Pros / Cons About Marriage

[7figz]

I'll start, of course.

So a dude I know's wife didn't work much at all during the marriage. He worked the entire marriage including having a 401K. He had a crib before the marriage.

They got divorced with no kids.

Apparently the 401K (and any other retirement account) would have been split 50/50 if it went to divorce court. The best damage he could've minimized that to was to only the amount of the retirement accounts that was accumulated during the marriage ... and only in some states would that be possible.

So basically, he would've had to split his retirement account with his ex-wife.

I don't think a lot of people know this based on folks I talked to.

 

[blackgod813]

Bad for a woman good for a man

 

[LordZuko]

Pro:???

Con: a bitch can divorce you for no reason kick you out your own home, deny you access to your kids, move her new bf or gf into the crib that you're still paying for, and you have to pay alimony and child support while paying for rent ina one bdrm or studio apt.

 

[texas409]

Pro:???

Con: a bitch can divorce you for no reason kick you out your own home, deny you access to your kids, move her new bf or gf into the crib that you're still paying for, and you have to pay alimony and child support while paying for rent ina one bdrm or studio apt.

Man I pray if and when I do get married none of that happens Imma be ready to murk somethin

 

[Trollio]

Pro:???

Con: a bitch can divorce you for no reason kick you out your own home, deny you access to your kids, move her new bf or gf into the crib that you're still paying for, and you have to pay alimony and child support while paying for rent ina one bdrm or studio apt.

Damn fam who hurt you or your father

 

[Trollio]

Marriage is the worst business deal i can agree too.

Rather sign a 360 like these rappers do

 

[So ILL]

Yeah, I'm thinking of way more cons compared to pros. Especially when money and kids are involved.

 

[illestni99ainne]

Pro:???

Con: a bitch can divorce you for no reason kick you out your own home, deny you access to your kids, move her new bf or gf into the crib that you're still paying for, and you have to pay alimony and child support while paying for rent ina one bdrm or studio apt.

Basically what I'm going through right now. Fuck marriage I'll never do that bullshit again

 

[Busta Carmichael]

Pro:???

Con: a bitch can divorce you for no reason kick you out your own home, deny you access to your kids, move her new bf or gf into the crib that you're still paying for, and you have to pay alimony and child support while paying for rent ina one bdrm or studio apt.

Basically what I'm going through right now. Fuck marriage I'll never do that bullshit again

Drop that story b

 

[CeLLaR-DooR]

Pro:???

Con: a bitch can divorce you for no reason kick you out your own home, deny you access to your kids, move her new bf or gf into the crib that you're still paying for, and you have to pay alimony and child support while paying for rent ina one bdrm or studio apt.

Basically what I'm going through right now. Fuck marriage I'll never do that bullshit again

Pro:???

Con: a bitch can divorce you for no reason kick you out your own home, deny you access to your kids, move her new bf or gf into the crib that you're still paying for, and you have to pay alimony and child support while paying for rent ina one bdrm or studio apt.

Basically what I'm going through right now. Fuck marriage I'll never do that bullshit again

Drop that story b

 

[Shizlansky]

I'm getting married in two months and be with my lady for 6 years.

Can't wait. We on the same page and got the same goals.

I know he cons but also know the pros.

 

[7figz]

I'm getting married in two months and be with my lady for 6 years.

Can't wait. We on the same page and got the same goals.

I know he cons but also know the pros.

Share some pros man, that's what this is about. (Or cons if they haven't been mentioned)

 

[7figz]

I'm going to go ahead and provide some balance by dropping a possible pro.

If you got kids and y'all married (and living together... and happy) then the kids got access to both parents and vice-versa, will probably be a better environment for their upbringing.

 

[Sandinista]

CON:

- no more pussy variety

- freedom to do things you want to decreases: it's a group decision now

- Spontaneity decreases...specially if kids are involved: everything has to be planned carefully

PRO:

- married men live longer and are healthier, both mentally and physically than single men...by a huge factor:

 

[2stepz_ahead]

pro- biggest supporter

con- i spoil her too much

 

[2stepz_ahead]

hmmmm

maybe I'll counter some of these cons.

I can think of a ton of cons...but why be married?

I should be able to think of more pros.

I can't lie an say it's been all good.

had tons of fights but now we hardly fight...we talk it all out but we still disagree with raised voices an break up for 30 minutes.

marraige is what you put into it an with who. nothing is 100% an it's no guarantees.

but what in life is? everything is a gamble.

 

[rip.dilla]

Pro - family stability for those who want to procreate. The ills of kids growing out of single parent households or male children without a fatherly figure cannot be over emphasised. Although this isn't the norm in most cases involving kids living in broken homes but a strong family unit is highly beneficial for the development of seeds.

Con - no compatibility with each other. Not being on the same mental plane which leads to divorce and the aftermath being the well known state's legal affinity towards women in a divorce.

Also, and more especially in a man's case the biologically unnatural situation of being tied to a monogamous sexual relationship except you indulge in polygamy (or having side chicks) which is unlawful in most Western nations...

 

[2stepz_ahead]

cons- if she has unhappy. single friends

 

[The Hue]

The Main Pro: There is nothing better than having that ride or die woman that is mentally, physically, and sexually compatible with you in every way. My niggas that is true happiness and you will never have to worry about her running off with your kids and/or paper. Be patient and pick the right one. While I'm writing this my wife is cooking my daughter and I some dinner. Believe me, marriage is amazing if you get the right one.

 

[5 Grand]

CON:

- no more pussy variety

- freedom to do things you want to decreases: it's a group decision now

- Spontaneity decreases...specially if kids are involved: everything has to be planned carefully

PRO:

- married men live longer and are healthier, both mentally and physically than single men...by a huge factor:

@ the bolded.

Not true. I'm divorced. Any married woman will let her husband keep a mistress. You do things with your mistress that you wouldn't do with your wife.

Having said that, if you marry the wrong woman it won't work. It just won't.

As far as getting divorced and her getting half, if she was cooking your meals, doing your laundry and taking care of the kids she deserves half.