Planning for Single Motherhood.. Are fathers really needed?

[IamtheVILLE]

@msv- will you have my babies. literally and figuretively(sp?)

anyway a women will realize she need a father for her child once that little nigga starts looking eye to eye to her and he quit listening to what she says.
also girls need fathers too because he can teach them how to be respectable women and not whores

 

[ibedamned]

ayo... only a few weeks in..and i ain't saying yall ABSOLUTELY NEED the fathers.....but i'll put it like this...

u know how u get a ticket and could possibly die in a crash if u don't wear ur seat belt....like u can basically drive without a seat belt... but it's in your best interest to wear one for ur pocket in case you get pulled over, and more importantly ur life if u crash.....

iight so consider the overall importance of a seatbelt while driving...

iight, now take that importance...and multiply it by like 1 billion....a billion times the financial aspect, and the overal preservation of life aspect...

give or take a little....that's how important an active father is...

thats the truth right there

 

[ibedamned]

Question if this is such a problem why is it looked down upon 4 another man 2 step up and be in that childs life even if it aint his??

in light of reading your other thread in here, i can't help but die laughin when i see you ask this homie

 

[mryounggun]

Fathers aren't NEEDED. Neither are mothers, for that matter. A single parent can raise a child to adulthood sufficiently. But should you CHOOSE to be a single parent ahead of time? Negative. At least give a child the best possible chance to succeed by having the intent of giving them both parents.

 

[damobb2deep]

in light of reading your other thread in here, i can't help but die laughin when i see you ask this homie

Its a legit question.. Cuz so many people have an opinion bout the situation but clown people who are willing 2 help out with the problem..

My situation is different than this in the fact that even tho I'm in the middle about bein in eather of those childrens lives cuz I love those women and have had a relationship with them prior... But there are niggas who meet a woman and she has a year plus old and needs that father figure but niggas don't step up cuz "its not they problem" which is true but then complain when the kids become bad as hell..

 

[Mdizzle9000]

Fathers aren't NEEDED. Neither are mothers, for that matter. A single parent can raise a child to adulthood sufficiently. But should you CHOOSE to be a single parent ahead of time? Negative. At least give a child the best possible chance to succeed by having the intent of giving them both parents.

basically. i aint gon chop my left hand off just because i feel i could get by with only 1

 

[thehonorable]

Yeah so I can have another person attempt to rob me.

Nah. Im good on that.

 

[gorilla]

Question if this is such a problem why is it looked down upon 4 another man 2 step up and be in that childs life even if it aint his??

That's only a bad thing to fakes ass niggaz on some "yo you bein a sucka/simp" bullshit.

I ain't ain't be super-substitute dad, but ain't nothin wrong at all with being a positive influence on a childs life. They had no say so in coming here into this world

 

[100%Sagittarius]

i guess single motherhood is becoming fashionable nowadays.... and i can see it being frustrating/scary for the women who want children and a father for her children but were raised without knowing their father and/or have been bombarded with stats/tv specials/studies on the growing number of single mothers out there especially in the black community. i mean you can say stop fucking these dead beats but at the same time every one makes mistakes and sometimes the "good man" may not be a good father so what is a woman to do?

and than women are getting artificially inseminated because they want children but haven't found the right guy....are they in the wrong/selfish? it's complicated

This lady at my mom's job got her ex-boyfriend to impregnate her, and she talks about it like it's nothing. She wants nothing from him, she just wants a baby.

My dad was around when I was growing up..... he wasn't a great influence on my childhood. Then again, my brother has been raised by my dad without a mother in the home for most of his life and he's doing pretty well. So IDK

 

[Huruma]

Maybe most children are better off with two (or more) parents than one, all other factors being equal, but I don't think children need fathers specifically. All of the stereotypically male traits that a father is supposed to be able to teach his son are possessed by many women (and many men are capable of nurturing children the way that women are expected to).

 

[thehonorable]

Maybe most children are better off with two (or more) parents than one, all other factors being equal, but I don't think children need fathers specifically. All of the stereotypically male traits that a father is supposed to be able to teach his son are possessed by many women (and many men are capable of nurturing children the way that women are expected to).

Aight man. Keep thinking that.

And I like how everyone is just assuming the father is the bad guy. Really.

Majority of Domesitc abuse comes from mothers. If you want to make it IC real ask Blackrain.

 

[Conscious__Nkechi]

Aight man. Keep thinking that.

And I like how everyone is just assuming the father is the bad guy. Really.

Majority of Domesitc abuse comes from mothers. If you want to make it IC real ask Blackrain.

Why would one even choose to argue this point considering this matter can be argued either way 'til the very death of it?
Seems pointless more so being that neither argument can be "won" considering that either side pf the equation is valid.

 

[thehonorable]

Why would one even choose to argue this point considering this matter can be argued either way 'til the very death of it?

Seems pointless more so being that neither argument can be "won" considering that either side pf the equation is valid.

NOt to be argued becuase that statement is fact. 60% to be specific.

Its terrible but its eye opening. Moms are certainly being relegated as automatically being the good parent.

 

[Conscious__Nkechi]

NOt to be argued becuase that statement is fact. 60% to be specific.

Its terrible but its eye opening. Moms are certainly being relegated as automatically being the good parent.

I do get your point which I do not disagree with at all, just don't think it ties in very well with the general idea of this thread.
Domestic abuse of course can be argued both ways but it just so happens that a double standard has been applied in our society where a woman abusing a man isn't considered as severe nor is much attention paid to the male victims of said abuse. It's almost a laughing matter for many when a man is abused by the opposite sex which is inexcusable. Now we are taking this in a slightly different direction.

So many variables could be brought to the table in an attempt to prove that a 2 parent home isn't necessarily ideal or healthy for a child which is why I found this to be out of place. Of course it can be circumstantial. Does a one parent home lessen the worth or purpose of the successful product of that home? Of course not but ideally, the end result of reproducing was intended for two individuals to take on the responsibility for a reason.

Single parenthood has become accepted and even desirable for some on a disturbing level.

 

[**2sweet**]

Maybe most children are better off with two (or more) parents than one, all other factors being equal, but I don't think children need fathers specifically. All of the stereotypically male traits that a father is supposed to be able to teach his son are possessed by many women (and many men are capable of nurturing children the way that women are expected to).

Not to be harsh but wth is that why their are so many lost skinny jean wearing homotional niggas running round here now...oh hell nah alot of niggas to #weak these days.

 

[Conscious__Nkechi]

Maybe most children are better off with two (or more) parents than one, all other factors being equal, but I don't think children need fathers specifically. All of the stereotypically male traits that a father is supposed to be able to teach his son are possessed by many women (and many men are capable of nurturing children the way that women are expected to).

Sigh.
Some folks just don't get it.

 

[Copper]

I never understand our community and why it seems like so many strive to be single parents??

 

[harry knucklez]

These bitches are on some Wicker Man shit.

 

[MsVShantrell]

Fathers are incredibly important in the development of children. Yes, a woman can raise a child on her own, but that doesn't mean it should be done. Similarly, a man can raise a child on his own, but that doesn't mean it should be done. I think men and women provide something unique. And if a woman ever gets to the point where she think that we can give a child everything that he/she needs to be as emotionally, mentally, and spiritually sound as possible-- not recognizing that there are some limitations-- then she probably doesn't deserve to have a man anyways. That's "independent" gone wrong. Period. Men, we need you.. But we need you all to rise up to the occasion and handle your responsibilities like men. Provide, protect, and profess love to your children. Period.

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[Copper]

if you could have a stable well-rounded house with a mother and father why would u have it any other way??