Really?Who does This?Choosing your Mate over your Child

[2stepz_ahead]

what if the mom said " if you can obey my rules. then get out"

an the lil girl left...an being a teen girl, she got to her friends house and was crying while talking about it

 

[SolemnSauce]

2stepz working through some emotions

 

[2stepz_ahead]

how do we know what type community she lived in? she could have walked a few blocks over. a 5 minute walk. so it was all still fresh for everyone.

 

[2stepz_ahead]

she got to the crib at 9:49 an this bitch posts this at 10:04

yep...I see the urgency to help the child but let me post this first.

 

[2stepz_ahead]

how come she aunt call her dad or offer the lul girl to call her dad or next relative...

I can keep going.....so much shit.

so many different ways to look at this to make it a simple family dispute...rather than the mom aint shit scenario y'all running with.

an no, I'm not going to just go with what I'm told. that's dumb nigga talk

 

[2stepz_ahead]

so since we assuming shit

let's assume the dad wants custody

thus woman could lose her child casue of some raggety bitch up the Street.

 

[2stepz_ahead]

shit, how long has this been going on?

what methods have they tried to fix the beef?

just because he's a boyfriend don't mean shit. how many people men and women don't want to get married?

this shit don't sound good...this lady sounds like an enabler or maybe got something to prove.

Well they're not married and I'm not sure that would warrant putting a 13 year old on the streets to fend for themselves. The desire to have a a man should never take precedence over the care and well being of one's children. Anything could be going on with that child and it's also not uncommon for kids to mistrust a parent's new significant other and there are under no obligation to even like them. However it appears, I'm sure her behavior didn't develop overnight. Her mother obviously created that dynamic in their home and convinced herself and her daughter that she is the boss, and mom aint. It might not have been as obvious when she was younger, but at some point in her childhood, the mother gave over complete control to the daughter and now she is paying the price for that. WHICH SHE SHOULD.

So when another parent calls and says your 13 is couch surfing in their home and needs to come gather clothes, it would be the parent's responsibility at that point, to come get what belongs to them. I dont even know what kinda man would be comfortable laying up with some woman who just put her child out on his behalf. This is foolish.

you are assuming the worse from dude.

it not about being ok. with a decision. all kids are not the same.

I would not treat you an kat the same.

she may say I'm a good dude and you may say I ain't shit....who knows the truth?

we are working with limited info and trusting a source we don't know. but I guess this lady looks good while the parent looks like she ain't shit.

can I assume your boyfriend betters your ass an steals from drug dealer an is corrupt because you told us he's a cop in chicago? that's what they do...so that must be what it is.

see how judgemental that sounds with limited info with not knowing any party.

I dont understand how what you're doing doesn't strike you as the same thing I'm doing. We are all forming an opinion based on the information provided. That's what we do in all threads, because there are always facts and details that readers are not privy to from an article. As a general rule, I do not believe that a child should be removed from their home and left to find somewhere to go because of their relationship with their parent's lover, despite how tumultuous it may be. I don't think I can really make this any clearer. Kids need someone to be in charge. They are, by definition, not qualified to manage their own lives. This obviously becomes less the case as they get older, but as long as they're still minors, as a parent it's YOUR JOB to keep them safe and healthy.

you are smarter than this. tell me how long the girl was on her own.

tell me how she had to fend for herself in 20 minutes.

an yes this is what people do in threads....an that why niggas say dumb shit.

how do you not attempt to get more information to make a good call of judgement? so you telling me...you believe anything someine tells you without questioning it?

and what are you talking about I'm doing the same thing?

please. enlighten me.

you see how I'm not assuming.

 

[2stepz_ahead]

If the kid was disrespecting an adult you check them on it. Kicking them out is too extreme.

so again....

how do we know how long this went on...

this could have been a breaking point.

is there an age limit to get kicked out?

is there a point when a parent cant challenge a kid trying to act grown?

parents can't attempt scare tactics?

 

[5th Letter]

If the kid was disrespecting an adult you check them on it. Kicking them out is too extreme.

so again....

how do we know how long this went on...

this could have been a breaking point.

is there an age limit to get kicked out?

is there a point when a parent cant challenge a kid trying to act grown?

parents can't attempt scare tactics?

You don't kick out your 13 year old to some random strangers house. If you had to kick them out send her to her dads house or a relative or even a godparent.

 

[2stepz_ahead]

2stepz working through some emotions

but am I wrong tho...

don't you have kids?

 

[2stepz_ahead]

If the kid was disrespecting an adult you check them on it. Kicking them out is too extreme.

so again....

how do we know how long this went on...

this could have been a breaking point.

is there an age limit to get kicked out?

is there a point when a parent cant challenge a kid trying to act grown?

parents can't attempt scare tactics?

