*** Should Single Mothers be Acknowledged on Father's Day?

[scorpio4lfe]

@Chicity you got some little chichi kids running around ?

I'm trying to give Scorpio a baby and no one can stop me!

thats cool but will you take care of lil Chioprio?

Nah, I think she doing a bang up job by herself and I wouldn't want to fuck her groove up

Don't fix what ain't broke right?

Chi come see......

 

[scorpio4lfe]

i just cant see how dudes just be leaving their seeds like that tho. It aint like leaving bread at the grocery store after you've paid for it and you just too lazy to go back and get it.

THIS IS YOUR DAMN OFFSPRING for crying out loud

BUT...

It's different circumstances though, my friend going through it now because when his girl got pregnant he told her he wasn't ready and didn't want any parts and she still went ahead and had the kid

Then fucking get ready!

I wasn't "ready" either...but I got ready.

You ain't ready or at least willing to get ready then don't have sex.

So do you hold this point of view toward women who abort a child because they weren't ready?

I don't believe in abortion personally so I guess the answer is yes.

You bit the eraser off the pencil when you were a kid didn't you?

Pulled the delete and backspace key off ya keyboard did ya?

I'm not going to discuss the emotional ramifications if having a living being ripped from your womb with a man.

You can't possibly understand.

Neither could you, unless you been thru it

I've been through having to consider it, I've been through pregnancy and childbirth, I've been through witnessing the toll it's taken on family and friends...but I guess none of that matters cause he 'ain't ready'...selfish MFers.

But it's not selfish to put the well being of your child at risk for your own selfish gains?? I don't know your specific situation but raising a kid without two parents sets the kid up for a difficult childhood, usually a poor to working poor upbringing financially, and a host of behavioral problems. That's selfless??

My child has an excellent childhood! Thank you!

The feelings in here are on another level, I see. Sweetheart, try not to personalize everything. In general, kids from single parent households have a higher teen pregnancy rate, higher hs dropout rate, behavioral problems, low employment rate, etc. That your child has grown up and beat the odds does not negate facts.

This nigga is the IC Health and Human Services Commissioner. Shut up! Did you not type the bolded?? U didn't say raising a kid without two parents USUALLY sets the kid up for a difficult childhood....u said it sets the kid up for a difficult childhood. I was refuting your ridiculous statement.

 

[manofmorehouse]

U do know what generalizations are right?? Lol maybe not...

Setting a kid up for failure doesn't mean they'll actually fail, but that they have a higher probability of failure. I find it interesting that none of the women who are in this position ever take responsibility for their own actions. It's the guys fault. This might be why women keep repeating the same mistakes.

 

[Purr]

If youve been married before and had kids with your husband, then i dont consider you a single mother.

 

[LPast]

I don't even really think I could be friends with a nigga who was out here making babies and then just bouncing. SMH.

Friend:How's your little doing?

Dead beat: OK I guess. Haven't spoken to em in a few months. Should be straight though. You trying to play 2K?

Lol, I could imagine having a friend like this...

 

[banginscrew901]

Reads thread.... how the hell this come the therapy session for women. Damn father's can't even have a father's day thread without it being derailed. Mods should have locked this thread at midnight

 

[R.D.]

This is of no importance to me.

THIS is:

khaleesi-reborn.tumblr.com/post/122055795946/everyone-has-a-right-to-an-opinion

I'll still be here to be your rebound after the divorce but yo FOH with that "my ethnicity is Hispanic, my race is black"

Bitch yous a got damn Mexican

Black is black! Application denied!

I still

If youve been married before and had kids with your husband, then i dont consider you a single mother.

Lmaoooo but she is single

And a mother

 

[taeboo]

if y'all break up and the dude is not in his kids life he wasn't shit from the jump and you fell for his bullshit

A dude can already have a kid or two then some naive bitch thinking he'll be a good father if she had a kid with him and then look what happens. He's not in that kid's life. We know other men are stupid, ladies need to pay attention.

And if he doesn't have any kids how do you guarantee he will be in the child's life once you have his first? Such geniuses and Nostradomus like people on this site. While you are at it, tell me what I'm going to eat for dinner tonight?

You can't GUARANTEE. But you can see how important his family is to him. And how he handles other responsibilities in his life. And especially how he he handles those responsibilities when it may be very difficult. And you can look at whether or not his priorities in general are in order, especially financially. You can check his reaction when the subject of starting a family comes up. You can sit down start a conversation somehow about the possibility of the relationship not working out and what that would mean for baby. You can take into consideration how mature he is overall. And if he's vindictive and petty in other parts of his life or not. Etc etc etc.

I don't think anyone is saying that you can always tell 100% what type of parent a person will be. But shit, damn near. The problem with ALL of us - not just women - is that we get so caught up in 'love' and the fantasy of starting a family and blah blah blah that we ignore the signs and don't do the groundwork to really see if the person we're with is someone you should really be starting a family with.

More people need to take it look at the cold, hard facts instead of just moving based on emotion.

Would you disagree with anything I've said?

Glad you said it's not just for women because niggas in here responding like dudes don't smash chicks raw just because she got a nice ass and kitties without knowing her personality either

if y'all break up and the dude is not in his kids life he wasn't shit from the jump and you fell for his bullshit

A dude can already have a kid or two then some naive bitch thinking he'll be a good father if she had a kid with him and then look what happens. He's not in that kid's life. We know other men are stupid, ladies need to pay attention.

