For all my people here that DON'T have children.

[CapitalB]

Im just waiting on marriage. I know too many of the homies with baby mama problems and I dont want my child going through that. And im not cool with the ready made families these women already have

All kidding aside, A ready made family is not that bad.

You can splurge out of control on the baby daddies child support checks.

I mean she probably wasting it on herself anyway.

Poor kid don't know the difference between Apple Jacks and Apple Jackson's.

If all else fails, you can dip out and do you...take all the freebies you acquired during your stay.... win win.

also these niggas in here complainin about todays women not realizing alot of these single mothers got they wakeup call after having a child..

the woman they lookin for has all the qualities they lookin for outside of the fact they have a child..

niggas really out here lookin for diamonds in the rough..

and sorry to say if u aint shinning nigga u bout as unrealistic as these bitches out here lookin for Mr Perfect..

add to that, nigs gon pretend like some of their mothers didnt meet guys after their dads walked out and they were a ready made family

right!

not even jus on this board but niggas in the street be lowkey bitter these bitches aint pickin them firtst..

i mean thats what young people do..

they experiment.. they make mustakes..

BUT DO THEY LEARN??

niggas be actin like they perfect and a bitch suppose to see them how they see themselves and that aint how life work..

i try and tell niggas u dont want the young dumb naive bitch..

she go break ur heart everytime..

go for the one who knows bullshit when she sees it..

the one who's been through bad so go appreciate the good..

but u cant tell these niggas nothin. lol & smh

real truth to that. The reality of the world tho is at sometime or a nother u gonna be the nigga they really want or the fall back nigga they settling for. Ill be damned if Im the fall back guy taking care or a woman with kids who deep down I know wouldnt want me if life aint humble her with her current with kids and is older status. We can flex and pretend all day but most guys biggest fear is being the man their ole lady settled for. U gotta be comfortable in ur own skin and with ur values and let that be what it is. If that means being single or not having kids ti u meet what u want or if its settleing down with a chick with kids cuz u love her.... Whatever floats u boat.

at the end of the day who gives a fuck tho?!

do u got the bitch?! if anything u got the bitch right where u want her..

but the reality of the situation is niggas lack self confidence.. cause had they not the thought wouldnt even enter they mind.. ESPECIALLY if the bitch aint givin no signs..

niggas see a bitch wit a baby and AUTOMATICALLY assume she jus want him cause she lookin gor someone to take care of they kid..

no nigga..

she's lookin for a man to be with cause she cant afford to make the same mistake twice.. instead of her bein selfish fuckin wit a nigga cause he cute she's bein selfless and wanna fuck wit u cause she see the real nigga in u and is ready to devout herself..

we all come into adulthood brighteyed and bushy tailed..

until when!!? LIFE HUMBLES US..

so we go look at ger bein humbled as a bad thing when we've been humbled in our own personal way as well..

niggas cant have it both ways..

humbled? nigga please. she only got humbled because she had the baby. my uncle is fat as a muthafucka. has a good job, lives broke af, but has cheese in the bank. bitches dont know that. anyway this nigga kept telling me he had this light skinnt chick that was thick as a brick house. i seen her and said no but her daughter was another story. married a famous ball nigga. well i finally seen his ex chick out after they broke up and she was in different clothes and she was thick as a brick house.

after that moment i told that nigga she would of never messed with you if she didnt have two kids. even though those kids were by a nigga who turned into a crack head....but still. she wasnt fucking with that nigga if she didnt have kids. shes light skinnt. she has options.

he got old and fat..

time humbled him two kids humbled her..

two humbled muthafuckas fuckin..

if he was young and fit would he have been fuckin wit her??

 

[ineedpussy]

What i said was simple

If you can provide what you demand then there shouldn't be any noise from the peanut gallery

And the fact that a singke woman with no kids is rare says something about society.

Why boss in here getting his red bottoms scuffed over that is on him

u know whats funny.. bad bitches thats singlewit no kids really aint that hard to find..

i was jus fuckin on one this past weekend in Utah..

@"EmM HoLLa." touched on it cause i wasnt go say it to avoid hurtin feelings.. but seein as ur already in urs..

them bitches is out there..

u jus aint that nigga.

so how do i become that nigga bruh?

