What to do when your s/o lets themselves go?

[CapitalB]

t/s yo bitch depressed my nigga??

lets jus get everything on the table my nigga..

has anything traumatic happen to her recently?? :|

 

[Westie]

stop fuckin her..

when she be like "is there somethin wrong?" and she will ask...

thats when u hit her with it..

dont jus come out and say it..

shes gonna take it as u attackin her and get on the defensive...

You telling this nigga to tell a woman he isn't sexually attracted to her????

recipe for slow burning resentment.

Good luck with that

no.. not at all..

im sayin to say somethin is wrong and u jus not feelin "it"..

im sexually attracted to a bitch amd she pisses me off or whatever we aint fuckin..

bitches do it all the time..

role reversal.. im sure on top of her lettin herself go her attitude has shifted as well..

he can go on a diatribe listin all the shit she puttin him thru if he so feels..it jus opens the gateway for dialogue..

whats her incentive to change if she fuckin whenever she wants?? and he aint gotta worry about her goin outsode their relationship.. who go wamt her fat ass?? lol

Lol @ withholding dick.

Seriously I'm lmao at the thought of that. Maybe it could work idk.

Fat bitches get fucked all the time tho.

thats the first thing i do when i get wot a bitch.. since i was a kid.. bitch puss me off.. we aint fuckin..

now granted i always had other bitches to fuck.. but thats besides the point..

bitches think they can do what they want and throw a nigga some pussy and all is forgiven.. nah.. from dah one i take away the only weapon a bitch has.. show her that shit aint shit..

lets not even get on the fact bitches love dick as much as niggas love pussy.. but here's the kicker.. a bitch only wants to fuck SAID nigga.. so she really has no choice but to conform..

Or leave… in any relationship I've been in if we HAVE TO be sexually compatible or there would be a major problem.i'm not saying she shouldn't be putting in effort to be attractive for her man, she should. All women should in all relationships if the man is worth shit.

That being said, sometimes weight fluctuates as a woman. And it's a fact that looks fade over time. if you're in a long-term relationship and a little bit of weight and some nappy hair turns him off completely that's a bad sign.

Do you whatever works for you but I just see it ending badly.

if its over its over...

if its not its not..

but bet one thing.. its gonna speedy the process for the good or bad..

If she's really depressed it probably won't. She probably doesn't want to fuck as it is.

If she's depressed, end it right away.

Lol we're not talking bipolar or manic depressive this can be worked thru damn

 

[blakfyahking]

t/s, I advise you to go ahead and accept shorty as is

sounds like you ain't capable of cutting her loose and that's understandable if you with shorty for the long haul

a lot of mofos in immature relationships don't understand that sometimes it ain't that easy to walk away, married or not

it's natural for mofos to fall off in a long term relationship due to age/pregnancy etc..........but if she just a young bitch lamping and eating grease/unhealthy shit, then you def taking an L no question

in the end you just gon have to do a real assessment of why you with shorty in the 1st place..........and if she that important to you, you just gotta accept having shorty on your hands the way she is, that's just part of being loyal

welcome to adulthood son

 

[CapitalB]

t/s, I advise you to go ahead and accept shorty as is

sounds like you ain't capable of cutting her loose and that's understandable if you with shorty for the long haul

a lot of mofos in immature relationships don't understand that sometimes it ain't that easy to walk away, married or not

it's natural for mofos to fall off in a long term relationship due to age/pregnancy etc..........but if she just a young bitch lamping and eating grease/unhealthy shit, then you def taking an L no question

in the end you just gon have to do a real assessment of why you with shorty in the 1st place..........and if she that important to you, you just gotta accept having shorty on your hands the way she is, that's just part of being loyal

welcome to adulthood son

hahahahhahaha that nigga go be walkin thru the mall wit the bitch hunched shoulders... go from 6'3" to 5'8" #realquick

nigga go be sittin here eatin cookie dough wit the bitch talkin bout "yehp Cosby did it.. niggas aint shit!" hahahaha

 

[1CK1S]

Ayo be like "bae watch this porn with me let's get freaky" and it be an in shape ass natural bitch.... She go feel some type of way.

What?

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Do you encourage them, ridicule them, or drop them. I've been seeing this girl for almost 2 years now. And I've been seeing her gradually let her appearance go. She no longer even attempts to make herself even look remotely attractive to me. Her hair is never done. And even though I prefer it natural, she doesn't do anything with it. She's continually eating unhealthy shit like cookies and pop. I try to eat healthy around her, thinking it will have an effect but it never does.

