How Many of Y'all Have Taken Care of Someone Elses Child, Because of a Relationship?

[Kat]

lol it takes a special type of man to do that, so then why not have a baby with that special man in the first place?? hmmm

Oh stfu Mr Perfect...you've made your point.

 

[CP203]

Their father better be dead in a coffin buried under six feet of dirt and rocks ,for me to even consider taking over the responsibility of his offspring that he help bring in to this world.

my nigga, my point exactly father alive and well and I'm supposed to take up that responsibility LOL

 

[Will Munny]

I've been smart with my genitals so why would I settle for a mate that hasn't been with theirs?

 

[Kat]

I've been smart with my genitals so why would I settle for a mate that hasn't been with theirs?

You haven't been smart with your genitals, you've just gotten lucky.

 

[D. Morgan]

This thread is fucking hilarious

 

[Bussy_Getta]

How bout yall just not get into relationships with bitches/niggas that have kids?!?

And for yall that got kids stop gettin mad cause people don't wanna accept your fucking rugrats.

 

[AP21]

man my nigga CP trippin lol

i understand his pov, but still brah, i find it hard to believe you could be that cold towards a child who had no idea that the sperm that made them came from an aint shit dude...

now if your beef is with the female, then i agree with you there, but how many times have you seen kids that make something out of themselves give their stepfather props for being their real dad??

 

[(Nope)]

My last relationship was with a woman that had kids. I have the feeling a lot of men have come and gone and in their lives, so I tried to make it work, but at whatever point I couldn't deal with their mother.

I'm across the country from where I was, so I Skype with the kids, send photos, and keep it friendly with the mother. She's real vindictive and will cut the kids off from their own father if she's feeling so inclined--so every now and then I have to deal with some bullshit from her.

I had a situation prior to that where a friend of mines husband had died and she went off the deep-end. She'd ask me to come over and then she'd go out and get fucked up, so I was taking care of her son and when she got home, I'd sit with her until she cried herself to sleep. That shit was tough, but my money was coming from the street at the time, so I had the time to be there and to keep it honest I was able to rationalize the bullshit I was doing because of it. She got it together tho and everything is cool, but her son is still confused about what happened to his father.

 

[CP203]

man my nigga CP trippin lol

i understand his pov, but still brah, i find it hard to believe you could be that cold towards a child who had no idea that the sperm that made them came from an aint shit dude...

now if your beef is with the female, then i agree with you there, but how many times have you seen kids that make something out of themselves give their stepfather props for being their real dad??

bruh how i am tripping, nobody can tell me how that kid is my responsibility, its a choice but don't come with that real man shit, a real man takes care of "his" responsibilities

 

[Arya Tsaddiq]

How bout yall just not get into relationships with bitches/niggas that have kids?!?

And for yall that got kids stop gettin mad cause people don't wanna accept your fucking rugrats.

Basically this lol.

No point of arguing for real. Its really a matter of preference. But don't catch feelings behind it.

 

[desertrain10]

Their father better be dead in a coffin buried under six feet of dirt and rocks ,for me to even consider taking over the responsibility of his offspring that he help bring in to this world.

my nigga, my point exactly father alive and well and I'm supposed to take up that responsibility LOL

So let's say in the future you meet a divorced mother of a young boy

Otherwise, she's your ideal woman

Her ex husband and father of her child lives out of state... but he is involved in the childs life in every way

You get serious with the mother you're not going to try to establish a relationship with the boy?

What?

Or you are going to past up some one you potentially can have a great relationship with

 

[CP203]

Their father better be dead in a coffin buried under six feet of dirt and rocks ,for me to even consider taking over the responsibility of his offspring that he help bring in to this world.

my nigga, my point exactly father alive and well and I'm supposed to take up that responsibility LOL

So let's say in the future you meet a divorced mother of a young boy

Otherwise, she's your ideal woman

Her ex husband and father of her child lives out of state... but he is involved in the childs life in every way

You get serious with the mother you're not going to try to establish a relationship with the boy?

What?

Or you are going to past up some one you potentially can have a great relationship with

nope and companionship don't matter to me, only child thats perfectly fine with being alone

 

[Kat]

Sad af.

 

[Noble Al Lee]

Trial & error. I tried being with a woman with a 9 yr old daughter. I really tried. Learned that it wasnt for me. I just didnt have that "love gene" or whatever thats all inclusive. I think it's an evolutionary thing. Males were NOT taking care of offspring that werent their own. It wouldve been counterintuitive to making sure YOUR bloodline passes on. So you cant say a man is weak for not wanting to accept a womans child. Is it wrong? Possibly in today's modern lifestyle, but doesnt make anyone right or wrong. I respect the brothers that do it, but they dont make u more of a man than the ones that do.

 

[Cinco]

Can't do it.

I know some fine single moms too. Be smashing.

But can't take it past that.

Would be walking w the stale face like

 

[CP203]

Trial & error. I tried being with a woman with a 9 yr old daughter. I really tried. Learned that it wasnt for me. I just didnt have that "love gene" or whatever thats all inclusive. I think it's an evolutionary thing. Males were NOT taking care of offspring that werent their own. It wouldve been counterintuitive to making sure YOUR bloodline passes on. So you cant say a man is weak for not wanting to accept a womans child. Is it wrong? Possibly in today's modern lifestyle, but doesnt make anyone right or wrong. I respect the brothers that do it, but they dont make u more of a man than the ones that do.

exactly and smh its birds out there with kids that don't even know their real father, but wanna talk that real man can take care of someone else kid

 

[(Nope)]

Most single women aren't looking for a father to their children and don't need to be saved, don't let your ego and codependency fuck with you. They might want a man, but not to take care of them and their children. You just need to be honest with what you want from them and throwing game at then smutting out a woman with kids is some fowl shit.

 

[taeboo]

Let me be clear I'm not saying that a man should automatically come in start being step daddy and I don't think there is anything wrong with a man choosing not to date a woman with kids, but I don't see how a man can be in love with a woman yet have absolutely no type of relationship with her child...

 

[jetlifebih]

Yall have no idea what yall are doing to the child with shit like this....the relationship isn't guaranteed, so after step daddy/mommy #3 or uncle/auntie #3 you have a confused ass child

 

[DOPEdweebz]

Can't do it.

I know some fine single moms too. Be smashing.

But can't take it past that.

Would be walking w the stale face like

There's really no future in this...