 

[CapitalB]

What i said was simple

If you can provide what you demand then there shouldn't be any noise from the peanut gallery

And the fact that a singke woman with no kids is rare says something about society.

Why boss in here getting his red bottoms scuffed over that is on him

u know whats funny.. bad bitches thats singlewit no kids really aint that hard to find..

i was jus fuckin on one this past weekend in Utah..

@"EmM HoLLa." touched on it cause i wasnt go say it to avoid hurtin feelings.. but seein as ur already in urs..

them bitches is out there..

u jus aint that nigga.

so how do i become that nigga bruh?

u 57..

its already over for u bruh..

 

[ineedpussy]

im 57 and i still dont have no kids. i cry everynight because it is probably over for me. fuck that.....if you can have kids in your early thirties, then do it. youll never get time back and now all i do is sob at night. dont do it....have some litter. i still hope for me though. you know.....maybe a chick in her late twenties. i got to have hope, because thats all i got.

If you're being serious, then wow that is rare. My mom just turned 57 and now has grand-kids. As a matter of fact most of the 50 somethings I know have grand-kids.

yeah it hurts. but i have faith

 

[ineedpussy]

What i said was simple

If you can provide what you demand then there shouldn't be any noise from the peanut gallery

And the fact that a singke woman with no kids is rare says something about society.

Why boss in here getting his red bottoms scuffed over that is on him

u know whats funny.. bad bitches thats singlewit no kids really aint that hard to find..

i was jus fuckin on one this past weekend in Utah..

@"EmM HoLLa." touched on it cause i wasnt go say it to avoid hurtin feelings.. but seein as ur already in urs..

them bitches is out there..

u jus aint that nigga.

so how do i become that nigga bruh?

u 57..

its already over for u bruh..

damn...boss that is deep....well for one last hooah....lay some game on me so i can "be" that nigga these bitches want. n/h. i just need to know that part so i can die happy.

 

[Copper]

@BOSSExcellence

 

[EmM HoLLa.]

to all the people saying they have the same amount of freedom they did before they have kids, not sure i buy it. and i'm not talking about travelling or extravagant shit at all. can you decided to just up and leave at the spur of the moment without getting a babysitter? can you go out of town without getting your friends or family to watch your kid? do you get woken up at the ass-crack of dawn on the weekends cuz they wanna eat? can you decided to do some day drinking on a whim one weekend? the answer to all of that is no. i can decide right now that i'd rather go to a restaurant that isn't chucky cheese instead of making dinner

lets not even get started on how much kids talk, how much of your attention they demand. you don't get a second off when your kid is around. unless it's men who usually don't do as much of the caretaking as women do, i don't see how you can say having a kid doesn't eat up a large portion of your time and energy. i mean if you want to undertake that task, more power to you. but i'm perfectly happy not having to do any of that shit. and if you get fulfillment out of being a parent, great, but that doesn't mean everyone will or that that is the only way to get fulfillment out of life.

As u mentioned men don't have to deal with the burden of parenthood like women do. It's a sacrifice for sure.. And you do have to be more calculated in how you do things. There is an adjustment.. But for the most part I can do what I've always been able to do.. As I mentioned in an earlier post. It takes a village... Extended family is very important. My parents are retired and they'd love nothing more than to watch thier grand child.. So it works out..

The overall sentiment some of the parents are trying to make is that yes there may be additional steps associated with doing certain things but for the most part they can all be done.. Children aren't as much of a hindrance as folks would like to portray them.. Especially as they get older..

 

[Shuffington]

Im just waiting on marriage. I know too many of the homies with baby mama problems and I dont want my child going through that. And im not cool with the ready made families these women already have

All kidding aside, A ready made family is not that bad.

You can splurge out of control on the baby daddies child support checks.

I mean she probably wasting it on herself anyway.

Poor kid don't know the difference between Apple Jacks and Apple Jackson's.

If all else fails, you can dip out and do you...take all the freebies you acquired during your stay.... win win.

I can't co-sign this.. How is this a win? How can you feel accomplished taking from a single Mom.. Or from her ex?

Real men don't take from women.. Let alone take from her ex.. Real men grind and get they own bread.. 10 toes down..

