What are the Rules for Breaking up?

[Kat]

interesting reads....

and what woman gonna respect you for breaking up on her graduation day?

where they do that at?

maybe she'll thank him for opening the door for someone with more understanding to love her. but this could scar her a long time and ruin it for niggas after him.

maybe i been outta the loop too long..but like lefty said......you said you loved her....which means you cared. shes at least owed a sit down.

honestly...they might warrant a visit from a male family member in some circles. shit, he just might have proved them right.

her loving him more? hmmmm

i think we can all love more or less at times.

i dont know...

maybe t/s needed time to find himself or sort thru somethings.....which is cool. nothing wrong with that.

i just dont believe in burning bridges regardless of time served.

It was bad timing but we can't always decide when shit goes bad. She'll be alright.

 

[Max.]

How cute is she?

U shoulda blew a load o her face or fucked her asshole

 

[Stew]

Two wrongs don't make a right

i give you props for this.....

im not trynna come down on you

just saying bruh.....

think about your sister, cousin, niece or even your daughter having this happen?

you not this cold bruh....

always think 360 not 180

Nigga broke up with her on the biggest day of her life(if she don't have a child)

 

[Preach2Teach]

I don't see a problem with breaking up with a txt message, it's easier why put yourself through the bullshit?

 

[Kat]

I don't see a problem with breaking up with a txt message, it's easier why put yourself through the bullshit?

What are you, 12?

Man up.

 

[leftcoastkev]

Looking at the big picture I think you did the right thing. Although it possibly may seem like the wrong time it sounds like you did what you did to live your personal truth. Better that than leading someone on and ultimately becoming and displaying resentment.

so was he leading her on the day before?

but the day after would have been leading he on? and possibly cause resentment?

we talking days..respect for someone he said he loved.

unless he says months...even weeks.....

falling out of love is a process....not a wake up one day thing. not a not getting your way thing. not a niggas talking thing.

maybe, im not seeing a point and would like to understand.

I'm not gonna go on and on about the next mans love life but if he was leading her on yesterday it's better that he correct it today so that they both can live out tomorrow better.

From what I gather TS was not trying to get married to the woman so if she looking at the bond deeper than he was and he respected her enough to not to take advantage of that then it's best to cut it today....for his and her sake.

When you (not you specifically, talking in general) meet "the one" you'll know that even though nobody is perfect that person's goods far outweigh any shortcomings and you'll be all in with them because you would prefer life with them than without. I took it that TS wasn't feeling that so they both can move forward at this point.

 

[Stew]

I don't see a problem with breaking up with a txt message, it's easier why put yourself through the bullshit?

What are you, 12?

Man up.

*disclaimer* I don't think I could do it that way but I get it.

He has a point, especially if she's on her phone 24/7. This aint 1998 no more, most other things have changed since then, why not this.

 

[Kat]

I don't see a problem with breaking up with a txt message, it's easier why put yourself through the bullshit?

What are you, 12?

Man up.

*disclaimer* I don't think I could do it that way but I get it.

He has a point, especially if she's on her phone 24/7. This aint 1998 no more, most other things have changed since then, why not this.

Fuck that..you a grown ass man, man up and tell the woman you've been dating (and fucking) to her face that things aren't working out.

 

[Stew]

I don't see a problem with breaking up with a txt message, it's easier why put yourself through the bullshit?

What are you, 12?

Man up.

*disclaimer* I don't think I could do it that way but I get it.

He has a point, especially if she's on her phone 24/7. This aint 1998 no more, most other things have changed since then, why not this.

Fuck that..you a grown ass man, man up and tell the woman you've been dating (and fucking) to her face that things aren't working out.

I understand but for younger cats, I bet it's pretty normal. Remember when we used to write love letters? That's turned into text messages, can do everything in a text.

 

[Kat]

I don't see a problem with breaking up with a txt message, it's easier why put yourself through the bullshit?

What are you, 12?

Man up.

*disclaimer* I don't think I could do it that way but I get it.

He has a point, especially if she's on her phone 24/7. This aint 1998 no more, most other things have changed since then, why not this.

Fuck that..you a grown ass man, man up and tell the woman you've been dating (and fucking) to her face that things aren't working out.

