*** Should Single Mothers be Acknowledged on Father's Day?

[Reesey]

Seem like this question always comes up to take away from father's rather good or bad. .. let father's have this one day with out no bullshit on the side.

I agree this topic is a constant around this time. So is the "Single Mother's are Stronger than others" topic. It is what it is.

I expected more women to chime in on this, especially from some of the posts I have read elsewhere in this forum.

Either they are afraid to be bombarded with the criticism that you all deliver or they do not care to express their thoughts,

In any case, I will end my view with this. (Disclaimer: Will rub many of you the wrong way)

My view on Men and Woman has always and will always be the same.

Man= Head of home, ruler, disciplinarian, provider, King, dominant.

Woman= Right hand, counsel, Queen, Nurturer, Submissive.

So... a woman can never be what a man is. Therefore should not receive "any" recognition suited for a man.. at anytime.

Being a single mother, does not make you any better/stronger than a mother that has the father present. You will do

exactly what needs to be done in either situation and if you choose otherwise, you are just a dirt bag @$$ mother.

Same goes for a father that chooses not to be involved in their child's life (regardless of the reason) ... You are a dirt bag @$$ father.

Truth is, all parents should be recognized on a daily basis not just on the day that society "deemed" necessary.

 

[dalyricalbandit]

a Mother can never be a father just like a Father can never be a Mother.

this day shouldnt be about single mothers or dead beats its about those fathers that do what is suppose to be done

 

[geechiedanbuford214]

Several of your responses touch on the "women's" poor choices in men being the reason why they are single.

I believe this is the case .... sometimes. But It will be ignorant to assume that "all" women should be psychic and

for tell the future to see whether or not a man will be a great companion and present in their child's lives.

If that was the case, then "every single one of you", (whom have children with a woman you are no longer with)

should still be with your child's mother.

And if not, does that mean she made a poor choice in you?

Bird logic fr get off the gas

 

[Like Water]

I don't see anything wrong with it if single fathers are also celebrated on Mother's Day.

Some feel a Mother, being a woman, can never take the place of the Father, being a man, in a child's life

Personally, I don't think it's necessary for children to have either fathers or mothers per se (as opposed to parents who are nurturing, compassionate, strong, loving etc. regardless of gender) but I could be persuaded otherwise.

Sounds about right coming from a boy with Klinefelter Syndrome.

 

[T. Sanford]

"Im happy for you & your gifts & Imma let you finish but I still had the best father's day, today" - ratchet chick #300,874

 

[So ILL]

 

[taeboo]

No I really don't like when people send me father's day wishes. I'm not a man and I'm not doing anything that I would not do if my son's father was more involved in his life.

 

[manofmorehouse]

This is the Elle Varner effect at work. Bitches want thugs and gangsters to "have fun with" but then are genuinely shocked when said nigga acts niggerish and doesn't take care of an accident yall made. The chick, who has somehow had an epiphany that maybe niggas that make bad decisions in other aspects of their lives probably wouldn't be best suited as a parent, then decides that all men are the same. Nah bitch, u chose wrong. Deal with your life now. U want to look like a bird by celebrating yourself on father's day, cool. It makes it easier to identify and ignore you when it's time to choose a chick to settle down with. The niggas that agree with these birds more than likely have a bird for a mom. Yall have fun at Chili's tonight. ..

 

[jayvon32]

I always thought parents major concern was for the well being of their offsprings, not for accolades and applause.

When I see a bird posting some stupid shit about "Happy Father's Day to me because I'm playing both roles" in the most grammatically incorrect way, I wanna say "Congradulations bitch! You're an adult taking care of your child, want a cookie?"

Seems a little vain and all the symptoms of attention seeking slore.

 

[DR. JEK]

I'm sick of this BS every year because single moms and dads out here in their feelings. What we really need to do to be done with this fuck shit is make one day parents day and get rid of the separate mothers day and a month later fathers day mess. One central day to honor both or either or if one ain't around. Seems like a logical solution to link it up to me since kids can't be made without both anyway.

 

[Will Munny]

"Fathers are just these big dopey guys that are here to provide for women who make fun of them. " - feminist society

 

[DNB1]

No, No and No.

 

[R0mp]

Smh that there's enough of it in the community to even make this a thing. Fix it.

 

[TayGettem]

Anybody who says no clearly has both parents in they life

But I salute my mom's when my dad died

She held down me and my sister while working 2 shifts at the hospital

But still took off just to go see me and my sis individual sports games bck in highschool

How can u not give props to a female on her own doing things a man should do?