How can you not cosign this wisdom.... first of all... Miss me with the "real men" talk.... I don't understand that talk.

Nextly,You're not taking anything from ol girl with child....

My Dude, ......... you are the gift.

She doesn't have to worry about you having a wild crazy baby moms thats steadily trying to rape your pockets, because, whats hers is hers and whats yours is hers... and she can finally say she found a guy that she doesn't have to split with another woman... at least financially

All Jokes aside, I hear single moms talking about how they don't want a dude with kids...

what???

 

[2stepz_ahead]

to all the people saying they have the same amount of freedom they did before they have kids, not sure i buy it. and i'm not talking about travelling or extravagant shit at all. can you decided to just up and leave at the spur of the moment without getting a babysitter? can you go out of town without getting your friends or family to watch your kid? do you get woken up at the ass-crack of dawn on the weekends cuz they wanna eat? can you decided to do some day drinking on a whim one weekend? the answer to all of that is no. i can decide right now that i'd rather go to a restaurant that isn't chucky cheese instead of making dinner

lets not even get started on how much kids talk, how much of your attention they demand. you don't get a second off when your kid is around. unless it's men who usually don't do as much of the caretaking as women do, i don't see how you can say having a kid doesn't eat up a large portion of your time and energy. i mean if you want to undertake that task, more power to you. but i'm perfectly happy not having to do any of that shit. and if you get fulfillment out of being a parent, great, but that doesn't mean everyone will or that that is the only way to get fulfillment out of life.

As u mentioned men don't have to deal with the burden of parenthood like women do. It's a sacrifice for sure.. And you do have to be more calculated in how you do things. There is an adjustment.. But for the most part I can do what I've always been able to do.. As I mentioned in an earlier post. It takes a village... Extended family is very important. My parents are retired and they'd love nothing more than to watch thier grand child.. So it works out..

The overall sentiment some of the parents are trying to make is that yes there may be additional steps associated with doing certain things but for the most part they can all be done.. Children aren't as much of a hindrance as folks would like to portray them.. Especially as they get older..

I beg to differ.

I raised my kids more than their mothers did. I did everything..... swim class, girl scout. instrument lessons, period dinner to celebrate her womsnhood, homework, cook dinner. pack lunch, buy groceries, parent teacher meetings....I did it all while building an empire, holding together a marraige an navigating the world being a black man.

I did it cuz the mothers could not grow up and wasn't the woman I wanted my kids to be raised by...so I did it myself up until my wife stepped in to help. even then...I did 80% of everything

 

[CapitalB]

to all the people saying they have the same amount of freedom they did before they have kids, not sure i buy it. and i'm not talking about travelling or extravagant shit at all. can you decided to just up and leave at the spur of the moment without getting a babysitter? can you go out of town without getting your friends or family to watch your kid? do you get woken up at the ass-crack of dawn on the weekends cuz they wanna eat? can you decided to do some day drinking on a whim one weekend? the answer to all of that is no. i can decide right now that i'd rather go to a restaurant that isn't chucky cheese instead of making dinner

lets not even get started on how much kids talk, how much of your attention they demand. you don't get a second off when your kid is around. unless it's men who usually don't do as much of the caretaking as women do, i don't see how you can say having a kid doesn't eat up a large portion of your time and energy. i mean if you want to undertake that task, more power to you. but i'm perfectly happy not having to do any of that shit. and if you get fulfillment out of being a parent, great, but that doesn't mean everyone will or that that is the only way to get fulfillment out of life.

As u mentioned men don't have to deal with the burden of parenthood like women do. It's a sacrifice for sure.. And you do have to be more calculated in how you do things. There is an adjustment.. But for the most part I can do what I've always been able to do.. As I mentioned in an earlier post. It takes a village... Extended family is very important. My parents are retired and they'd love nothing more than to watch thier grand child.. So it works out..

The overall sentiment some of the parents are trying to make is that yes there may be additional steps associated with doing certain things but for the most part they can all be done.. Children aren't as much of a hindrance as folks would like to portray them.. Especially as they get older..

I beg to differ.

I raised my kids more than their mothers did. I did everything..... swim class, girl scout. instrument lessons, period dinner to celebrate her womsnhood, homework, cook dinner. pack lunch, buy groceries, parent teacher meetings....I did it all while building an empire, holding together a marraige an navigating the world being a black man.