She doesn't like to workout at the gym and when we do go she'll hardly workout.

She spend most of her time napping. She only works two days out the week (midnights) but is constantly tired. She exhibits absolutely no enthusiasm when it comes to self improvement.

She gets angry because I almost never initiate sex. But her overall energy and appearance is becoming a huge turnoff.

I often find that her energy (or lack there of) influences me in a negative way also.

The thing is, is that I'm really in a serious relationship with her. But her attitude is slowly putting me off. Have you fellas ever dealt with a women like this? What did you end up doing?

She must going through the Kim Coles regiment!

One year she looks like a dime and then the next she looks like she's been spending time inside the house eating Haagen Dazs & Cookie Dough.

 

[BangEm_Bart]

A person that doesn't love themself is not ready to be in a relationship because they have to love themselves first before they love others.

If you don't find her sexually attractive, it's time to cut her loose because you're withholding yourself from the unlimited amount of fine ass pussy out there in the marketplace ftom plenty of confident women that don't eat candy bars and pop soda.

 

[CapitalB]

A person that doesn't love themself is not ready to be in a relationship because they have to love themselves first before they love others.

If you don't find her sexually attractive, it's time to cut her loose because you're withholding yourself from the unlimited amount of fine ass pussy out there in the marketplace ftom plenty of confident women that don't eat candy bars and pop soda.

and boom goes the dynamite

 

[Westie]

A person that doesn't love themself is not ready to be in a relationship because they have to love themselves first before they love others.

If you don't find her sexually attractive, it's time to cut her loose because you're withholding yourself from the unlimited amount of fine ass pussy out there in the marketplace ftom plenty of confident women that don't eat candy bars and pop soda.

I agree with the bolded, but depression isn't that simple.

And of course you would end on that shallow bullshit after something somewhat insightful...

 

[_Goldie_]

From what I read it seems like she's manifesting self destruction and depression. If there's been a change, then I would ask her what's the cause behind the change, if she's always been lazy than it is what it is. I don't agree with "you should except her how she is", in relationships both individuals should encourage and support each other in the pursuit of reaching your full potential. It's one thing if she's just gaining weight, it's another thing if she's sleeping all day,not being productive and exhibiting depression characteristics. Build with your queen b..

 

[blakfyahking]

relationship advice is always worthless IMO

cause mofos already know how they feel about their situation and what they are willing/not willing to do about it

anyone seeking advice is basically just looking for somebody to confirm what they already feel

but, mofos act like they been trooping it with somebody for years and then they just gon be able to just get up and walk away cause a mofo getting fat...............nah, otherwise you wouldn't see all these cuffed big women everywhere

it's one thing if shorty is a good s/o and do everything else right and just so happened to be getting chunky, then yeah you a shallow ass nigga cause you could break ya leg tomorrow and gain 100lbs yaself, trust it happens

but if she was already a bum chick that also does other annoying shit, and now she decide she want to slack on her looks too.........well you a sucka for wifing that up haha

 

[CapitalB]

all im sayin is..

quit fuckin the bitch..

withhold it my nigga..

fuck what Westie talkin about..

im jus sayin..

 

[b4rPnQrC32H4cT]

Do you encourage them, ridicule them, or drop them. I've been seeing this girl for almost 2 years now. And I've been seeing her gradually let her appearance go. She no longer even attempts to make herself even look remotely attractive to me. Her hair is never done. And even though I prefer it natural, she doesn't do anything with it. She's continually eating unhealthy shit like cookies and pop. I try to eat healthy around her, thinking it will have an effect but it never does.

She doesn't like to workout at the gym and when we do go she'll hardly workout.

She spend most of her time napping. She only works two days out the week (midnights) but is constantly tired. She exhibits absolutely no enthusiasm when it comes to self improvement.

She gets angry because I almost never initiate sex. But her overall energy and appearance is becoming a huge turnoff.

I often find that her energy (or lack there of) influences me in a negative way also.

The thing is, is that I'm really in a serious relationship with her. But her attitude is slowly putting me off. Have you fellas ever dealt with a women like this? What did you end up doing?

Looking at the bolded...

Is she depressed?

