't see the problem.

great quote... in my experience ... you don't have to ask that question .... they blurt that sh*t out... or just stare at you when you aint looking.

I didn't say you had to ask, but if one does, should only the truth be told?

Well, for some of us... it hurts to be dishonest.... that doesn't mean we have to be disrespectful about telling the truth... per my original post, the goal should be to big you up in other ways, from the heart ... at your own discretion.

Acknowledge what your S/o does that makes you happy and express it verbally.

Sporadic reassurance from your mate is much more encouraging than .... extorted reassurance.... because eventually the person doing the extorting will pick up on the emptiness of your gesture.

To your last point ....Listen.. if your'e lying about my d*ck game . ... it will only be bad for you in the long run...lol

 

[SolemnSauce]

When I have the house to myself

 

[2stepz_ahead]

lunch niggas in this thread taking notes

 

[AP21]

my nigga Irony hard on feelings

 

[kzzl]

Worrying bout a damn "i miss you".

It aint that deep, but she gotta hear it, you should lie. More proof these women are just grown children. Gotta lie to them bout shit like kids about santa clause.

Ive got no problem reading from that part of the book, but i try to give ladies more credit than that.