And if he doesn't have any kids how do you guarantee he will be in the child's life once you have his first? Such geniuses and Nostradomus like people on this site. While you are at it, tell me what I'm going to eat for dinner tonight?

You can't GUARANTEE. But you can see how important his family is to him. And how he handles other responsibilities in his life. And especially how he he handles those responsibilities when it may be very difficult. And you can look at whether or not his priorities in general are in order, especially financially. You can check his reaction when the subject of starting a family comes up. You can sit down start a conversation somehow about the possibility of the relationship not working out and what that would mean for baby. You can take into consideration how mature he is overall. And if he's vindictive and petty in other parts of his life or not. Etc etc etc.

I don't think anyone is saying that you can always tell 100% what type of parent a person will be. But shit, damn near. The problem with ALL of us - not just women - is that we get so caught up in 'love' and the fantasy of starting a family and blah blah blah that we ignore the signs and don't do the groundwork to really see if the person we're with is someone you should really be starting a family with.

More people need to take it look at the cold, hard facts instead of just moving based on emotion.

Would you disagree with anything I've said?

Glad you said it's not just for women because niggas in here responding like dudes don't smash chicks raw just because she got a nice ass and kitties without knowing her personality either

Or worse know the chick is crazy and vindictive yet go raw dog anyway

 

[Chi Snow]

if y'all break up and the dude is not in his kids life he wasn't shit from the jump and you fell for his bullshit

A dude can already have a kid or two then some naive bitch thinking he'll be a good father if she had a kid with him and then look what happens. He's not in that kid's life. We know other men are stupid, ladies need to pay attention.

And if he doesn't have any kids how do you guarantee he will be in the child's life once you have his first? Such geniuses and Nostradomus like people on this site. While you are at it, tell me what I'm going to eat for dinner tonight?

You can't GUARANTEE. But you can see how important his family is to him. And how he handles other responsibilities in his life. And especially how he he handles those responsibilities when it may be very difficult. And you can look at whether or not his priorities in general are in order, especially financially. You can check his reaction when the subject of starting a family comes up. You can sit down start a conversation somehow about the possibility of the relationship not working out and what that would mean for baby. You can take into consideration how mature he is overall. And if he's vindictive and petty in other parts of his life or not. Etc etc etc.

I don't think anyone is saying that you can always tell 100% what type of parent a person will be. But shit, damn near. The problem with ALL of us - not just women - is that we get so caught up in 'love' and the fantasy of starting a family and blah blah blah that we ignore the signs and don't do the groundwork to really see if the person we're with is someone you should really be starting a family with.

More people need to take it look at the cold, hard facts instead of just moving based on emotion.

Would you disagree with anything I've said?

Glad you said it's not just for women because niggas in here responding like dudes don't smash chicks raw just because she got a nice ass and kitties without knowing her personality either

if y'all break up and the dude is not in his kids life he wasn't shit from the jump and you fell for his bullshit

A dude can already have a kid or two then some naive bitch thinking he'll be a good father if she had a kid with him and then look what happens. He's not in that kid's life. We know other men are stupid, ladies need to pay attention.

And if he doesn't have any kids how do you guarantee he will be in the child's life once you have his first? Such geniuses and Nostradomus like people on this site. While you are at it, tell me what I'm going to eat for dinner tonight?

You can't GUARANTEE. But you can see how important his family is to him. And how he handles other responsibilities in his life. And especially how he he handles those responsibilities when it may be very difficult. And you can look at whether or not his priorities in general are in order, especially financially. You can check his reaction when the subject of starting a family comes up. You can sit down start a conversation somehow about the possibility of the relationship not working out and what that would mean for baby. You can take into consideration how mature he is overall. And if he's vindictive and petty in other parts of his life or not. Etc etc etc.

I don't think anyone is saying that you can always tell 100% what type of parent a person will be. But shit, damn near. The problem with ALL of us - not just women - is that we get so caught up in 'love' and the fantasy of starting a family and blah blah blah that we ignore the signs and don't do the groundwork to really see if the person we're with is someone you should really be starting a family with.

More people need to take it look at the cold, hard facts instead of just moving based on emotion.

Would you disagree with anything I've said?

Glad you said it's not just for women because niggas in here responding like dudes don't smash chicks raw just because she got a nice ass and kitties without knowing her personality either

Or worse know the chick is crazy and vindictive yet go raw dog anyway

Crazy pussy the best pussy and water is wet

 

[jetlifebih]

Does the Vice President get acknowledged on Presidents' Day?

Did Bobby brown get acknowledged for Whitney houstons lifetime achievement award? Or any other award?

Is there a stepfathers day? Or a step Mother's Day?

What's so crazy is I got used to the thought that females don't take responsibility for carrying a fuck niggas seed for 9 months, I get it...you don't wanna wear that L , but now you want credit and appreciation for it?

Niggas can't Just flip a switch and be fuck niggas, a smart nigga can play dumb but a dumb nigga can't play smart

 

[lilteencreole]

No, I don't agree with it.

Do they celebrate single fathers on Mother Day?

I feel like society has been telling fathers for the last couple of decades that they shouldn't take the responsibilities of fatherhood/husbandry too serious since apparently to a lot of neo-liberals (paraphrasing) "being considered a "real" man and taking the role of one is oppressive to the position of women because masculinity in itself is toxic and demeans women and their liberty from the privileged gender." This backfired quite a bit and now we have the highest rates of deadbeat dads and men too afraid to take the initiative in history.

OK, maybe not in history, but in modern history for sure.

 

[CapitalB]

108 new posts?? really??!

we still talkin bout this shit!?!?