What to do when your s/o lets themselves go?

[texas409]

Thats what happened to my ex...she didnt wanna hit the gym plus she got some wack frohawk nappy kind of haircut had her looking like Baby Huey I was so embarrassed being seen with her with that wackness on her head so plus she wasnt a very good person inside so I kicked her weird ass to the curb and been happy ever since

didnt she cheat on u as well?

I notice you been throwing jabs lately....speak your mind

 

[CapitalB]

Man there are just so many other things you could withhold as a man.

If my dick not getting wet in a relationship, we not in a relationship.

smh.. oh ye of lil faith..

 

[The Lonious Monk]

@BOSSExcellence‌ do you get in monogamous relationships?

Are you married or in a long term relationship?

Yes

And you find that being honest isn't the best policy in your relationship?

Sometimes. The male ego is fragile as hell.

Interesting. Your man holds a grudge when you tell him something he doesn't want to hear?

Yep

Oh...well damn. Usually, it's the chick that has to have shit sugarcoated. I don't know what to say when it's the dude that acts that way. Maybe it's the way you tell him shit. Ya'll can be harsher than we could ever hope to be sometimes. lol

Yeah I'm overly blunt and what pops in my mind is said.

I know one damn thing he doesn't withhold dick.

Different set of circumstances. You being slick at the mouth doesn't or shouldn't make him want to fuck you any less.

Him no longer being physically attracted to you on the other hand would have that affect.

That said, withholding sex sounds like some shit a female would do to punish her man. I've never heard of guys doing some shit like that because they are unhappy with their wives. Wouldn't it just be easier to suggest a healthier lifestyle to her. Start going to the gym together and eating better. That should solve at least part of the problem, and it would make you closer in other ways too.

nah playa..

thats what the prize of any relationship would do..

jus so happens that for the most part niggas be puttin these bitches on a pedestal.. so of course the pussy would be the prize/reward...

but on the rare occasion u have niggas who know they worth.. and thats why we're considered the "chosen few"

jus sayin..

Ok bruh, if that shit makes sense to you, run with it. If I want to have sex with my wife, it doesn't make a whole lot of of sense for me not to have sex with my wife just to make a point. Sounds like some bitch shit to me.

 

[CapitalB]

@BOSSExcellence‌ do you get in monogamous relationships?

Are you married or in a long term relationship?

Yes

And you find that being honest isn't the best policy in your relationship?

Sometimes. The male ego is fragile as hell.

Interesting. Your man holds a grudge when you tell him something he doesn't want to hear?

Yep

Oh...well damn. Usually, it's the chick that has to have shit sugarcoated. I don't know what to say when it's the dude that acts that way. Maybe it's the way you tell him shit. Ya'll can be harsher than we could ever hope to be sometimes. lol

Yeah I'm overly blunt and what pops in my mind is said.

I know one damn thing he doesn't withhold dick.

Different set of circumstances. You being slick at the mouth doesn't or shouldn't make him want to fuck you any less.

Him no longer being physically attracted to you on the other hand would have that affect.

That said, withholding sex sounds like some shit a female would do to punish her man. I've never heard of guys doing some shit like that because they are unhappy with their wives. Wouldn't it just be easier to suggest a healthier lifestyle to her. Start going to the gym together and eating better. That should solve at least part of the problem, and it would make you closer in other ways too.

nah playa..

thats what the prize of any relationship would do..

jus so happens that for the most part niggas be puttin these bitches on a pedestal.. so of course the pussy would be the prize/reward...

but on the rare occasion u have niggas who know they worth.. and thats why we're considered the "chosen few"

jus sayin..

Ok bruh, if that shit makes sense to you, run with it. If I want to have sex with my wife, it doesn't make a whole lot of of sense for me not to have sex with my wife just to make a point. Sounds like some bitch shit to me.

nah nah..

i understand..

ur driven by pussy...

probably got married to get the pussy..

so lets not talk about "bitch shit"..

jus sayin..

 

[DarcSkies]

Had the same problem with my ex. I never told her shit cuz aint like we was going to the damn prom everyday.

If we were going somewhere I'd just tell her straight up to do something with her hair. Just say it matter-of-factly. It will be more embarrassing to her if you dont communicate and just snap off one day when you get mad or sick and tired of her trifling lookin ass.

Her: Be right back babe, taking out the trash

You: LOOKIN LIKE THAT?!!?!?! I'M TIRED OF THIS SHIT!!!!

