I would never marry a broke man .......

[LPast]

Only reason niggas refuse to date fat women, is because they thick...

 

[Shizlansky]

Nothing wrong with that.

With that being said, fat ppl are the worst and shouldn't be picky.

 

[1of1]

@Jamaica

If someone calls living check to check comfortable then they're likely complacent. Check to check = if something happens that stops this next check from coming I'm in deep shit = on the brink of a crash and burn. The Fire should be lit under your ass, you should feel the heat on the back of your neck.

If an emergency arises you'll be in a world of trouble if you're living check to check, because in your head you're already allocating dollars from your next check to things that have to be paid for before you even get it.

 

[fiat_money]

I see nothing wrong at all with ms southern said.That's her standards.. Some men refuse to date fat women. Some women refuse to date broke men.. It is what it is.. If somebody throws fits and punches and get offended..because of what that person said.. That's on you..Take it how ever you want it.. If It doesn't pertain to you.. touche..

...

it has nothing to do with taking offense....it's solely about considering those statements to be shallow....

i mean if you don't see them as shallow statements, then you're really not looking at it objectively enough....

the basis of the debate is not considering a person worthy of marriage for something essentially viewed as superficial...

Bruh, you just subjectively interpreted a statement, and said if he doesn't agree with you he's not looking at it objectively enough.

Any preference can be considered "shallow" or "superficial". An ex-con/fat/dumb/stuttering/child molesting nigga could also say it's "shallow" or "superficial" not to marry them just because they're an ex-con/fat/dumb/stuttering/child molesting nigga.

Shit's subjective as fuck.

it sounds like you're pretty much explaining and supporting my argument....

the solution i'm presenting is to further explain ones argument to avoid being unintentionally viewed in a certain way......

that was her complaint, that's what we were debating.....

what i explained was that her statement could easily be considered a blanket statement and taken the wrong way.....

and the defense was that it shouldn't be so, and only a person who took offense would have a problem with it....

both of those can be viewed as subjective points of views.....

so my original solution of further explanation and dialogue can pretty much prevent that from happening...

basically when you make blunt subjective statements, you leave the door open for people to make blunt subjective assumptions

cause and effect, me explaining that doesn't mean i'm defending the assumption, i'm just understanding how it would lead to that...

Nah, fault lies with those who make incorrect assumptions.

I could say "I like black women."; this may lead people to assume that I hate women other races. Then I could amend by saying, "I like women of all races, but I prefer black women."; however, this may lead one to assume that I'm a racist that thinks other women are inferior to black women. Then, I could go even further to say "I like women of all races equally."; but even in this case, black women may assume I'm a coon who secretly wants a white woman. Additionally, any explanations I make to attempt to clarify could also be assumed to be me making excuses or backing down from my initial statement.

^^^Unintended assumptions can always be made, and people can consider any stating of a preference as a "blanket statement" causing them to take it the wrong way.

It's the active process of them forming a baseless conclusion that leads to such things happening.

 

[Shizlansky]

Why yall keep comparing broke women to fat women?

Shit ain't the same.

 

[a.mann]

NOTHING WORSE THAN A CONCEITED FAT FUCK

 

[ms.jones]

Someone who lives paycheck to paycheck with no ambition

Someone who job hops becasue they can't learn skills to stick something out

A grown man who works at places like McD's or Subway

Someone with no savings.. .or 401k or some kind of retirement. To me it shows no plans for the future

All of those = broke

@MorganFreemanKing

thanks for quoting this....

i feel like if this was her original argument.. thread goes 7 -8 posts......... 10 posts tops....

like 4 people woulda typed cosign...

one person woulda said something like "no ambition in life is the WOAT"

someone woulda said "who want start a life with someone who don't want to do shit with theirs??"

then the inevitable



"

^^^^^^this

/thread"

That's the thing though, Du. She doesn't have to preface what her preference is just to appease the broke nigga who took offense. Ok, we get it, broke and its definition subjective. However, we all.are adults here, and can pretty much agree on what broke means.

Bottom line is, that's her choice. We are talking marriage here. A lifetime of brokeness. We aren't talking the bumps that may happen later, we are talking the dating, and you STILL ain't got your shit together by this point issue. After the lust and infatuation wears off, reality sets in. Being broke, with another broke person does not make the love stronger.

 

[1of1]

@a.mann how so? That fat bitches character doesn't matter anyway unless you were considering interacting with her fat ass.

 

[Shizlansky]

This thread is funny.