I did it cuz the mothers could not grow up and wasn't the woman I wanted my kids to be raised by...so I did it myself up until my wife stepped in to help. even then...I did 80% of everything

im glad i kept readin and saw the bolded cause i was jus about to say u did all that cause u chose to have kids wit some aint shit bitches. lol

what EmM said was correct..

thats how its suppose to be..

but in the same breath u suppose to have kids wit someone worth a damn. lol

 

[CapitalB]

Im just waiting on marriage. I know too many of the homies with baby mama problems and I dont want my child going through that. And im not cool with the ready made families these women already have

All kidding aside, A ready made family is not that bad.

You can splurge out of control on the baby daddies child support checks.

I mean she probably wasting it on herself anyway.

Poor kid don't know the difference between Apple Jacks and Apple Jackson's.

If all else fails, you can dip out and do you...take all the freebies you acquired during your stay.... win win.

I can't co-sign this.. How is this a win? How can you feel accomplished taking from a single Mom.. Or from her ex?

Real men don't take from women.. Let alone take from her ex.. Real men grind and get they own bread.. 10 toes down..

How can you not cosign this wisdom.... first of all... Miss me with the "real men" talk.... I don't understand that talk.

Nextly,You're not taking anything from ol girl with child....

My Dude, ......... you are the gift.

She doesn't have to worry about you having a wild crazy baby moms thats steadily trying to rape your pockets, because, whats hers is hers and whats yours is hers... and she can finally say she found a guy that she doesn't have to split with another woman... at least financially

All Jokes aside, I hear single moms talking about how they don't want a dude with kids...

what???

lol this nigga said "i dont understand that talk" hahahah

im dead..

 

[EmM HoLLa.]

Lol.. Yo @Shuffington you know u slime lmao.. Own your slimyness Hahaha.. You still my nigga tho..

As far as a single Mom wanting a man without kids.. Thats on her.. I can't speak on other people's preferences... If a dude is cool with her situation and is happy with her who am I to judge..

 

[EmM HoLLa.]

to all the people saying they have the same amount of freedom they did before they have kids, not sure i buy it. and i'm not talking about travelling or extravagant shit at all. can you decided to just up and leave at the spur of the moment without getting a babysitter? can you go out of town without getting your friends or family to watch your kid? do you get woken up at the ass-crack of dawn on the weekends cuz they wanna eat? can you decided to do some day drinking on a whim one weekend? the answer to all of that is no. i can decide right now that i'd rather go to a restaurant that isn't chucky cheese instead of making dinner

lets not even get started on how much kids talk, how much of your attention they demand. you don't get a second off when your kid is around. unless it's men who usually don't do as much of the caretaking as women do, i don't see how you can say having a kid doesn't eat up a large portion of your time and energy. i mean if you want to undertake that task, more power to you. but i'm perfectly happy not having to do any of that shit. and if you get fulfillment out of being a parent, great, but that doesn't mean everyone will or that that is the only way to get fulfillment out of life.

As u mentioned men don't have to deal with the burden of parenthood like women do. It's a sacrifice for sure.. And you do have to be more calculated in how you do things. There is an adjustment.. But for the most part I can do what I've always been able to do.. As I mentioned in an earlier post. It takes a village... Extended family is very important. My parents are retired and they'd love nothing more than to watch thier grand child.. So it works out..

The overall sentiment some of the parents are trying to make is that yes there may be additional steps associated with doing certain things but for the most part they can all be done.. Children aren't as much of a hindrance as folks would like to portray them.. Especially as they get older..

I beg to differ.

I raised my kids more than their mothers did. I did everything..... swim class, girl scout. instrument lessons, period dinner to celebrate her womsnhood, homework, cook dinner. pack lunch, buy groceries, parent teacher meetings....I did it all while building an empire, holding together a marraige an navigating the world being a black man.

I did it cuz the mothers could not grow up and wasn't the woman I wanted my kids to be raised by...so I did it myself up until my wife stepped in to help. even then...I did 80% of everything

You went above and beyond what you should have had to do.. In some respects you played Mom and Dad.. It's commendable.. You shouldn't have had to do that.. But you made it happen.. Salute for that..

