What to do when your s/o lets themselves go?

[Ajackson17]

Do you encourage them, ridicule them, or drop them. I've been seeing this girl for almost 2 years now. And I've been seeing her gradually let her appearance go. She no longer even attempts to make herself even look remotely attractive to me. Her hair is never done. And even though I prefer it natural, she doesn't do anything with it. She's continually eating unhealthy shit like cookies and pop. I try to eat healthy around her, thinking it will have an effect but it never does.

She doesn't like to workout at the gym and when we do go she'll hardly workout.

She spend most of her time napping. She only works two days out the week (midnights) but is constantly tired. She exhibits absolutely no enthusiasm when it comes to self improvement.

She gets angry because I almost never initiate sex. But her overall energy and appearance is becoming a huge turnoff.

I often find that her energy (or lack there of) influences me in a negative way also.

The thing is, is that I'm really in a serious relationship with her. But her attitude is slowly putting me off. Have you fellas ever dealt with a women like this? What did you end up doing?

She sounds like a female me but I work 5 days a week and watch anime and sleep.

 

[CapitalB]

I just haven't been putting any fly girl pics on my instagram because I 'm sick of people acting like I'm copying when I'm being copied. Only females usually think your going down letting yourself go if your not looking like a statute.

smmfh.. and here comes this crazy bitch...

*goats* lol

 

[Westie]

Believe it or not, holding out on a female works more than you think.

Females HATE rejection. Especially those that "get holla'd" at all day. That could work.

Yeah...we're grown ups in a relationship. Games are good. :|

 

[deadeye]

Angel:

Maybe she's hitting a rough patch and needs you to be there

Maybe she's depressed

Stick by her G. It'll make you a better man.

Do you love her unconditionally?

Demon:

Don't let people tell you she depressed.

She ain't putting in the effort because she's complacent and think you won't ever leave she taking you for granted.

Never make the next persons problems about themselves into your responsibilities.

Any attempt you make at trying to improve her = something wrong with you for not loving her spas she is.

Go fuck another bitch. The grass may not be greener but a stroll through another fresh lawn might be refreshing.

......unless you love her unconditionally....sucker.

I never thought of it like that. Hard to imagine that she'd be taking me for granted considering her past relationships.

Tell us more about these past relationships.

That may be the root of the problem.

Meaning, if her past relationships were dysfunctional....she might not understand what's expected of her in a normal relationship.

 

[BrazilianHairMoney]

I doubt if the t/s is a man but I could be wrong. Because the problem with a lot of men is they don't want the female to look attractive..... I'm just stero typing tho. I always be a asshole when it's a foolish topic... This sounds like another judgmental topic. If t/s is in a relationship he may have been impressed by this girl for the wrong reasons. She's prolly feeling a little under the weather of maybe a family member just died, and she's not feeling well.

I couldn't be in a relationship with a man who want me to act numb to life just to look good to him. personally I wouldn't give a fuck if a person thought my image went down for such superficial judgment. You can look totally different the next day. These superficial stars giving ya'll the wrong image, they not really "flawless" shit like that just sells. Stop pressuring your s/o to keep up with artificial images. If she's pretty she's pretty regardless.

More men approach me when I'm not really dressed up, I think most men are intimidated by attractiveness, so I have different issues. Most females worry about how another female look more than men.... Any man who acts too vain start to remind me of a bitch.

 

[CapitalB]

Believe it or not, holding out on a female works more than you think.

Females HATE rejection. Especially those that "get holla'd" at all day. That could work.

Yeah...we're grown ups in a relationship. Games are good. :|

it aint game.. its tactic..

dont sit in this thread lyin to these niggas as if it aint a war goin on in EVERY relationship..

or are u that naive or not in one??

 

[Mister B.]

It ain't a game if you tell her straight out,

"I'm feeling less attracted to you, and the fact that you aren't even trying make it even more unattractive, so no dick for you till you do something about it."

 

[Ajackson17]

Why the wack @bcotton

 

[CapitalB]

Don't you dare tell that woman you are not attracted to her anymore. Do not say that shit.

Pico, you're a grown woman. If your nigga can't be honest with you, what's the point? Obviously there are ways to say that shit so that it doesn't come off as malicious. And if he was smart, he would have laid the groundwork for the situation early on in the relationship. But if niggas REALLY care about their girl and really want the shit to work out, honesty is the best policy. Nothing wring with letting her know.

