the shits not zero sum though. your children can be properly cared for and get quality time with you without you take advantage of every money making opportunity that comes your way. i know plenty of cats in the military that are at 20+ years, some who were enlisted and went commissioned at 30+, and they refuse to retire against the wishes of their spouse and children, even though the benefits of remaining on active duty and moving every 2 to 3 years are negligible. at some point people gotta be honest with themselves and admit that their families aren't as high on their list of priorities as they think.