 

[The Lonious Monk]

@BOSSExcellence‌ do you get in monogamous relationships?

Are you married or in a long term relationship?

Yes

And you find that being honest isn't the best policy in your relationship?

Sometimes. The male ego is fragile as hell.

Interesting. Your man holds a grudge when you tell him something he doesn't want to hear?

Yep

Oh...well damn. Usually, it's the chick that has to have shit sugarcoated. I don't know what to say when it's the dude that acts that way. Maybe it's the way you tell him shit. Ya'll can be harsher than we could ever hope to be sometimes. lol

Yeah I'm overly blunt and what pops in my mind is said.

I know one damn thing he doesn't withhold dick.

Different set of circumstances. You being slick at the mouth doesn't or shouldn't make him want to fuck you any less.

Him no longer being physically attracted to you on the other hand would have that affect.

That said, withholding sex sounds like some shit a female would do to punish her man. I've never heard of guys doing some shit like that because they are unhappy with their wives. Wouldn't it just be easier to suggest a healthier lifestyle to her. Start going to the gym together and eating better. That should solve at least part of the problem, and it would make you closer in other ways too.

nah playa..

thats what the prize of any relationship would do..

jus so happens that for the most part niggas be puttin these bitches on a pedestal.. so of course the pussy would be the prize/reward...

but on the rare occasion u have niggas who know they worth.. and thats why we're considered the "chosen few"

jus sayin..

Ok bruh, if that shit makes sense to you, run with it. If I want to have sex with my wife, it doesn't make a whole lot of of sense for me not to have sex with my wife just to make a point. Sounds like some bitch shit to me.

nah nah..

i understand..

ur driven by pussy...

probably got married to get the pussy..

so lets not talk about "bitch shit"..

jus sayin..

Nigga you are literally talking about holding out on sex because you got a problem with your chick. That is pretty much the definition of bitch shit. A man is supposed to handle issues as they arise, not pull some passive aggressive bullshit tactic to and try and get it done. I swear the niggas on this site are some hoes. Ya'll so twisted up, you actually think your bitch shit is manly. lol

 

[CapitalB]

@BOSSExcellence‌ do you get in monogamous relationships?

Are you married or in a long term relationship?

Yes

And you find that being honest isn't the best policy in your relationship?

Sometimes. The male ego is fragile as hell.

Interesting. Your man holds a grudge when you tell him something he doesn't want to hear?

Yep

Oh...well damn. Usually, it's the chick that has to have shit sugarcoated. I don't know what to say when it's the dude that acts that way. Maybe it's the way you tell him shit. Ya'll can be harsher than we could ever hope to be sometimes. lol

Yeah I'm overly blunt and what pops in my mind is said.

I know one damn thing he doesn't withhold dick.

Different set of circumstances. You being slick at the mouth doesn't or shouldn't make him want to fuck you any less.

Him no longer being physically attracted to you on the other hand would have that affect.

That said, withholding sex sounds like some shit a female would do to punish her man. I've never heard of guys doing some shit like that because they are unhappy with their wives. Wouldn't it just be easier to suggest a healthier lifestyle to her. Start going to the gym together and eating better. That should solve at least part of the problem, and it would make you closer in other ways too.

nah playa..

thats what the prize of any relationship would do..

jus so happens that for the most part niggas be puttin these bitches on a pedestal.. so of course the pussy would be the prize/reward...

but on the rare occasion u have niggas who know they worth.. and thats why we're considered the "chosen few"

jus sayin..

Ok bruh, if that shit makes sense to you, run with it. If I want to have sex with my wife, it doesn't make a whole lot of of sense for me not to have sex with my wife just to make a point. Sounds like some bitch shit to me.

nah nah..

i understand..

ur driven by pussy...

probably got married to get the pussy..

so lets not talk about "bitch shit"..

jus sayin..

Nigga you are literally talking about holding out on sex because you got a problem with your chick. That is pretty much the definition of bitch shit. A man is supposed to handle issues as they arise, not pull some passive aggressive bullshit tactic to and try and get it done. I swear the niggas on this site are some hoes. Ya'll so twisted up, you actually think your bitch shit is manly. lol

says the nigga who answers when his wife asks "where u goin/where u been??"

yeh okay Mr. "i gotta check wit my wife before i give it a go" ass nigga...

tell me more about bein a man??

nah nigga.. society got yall niggas twisted and thats why these bitches runnin yo household.. and for the record.. thats how u deal wit emotional creatures.. passive aggressively..

shotgun marriage huh nigga??!

u aint even happy i bet. lol

 

[The Lonious Monk]

@BOSSExcellence‌ do you get in monogamous relationships?