"I'm not attracted to you anymore Pico"

So who you fuckin?!

Wow he don't wanna be with me anymore

*crys*

*eats*

*gets fatter*

*gets more depressed*

*attitude from hell*

Etc...

Don't kick that girl while she's down. Bring ya lady up. There's tactful less hurtful ways to get a point/message across.

u fuckin apologist..

 

[CapitalB]

the last thing a nigga wanna do is sympathize wit the bitch.. THATS what she wants u to do..

u do that u already loss..

start puttin urself in the bitch shoes she go have yo ass wearin them..

and this aint a game?!? yeh okay..

 

[Colin$mackabi$h]

the last thing a nigga wanna do is sympathize wit the bitch.. THATS what she wants u to do..

u do that u already loss..

start puttin urself in the bitch shoes she go have yo ass wearin them..

and this aint a game?!? yeh okay..

@BOSSExcellence said he's no ms. doubtfire.

 

[mryounggun]

Don't you dare tell that woman you are not attracted to her anymore. Do not say that shit.

Pico, you're a grown woman. If your nigga can't be honest with you, what's the point? Obviously there are ways to say that shit so that it doesn't come off as malicious. And if he was smart, he would have laid the groundwork for the situation early on in the relationship. But if niggas REALLY care about their girl and really want the shit to work out, honesty is the best policy. Nothing wring with letting her know.

"I'm not attracted to you anymore Pico"

So who you fuckin?!

Wow he don't wanna be with me anymore

*crys*

*eats*

*gets fatter*

*gets more depressed*

*attitude from hell*

Etc...

Don't kick that girl while she's down. Bring ya lady up. There's tactful less hurtful ways to get a point/message across.

You're right, there are tactful ways to get that across. I wouldn't say 'Pico I'm not attracted to you anymore.'. But you would get the message in no uncertain terms and we'd I'd make sure that you knew that I was there to support you in getting us back on track.

But at the end of the day, the choice to do something about it or not is on you.

 

[Crude_]

Tell her ass let's go to the track and work out together.

We'll try to change our eating habits and exercise together.

Most females pick up weight after kids and as they start to age that's just a reality of life.

It shouldn't break a relationship though if its been built on things of substance that's why its important to be attracted to more than just looks in a significant other.

 

[CapitalB]

the last thing a nigga wanna do is sympathize wit the bitch.. THATS what she wants u to do..

u do that u already loss..

start puttin urself in the bitch shoes she go have yo ass wearin them..

and this aint a game?!? yeh okay..

@BOSSExcellence said he's no ms. doubtfire.

lol all im sayin is sorry bitches always want niggas to feel sorry for them..

well..

it takes a sorry ass nigga to do that..

 

[Westie]

Believe it or not, holding out on a female works more than you think.

Females HATE rejection. Especially those that "get holla'd" at all day. That could work.

Yeah...we're grown ups in a relationship. Games are good. :|

it aint game.. its tactic..

dont sit in this thread lyin to these niggas as if it aint a war goin on in EVERY relationship..

or are u that naive or not in one??

It is game. This is too sensitive an issue for that bullshit otherwise have at it. Power struggles are one thing, this on the other hand can easily backfire and she's already having issues with her self esteem. This is kicking her while she's down. Your side chick is acting up, go ahead and withhold the D (still lmao at that thought tho), but this is a serious relationship.

Go ahead and make her feel worse listening to these men about women shit...see how that goes.

 

[mryounggun]

@Westie - What would you suggest this man to do get his woman to get with the program?

 

[Westie]

@BOSSExcellence‌ do you get in monogamous relationships?

 

[The Lonious Monk]

@BOSSExcellence‌ do you get in monogamous relationships?

Are you married or in a long term relationship?

 

[TonyDubbz]

What your girl is experiencing right now is called Booger Wolf Syndrome, as of right now the only cure for this is for her to look deep inside of herself and realize what shes doing... If she refuses to do this.. then well... im afraid to say it may already be too late.

 

[CapitalB]

@BOSSExcellence‌ do you get in monogamous relationships?

nope...

not even in gradeschool..

but dont try and pull that shit..

thats whats wrong wit the majoroty of relationships.. MONOGAMY.. thats the root of the problem..

nothin like the spirit of competition to keep a muthafucka (both male and female) on they shit..

but u aint tryin to hear that..