QUESTION ABOUT MEN AND WOMEN IN RELATIONSHIPS

[bignorm]

i can see (still don't understand) putting up with a lot for a husband, but wtf, who puts up with shit like that for a boyfriend? get you some pride god damn

but yeah, men can't take even the hint of anything. they have much higher self worth

 

[S2J]

Easy answer is men and women are NOT the same (traditional roles, expectations, emotions, society's views, etc.), and some shyt just is what it is.

But this thread will do numbers b/c:

Once you get on the IC, that understanding is thrown to the wind, so people will give answers that dont adress the elephant in the room: men are the dominant sex, and sometimes women will put up w/ shyt...just because.

disclaimer: i dont cheat, IJS

 

[Ajackson17]

Men do not want to be seen as weaklings and seen they can be hurt as well, but we know that is fantasy. Also, it depends I ain't never been married so I can't tell you what I would do in certain situations, but I do know if I'm willing to marry you, you have to be pretty awesome, so I'm willing to look at it holistically if I was the cause of not giving her enough attention or I what was going through her mind. I would be pretty damn upset, but I'm not going to point fingers unless I know the root cause.

 

[Ajackson17]

Easy answer is men and women are NOT the same (traditional roles, expectations, emotions, society's views, etc.), and some shyt just is what it is.

But this thread will do numbers b/c:

Once you get on the IC, that understanding is thrown to the wind, so people will give answers that dont adress the elephant in the room: men are the dominant sex, and sometimes women will put up w/ shyt...just because.

disclaimer: i dont cheat, IJS

Wait, women are the dominant sex lol, men would be the dominant gender.

 

[theBlackbeard]

All women don't. You know that, and besides it always depends on what redeeming quality she's looking at that makes her stay. Some women have it in there head that a man's nature is to fuck whoever, whenever and they will tolerate it as long as they are "wifey" or whatever. They won't ask questions, they won't search for shit, they just accept it. Weather these women are unfaithful themselves is another story.

 

[Cinco]

no forms of disrespect can go un-checked

 

[blacktux]

The reality is women place a higher value on relationships than men, so they are more likely to put up with b.s. to maintain their "status" or "title".

Think bros...

How many times has a woman confronted you on some "so where do we stand" shit.

 

[bignorm]

lol, well norm, i guess your self-worth can't be too high since you let a smut trap you now can it? and you married the bitch (also, not sure if you remember but we've seen a pic of you, just sayin)

Kai, first off, way to take a general statement and take it personally.

Second, yes, i did not allow my kids to be raised by a single mother

with questionable decision making ability. No matter how many times you

go at me for this correct decision, you wont see me apologizing or doubting it.

As a woman raising another woman's unwanted seed, i'd think you'd applaud me.

Third, my photobucket was not hacked, i posted that pic myself.

Im a big sexy nigga with money,status a good job and family.

Are we done here?

 

[bignorm]

PS, dont let my above statement disqualify me for seeing more

pics. Shirt optional.

 

[blacktux]

Got dayum kai...

Its morning

 

[bignorm]

Trap me or raise kids.

My choice was about kids, not myself.

Once there is a child, your life is not about you anymore.

I dont talk about online wins and losses, thats insane, and part of my

sexiness is not lowering myself to get into trivial arguments

with folks not equipped to fight fairly. Thats man shit, i dont expect you to get it.

 

[blacktux]

This chick @skyler is raw as fuck....

 

[Dupac]

big norm and cobra kai are currently in an abusive relationship with each other,,,,

i don't either are leaving anytime soon though

 

[edwardnigma]

Women wont deal with cheating from just anybody.

Also I notice alot of older women will deal with that kind of thing only because they start to turn the relationship into a chess match.

It turns into a, you did this to me and then I did that to you, or I forgave you for this and stayed with you so you should forgive me for this and stay with me.

But for the most part women will put up with more because the mmajority of that shit is expected from men, while it really isn't expected from women.

Like a good woman is a supposed to be a motherly woman,nurturing,submissive, with a guarded sexuality

While a good man is supposed to be, wealthy, hardworking, in control, and sexually impressive.

So one is is almost expected to fuck up sexually while the other is supposed to be virtually untouchable outside of her relationship.

 

[shit happens]

The way I see it is this...he cheats, I leave him and the years of work I've put in just to get with another male that is just as susceptible to cheating somewhere down the line...what's the point?

Cheating doesn't automatically mean I'm going to leave to keep it real..really depends on the circumstances.

That said, I can't answer for the chicks sticking around for ongoing mistreatment. Fuck all that.

that's why i hate when single bitches try to give advice on relationships..."girl LEAVE him! be single and miserable like me!"

its not that easy when you've worked to put a home together.

i've got the keys to the fucking castle (ssns, credit cards, joint accounts, name on the deed, etc), the FUCK i look like giving that up for a piece of side pussy?

honestly, if hubby were to cheat on me, i wouldn't leave just yet.

he doesn't make enough money for the divorce to be lucrative, i'd lose more money in a divorce than i'd gain

but once he gets that promotion....

....lets just say he better not fuck up

See lady this shit chea let's me further know you've been fucking your husbands "best friend" he fell in love with your pregnant pussy at the time now you can't shake him

All of this contradicts what you stated in the "I been fucking my husbands best friend and I don't know how to end it thread"

Sheeh man

and i wonder how you came to that conclusion, einstein.

if you reach any farther, you'll dislocate your elbow

quit stalking and quoting my posts, you degenerate.

Da fuck?

stalking/quoting ?? I've talk/responded to one of your threads/post a total of 3 times g stop that its not cool I don't even "know" you im

Just responding from observing what you've stated in the past nothing more nothing less

If I offended you in any way I apologize that wasn't my intent

 

[bignorm]

Yeah, she said she was on the pill. I believed her. mistake.

I don't share enough of my "life" online for you to have an opinion of if its an L or a Win.

I assure you, its full of win. Not sure where in this thread i gave out relationship advice.

I only suggested that men not accepting bs in a relationship was a sign of self worth.

Maybe you correctly inferred that i also meant that women who put up with alot of bs

have lower self worth.

Seems like this caused you to catch feelings.

I dont know alot about you to know why this would cause that.

But maybe life in your D/S relationship isnt really you "giving" him control like you say.

 

[Knock_Twice]

most women put up with aint shit niggas becuz most women aint shit

Lmfao

 

[bignorm]

I'll get back to the thread, but you acting like i'm the only person who has ever had unprotected sex doesnt fly.

You acting like i'm the only person to ever be lied to about the pill by a woman trying to hang on doesnt fly.

I can see why you see it as a hostage situation, because its true that i would not be with her without the kids.

But, you continuoulsy acting like MANY people would not do what i did because i want MY seed to have better,

is probably just you being so self centered that you can't really see the other side. I dont fault any person for not agreeing with me, but you are the only one who takes everything back to that, like, you cant imagine choosing a childs potential happiness over your own.

As for "standing up for myself" once i realized i was trapped, or she was pregnant, the only way to do that

was to punch her in the stomach. I dont want the murder charge. I'll leave that to your ex.

 

[Knock_Twice]

most women put up with aint shit niggas becuz most women aint shit

Folk I stay preaching this shit...I promise you I wanna write a book on this shit...It's like women just don't get it..lol..

smh shits sad..

 

[S2J]

Some (majority) women by nature have low self steem and/or carry baggage from years and years previous

Look at Nicole Scherz-azzizger...she's what most people deem universally gorgeuos and at 1 point she thought she was ugly.

Women think in odd/twisted/not meant to be understood ways- so trying to find a rational reason for why they stay with aint-shyt dudes will never happen.