Are you married or in a long term relationship?

Yes

And you find that being honest isn't the best policy in your relationship?

Sometimes. The male ego is fragile as hell.

Interesting. Your man holds a grudge when you tell him something he doesn't want to hear?

Yep

Oh...well damn. Usually, it's the chick that has to have shit sugarcoated. I don't know what to say when it's the dude that acts that way. Maybe it's the way you tell him shit. Ya'll can be harsher than we could ever hope to be sometimes. lol

Yeah I'm overly blunt and what pops in my mind is said.

I know one damn thing he doesn't withhold dick.

Different set of circumstances. You being slick at the mouth doesn't or shouldn't make him want to fuck you any less.

Him no longer being physically attracted to you on the other hand would have that affect.

That said, withholding sex sounds like some shit a female would do to punish her man. I've never heard of guys doing some shit like that because they are unhappy with their wives. Wouldn't it just be easier to suggest a healthier lifestyle to her. Start going to the gym together and eating better. That should solve at least part of the problem, and it would make you closer in other ways too.

nah playa..

thats what the prize of any relationship would do..

jus so happens that for the most part niggas be puttin these bitches on a pedestal.. so of course the pussy would be the prize/reward...

but on the rare occasion u have niggas who know they worth.. and thats why we're considered the "chosen few"

jus sayin..

Ok bruh, if that shit makes sense to you, run with it. If I want to have sex with my wife, it doesn't make a whole lot of of sense for me not to have sex with my wife just to make a point. Sounds like some bitch shit to me.

nah nah..

i understand..

ur driven by pussy...

probably got married to get the pussy..

so lets not talk about "bitch shit"..

jus sayin..

Nigga you are literally talking about holding out on sex because you got a problem with your chick. That is pretty much the definition of bitch shit. A man is supposed to handle issues as they arise, not pull some passive aggressive bullshit tactic to and try and get it done. I swear the niggas on this site are some hoes. Ya'll so twisted up, you actually think your bitch shit is manly. lol

says the nigga who answers when his wife asks "where u goin/where u been??"

yeh okay Mr. "i gotta check wit my wife before i give it a go" ass nigga...

tell me more about bein a man??

nah nigga.. society got yall niggas twisted and thats why these bitches runnin yo household.. and for the record.. thats how u deal wit emotional creatures.. passive aggressively..

shotgun marriage huh nigga??!

u aint even happy i bet. lol

lol That's how you deal with emotional creatures huh? Men been dealing with women straightforward like men for millennia, but you've figured out the real secret huh. You gonna beat a bitch by being a bitch. Gotcha. Good luck with that.

 

[CapitalB]

@BOSSExcellence‌ do you get in monogamous relationships?

Are you married or in a long term relationship?

Yes

And you find that being honest isn't the best policy in your relationship?

Sometimes. The male ego is fragile as hell.

Interesting. Your man holds a grudge when you tell him something he doesn't want to hear?

Yep

Oh...well damn. Usually, it's the chick that has to have shit sugarcoated. I don't know what to say when it's the dude that acts that way. Maybe it's the way you tell him shit. Ya'll can be harsher than we could ever hope to be sometimes. lol

Yeah I'm overly blunt and what pops in my mind is said.

I know one damn thing he doesn't withhold dick.

Different set of circumstances. You being slick at the mouth doesn't or shouldn't make him want to fuck you any less.

Him no longer being physically attracted to you on the other hand would have that affect.

That said, withholding sex sounds like some shit a female would do to punish her man. I've never heard of guys doing some shit like that because they are unhappy with their wives. Wouldn't it just be easier to suggest a healthier lifestyle to her. Start going to the gym together and eating better. That should solve at least part of the problem, and it would make you closer in other ways too.

nah playa..

thats what the prize of any relationship would do..

jus so happens that for the most part niggas be puttin these bitches on a pedestal.. so of course the pussy would be the prize/reward...

but on the rare occasion u have niggas who know they worth.. and thats why we're considered the "chosen few"

jus sayin..

