Confessing:Would you Tell?

[blackrain]

What gets me is the effort that is put into attempting to make me out to be plum dumb instead of just some dumb. I see what you are saying..some battles aren't meant to be fought, and I agree with you completely on that. However, LOL.....its like, "Did you REALLY just try to play me?? Fuck outta here"

I get you...I just can do that w/o really getting upset if it's not worth it...i rarely get instantly mad...it really is a process...i sit and decide if whatever happened is worth being mad over, and just how mad I should get...

 

[goat334]

lemme make this clearer..
i think that people , friends, family w.e.
who are aware of cheating and don't do anything about it
make it appear as if it is socially acceptable

if people were to do more to ensure that it was seen as not socially acceptable
then i think it would be less prevalent...

mind u humans are not even monogamous in the first place so that probably has something to do with it

now that u mention it, anyone who enters a monogamous relationship and expects absolute devotion and fidelity is a moron

People have tried that, One of the reasons we are telling you to mind your business and not get involved in other people's relationship. Hell the "Cheaters" dude almost lost his life for poking in somebody else relationship.

 

[Louis Cipher]

lemme make this clearer..

i think that people , friends, family w.e.

who are aware of cheating and don't do anything about it

make it appear as if it is socially acceptable

if people were to do more to ensure that it was seen as not socially acceptable

then i think it would be less prevalent...

mind u humans are not even monogamous in the first place so that probably has something to do with it

now that u mention it, anyone who enters a monogamous relationship and expects absolute devotion and fidelity is a moron

thats a perfect world scenario you painting...

people tend to behave like most of us in here...and just mind our own business

 

[bluntone]

It's not your place to tell the wife. She probably already knows anyway.

 

[Louis Cipher]

there is something to this theory...

yea. there is...its just not realistic...

people tend to mind their own business...

 

[goat334]

I didn't say I'd stop being friends with someone over cheating on their wife either...I said for doing something that would make me lose respect for them...it wasn't specific to cheating and not once did I say I'd tell his wife...but Young Ice actually has a point though...if more people faced those types of social consequences for their actions it would be a deterrent for some to not do it...

So you wouldn't lose respect for your friend if he was cheating on his wife and had outside kids.

Wasn't saying you would run and tell. Was saying that because that's what the thread is about.

 

[Mood Indigo]

there's no way you can raise a child, the child not be yours, and you never find out if that child's real father has been in their life...eventually the son is just going to say something on his own once he gets old enough...Mikko's friend will have to face that shit eventually...as for you would I tell? Nah I may not tell, but I would distance myself from them...regardless of how good of a friend someone may have been to me, if you start getting into some shit that I not only disagree with but don't respect, we can no longer be around each other

Co-sign.........

 

[goat334]

I am young.
And I live in Canada.
maybe it's different here.

Maybe it is. As you get older you may figure it out, or you can go out and test your theory now. Let us know how that works out for you.

 

[Louis Cipher]

I am young.

And I live in Canada.

maybe it's different here.

i doubt it...people are people....

youre just idealistic...nothing wrong with that.

keep it up!

i will say this tho...youre gonna be disappointed a lot in life, most people arent gonna live up to your ideals...

 

[JadaRoss]

damn this room still going

 

[ms.jones]

Do you really think apathy is the answer?

He who passively accepts evil is as much involved in it as he who helps to perpetrate it. He who accepts evil without protesting against it is really cooperating with it.

- mlk

how has minding your own business helped to deter infidelity?

how many times does that approach have to fail before people try something else?

In this case, you would be cool with breaking up a home, just so you can wipe your forehead and be like "Whew!!! I saved the day!!"? We get it, she's a fuck up, and fuck ups do fucked up things...however, is it worth it to YOU to get involved?

 

[Louis Cipher]

Do you really think apathy is the answer?

He who passively accepts evil is as much involved in it as he who helps to perpetrate it. He who accepts evil without protesting against it is really cooperating with it.

- mlk

how has minding your own business helped to deter infidelity?

how many times does that approach have to fail before people try something else?

im not apathetic...in the scenario we've been talking about....i empathize with the husband in this situation. theres a chance my youngest son, might not be mine...so i understand completely.

im am just realistic about my expectations of humanity...nothing surprises me.

i admire your outlook bruh...imi just a little old to look at the world that way.

you should be a politician or something...lol

 

[blakfyahking]

I am young.
And I live in Canada.
maybe it's different here.

ahhhh ok

this explains it

when you're younger it's normal to be idealistic and want to see things as black and white

then one day your whole perspective is fucked cause now you start to see that some things are gray and not so easy to just label

funny thing is I used to be one of them super hard charging mofos who was really religious and could never understand how someone could cheat on their spouse.................that is until I got married LOL

anyways tho, as far as consequences, that's a little too personal for me to really be that worried about where my boy puts his meat.......it really isn't my business if it doesn't affect me directly

that's just the reality of it :shrugs

 

[JadaRoss]

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[goat334]

im not apathetic...in the scenario we've been talking about....i empathize with the husband in this situation. theres a chance my youngest son, might not be mine...so i understand completely.

im am just realistic about my expectations of humanity...nothing surprises me.

i admire your outlook bruh...imi just a little old to look at the world that way.

you should be a politician or something...lol

Or a Police. #crimefightingass

 

[KingJamal]

I think a good question is could u be phony around that guy knowing that the kid ain't his????

Im not a phony person so I couldn't be around the guy smiling in his face and being cool with him like that knowing wat I know.

 

[blackrain]

So you wouldn't lose respect for your friend if he was cheating on his wife and had outside kids.

Wasn't saying you would run and tell. Was saying that because that's what the thread is about.

If he were to confess to her, then no...he manned up and told his wife "Hey, our kids have siblings"...if he tried to keep his kids a secret, then yeah I would lose respect...it's not even the cheating per say...I disagree with it but I wouldn't lose respect for him, unless the nigga is just running around fucking bitches raw 7 days a week, but once you involve neglecting children or trying to hide children to save face, then I lose all respect...pretty much the main thing is, fuck over a child in any way to save yourself and I lose respect for you...

 

[JadaRoss]

You mean just so i can let the man know the truth...
Ignorance is bliss, until you find out you've been deceived and taken advantage of.

everyone fucks up.
but to hide that shit for this long.... thats messed up.

this^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^

 

[ms.jones]

You mean just so i can let the man know the truth...

Ignorance is bliss, until you find out you've been deceived and taken advantage of.

everyone fucks up.

but to hide that shit for this long.... thats messed up.

Yeah, life is like a stupid bitch...you just tolerate it. You don't know what you are going to drive that man to do...he could choke the life outta her, stab her...anything. And then you gotta deal with the fact that you had a hand in that. That's why sometimes, shutting the fuck up is the best option. Things like this is best worked out on its own.

 

[JadaRoss]

I think a good question is could u be phony around that guy knowing that the kid ain't his????

Im not a phony person so I couldn't be around the guy smiling in his face and being cool with him like that knowing wat I know.

to me that's so shiesty you smiling in this person everyday knowing damn well the child aint his