 

[aka_OG]

no one addressed the fact she might be preggers?

 

[CapitalB]

no one addressed the fact she might be preggers?

thats what we got u for my g..

but good point..

 

[blakfyahking]

no one addressed the fact she might be preggers?

that would make this entire situation hilarious tho

 

[Dr.Chemix]

lol @ the panel discussion. Shit reads like a morning show on the radio

 

[leftcoastkev]

Angel:

Maybe she's hitting a rough patch and needs you to be there

Maybe she's depressed

Stick by her G. It'll make you a better man.

Do you love her unconditionally?

Demon:

Don't let people tell you she depressed.

She ain't putting in the effort because she's complacent and think you won't ever leave she taking you for granted.

Never make the next persons problems about themselves into your responsibilities.

Any attempt you make at trying to improve her = something wrong with you for not loving her spas she is.

Go fuck another bitch. The grass may not be greener but a stroll through another fresh lawn might be refreshing.

......unless you love her unconditionally....sucker.

I never thought of it like that. Hard to imagine that she'd be taking me for granted considering her past relationships.

If her past relationships were comprised of niggas she thought were taking her for granted....think about it like this....

Aren't you taking her for granted by not preemptively showing her affection but still having her there.....? She's trying to throw the P at you but the drive for you to be the aggressor is gone.

Taking her efforts (no matter how minuscule, u know how women love to exaggerate) for granted is how she gon see it from her POV...

But now you understand the reasons why they took her granted. You're in their shoes now. People don't change much.

Bottom line is you can't help people that don't want to help themselves.

Bitches always pop that depression shit but let me tell u this...how depressed can you be when YOU gotta be the breadwinner or visionary? You ain't got time to be depressed because you got bills to pay and people to take care of. It's bullshit ppl just get accustomed to being lazy.

 

[CapitalB]

Angel:

Maybe she's hitting a rough patch and needs you to be there

Maybe she's depressed

Stick by her G. It'll make you a better man.

Do you love her unconditionally?

Demon:

Don't let people tell you she depressed.

She ain't putting in the effort because she's complacent and think you won't ever leave she taking you for granted.

Never make the next persons problems about themselves into your responsibilities.

Any attempt you make at trying to improve her = something wrong with you for not loving her spas she is.

Go fuck another bitch. The grass may not be greener but a stroll through another fresh lawn might be refreshing.

......unless you love her unconditionally....sucker.

I never thought of it like that. Hard to imagine that she'd be taking me for granted considering her past relationships.

If her past relationships were comprised of niggas she thought were taking her for granted....think about it like this....

Aren't you taking her for granted by not preemptively showing her affection but still having her there.....? She's trying to throw the P at you but the drive for you to be the aggressor is gone.

Taking her efforts (no matter how minuscule, u know how women love to exaggerate) for granted is how she gon see it from her POV...

But now you understand the reasons why they took her granted. You're in their shoes now. People don't change much.

Bottom line is you can't help people that don't want to help themselves.

Bitches always pop that depression shit but let me tell u this...how depressed can you be when YOU gotta be the breadwinner or visionary? You ain't got time to be depressed because you got bills to pay and people to take care of. It's bullshit ppl just get accustomed to being lazy.

and boom goes the dynamite...

 

[aneed123]

Offer to run with her if she refuses laziness/comfort has set in. If u love her stay but u gonna cheat

 

[VIBE]

Do you encourage them, ridicule them, or drop them. I've been seeing this girl for almost 2 years now. And I've been seeing her gradually let her appearance go. She no longer even attempts to make herself even look remotely attractive to me. Her hair is never done. And even though I prefer it natural, she doesn't do anything with it. She's continually eating unhealthy shit like cookies and pop. I try to eat healthy around her, thinking it will have an effect but it never does.

She doesn't like to workout at the gym and when we do go she'll hardly workout.

She spend most of her time napping. She only works two days out the week (midnights) but is constantly tired. She exhibits absolutely no enthusiasm when it comes to self improvement.

She gets angry because I almost never initiate sex. But her overall energy and appearance is becoming a huge turnoff.

I often find that her energy (or lack there of) influences me in a negative way also.

The thing is, is that I'm really in a serious relationship with her. But her attitude is slowly putting me off. Have you fellas ever dealt with a women like this? What did you end up doing?

I read this in the voice of Dandy from American Horror Story.. Hilarious