You don't kick out your 13 year old to some random strangers house. If you had to kick them out send her to her dads house or a relative or even a godparent.

how do you know that wasn't attempted?

please tell me.

how do you know?

how do you know, the other family members aint tired of her?

very good question you asked. I think I said the same earlier.

funny but, in the 20 minutes this woman posted since this lil girl came to her....why didn't the lady help her contact family?

all this seems right to y'all?

 

[2stepz_ahead]

until I see or hear the mother say....I kicked her out because I don't want to lose my man.....

none of the other shit matters.

 

[5th Letter]

If the kid was disrespecting an adult you check them on it. Kicking them out is too extreme.

so again....

how do we know how long this went on...

this could have been a breaking point.

is there an age limit to get kicked out?

is there a point when a parent cant challenge a kid trying to act grown?

parents can't attempt scare tactics?

You don't kick out your 13 year old to some random strangers house. If you had to kick them out send her to her dads house or a relative or even a godparent.

how do you know that wasn't attempted?

please tell me.

how do you know?

how do you know, the other family members aint tired of her?

very good question you asked. I think I said the same earlier.

funny but, in the 20 minutes this woman posted since this lil girl came to her....why didn't the lady help her contact family?

all this seems right to y'all?

Bruh ask that lady to ask her mom and then come back and tell us. You're coming up with weird scenarios and you don't know their story. I can only go by what we know.

 

[2stepz_ahead]

If the kid was disrespecting an adult you check them on it. Kicking them out is too extreme.

so again....

how do we know how long this went on...

this could have been a breaking point.

is there an age limit to get kicked out?

is there a point when a parent cant challenge a kid trying to act grown?

parents can't attempt scare tactics?

You don't kick out your 13 year old to some random strangers house. If you had to kick them out send her to her dads house or a relative or even a godparent.

how do you know that wasn't attempted?

please tell me.

how do you know?

how do you know, the other family members aint tired of her?

very good question you asked. I think I said the same earlier.

funny but, in the 20 minutes this woman posted since this lil girl came to her....why didn't the lady help her contact family?

all this seems right to y'all?

Bruh ask that lady to ask her mom and then come back and tell us. You're coming up with weird scenarios and you don't know their story. I can only go by what we know.

an you cool with a second hand story?

the lil girl didn't send this.....

I could even stand with her if she did it herself.... but she didn't.

y'all go off second hand shit.

also.....

whenever I present different ways to look at something cause everything aint black and white y'all niggas always cop out....

does thinking outside the box make y'all heads hurt?

how are they weird? tell me.

it's levelz to everything...

so I don't go by assumed facts.

you voted for Trump didn't you

 

[obnoxiouslyfresh]

shit, how long has this been going on?

what methods have they tried to fix the beef?

just because he's a boyfriend don't mean shit. how many people men and women don't want to get married?

this shit don't sound good...this lady sounds like an enabler or maybe got something to prove.

Well they're not married and I'm not sure that would warrant putting a 13 year old on the streets to fend for themselves. The desire to have a a man should never take precedence over the care and well being of one's children. Anything could be going on with that child and it's also not uncommon for kids to mistrust a parent's new significant other and there are under no obligation to even like them. However it appears, I'm sure her behavior didn't develop overnight. Her mother obviously created that dynamic in their home and convinced herself and her daughter that she is the boss, and mom aint. It might not have been as obvious when she was younger, but at some point in her childhood, the mother gave over complete control to the daughter and now she is paying the price for that. WHICH SHE SHOULD.

So when another parent calls and says your 13 is couch surfing in their home and needs to come gather clothes, it would be the parent's responsibility at that point, to come get what belongs to them. I dont even know what kinda man would be comfortable laying up with some woman who just put her child out on his behalf. This is foolish.

you are assuming the worse from dude.

it not about being ok. with a decision. all kids are not the same.

I would not treat you an kat the same.

she may say I'm a good dude and you may say I ain't shit....who knows the truth?

we are working with limited info and trusting a source we don't know. but I guess this lady looks good while the parent looks like she ain't shit.

can I assume your boyfriend betters your ass an steals from drug dealer an is corrupt because you told us he's a cop in chicago? that's what they do...so that must be what it is.

see how judgemental that sounds with limited info with not knowing any party.

I dont understand how what you're doing doesn't strike you as the same thing I'm doing. We are all forming an opinion based on the information provided. That's what we do in all threads, because there are always facts and details that readers are not privy to from an article. As a general rule, I do not believe that a child should be removed from their home and left to find somewhere to go because of their relationship with their parent's lover, despite how tumultuous it may be. I don't think I can really make this any clearer. Kids need someone to be in charge. They are, by definition, not qualified to manage their own lives. This obviously becomes less the case as they get older, but as long as they're still minors, as a parent it's YOUR JOB to keep them safe and healthy.

you are smarter than this. tell me how long the girl was on her own.

tell me how she had to fend for herself in 20 minutes.

an yes this is what people do in threads....an that why niggas say dumb shit.

how do you not attempt to get more information to make a good call of judgement? so you telling me...you believe anything someine tells you without questioning it?

and what are you talking about I'm doing the same thing?

please. enlighten me.

you see how I'm not assuming.