 

[Kat]

to all the people saying they have the same amount of freedom they did before they have kids, not sure i buy it. and i'm not talking about travelling or extravagant shit at all. can you decided to just up and leave at the spur of the moment without getting a babysitter? can you go out of town without getting your friends or family to watch your kid? do you get woken up at the ass-crack of dawn on the weekends cuz they wanna eat? can you decided to do some day drinking on a whim one weekend? the answer to all of that is no. i can decide right now that i'd rather go to a restaurant that isn't chucky cheese instead of making dinner

lets not even get started on how much kids talk, how much of your attention they demand. you don't get a second off when your kid is around. unless it's men who usually don't do as much of the caretaking as women do, i don't see how you can say having a kid doesn't eat up a large portion of your time and energy. i mean if you want to undertake that task, more power to you. but i'm perfectly happy not having to do any of that shit. and if you get fulfillment out of being a parent, great, but that doesn't mean everyone will or that that is the only way to get fulfillment out of life.

Yeah, @Kai .

Some people in here are lying.

They know good and damn well if they had it to do over again............they wouldn't have had kids.

Regret, bitterness, and resentment.

Name names, lil dusty dick.

 

[Stew]

I'll probably get this girl pregnant with how she looks within 5 months and thats fine I always wanted a kid.

Niggas kill me with the whole "I cant do w/e I want or travel to madagascar now with a kid"

First off, You wasnt going anyways

Second, If having a kid stops you from traveling forever than thats your fault

Foh I'm talking to my brother and he tells me every time he travels it's at least 10 gs cuz it's him, his wife and my nephew....and they travel at least 3 times a yr....I aint ready for that type of output

The kid ain't stop him from traveling though. Niggas like STEW think those trips to morrocco that he been planning just gonna stop lol

And how do you know this again? Or u just taking a wild guess at what my life would turn into.

All I'm saying is, kids ain't gonna halt things for you unless you allow it too. Take that bass out your keyboard B lol

:joy: yea, ok. Let us know how that goes when u decide to have one.

 

[2stepz_ahead]

to all the people saying they have the same amount of freedom they did before they have kids, not sure i buy it. and i'm not talking about travelling or extravagant shit at all. can you decided to just up and leave at the spur of the moment without getting a babysitter? can you go out of town without getting your friends or family to watch your kid? do you get woken up at the ass-crack of dawn on the weekends cuz they wanna eat? can you decided to do some day drinking on a whim one weekend? the answer to all of that is no. i can decide right now that i'd rather go to a restaurant that isn't chucky cheese instead of making dinner

lets not even get started on how much kids talk, how much of your attention they demand. you don't get a second off when your kid is around. unless it's men who usually don't do as much of the caretaking as women do, i don't see how you can say having a kid doesn't eat up a large portion of your time and energy. i mean if you want to undertake that task, more power to you. but i'm perfectly happy not having to do any of that shit. and if you get fulfillment out of being a parent, great, but that doesn't mean everyone will or that that is the only way to get fulfillment out of life.

As u mentioned men don't have to deal with the burden of parenthood like women do. It's a sacrifice for sure.. And you do have to be more calculated in how you do things. There is an adjustment.. But for the most part I can do what I've always been able to do.. As I mentioned in an earlier post. It takes a village... Extended family is very important. My parents are retired and they'd love nothing more than to watch thier grand child.. So it works out..

The overall sentiment some of the parents are trying to make is that yes there may be additional steps associated with doing certain things but for the most part they can all be done.. Children aren't as much of a hindrance as folks would like to portray them.. Especially as they get older..

I beg to differ.

I raised my kids more than their mothers did. I did everything..... swim class, girl scout. instrument lessons, period dinner to celebrate her womsnhood, homework, cook dinner. pack lunch, buy groceries, parent teacher meetings....I did it all while building an empire, holding together a marraige an navigating the world being a black man.

I did it cuz the mothers could not grow up and wasn't the woman I wanted my kids to be raised by...so I did it myself up until my wife stepped in to help. even then...I did 80% of everything

im glad i kept readin and saw the bolded cause i was jus about to say u did all that cause u chose to have kids wit some aint shit bitches. lol

what EmM said was correct..

thats how its suppose to be..

but in the same breath u suppose to have kids wit someone worth a damn. lol

i can and will always admit.... I was young an stupid. I can't blame them. I blame myself.

but I also look at life like this. you finish how you start.

