Pros / Cons About Marriage

[LordZuko]

Pro:???

Con: a bitch can divorce you for no reason kick you out your own home, deny you access to your kids, move her new bf or gf into the crib that you're still paying for, and you have to pay alimony and child support while paying for rent ina one bdrm or studio apt.

True.

Back in the day marriage favored men..........now it favors women.

No-Fault divorce changed the game.

Back in the day a bitch had to act right. Well white bitches. Black bitches ain't never had to act right.

 

[deadeye]

i mean, past the pros and cons, first people should realize marriage aint for everybody.

marriage, just like anything else, has to be done right.

you got a good job and a 401k, and you marrying a bitch that doesnt even work? you done fucked up from the get go.

marry someone on your level. you a professional making x amount of dollars? marry a chick who is a proffesional and makes money in the same range.

marry someone who believes the same thing you do, you religious? make sure she is too. you family oriented? make sure she is too.

whatever your level of maturity is, make sure the person you are marrying is there too. you more mature then her and yall both bout to get married? you fucking up.

you cant find the person to meet this criteria? well fuck it, wait till you do. who the fuck gets married just to get married?

follow these simple rules and there is a high chance your marriage will be one that works out.

Real facts right here. My homie had the perfect marriage on paper they both make good bread have 2 beautiful lil ones and wife came home one day and said she doesn't believe in marriage anymore SMH blew my mind how that could happen cause they got along great. Point is I believe the mental maturity was off with one of them

Lunch nigga must've gotten to her.

 

[texas409]

Most niggas think a marriage is going smooth till it ain't. Ya bitch will know months in advance she about to divorce you.

She'll be making preparations seeing lawyers coaching the kids. Letting her friends know. Everybody will know but you.

When will you know? At the job, some random nigga walks up to your desk, "hey you so n so?" you, quizzical than a mothafuck, but cautious ready to throw hands. Yea that's me.

"Nigga you been served"

You look at the papers it say you can't go back to the crib. You call your wife she don't answer. You go to the house anyway there's either a sheriff there already or she changed the locks. Kids at grandma's.

You gotta call the homey see if you can crash on his couch. You go to the store pick up a six pack. You get in line "PAYMENT DECLINED" that bitch either cleaned out y'all joint bank account or got an injunction put on that bitch. Either way you broke.

Y'all think it's a game if you want.

 

[7figz]

Most niggas think a marriage is going smooth till it ain't. Ya bitch will know months in advance she about to divorce you.

She'll be making preparations seeing lawyers coaching the kids. Letting her friends know. Everybody will know but you.

When will you know? At the job, some random nigga walks up to your desk, "hey you so n so?" you, quizzical than a mothafuck, but cautious ready to throw hands. Yea that's me.

"Nigga you been served"

You look at the papers it say you can't go back to the crib. You call your wife she don't answer. You go to the house anyway there's either a sheriff there already or she changed the locks. Kids at grandma's.

You gotta call the homey see if you can crash on his couch. You go to the store pick up a six pack. You get in line "PAYMENT DECLINED" that bitch either cleaned out y'all joint bank account or got an injunction put on that bitch. Either way you broke.

Y'all think it's a game if you want.

That's some etherous shit right there.

 

[rickmogul]

Seen it from both sides. Sometimes when U'r in a neutral zone ( not married) people open up about their struggles and happiness as well. Pro: It will or should calm you down and centralize ya focus. Play time should be over by now. Cons: Trust. Not in a fedility aspect but, trust that when you say you'll handle something u do it. Bills, commitment that does not revolve around U etc and Score keeping.We a team baby not competitors. That's the gist of what I get when one of the homies need to get out for a drink wifey on their nerves.