Dont give me that "you are smarter than this" bullshit. You're doing the same thing everybody else in this thread is doing...which is forming an opinion based on the information provided. You coming up with a million different random ass scenarios because this obviously hits close to home to you. I do not claim to know the totality of this arbitrary facebook post, but most of us follow the line of thinking that says a thirteen year old should not be displaced because of a bad relationship with their parent's boyfriend. There are millions of unknown variables. Maybe the child is a complete asshole? Maybe she's violent? Maybe she has special needs? Maybe she was molested by the mom's boyfriend? Maybe she didn't really get put out and left on her own accord? Maybe, the facebook post isn't real and the author is just working on some new material for a novel? Maybe time isn't really moving forward? Maybe, it's going in reverse and we're actually aging like Benjamin Button?

Fuck outta here. Again, we formulated an opinion based on what we know and how we feel about those circumstances, which is what we do all day everyday. So based on what was written, I feel the mom should be ashamed of herself. If this is your sister or a close friend, and you have some additional info to share, then we'd love to hear and perhaps, our opinion will change.

 

[5th Letter]

If the kid was disrespecting an adult you check them on it. Kicking them out is too extreme.

so again....

how do we know how long this went on...

this could have been a breaking point.

is there an age limit to get kicked out?

is there a point when a parent cant challenge a kid trying to act grown?

parents can't attempt scare tactics?

You don't kick out your 13 year old to some random strangers house. If you had to kick them out send her to her dads house or a relative or even a godparent.

how do you know that wasn't attempted?

please tell me.

how do you know?

how do you know, the other family members aint tired of her?

very good question you asked. I think I said the same earlier.

funny but, in the 20 minutes this woman posted since this lil girl came to her....why didn't the lady help her contact family?

all this seems right to y'all?

Bruh ask that lady to ask her mom and then come back and tell us. You're coming up with weird scenarios and you don't know their story. I can only go by what we know.

an you cool with a second hand story?

the lil girl didn't send this.....

I could even stand with her if she did it herself.... but she didn't.

y'all go off second hand shit.

also.....

whenever I present different ways to look at something cause everything aint black and white y'all niggas always cop out....

does thinking outside the box make y'all heads hurt?

how are they weird? tell me.

it's levelz to everything...

so I don't go by assumed facts.

you voted for Trump didn't you

All we know is that her mom kicked her daughter out over disrespecting her mom's boyfriend. Sent her to her friends house and didn't say anything so the friends mom had to go get clothes for the girl. That's all we know and based on those details that is foul on the mom's part.

 

[Colin$mackabi$h]

That disrespectful lil girl had to learn

 

[2stepz_ahead]

If the kid was disrespecting an adult you check them on it. Kicking them out is too extreme.

so again....

how do we know how long this went on...

this could have been a breaking point.

is there an age limit to get kicked out?

is there a point when a parent cant challenge a kid trying to act grown?

parents can't attempt scare tactics?

You don't kick out your 13 year old to some random strangers house. If you had to kick them out send her to her dads house or a relative or even a godparent.

how do you know that wasn't attempted?

please tell me.

how do you know?

how do you know, the other family members aint tired of her?

very good question you asked. I think I said the same earlier.

funny but, in the 20 minutes this woman posted since this lil girl came to her....why didn't the lady help her contact family?

all this seems right to y'all?

Bruh ask that lady to ask her mom and then come back and tell us. You're coming up with weird scenarios and you don't know their story. I can only go by what we know.

an you cool with a second hand story?

the lil girl didn't send this.....

I could even stand with her if she did it herself.... but she didn't.

y'all go off second hand shit.

also.....

whenever I present different ways to look at something cause everything aint black and white y'all niggas always cop out....

does thinking outside the box make y'all heads hurt?

how are they weird? tell me.

it's levelz to everything...

so I don't go by assumed facts.

you voted for Trump didn't you

shit, how long has this been going on?

what methods have they tried to fix the beef?

just because he's a boyfriend don't mean shit. how many people men and women don't want to get married?

this shit don't sound good...this lady sounds like an enabler or maybe got something to prove.

Well they're not married and I'm not sure that would warrant putting a 13 year old on the streets to fend for themselves. The desire to have a a man should never take precedence over the care and well being of one's children. Anything could be going on with that child and it's also not uncommon for kids to mistrust a parent's new significant other and there are under no obligation to even like them. However it appears, I'm sure her behavior didn't develop overnight. Her mother obviously created that dynamic in their home and convinced herself and her daughter that she is the boss, and mom aint. It might not have been as obvious when she was younger, but at some point in her childhood, the mother gave over complete control to the daughter and now she is paying the price for that. WHICH SHE SHOULD.