I never get men who have the nerve to judge women when we do the same shit

We cheat or fck multiple women we players

If they do it they hoes

We got the nerve to lie to women to get in they draws

Then call her stupid when she cry over a guy she really loved

We knock a chick up then run off on her

Then call her a bad mom when we don't know her situation

As a man I know some women are foul but hey u can't expect a female to stay the same

If every nigga see knows has been a complete dickhead

 

[TayGettem]

Several of your responses touch on the "women's" poor choices in men being the reason why they are single.

I believe this is the case .... sometimes. But It will be ignorant to assume that "all" women should be psychic and

for tell the future to see whether or not a man will be a great companion and present in their child's lives.

If that was the case, then "every single one of you", (whom have children with a woman you are no longer with)

should still be with your child's mother.

And if not, does that mean she made a poor choice in you?

Not in the case of women who use the kids as pawns and purposely fight to keep the father away.

That case shows poor judgement on the mans part. But I digress, not derailing the thread.

But what about the men who run out on the kid at birth

Then wanna be in his kids life later

Had a homie who finally met his dad at 18....punched his pops dead in his shit and said his died been dead ever since he walked out on his mom's

Not to mention alot guys really ain't shit seriously how many of us have claimed to love a women then cheat on her with another chick....it works both ways

 

[gorilla]

Several of your responses touch on the "women's" poor choices in men being the reason why they are single.

I believe this is the case .... sometimes. But It will be ignorant to assume that "all" women should be psychic and

for tell the future to see whether or not a man will be a great companion and present in their child's lives.

If that was the case, then "every single one of you", (whom have children with a woman you are no longer with)

should still be with your child's mother.

And if not, does that mean she made a poor choice in you?

Not in the case of women who use the kids as pawns and purposely fight to keep the father away.

That case shows poor judgement on the mans part. But I digress, not derailing the thread.

But what about the men who run out on the kid at birth

Then wanna be in his kids life later

Had a homie who finally met his dad at 18....punched his pops dead in his shit and said his died been dead ever since he walked out on his mom's

Not to mention alot guys really ain't shit seriously how many of us have claimed to love a women then cheat on her with another chick....it works both ways

That goes back to making bad judgement calls. Nobody can predict the future, but some of these women need to learn to use common sense. Like somebody else said, people ain't just wakin up totally different people, signs are always there, it's about whether or not people choose to ignore them.

You can't replace either role no matter how hard you try. I ain't meet my dad till I was 25 and as much as I thought I wanted to beat his ass, I took him and my son out for dinner and a basketball game. We don't talk now, but at least I have the one moment. Too many bitter dudes running around as it is.

 

[manofmorehouse]

Several of your responses touch on the "women's" poor choices in men being the reason why they are single.

I believe this is the case .... sometimes. But It will be ignorant to assume that "all" women should be psychic and

for tell the future to see whether or not a man will be a great companion and present in their child's lives.

If that was the case, then "every single one of you", (whom have children with a woman you are no longer with)

should still be with your child's mother.

And if not, does that mean she made a poor choice in you?

Not in the case of women who use the kids as pawns and purposely fight to keep the father away.

That case shows poor judgement on the mans part. But I digress, not derailing the thread.

But what about the men who run out on the kid at birth

Then wanna be in his kids life later

Had a homie who finally met his dad at 18....punched his pops dead in his shit and said his died been dead ever since he walked out on his mom's

Not to mention alot guys really ain't shit seriously how many of us have claimed to love a women then cheat on her with another chick....it works both ways

Does your mom get celebrated on mothers day or nah?? She kept u, she took care of u. Should she not do that?? Sorry u didn't have both parents in your life. That's tough, but it seems like you've bought into the idea that a single mother's actions were 100% right and a single dad's were 100% wrong. Maybe your mom tried to trap your dad. Maybe your mom was the jump off and he had a real relationship. U don't know until u get both sides of the story. If your dad is a scumbag or deadbeat, what does that make your mom for being attracted to that type of guy?? Smh women play perpetual victims in every aspect of life and refuse to acknowledge their part in fucked up decisions.

 

[Dupac]

raised by a single mom,

never wished her happy fathers day..

shit's retarded....she's not a father.....

 

[T. Sanford]

Too many girls be trying to jump the gun too quick to be in a relationship.

They be trying to get with a "street dude" & try to mold him into Aladdin then put the blame on all dudes for their bad judgment of character

This ain't Disney word, this is real life

 

[nex gin]

My homegirl's deadbeat baby daddy text her Happy Father's Day yesterday. She was neither amused nor flattered.