 

[Sage Wonder]

Someone who lives paycheck to paycheck with no ambition

Someone who job hops becasue they can't learn skills to stick something out

A grown man who works at places like McD's or Subway

Someone with no savings.. .or 401k or some kind of retirement. To me it shows no plans for the future

All of those = broke

@MorganFreemanKing

thanks for quoting this....

i feel like if this was her original argument.. thread goes 7 -8 posts......... 10 posts tops....

like 4 people woulda typed cosign...

one person woulda said something like "no ambition in life is the WOAT"

someone woulda said "who want start a life with someone who don't want to do shit with theirs??"

then the inevitable



"

^^^^^^this

/thread"

That's funny, because I could of sworn on page 3 of this 9 page thread I said this

It's really not this serious. She said what is universally accepted, yet without prudence, and broke men got offended. That is all.

/thread

Thread should have ended long time ago. Except two sides of the story are trying to prove a point that everybody already knows anyway.

 

[Dupac]

I see nothing wrong at all with ms southern said.That's her standards.. Some men refuse to date fat women. Some women refuse to date broke men.. It is what it is.. If somebody throws fits and punches and get offended..because of what that person said.. That's on you..Take it how ever you want it.. If It doesn't pertain to you.. touche..

...

it has nothing to do with taking offense....it's solely about considering those statements to be shallow....

i mean if you don't see them as shallow statements, then you're really not looking at it objectively enough....

the basis of the debate is not considering a person worthy of marriage for something essentially viewed as superficial...

Bruh, you just subjectively interpreted a statement, and said if he doesn't agree with you he's not looking at it objectively enough.

Any preference can be considered "shallow" or "superficial". An ex-con/fat/dumb/stuttering/child molesting nigga could also say it's "shallow" or "superficial" not to marry them just because they're an ex-con/fat/dumb/stuttering/child molesting nigga.

Shit's subjective as fuck.

it sounds like you're pretty much explaining and supporting my argument....

the solution i'm presenting is to further explain ones argument to avoid being unintentionally viewed in a certain way......

that was her complaint, that's what we were debating.....

what i explained was that her statement could easily be considered a blanket statement and taken the wrong way.....

and the defense was that it shouldn't be so, and only a person who took offense would have a problem with it....

both of those can be viewed as subjective points of views.....

so my original solution of further explanation and dialogue can pretty much prevent that from happening...

basically when you make blunt subjective statements, you leave the door open for people to make blunt subjective assumptions

cause and effect, me explaining that doesn't mean i'm defending the assumption, i'm just understanding how it would lead to that...

Nah, fault lies with those who make incorrect assumptions.

I could say "I like black women."; this may lead people to assume that I hate women other races. Then I could amend by saying, "I like women of all races, but I prefer black women."; however, this may lead one to assume that I'm a racist that thinks other women are inferior to black women. Then, I could go even further to say "I like women of all races equally."; but even in this case, black women may assume I'm a coon who secretly wants a white woman. Additionally, any explanations I make to attempt to clarify could also be assumed to be me making excuses or backing down from my initial statement.

^^^Unintended assumptions can always be made, and people can consider any stating of a preference as a "blanket statement" causing them to take it the wrong way.

It's the active process of them forming a baseless conclusion that leads to such things happening.

hence either discussing something until a mutual understanding has taken place, or at the least they tire of explaining themselves....

 

[Dupac]

Someone who lives paycheck to paycheck with no ambition

Someone who job hops becasue they can't learn skills to stick something out

A grown man who works at places like McD's or Subway

Someone with no savings.. .or 401k or some kind of retirement. To me it shows no plans for the future

All of those = broke

@MorganFreemanKing

thanks for quoting this....

i feel like if this was her original argument.. thread goes 7 -8 posts......... 10 posts tops....

like 4 people woulda typed cosign...

one person woulda said something like "no ambition in life is the WOAT"

someone woulda said "who want start a life with someone who don't want to do shit with theirs??"

then the inevitable



"

^^^^^^this

/thread"

That's the thing though, Du. She doesn't have to preface what her preference is just to appease the broke nigga who took offense. Ok, we get it, broke and its definition subjective. However, we all.are adults here, and can pretty much agree on what broke means.

Bottom line is, that's her choice. We are talking marriage here. A lifetime of brokeness. We aren't talking the bumps that may happen later, we are talking the dating, and you STILL ain't got your shit together by this point issue. After the lust and infatuation wears off, reality sets in. Being broke, with another broke person does not make the love stronger.

she felt some type of way about the assumption her statement created. so it woulda served her purpose better to go in greater detail....

everybody ain't built like that to just say something and not really care about how it's taken.. some people want their point to be taken in fairly...

