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Whats more frowned upon in the black community: Shacking up or getting divorced?
American.Loo
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ive got a buddy moving to ATL with a girl who he's dated for less than a year.
they seem extremely happy, and i'm wishing them the best, her parents want him to propose before they move.
me personally, i feel like they're already moving....if it doesnt work out, no reason to have to deal with moving back AND a divorce....
they seem extremely happy, and i'm wishing them the best, her parents want him to propose before they move.
me personally, i feel like they're already moving....if it doesnt work out, no reason to have to deal with moving back AND a divorce....
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I think neither. But you'll get more shit from the older folks in your family or church if you've been living with a girl for a while without marrying her then you would if you were to get a divorce from the person you're with. But it's no more then some finger wagging and people telling you to go ahead and step up and marry her. I think people need to "shack up" before even thinking about marriage.
So then I guess shacking up is more frowned upon then divorce.
So then I guess shacking up is more frowned upon then divorce.
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desertrain10
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kevmic;2408263 said:I think neither. But you'll get more shit from the older folks in your family or church if you've been living with a girl for a while without marrying her then you would if you were to get a divorce from the person you're with. But it's no more then some finger wagging and people telling you to go ahead and step up and marry her. I think people need to "shack up" before even thinking about marriage.
So then I guess shacking up is more frowned upon then divorce.
c/s........
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American.Loo
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mostvigorousone;2408254 said:What's this "community" you speak of?
by community i mean immediate family, friends and others you interact with
your community of personal and interpersonal contacts.
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Nthngis4vr
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both seem to be the norm over here so it's kind of hard to decide...I am not a fan of shacking up, personally.
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shawnbrown
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Dainty;2408310 said:In my family I believe it's divorce, it seems like my grandparents hate my aunt for getting divorced. but they have no problem with my sister living with her bf.
lmao......
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Dainty;2408310 said:In my family I believe it's divorce, it seems like my grandparents hate my aunt for getting divorced. but they have no problem with my sister living with her bf.
ur sister is a slut
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American.Loo
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when i lived in new york i never even heard the term "shacking up"
wasnt til i moved down south i heard older black folk saying that shit.
wasnt til i moved down south i heard older black folk saying that shit.
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Dainty;2408342 said:smh ........
ur family must be ashamed as well
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NEITHER...shit happens...live long enough and you will go thru one or the other and maybe both.....but my mom is steady trying to guilt trip me about me and my current roommate ( wife), and my response to her every time is u marry her then......being gay is more frowned upon in "my community" than either of these put together(10).
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Mr. Terrific
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neither.
shacking up is the right thing to do because everyone can't live together.
life is too long to be unhappy, so divorce happens.
but I really don't like when a couple have kids that are as old as the relationship but there is no marriage in place. I don't necessarily believe in marriage but it is kinda weird still.
shacking up is the right thing to do because everyone can't live together.
life is too long to be unhappy, so divorce happens.
but I really don't like when a couple have kids that are as old as the relationship but there is no marriage in place. I don't necessarily believe in marriage but it is kinda weird still.
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Recaptimus_Prime360
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Well if your parents and grand parents was old school like mines, then it was shacking up. Babies outta wedlock, whatever. Shacking up, you're goin straight to HELL!!! Lol!!
I shacked up wit my ex back in 08'....tragic!! Did not worked out.
I shacked up wit my ex back in 08'....tragic!! Did not worked out.
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Mr. Terrific;2408712 said:neither.
shacking up is the right thing to do because everyone can't live together.
life is too long to be unhappy, so divorce happens.
but I really don't like when a couple have kids that are as old as the relationship but there is no marriage in place. I don't necessarily believe in marriage but it is kinda weird still.
That is a little crazy. Yall got kids, a house, and a car but yall not married? And I'm not talking about people who don't believe in marriage. Its less crazy to me when I see the end result. Those 2 people broke up...... 1 or both of them obviously knew that shit would have been a mistake. That's why you can't really look at folks crazy. They know what they're doing. Well if you don't included buying a house and car together....dummy.
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