What to do when your s/o lets themselves go?

[S2J]

But forreal tho, past the age of say 25, there is no such thing as her getting it back. Its gone. She's done. Stick a fork in her. You MAYBE coulda did somethin when you first noticed it, but now its a wrap.

Also, how did she come into the relationship!? If she came in napping and snacking, you cant expect to grab her outta that.

I mean napping and snacking is pretty damn fun. Its just that most of us never get hooked into that habit. But just imagine if you nap and snack for a couple weeks straight!? I'd never go to the gym again. So imagine what doin it as a lifestyle gon turn into. She's DONE. Sign up to Costco get some bulk snacks. Prepare for your new life.

 

[The Lonious Monk]

I already told my wife that if she gets fat I won't be sexually attracted to her anymore, and would probably want to fuck someone else.

 

[Colin$mackabi$h]

After reading the question, I wonder how I would talk to one who is on my team about something that makes the pimp uncomfortable.

 

[Max.]

If my future bitch gain pounds..wear sweats..dont do her hair

She getting buried

 

[mryounggun]

Shit ain't that hard really. Tell her like it is. If you're starting to not be attracted to her anymore...she should know that. She can choose to do something about it or not. If you in a serious relationship with her, let her know, encourage her, go to the gym with her, eat healthy with her, etc. If she doesn't wanna get it together and it's that important to you...bounce.

This shit is checkers. It aint' chess.

 

[Bussy_Getta]

Don't you dare tell that woman you are not attracted to her anymore. Do not say that shit.

 

[The Lonious Monk]

Don't you dare tell that woman you are not attracted to her anymore. Do not say that shit.

Why not? Isn't that better than simply ignoring her and trying to play it off like most dudes do.

That said, nobody goes from looking good instantly to being a blob. So it's better to bring it up before your s/o has gone off the deep end.

 

[mryounggun]

Don't you dare tell that woman you are not attracted to her anymore. Do not say that shit.

Pico, you're a grown woman. If your nigga can't be honest with you, what's the point? Obviously there are ways to say that shit so that it doesn't come off as malicious. And if he was smart, he would have laid the groundwork for the situation early on in the relationship. But if niggas REALLY care about their girl and really want the shit to work out, honesty is the best policy. Nothing wring with letting her know.

 

[mryounggun]

This kinda goes back to what I say all the time - people don't know how important communication is in a relationship.

 

[The Lonious Monk]

This kinda goes back to what I say all the time - people don't know how important communication is in a relationship.

Yeah, I don't really hold anything back from my wife, and she's the same with me. Feelings my get hurt temporarily over some shit, but it works out in the long run because we both always know where we stand.

 

[Chi Snow]

The only realistic answer is cheating

Get ya nuts somewhere and go home to her cooking

 

[tompetrez3]

Get rid of her. The relationship has ran its course. You are too young to be a social worker to a "depressed" woman. What about your emotional strain. This shit is depressing you because you wouldnt share your home problems in cyberspace if it wasnt eating at you. Its okay to love yourself also. This wont end well. She is taking advantage of you and about to use your lack of sex as a excuse to cheat. Just cause she not desirable to you dont means another nigga wont fuck her with that being said Let him figure out whats she so sad about. Women so quick to throw that up that depression card when they asses turn into fat fucking hogs but I see it as lack of self discipline instead of mood temperment.

 

[BrazilianHairMoney]

I just haven't been putting any fly girl pics on my instagram because I 'm sick of people acting like I'm copying when I'm being copied. Only females usually think your going down letting yourself go if your not looking like a statute.

 

[Colin$mackabi$h]

I just haven't been putting any fly girl pics on my instagram because I 'm sick of people acting like I'm copying when I'm being copied. Only females usually think your going down letting yourself go if your not looking like a statute.

The truth is back..

 

[Westie]

A lot of Yall niggas give awful advice. Just turrible

 

[jayvon32]

Looking at the situation as a outsider its hard to really give a fair assessment. Like someone said earlier, typically people have their mind made up when it comes to solving issues within their relationship. She either sound like she is pregnant or familiarity kicked in, so the incentive to maintain a attractive appearance has subsided.

A woman just doesn't go from caring about her appearance to not giving a fuck overnight, unless there is something else you're not disclosing. Plus, considering that you say the relationship is serious, I would think you and your lady established some sort of understanding of how to communicate y'all thoughts and feelings. I would just find ways to make going to the gym to exercise a moment for you and her to bond. Make her understand you're doing this for the betterment of the relationship. Depending on how close you are to her, you might can be blunt or be gentle in your approach. If she can't accept that, then you might have to re-evaluate the situation.

Word

 

[BrazilianHairMoney]

I went thru this shit in hs. whenever people thinks a female is attractive they think you must start to be a statue or your going down.. every little hair misplaced means your falling to the bottom, it's hair, and clothes and it's always been easy for me to maintain. People make a big deal out of hair and clothes. The shit is easy to GET. It don't mean the person is letting themselves go, maybe she want their hair to BREATHE. Maybe they are not dressing up because they don't FEEL LIKE IT. Give the girl a break whoever this is!. It's not the end, she just took the weave out her head for second... don't mean she hit rock bottom because you seen her real hair or seen her in some sweat pants or stretch pants. it dont' mean it's a money issue either, it don't take a million dollars to look good.

 

[Bussy_Getta]

Don't you dare tell that woman you are not attracted to her anymore. Do not say that shit.

Pico, you're a grown woman. If your nigga can't be honest with you, what's the point? Obviously there are ways to say that shit so that it doesn't come off as malicious. And if he was smart, he would have laid the groundwork for the situation early on in the relationship. But if niggas REALLY care about their girl and really want the shit to work out, honesty is the best policy. Nothing wring with letting her know.

"I'm not attracted to you anymore Pico"

So who you fuckin?!

Wow he don't wanna be with me anymore

*crys*

*eats*

*gets fatter*

*gets more depressed*

*attitude from hell*

Etc...

Don't kick that girl while she's down. Bring ya lady up. There's tactful less hurtful ways to get a point/message across.

 

[Mister B.]

Believe it or not, holding out on a female works more than you think.

Females HATE rejection. Especially those that "get holla'd" at all day. That could work.

 

[Knock_Twice]

leave gym membership application around the crib..

have Men Fitness mags on the coffee table and shit and say you wanna try out this low carb..such and such meal.. (she may eat it as well, you have to cook it though)

Always say some shit like "yea bae I'ma eat a little today, I'm trying to cut back, my x part on my body been giving me problems, I heard cutting back on such and such will help it out" (make it seem like you're cutting back)

Give her some kind of statistical stat about women "Bae did you know women over 25 are quick to have heart attacks in their sleep due to lack of exercise, yea I heard Dr. Oz talking about it.. let's go walking cuz I want you around forever" lol..

You gotta be slick wit the shit..