 

[2stepz_ahead]

Seen it from both sides. Sometimes when U'r in a neutral zone ( not married) people open up about their struggles and happiness as well. Pro: It will or should calm you down and centralize ya focus. Play time should be over by now. Cons: Trust. Not in a fedility aspect but, trust that when you say you'll handle something u do it. Bills, commitment that does not revolve around U etc and Score keeping.We a team baby not competitors. That's the gist of what I get when one of the homies need to get out for a drink wifey on their nerves.

that's something I had to work thru....

our score keeping an competitive nature caused many fights but also pushed us to great heights.

we actually got together over a "you aint shit, I'm better than you" weird way. long story.

but we now are a superteam...cause we learned to work together.

fukk the warriors, bulls and patriots. it's Mr an Mrs pralims in this bitch

 

[7figz]

I don't see how marriage does anything different in child rearing. Obviously single parent homes yes but if the couple stayed together but were never married I don't think it has any bearing on how the kids turn out. And since the gov here said its common law after like a year? I really don't see the point. Except* maybe to have a big fancy expensive party.

Ideally I want to believe this. If 2 people ain't shit as parents, they won't be shit as married parents.

On the flip-side, I believe 2 good parents, even if separated can still be 2 good parents, but I think family court and child support laws mess that up. So in practice, I think it may most likely turn out to be worse when people separate.

 

[rickmogul]

@2stepz_ahead ...Be honest fam and ya post was dope, cosigned U. Any1 else can answer too. Do U open ALL the way up tho with ya wife? Not necessarily keeping secrets but share it all since it is till death do you both part. I'd still feel it as a " Boyfriend / Girlfriend" relationship with kids, house and responsibilities therefore be open and honest still but I'd say fully open with her about 60% only.

 

[Go figure]

Ayo which one a yall married with reservations in your heart and which one of yall ddnt see the red flags? Lets talk about it

 

[Plutarch]

Props, lots of science being dropped. I'm not married, and I'm still on the fence, which is annoying because you know moms (and all her friends) gotta be stressing a nigga, especially since I'm the only son.

Imo, there's an infinite number of good reasons for a man to not get married, and really, there's only one good reason to get married, so the odds don't exactly look good. But something tells me marriage can be the worst thing or the greatest thing, with far in few between. But I've seen the latter in my own parents, grandparents, and friends.

But my old folks had it much "easier." Marriage seems to work rarer nowadays for various reasons. I have to agree with deadeye. No-fault divorce fucked up the game. But I'll go further. The government fucked up marriage (as it's apt to do with whatever it gets into). Instead of pushing so hard to get the government to grant permission for gays to get married, we should've pushed hard to get the government out of marriage altogether and have people decide their marriages themselves via personal contracts that would be merely protected by the government.

You niggas better be careful though. Like I've said a million times, prenups can be dismissed in court. And if you're unmarried but live with a partner for a certain amount of time, you can legally be considered married by the government in certain situations. Or so I've heard.

I'm getting married in two months and be with my lady for 6 years.

Can't wait. We on the same page and got the same goals.

I know he cons but also know the pros.

Congrats, but be careful...

 

[ineedpussy]

man idk i aint married but most guys tell me dont EVER get married. a guy at my work got divorced and his wife got the house a couple cars and he had to pay her half out of his retirement which he had to give her a quarter of a mill. he was like @ineedpussy is their any pussy out there worth a quarter of a mill and i said hell naw...then he says dont ever get married then.

 

[rickmogul]

Pops treat my Mother the exact way I'd treat my wife if I was married. Told me one time in my adult life that if he had it to do all over again, he would not have gotten married. Powerful to your point @ineedpussy. They'll be on 52 yrs Married in 2 weeks.

 

[atribecalledgabi]

i mean, past the pros and cons, first people should realize marriage aint for everybody.

marriage, just like anything else, has to be done right.

you got a good job and a 401k, and you marrying a bitch that doesnt even work? you done fucked up from the get go.

marry someone on your level. you a professional making x amount of dollars? marry a chick who is a proffesional and makes money in the same range.

marry someone who believes the same thing you do, you religious? make sure she is too. you family oriented? make sure she is too.

whatever your level of maturity is, make sure the person you are marrying is there too. you more mature then her and yall both bout to get married? you fucking up.

you cant find the person to meet this criteria? well fuck it, wait till you do. who the fuck gets married just to get married?

follow these simple rules and there is a high chance your marriage will be one that works out.