Ok bruh, if that shit makes sense to you, run with it. If I want to have sex with my wife, it doesn't make a whole lot of of sense for me not to have sex with my wife just to make a point. Sounds like some bitch shit to me.

nah nah..

i understand..

ur driven by pussy...

probably got married to get the pussy..

so lets not talk about "bitch shit"..

jus sayin..

Nigga you are literally talking about holding out on sex because you got a problem with your chick. That is pretty much the definition of bitch shit. A man is supposed to handle issues as they arise, not pull some passive aggressive bullshit tactic to and try and get it done. I swear the niggas on this site are some hoes. Ya'll so twisted up, you actually think your bitch shit is manly. lol

says the nigga who answers when his wife asks "where u goin/where u been??"

yeh okay Mr. "i gotta check wit my wife before i give it a go" ass nigga...

tell me more about bein a man??

nah nigga.. society got yall niggas twisted and thats why these bitches runnin yo household.. and for the record.. thats how u deal wit emotional creatures.. passive aggressively..

shotgun marriage huh nigga??!

u aint even happy i bet. lol

lol That's how you deal with emotional creatures huh? Men been dealing with women straightforward like men for millennia, but you've figured out the real secret huh. You gonna beat a bitch by being a bitch. Gotcha. Good luck with that.

im jus sayin man...

im not driven by pussy..

im driven by Mercedes..

but enjoy that sentence u servin..

i hope its hard labor too! lol

 

[Crude_]

Lol at people thinking honesty is always the best policy.

Depending on how important something is to you sometimes its better to just lie to keep the harmony.

 

[mryounggun]

Lol at people thinking honesty is always the best policy.

Depending on how important something is to you sometimes its better to just lie to keep the harmony.

Like when?

 

[Bussy_Getta]

Ayo I got denied sex once...

Me and my ex was arguin bout some shit that apparently really meant something to him but at the time I really dgaf. So he goes to work and I'm like "imma fuck this nigga when he get back"

Hair, lingerie, heels, smellin sweet, good music...the whole nine. Greeted him at the door and that nigga told me put some clothes on then went to his room and started playin 2k.

Bruh.....

We ain't have that argument again tho ijs

:-(

 

[CapitalB]

Ayo I got denied sex once...

Me and my ex was arguin bout some shit that apparently really meant something to him but at the time I really dgaf. So he goes to work and I'm like "imma fuck this nigga when he get back"

Hair, lingerie, heels, smellin sweet, good music...the whole nine. Greeted him at the door and that nigga told me put some clothes on then went to his room and started playin 2k.

Bruh.....

We ain't have that argument again tho ijs

:-(

u was fuckin wit a real nigga..

not these tender dick fuck boys who only think wit they lil head..

get a lil pussy and forget all the bitch's transgressions...

im jus sayin. lol

 

[Chi Snow]

Her: Be right back babe, taking out the trash

You: LOOKIN LIKE THAT?!!?!?! I'M TIRED OF THIS SHIT!!!!

 

[topoftheworld]

change comes from within.

sure, positive and negative feedback influences our actions and decisions, but self-growth/development is an inside job.

some of the tactics described in the thread, e.g., withholding sex, dropping clues, etc., may help get you through the midterm (by influencing her to get her shit together) but it won't help you graduate (ultimately have a fulfilling relationship with the sexy woman you fell in love with).

ask her how she feels? mention the frequent naps and low-energy -- do not point out the weight gain or unkept appearance. let her know you want to make sure she's okay. listen to what she says and doesn't say (e.g. "I hate my job.. My family is driving me nuts...I'm failing apart...I'm gaining weight...can't fit my clothes...my hair is a mess...OR I feel so happy and comfortable now...I'm finally able to be myself...I'm finally able to rest after years of running...etc).

most women, if not all, want to look good. there's usually a reason why we stop keeping up with our appearance. It may no longer be a priority to us...we feel low or depressed...we may feel we look good without the extra efforts of exercise or hair care...we may be tired of the unwanted attention from men...we may have been abused or have been sexually accosted...etc. etc. If you genuinely love and are committed to her, offer her a supportive environment while SHE figures that out first.

give her some time to sort things out on her own. provide her with a loving and supportive environment that contributes to her (and your!) success (e.g., healthy snacks, initiate but don't guilt-trip exercise-type activities). Revisit the health of your relationship, your feelings and her self growth two months from now.

If no change or she falls off even more, this may be who she is (that's not to say she won't ever change). Love her or leave her alone. You both will be better off.

 

[Crude_]

Lol at people thinking honesty is always the best policy.