I went hard to get the ass, I went hard to get the pussy, I went hard up in the pussy...now I gotta go hard at what came out the pussy. I'm my eyes I had no other option than to give them the best, if I gave my best to get the ass. an if anything tried to stop the train...they get ran the fukk over. I never understood how people can go hard at everything but their kids. but I do now for other reasons.

my kids deserved the best, even with aint shit mothers.

 

[Kat]

I'll probably get this girl pregnant with how she looks within 5 months and thats fine I always wanted a kid.

Niggas kill me with the whole "I cant do w/e I want or travel to madagascar now with a kid"

First off, You wasnt going anyways

Second, If having a kid stops you from traveling forever than thats your fault

Foh I'm talking to my brother and he tells me every time he travels it's at least 10 gs cuz it's him, his wife and my nephew....and they travel at least 3 times a yr....I aint ready for that type of output

The kid ain't stop him from traveling though. Niggas like STEW think those trips to morrocco that he been planning just gonna stop lol

And how do you know this again? Or u just taking a wild guess at what my life would turn into.

All I'm saying is, kids ain't gonna halt things for you unless you allow it too. Take that bass out your keyboard B lol

:joy: yea, ok. Let us know how that goes when u decide to have one.

MFers with kids BEEN in here saying the same shit, you just ain't trying to hear it.

 

[2stepz_ahead]

a woman wanting a man without kids.....cause she wants all his attention, time and money.

them hoes don't want to share

 

[Stew]

I'll probably get this girl pregnant with how she looks within 5 months and thats fine I always wanted a kid.

Niggas kill me with the whole "I cant do w/e I want or travel to madagascar now with a kid"

First off, You wasnt going anyways

Second, If having a kid stops you from traveling forever than thats your fault

Foh I'm talking to my brother and he tells me every time he travels it's at least 10 gs cuz it's him, his wife and my nephew....and they travel at least 3 times a yr....I aint ready for that type of output

The kid ain't stop him from traveling though. Niggas like STEW think those trips to morrocco that he been planning just gonna stop lol

And how do you know this again? Or u just taking a wild guess at what my life would turn into.

All I'm saying is, kids ain't gonna halt things for you unless you allow it too. Take that bass out your keyboard B lol

:joy: yea, ok. Let us know how that goes when u decide to have one.

MFers with kids BEEN in here saying the same shit, you just ain't trying to hear it.

 

[deadeye]

to all the people saying they have the same amount of freedom they did before they have kids, not sure i buy it. and i'm not talking about travelling or extravagant shit at all. can you decided to just up and leave at the spur of the moment without getting a babysitter? can you go out of town without getting your friends or family to watch your kid? do you get woken up at the ass-crack of dawn on the weekends cuz they wanna eat? can you decided to do some day drinking on a whim one weekend? the answer to all of that is no. i can decide right now that i'd rather go to a restaurant that isn't chucky cheese instead of making dinner

lets not even get started on how much kids talk, how much of your attention they demand. you don't get a second off when your kid is around. unless it's men who usually don't do as much of the caretaking as women do, i don't see how you can say having a kid doesn't eat up a large portion of your time and energy. i mean if you want to undertake that task, more power to you. but i'm perfectly happy not having to do any of that shit. and if you get fulfillment out of being a parent, great, but that doesn't mean everyone will or that that is the only way to get fulfillment out of life.

Yeah, @Kai .

Some people in here are lying.

They know good and damn well if they had it to do over again............they wouldn't have had kids.

Regret, bitterness, and resentment.

Name names

@Kat

Stop being so sensitive Kathryn.

That wasn't a personal attack on anyone in particular.

It was more of a general statement regarding "some" people with kids..........on and off the board........who, if they were being honest with themselves, would acknowledge that although they love their kids and consider them a blessing..........they, at times, wish they didn't have them.

There was even a thread on this a few months ago regarding women who secretly wished they didn't have kids, but were too ashamed to admit it publicly.

They told their stories anonymously in some magazine/website or something.