Real facts right here. My homie had the perfect marriage on paper they both make good bread have 2 beautiful lil ones and wife came home one day and said she doesn't believe in marriage anymore SMH blew my mind how that could happen cause they got along great. Point is I believe the mental maturity was off with one of them

I mean any marriage can end, regardless of right it was.

To me the idea is to try to limit risk. Life is all about risk management, marriage aint different.

Another thing people should do is wait till they are at a minimum 28+ to marry. At that point a person knows if they are marriage material or not.

Some people are just not marriage material.

I went out with some homegirls the other night and I said this exact thing. I said "if you were born in the 90s and got married before 28, you wack af"...my best friend is my age (26) and another of our friend is 24...both married....I was like "yep, y'all hoes too!" Lol

Like seriously there is no need to be married that young in this day and age where we have so much more access to/know so much more about the world.

 

[Go figure]

i mean, past the pros and cons, first people should realize marriage aint for everybody.

marriage, just like anything else, has to be done right.

you got a good job and a 401k, and you marrying a bitch that doesnt even work? you done fucked up from the get go.

marry someone on your level. you a professional making x amount of dollars? marry a chick who is a proffesional and makes money in the same range.

marry someone who believes the same thing you do, you religious? make sure she is too. you family oriented? make sure she is too.

whatever your level of maturity is, make sure the person you are marrying is there too. you more mature then her and yall both bout to get married? you fucking up.

you cant find the person to meet this criteria? well fuck it, wait till you do. who the fuck gets married just to get married?

follow these simple rules and there is a high chance your marriage will be one that works out.

Real facts right here. My homie had the perfect marriage on paper they both make good bread have 2 beautiful lil ones and wife came home one day and said she doesn't believe in marriage anymore SMH blew my mind how that could happen cause they got along great. Point is I believe the mental maturity was off with one of them

I mean any marriage can end, regardless of right it was.

To me the idea is to try to limit risk. Life is all about risk management, marriage aint different.

Another thing people should do is wait till they are at a minimum 28+ to marry. At that point a person knows if they are marriage material or not.

Some people are just not marriage material.

I went out with some homegirls the other night and I said this exact thing. I said "if you were born in the 90s and got married before 28, you wack af"...my best friend is my age (26) and another of our friend is 24...both married....I was like "yep, y'all hoes too!" Lol

Like seriously there is no need to be married that young in this day and age where we have so much more access to/know so much more about the world.

@atribecalledgabi where your pics at tho?

 

[atribecalledgabi]

i mean, past the pros and cons, first people should realize marriage aint for everybody.

marriage, just like anything else, has to be done right.

you got a good job and a 401k, and you marrying a bitch that doesnt even work? you done fucked up from the get go.

marry someone on your level. you a professional making x amount of dollars? marry a chick who is a proffesional and makes money in the same range.

marry someone who believes the same thing you do, you religious? make sure she is too. you family oriented? make sure she is too.

whatever your level of maturity is, make sure the person you are marrying is there too. you more mature then her and yall both bout to get married? you fucking up.

you cant find the person to meet this criteria? well fuck it, wait till you do. who the fuck gets married just to get married?

follow these simple rules and there is a high chance your marriage will be one that works out.

Real facts right here. My homie had the perfect marriage on paper they both make good bread have 2 beautiful lil ones and wife came home one day and said she doesn't believe in marriage anymore SMH blew my mind how that could happen cause they got along great. Point is I believe the mental maturity was off with one of them

I mean any marriage can end, regardless of right it was.

To me the idea is to try to limit risk. Life is all about risk management, marriage aint different.

Another thing people should do is wait till they are at a minimum 28+ to marry. At that point a person knows if they are marriage material or not.

Some people are just not marriage material.

I went out with some homegirls the other night and I said this exact thing. I said "if you were born in the 90s and got married before 28, you wack af"...my best friend is my age (26) and another of our friend is 24...both married....I was like "yep, y'all hoes too!" Lol

Like seriously there is no need to be married that young in this day and age where we have so much more access to/know so much more about the world.

