Why are women so quick to jump in relationships?

[atribecalledgabi]

lol @ progress report....well if y'all had sex already then that should lead you to 3/4 of the reason why...

with my bf now we "talked" for roughly a year before we made it official. but we were always around each other with school & living pretty close to each other & everything so we got a lot of time in. but yea it's a vibe thing.

could be cuz i'm young & don't really understand the dating scene but for me a year is kinda long to be dating without any expectation. but then again it depends on how much time you've been spending as well. i wouldn't expect a relationship after a few dates, but if it's been like 10+ i don't think a conversation about it would be outa line.

 

[-Vincenzo-]

one year is a bit long my nigga but i fully understand the rest of what you said.

and i wouldn't get into a relationship at all with a woman that practices the "fuck first ask questions last" approach.

 

[-Vincenzo-]

lol @ progress report....well if y'all had sex already then that should lead you to 3/4 of the reason why...

with my bf now we "talked" for roughly a year before we made it official. but we were always around each other with school & living pretty close to each other & everything so we got a lot of time in.

could be cuz i'm young & don't really understand the dating scene but for me a year is kinda long to be dating without any expectation. but then again it depends on how much time you've been spending as well. i wouldn't expect a relationship after a few dates, but if it's been like 10+ i don't think a conversation about it would be outa line.

that's what i meant by "fuck first ask questions last" approach. thanks for giving me the example i was looking for to illustrate my post, you are so lovely

 

[Recaptimus_Prime360]

nigga i swear you just hit home wit this thread.

 

[thekillingjoke]

A year is a while for most people. In your case it wasn't. She had a right to ask where was it going. What were ya'll doing in that year, were ya'll just going on dates, were ya'll fucking, was it strictly platonic? I noticed you said "one of your chicas" which leads me to believe that you weren't exactly serious, but it looks like feelings were getting serious with her. That's probably why she jumped ship on you. As far as when to make it an official relationship, it depends. Some people you may click so fast and so well with, it could be two months. Others a year. I've run into chicks that said they loved me after a week. People are unpredictable. You both have to communicate and question the relationship if there is no clairification. One chick I was fucking around with, I asked her what the deal was, and I was shocked when she didn't look at us as a couple. At that point it was shit-or-get-off-the-pot time, and eventually I chose to get off. Point being is, ask that question, don't walk around in the dark.

 

[noirwar]

She must feel that you aren't that special to hang on to while she could be making new relations (serious) with someone who is a bit more ready for a relationship.

They want:
security
sex
variety
potential (family/excess...etc)

She is just moving on don't worry about it. If you can't do the relationship thing then don't trip because you don't really
even have a square one to go back to because in reality you were always there.

 

[Mr.Magoo]

i think most chicks want relationships for security. so they can stunt on single chicks, have someone to cry to, & be emotional with. to me, a year is stretching the "talking" phase, but everyone's different. if ur takin' her seriously, think about the relationship, if not milk the shit for as long as it'll last

 

[truth spitter]

I would like a loving, lasting relationship

 

[king hassan]

Yesterday I'm talking to one of my chicas and she hits me with the progress report conversation. Ya know, the "where are we going from here" type of talk. We have been talking for a year but I've told her in the beginning that I'm into taking it slow. I want to get to know her more. Rushing into relationships is not my cup of liquor. Well she tells me she cant do it no more with me, she wants a relationship with me. Of course I cannot do that at this time.

It's a pattern that I don't commit to and I see often with these women. They exchange numbers with a man, go out for two or three dates, have sex on one of em and then they are ready to be in a relationship. I am convinced this is just how they roll in this state. Only a very few understand my rather unique approach on dating and relationships.

What is your take on the situation? How long do you date someone before commitment? Is it a "flow" vibe where you two just naturally hook up?

Just give me some feedback. I don't even understand why after a year she wants to just close it when we having a good time. I do understand, but then I don't

LOL, the Dr is in

 

[kat2180]

Hold up..a YEAR is too soon to expect a commitment and monogamy?

Yeah no.