 

[fiat_money]

I see nothing wrong at all with ms southern said.That's her standards.. Some men refuse to date fat women. Some women refuse to date broke men.. It is what it is.. If somebody throws fits and punches and get offended..because of what that person said.. That's on you..Take it how ever you want it.. If It doesn't pertain to you.. touche..

...

it has nothing to do with taking offense....it's solely about considering those statements to be shallow....

i mean if you don't see them as shallow statements, then you're really not looking at it objectively enough....

the basis of the debate is not considering a person worthy of marriage for something essentially viewed as superficial...

Bruh, you just subjectively interpreted a statement, and said if he doesn't agree with you he's not looking at it objectively enough.

Any preference can be considered "shallow" or "superficial". An ex-con/fat/dumb/stuttering/child molesting nigga could also say it's "shallow" or "superficial" not to marry them just because they're an ex-con/fat/dumb/stuttering/child molesting nigga.

Shit's subjective as fuck.

it sounds like you're pretty much explaining and supporting my argument....

the solution i'm presenting is to further explain ones argument to avoid being unintentionally viewed in a certain way......

that was her complaint, that's what we were debating.....

what i explained was that her statement could easily be considered a blanket statement and taken the wrong way.....

and the defense was that it shouldn't be so, and only a person who took offense would have a problem with it....

both of those can be viewed as subjective points of views.....

so my original solution of further explanation and dialogue can pretty much prevent that from happening...

basically when you make blunt subjective statements, you leave the door open for people to make blunt subjective assumptions

cause and effect, me explaining that doesn't mean i'm defending the assumption, i'm just understanding how it would lead to that...

Nah, fault lies with those who make incorrect assumptions.

I could say "I like black women."; this may lead people to assume that I hate women other races. Then I could amend by saying, "I like women of all races, but I prefer black women."; however, this may lead one to assume that I'm a racist that thinks other women are inferior to black women. Then, I could go even further to say "I like women of all races equally."; but even in this case, black women may assume I'm a coon who secretly wants a white woman. Additionally, any explanations I make to attempt to clarify could also be assumed to be me making excuses or backing down from my initial statement.

^^^Unintended assumptions can always be made, and people can consider any stating of a preference as a "blanket statement" causing them to take it the wrong way.

It's the active process of them forming a baseless conclusion that leads to such things happening.

hence either discussing something until a mutual understanding has taken place, or at the least they tire of explaining themselves....

Or, everyone can save time and energy if people simply don't jump to conclusions.

 

[5th Letter]

@Jamaica

If someone calls living check to check comfortable then they're likely complacent. Check to check = if something happens that stops this next check from coming I'm in deep shit = on the brink of a crash and burn. The Fire should be lit under your ass, you should feel the heat on the back of your neck.

If an emergency arises you'll be in a world of trouble if you're living check to check, because in your head you're already allocating dollars from your next check to things that have to be paid for before you even get it.

Everybody in that situation is different though. If you make say 700 a week. You can't live comfortable off that? I'm not saying that it's okay to be complacent though.

 

[kzzl]

Still with this nonsense? If you don't date "such and such" for whatever reason that's your business. Anything a person says can offend somebody, somewhere. But that don't mean you have to walk on egg shells because of other peoples feelings.

But this shit is funny. I see threads about only dating white women, bashing overweight girls, bashing single mothers, and these chicks ain't tripping bout it. I see threads of dudes crying bout life as broke niggas and nice guys. Y'all come out in droves with the tissue ready. Over analyzing and talking bout could of's, would of's, and should of's. I don't go in the powder room, maybe they whine about that shit in there. But if not, shame on some of you dudes getting more sensitive than the girls.

But the shit is common sense, ya'll. If a person is a hindrance to you, don't bother with them. Financially, physically, mentally, or spirituality. You never let bitch ass niggas ride.

 

[ms.jones]

Someone who lives paycheck to paycheck with no ambition

Someone who job hops becasue they can't learn skills to stick something out

A grown man who works at places like McD's or Subway

Someone with no savings.. .or 401k or some kind of retirement. To me it shows no plans for the future

All of those = broke

@MorganFreemanKing

thanks for quoting this....

i feel like if this was her original argument.. thread goes 7 -8 posts......... 10 posts tops....

like 4 people woulda typed cosign...

one person woulda said something like "no ambition in life is the WOAT"

someone woulda said "who want start a life with someone who don't want to do shit with theirs??"

then the inevitable



"

^^^^^^this

/thread"

That's the thing though, Du. She doesn't have to preface what her preference is just to appease the broke nigga who took offense. Ok, we get it, broke and its definition subjective. However, we all.are adults here, and can pretty much agree on what broke means.