@atribecalledgabi where your pics at tho?

Mind ya business...

 

[Go figure]

i mean, past the pros and cons, first people should realize marriage aint for everybody.

marriage, just like anything else, has to be done right.

you got a good job and a 401k, and you marrying a bitch that doesnt even work? you done fucked up from the get go.

marry someone on your level. you a professional making x amount of dollars? marry a chick who is a proffesional and makes money in the same range.

marry someone who believes the same thing you do, you religious? make sure she is too. you family oriented? make sure she is too.

whatever your level of maturity is, make sure the person you are marrying is there too. you more mature then her and yall both bout to get married? you fucking up.

you cant find the person to meet this criteria? well fuck it, wait till you do. who the fuck gets married just to get married?

follow these simple rules and there is a high chance your marriage will be one that works out.

Real facts right here. My homie had the perfect marriage on paper they both make good bread have 2 beautiful lil ones and wife came home one day and said she doesn't believe in marriage anymore SMH blew my mind how that could happen cause they got along great. Point is I believe the mental maturity was off with one of them

I mean any marriage can end, regardless of right it was.

To me the idea is to try to limit risk. Life is all about risk management, marriage aint different.

Another thing people should do is wait till they are at a minimum 28+ to marry. At that point a person knows if they are marriage material or not.

Some people are just not marriage material.

I went out with some homegirls the other night and I said this exact thing. I said "if you were born in the 90s and got married before 28, you wack af"...my best friend is my age (26) and another of our friend is 24...both married....I was like "yep, y'all hoes too!" Lol

Like seriously there is no need to be married that young in this day and age where we have so much more access to/know so much more about the world.

@atribecalledgabi where your pics at tho?

Mind ya business...

That hurt

 

[Maywood]

What the hell??? Lmaoooo

 

[Lefty_]

A lot of bleeding hearts in this thread.

 

[blackgod813]

The Main Pro: There is nothing better than having that ride or die woman that is mentally, physically, and sexually compatible with you in every way. My niggas that is true happiness and you will never have to worry about her running off with your kids and/or paper. Be patient and pick the right one. While I'm writing this my wife is cooking my daughter and I some dinner. Believe me, marriage is amazing if you get the right one.

U made me cry dog fr fr

 

[blackgod813]

i mean, past the pros and cons, first people should realize marriage aint for everybody.

marriage, just like anything else, has to be done right.

you got a good job and a 401k, and you marrying a bitch that doesnt even work? you done fucked up from the get go.

marry someone on your level. you a professional making x amount of dollars? marry a chick who is a proffesional and makes money in the same range.

marry someone who believes the same thing you do, you religious? make sure she is too. you family oriented? make sure she is too.

whatever your level of maturity is, make sure the person you are marrying is there too. you more mature then her and yall both bout to get married? you fucking up.

you cant find the person to meet this criteria? well fuck it, wait till you do. who the fuck gets married just to get married?

follow these simple rules and there is a high chance your marriage will be one that works out.

Real facts right here. My homie had the perfect marriage on paper they both make good bread have 2 beautiful lil ones and wife came home one day and said she doesn't believe in marriage anymore SMH blew my mind how that could happen cause they got along great. Point is I believe the mental maturity was off with one of them

I mean any marriage can end, regardless of right it was.

To me the idea is to try to limit risk. Life is all about risk management, marriage aint different.

Another thing people should do is wait till they are at a minimum 28+ to marry. At that point a person knows if they are marriage material or not.

Some people are just not marriage material.

I went out with some homegirls the other night and I said this exact thing. I said "if you were born in the 90s and got married before 28, you wack af"...my best friend is my age (26) and another of our friend is 24...both married....I was like "yep, y'all hoes too!" Lol

Like seriously there is no need to be married that young in this day and age where we have so much more access to/know so much more about the world.

@atribecalledgabi where your pics at tho?

Mind ya business...

Hoes how