Depending on how important something is to you sometimes its better to just lie to keep the harmony.

Like when?

About a lot of shit.

I've learned if the shit isn't a real big deal to you some thoughts are better left unspoken everything don't need to be shared.

Yes, I know its kinda an against the grain view though.

 

[DarcSkies]

Ayo I got denied sex once...

Me and my ex was arguin bout some shit that apparently really meant something to him but at the time I really dgaf. So he goes to work and I'm like "imma fuck this nigga when he get back"

Hair, lingerie, heels, smellin sweet, good music...the whole nine. Greeted him at the door and that nigga told me put some clothes on then went to his room and started playin 2k.

Bruh.....

We ain't have that argument again tho ijs

:-(

tender dick fuck boys

*DEAD*

 

[mryounggun]

Lol at people thinking honesty is always the best policy.

Depending on how important something is to you sometimes its better to just lie to keep the harmony.

Like when?

About a lot of shit.

I've learned if the shit isn't a real big deal to you some thoughts are better left unspoken everything don't need to be shared.

Yes, I know its kinda an against the grain view though.

But that's irrelevant for the purposes of this thread...since we're talking about something that clearly is a big deal to T/S.

 

[Chi Snow]

change comes from within.

sure, positive and negative feedback influences our actions and decisions, but self-growth/development is an inside job.

some of the tactics described in the thread, e.g., withholding sex, dropping clues, etc., may help get you through the midterm (by influencing her to get her shit together) but it won't help you graduate (ultimately have a fulfilling relationship with the sexy woman you fell in love with).

ask her how she feels? mention the frequent naps and low-energy -- do not point out the weight gain or unkept appearance. let her know you want to make sure she's okay. listen to what she says and doesn't say (e.g. "I hate my job.. My family is driving me nuts...I'm failing apart...I'm gaining weight...can't fit my clothes...my hair is a mess...OR I feel so happy and comfortable now...I'm finally able to be myself...I'm finally able to rest after years of running...etc).

most women, if not all, want to look good. there's usually a reason why we stop keeping up with our appearance. It may no longer be a priority to us...we feel low or depressed...we may feel we look good without the extra efforts of exercise or hair care...we may be tired of the unwanted attention from men...we may have been abused or have been sexually accosted...etc. etc. If you genuinely love and are committed to her, offer her a supportive environment while SHE figures that out first.

give her some time to sort things out on her own. provide her with a loving and supportive environment that contributes to her (and your!) success (e.g., healthy snacks, initiate but don't guilt-trip exercise-type activities). Revisit the health of your relationship, your feelings and her self growth two months from now.

If no change or she falls off even more, this may be who she is (that's not to say she won't ever change). Love her or leave her alone. You both will be better off.

Gots to wrap this shit up b

 

[DarcSkies]

change comes from within.

sure, positive and negative feedback influences our actions and decisions, but self-growth/development is an inside job.

some of the tactics described in the thread, e.g., withholding sex, dropping clues, etc., may help get you through the midterm (by influencing her to get her shit together) but it won't help you graduate (ultimately have a fulfilling relationship with the sexy woman you fell in love with).

ask her how she feels? mention the frequent naps and low-energy -- do not point out the weight gain or unkept appearance. let her know you want to make sure she's okay. listen to what she says and doesn't say (e.g. "I hate my job.. My family is driving me nuts...I'm failing apart...I'm gaining weight...can't fit my clothes...my hair is a mess...OR I feel so happy and comfortable now...I'm finally able to be myself...I'm finally able to rest after years of running...etc).

most women, if not all, want to look good. there's usually a reason why we stop keeping up with our appearance. It may no longer be a priority to us...we feel low or depressed...we may feel we look good without the extra efforts of exercise or hair care...we may be tired of the unwanted attention from men...we may have been abused or have been sexually accosted...etc. etc. If you genuinely love and are committed to her, offer her a supportive environment while SHE figures that out first.

give her some time to sort things out on her own. provide her with a loving and supportive environment that contributes to her (and your!) success (e.g., healthy snacks, initiate but don't guilt-trip exercise-type activities). Revisit the health of your relationship, your feelings and her self growth two months from now.

If no change or she falls off even more, this may be who she is (that's not to say she won't ever change). Love her or leave her alone. You both will be better off.

Gots to wrap this shit up b

I skimmed. It was good advice.

I'm not one to talk about somebody writing titangraphs though so...take that with a grain of salt