Bottom line is, that's her choice. We are talking marriage here. A lifetime of brokeness. We aren't talking the bumps that may happen later, we are talking the dating, and you STILL ain't got your shit together by this point issue. After the lust and infatuation wears off, reality sets in. Being broke, with another broke person does not make the love stronger.

she felt some type of way about the assumption her statement created. so it woulda served her purpose better to go in greater detail....

everybody ain't built like that to just say something and not really care about how it's taken.. some people want their point to be taken in fairly...

But she didn't care to address it with the nigga who took offense. She addressed it with her man, whom understood clearly what she meant. She just wanted to know why would someone get offended, unless it was true.. so again, don't take offense unless it applies.

All that its shallow, and its a red flag.....nah, thats for a person to believe if they are insecure about their own situation. If being honest is shallow, then we are all pretty vain at times.

 

[MorganFreemanKing]

Someone who lives paycheck to paycheck with no ambition

Someone who job hops becasue they can't learn skills to stick something out

A grown man who works at places like McD's or Subway

Someone with no savings.. .or 401k or some kind of retirement. To me it shows no plans for the future

All of those = broke

@MorganFreemanKing

thanks for quoting this....

i feel like if this was her original argument.. thread goes 7 -8 posts......... 10 posts tops....

like 4 people woulda typed cosign...

one person woulda said something like "no ambition in life is the WOAT"

someone woulda said "who want start a life with someone who don't want to do shit with theirs??"

then the inevitable



"

^^^^^^this

/thread"

glad i could help but that's not the point i was making. the word she used described a temporary circumstance. the definition she gave was for a detrimental and perpetual condition.

 

[1of1]

@Jamaica its all relative to your expenses. If you're not making progress, ie able to build some savings, I don't understand how you could feel comfortable. Just getting by (check to check) means you're definitely taking care of yourself for now, but I wouldn't describe it as comfortable.

 

[Dupac]

Someone who lives paycheck to paycheck with no ambition

Someone who job hops becasue they can't learn skills to stick something out

A grown man who works at places like McD's or Subway

Someone with no savings.. .or 401k or some kind of retirement. To me it shows no plans for the future

All of those = broke

@MorganFreemanKing

thanks for quoting this....

i feel like if this was her original argument.. thread goes 7 -8 posts......... 10 posts tops....

like 4 people woulda typed cosign...

one person woulda said something like "no ambition in life is the WOAT"

someone woulda said "who want start a life with someone who don't want to do shit with theirs??"

then the inevitable



"

^^^^^^this

/thread"

That's the thing though, Du. She doesn't have to preface what her preference is just to appease the broke nigga who took offense. Ok, we get it, broke and its definition subjective. However, we all.are adults here, and can pretty much agree on what broke means.

Bottom line is, that's her choice. We are talking marriage here. A lifetime of brokeness. We aren't talking the bumps that may happen later, we are talking the dating, and you STILL ain't got your shit together by this point issue. After the lust and infatuation wears off, reality sets in. Being broke, with another broke person does not make the love stronger.

she felt some type of way about the assumption her statement created. so it woulda served her purpose better to go in greater detail....

everybody ain't built like that to just say something and not really care about how it's taken.. some people want their point to be taken in fairly...

But she didn't care to address it with the nigga who took offense. She addressed it with her man, whom understood clearly what she meant. She just wanted to know why would someone get offended, unless it was true.. so again, don't take offense unless it applies.

All that its shallow, and its a red flag.....nah, thats for a person to believe if they are insecure about their own situation. If being honest is shallow, then we are all pretty vain at times.

naw, i just can't cosign that dismissal...it comes off as lazy forreal...

miscommunication happens all the time...people draw bullshit conclusions all the time ....people get the wrong impressions on others all the time....

that's just how things are.....yea you can chose to not really care about it, ......i personally say tons of shit people receive the wrong way....infact, i feel like right now i'm not using the words to properly convey my point... cuz i feel like you understand..kinda what i'm saying, but not really getting it...

or maybe you do get it and just don't agree with it...

either way..i feel like ms s's explanation in this thread>>>>>>>what she said at the cookout....

i feel like if she explained it the same way to dude she explained it to us, the misunderstanding wouldn't have taken place...

and i truly don't understand what's wrong with avoiding misunderstandings like that if possible...

 

[R.D.]

I think we all can agree that "i would never marry a broke nigga" wouldve been taken better if T/S wasn't fat