 

[lighthearted25]

Most times when men say they wanna take it slow they also don't want to share you so that puts the woman in an awkward position. Or the man is contradictory in his words and actions. He wants to take it slow but y'all have spent the past week together and he pretty much treats u like an actual girlfriend. Niggas don't know what they want sometimes.

 

[Westie]

Hold up..a YEAR is too soon to expect a commitment and monogamy?

Yeah no.

Co-sign

But after a year she should have known who she was dealing with already. Sometimes women need to learn how to chalk it up and keep it moving.

 

[JUICY_FRUIT]

A year?! Yea its about that time

 

[JUICY_FRUIT]

Most times when men say they wanna take it slow they also don't want to share you so that puts the woman in an awkward position. Or the man is contradictory in his words and actions. He wants to take it slow but y'all have spent the past week together and he pretty much treats u like an actual girlfriend. Niggas don't know what they want sometimes.

Agree.......

 

[Dupac]

Co-sign

But after a year she should have known who she was dealing with already. Sometimes women need to learn how to chalk it up and keep it moving.

truth

people can't help but to be themslves...

no matter how much of a front they put up...they'll always eventually end up showing you the person they actually are inside...

and if a year of chilling, going out and having fun...dude's not ready for a ccommitment...

the shit just ain't gonna happen....

 

[kat2180]

Co-sign

But after a year she should have known who she was dealing with already. Sometimes women need to learn how to chalk it up and keep it moving.

Agreed...men are going to push it as far as you allow him.

 

[Dupac]

it's funny,..cuz guys seem to have a better grasp of the concept of compatability than women do...

cuz it's not mystey that most people just aren't compatable with eachother...

there may be many things they find attractive about eachother...but that doesn't neccesarily mean they should be in a relationship...because if they're not two people who mesh well together, all the attraction in the world ain't gonna make that shit work...

but for some reason, a large bulk of women think attraction + time spent together=it's gonna work.....

while men can be wildly attracted to a female... like tons of things about..spend crazy time with her.... but depe down inside..jsut know being in a relationship with her just isn't a good look....

it's like we can sense potential disasters....

now lots of niggaz ignore this for the sake of good sex.... but a lotta niggaz get the "afraid of commitment tag" unfairly...they jsut knew shit wasn't gonna work...

cuz every single time witout fail..women be having that salty face when they see their ex all boo'd up with a chick he knew for a few months while they put years of work in and got nothing...

 

[soul rattler]

Yesterday I'm talking to one of my chicas and she hits me with the progress report conversation. Ya know, the "where are we going from here" type of talk. We have been talking for a year but I've told her in the beginning that I'm into taking it slow. I want to get to know her more. Rushing into relationships is not my cup of liquor. Well she tells me she cant do it no more with me, she wants a relationship with me. Of course I cannot do that at this time.

Been there, but it was a couple weeks, not a year. If after a year, you aren't in a space to lock her down, you're wasting her time.

With that being said, I've had more than a couple women trying to handcuff me after a few 4 hour phone calls. That's not hot.

 

[soul rattler]

Why women try to have long-distance relationships is beyond me, too. It's like they're asking to be neglected and possibly cheated on.

 

[Westie]

it's funny,..cuz guys seem to have a better grasp of the concept of compatability than women do...

cuz it's not mystey that most people just aren't compatable with eachother...

there may be many things they find attractive about eachother...but that doesn't neccesarily mean they should be in a relationship...because if they're not two people who mesh well together, all the attraction in the world ain't gonna make that shit work...

but for some reason, a large bulk of women think attraction + time spent together=it's gonna work.....

while men can be wildly attracted to a female... like tons of things about..spend crazy time with her.... but depe down inside..jsut know being in a relationship with her just isn't a good look....

it's like we can sense potential disasters....

now lots of niggaz ignore this for the sake of good sex.... but a lotta niggaz get the "afraid of commitment tag" unfairly...they jsut knew shit wasn't gonna work...

cuz every single time witout fail..women be having that salty face when they see their ex all boo'd up with a chick he knew for a few months while they put years of work in and got nothing...

I don't agree that men do this because of forsight, it's more like selfishness and greed-MOST of the time. You know damn well a lot of chicks get strung along because some men want to keep the pussy for themselves while reserving the right to fuck other women. Come on now.