So when another parent calls and says your 13 is couch surfing in their home and needs to come gather clothes, it would be the parent's responsibility at that point, to come get what belongs to them. I dont even know what kinda man would be comfortable laying up with some woman who just put her child out on his behalf. This is foolish.

you are assuming the worse from dude.

it not about being ok. with a decision. all kids are not the same.

I would not treat you an kat the same.

she may say I'm a good dude and you may say I ain't shit....who knows the truth?

we are working with limited info and trusting a source we don't know. but I guess this lady looks good while the parent looks like she ain't shit.

can I assume your boyfriend betters your ass an steals from drug dealer an is corrupt because you told us he's a cop in chicago? that's what they do...so that must be what it is.

see how judgemental that sounds with limited info with not knowing any party.

I dont understand how what you're doing doesn't strike you as the same thing I'm doing. We are all forming an opinion based on the information provided. That's what we do in all threads, because there are always facts and details that readers are not privy to from an article. As a general rule, I do not believe that a child should be removed from their home and left to find somewhere to go because of their relationship with their parent's lover, despite how tumultuous it may be. I don't think I can really make this any clearer. Kids need someone to be in charge. They are, by definition, not qualified to manage their own lives. This obviously becomes less the case as they get older, but as long as they're still minors, as a parent it's YOUR JOB to keep them safe and healthy.

you are smarter than this. tell me how long the girl was on her own.

tell me how she had to fend for herself in 20 minutes.

an yes this is what people do in threads....an that why niggas say dumb shit.

how do you not attempt to get more information to make a good call of judgement? so you telling me...you believe anything someine tells you without questioning it?

and what are you talking about I'm doing the same thing?

please. enlighten me.

you see how I'm not assuming.

Dont give me that "you are smarter than this" bullshit. You're doing the same thing everybody else in this thread is doing...which is forming an opinion based on the information provided. You coming up with a million different random ass scenarios because this obviously hits close to home to you. I do not claim to know the totality of this arbitrary facebook post, but most of us follow the line of thinking that says a thirteen year old should not be displaced because of a bad relationship with their parent's boyfriend. There are millions of unknown variables. Maybe the child is a complete asshole? Maybe she's violent? Maybe she has special needs? Maybe she was molested by the mom's boyfriend? Maybe she didn't really get put out and left on her own accord? Maybe, the facebook post isn't real and the author is just working on some new material for a novel? Maybe time isn't really moving forward? Maybe, it's going in reverse and we're actually aging like Benjamin Button?

Fuck outta here. Again, we formulated an opinion based on what we know and how we feel about those circumstances, which is what we do all day everyday. So based on what was written, I feel the mom should be ashamed of herself. If this is your sister or a close friend, and you have some additional info to share, then we'd love to hear and perhaps, our opinion will change.

yup....an you go ahead an live off surface shit an say it's fact.

all the shit you named, could come into making an opinion.

 

[obnoxiouslyfresh]

If the kid was disrespecting an adult you check them on it. Kicking them out is too extreme.

so again....

how do we know how long this went on...

this could have been a breaking point.

is there an age limit to get kicked out?

is there a point when a parent cant challenge a kid trying to act grown?

parents can't attempt scare tactics?

You don't kick out your 13 year old to some random strangers house. If you had to kick them out send her to her dads house or a relative or even a godparent.

how do you know that wasn't attempted?

please tell me.

how do you know?

how do you know, the other family members aint tired of her?

very good question you asked. I think I said the same earlier.

funny but, in the 20 minutes this woman posted since this lil girl came to her....why didn't the lady help her contact family?

all this seems right to y'all?

Bruh ask that lady to ask her mom and then come back and tell us. You're coming up with weird scenarios and you don't know their story. I can only go by what we know.

an you cool with a second hand story?

the lil girl didn't send this.....

I could even stand with her if she did it herself.... but she didn't.

y'all go off second hand shit.

also.....

whenever I present different ways to look at something cause everything aint black and white y'all niggas always cop out....

does thinking outside the box make y'all heads hurt?

how are they weird? tell me.

it's levelz to everything...

so I don't go by assumed facts.

you voted for Trump didn't you

All we know is that her mom kicked her daughter out over disrespecting her mom's boyfriend. Sent her to her friends house and didn't say anything so the friends mom had to go get clothes for the girl. That's all we know and based on those details that is foul on the mom's part.

Well, how do you know the daughter didn't set the house on fire last week while everyone was sleeping?

 

[obnoxiouslyfresh]

@2stepz_ahead So what happened when you kicked your kid out cause that's obviously all this is about.