I understand but for younger cats, I bet it's pretty normal. Remember when we used to write love letters? That's turned into text messages, can do everything in a text.

He's not a teen, and if this is the same chick, he's been seeing her for awhile. A text is completely inappropriate.

 

[Stew]

Yea idk how old buddy is but I'm assuming he's a little younger considering his girl just graduated but I dated...nvm.

 

[Kat]

Stop being a bad influence, Stewart.

 

[LUClEN]

We dated four months. I wouldn't dump her via text

 

[twenty2]

Oh y'all was only together for 4 months? Yeah... Families is gon' hate you in that short amount of time. And NOW they probably feel justified for dislikin you like "See... Told you dat muhfucka wasn't shit!" And considering the time span...that probably wasn't enough time to have a more lasting impact on her than her graduation...she been workin toward that for years. She'll be aight and, not to sound harsh, but you'll be forgotten...

And how the fuck far did she fall off in 4 months???

 

[LUClEN]

Oh y'all was only together for 4 months? Yeah... Families is gon' hate you in that short amount of time. And NOW they probably feel justified for dislikin you like "See... Told you dat muhfucka wasn't shit!" And considering the time span...that probably wasn't enough time to have a more lasting impact on her than her graduation...she been workin toward that for years. She'll be aight and, not to sound harsh, but you'll be forgotten...

And how the fuck far did she fall off in 4 months???

She said she loved me about 2 months in. It makes me look like trash, but it's almost like her unconditional love pushed me away. It's weird how we can chase the ones who don't want us and push away the ones that do.

 

[LUClEN]

The good news is I think she already getting over it. We met up and talked. She hooked up with an ex the day i broke it off. She'll be alright.

I think I learned some important stuff for the next break-up.

 

[Stew]

Nigga u was only with her for 4 months. That was more a fling than a relationship.

 

[2stepz_ahead]

Oh y'all was only together for 4 months? Yeah... Families is gon' hate you in that short amount of time. And NOW they probably feel justified for dislikin you like "See... Told you dat muhfucka wasn't shit!" And considering the time span...that probably wasn't enough time to have a more lasting impact on her than her graduation...she been workin toward that for years. She'll be aight and, not to sound harsh, but you'll be forgotten...

And how the fuck far did she fall off in 4 months???

She said she loved me about 2 months in. It makes me look like trash, but it's almost like her unconditional love pushed me away. It's weird how we can chase the ones who don't want us and push away the ones that do.

we are men....we want to hunt not be given our prize

 

[2stepz_ahead]

in 4 month...the novelty of the relationship didnt wear off yet...

yall both still the rep and not the real.

she got with you 4 months before graduation?

she already with the ex?

yoo...some much is going on here.

i hope you smoke weed bruh....but what do you think you learned from all this?

 

[LUClEN]

I recently broke up with a really great girl because of some small things. It had been piling up for awhile, and I didn't want to keep dragging her through a relationship where it was clear she loved me more than I could ever love her. It was on the day of her graduation, which I couldn't attend because of work, and I don't know if I did the right thing. On one hand, it makes sense to get it done as quickly as possible. On the other hand, when she looks back on that day, whether the videos or photos, she will be reminded of that break-up. I talked to some friends about it, and got mixed views. In light of this break-up, I wanna know what your guys rules for break-ups are? Where do you guys stand on breaking up through text, taking someone out for a meal to break up with them, keeping them on social media after a break up, and all that shit?

the bolded is your first mistake....

honestly...time to grow up bruh

we all have our hiccups.

breaking up thru text is bitch nigga shit. if you afraid of the girl....then how was you with her and going to protect her? thats not the man way.

why keep an connection immediately after breaking up?

you want them to see you happy or sad?

take them out to dinner? for what? to say...this aint working...ill have one more drink and you pay for your own shit?

if you had the day to spare.....that should be more important that you spend it with her..but if you broke up on her graduation day....just know...thats a time in her life she will never get back and your negative and selfish ways dimmed her light or tarnished her shine.

and for what.

if you ever get her back and you dont go 110%

just dont be surprised if she looks at you like a lil nigga

That's not a mistake. The little things make up life brah. The fact that she doesn't put as much effort into her appearance anymore, or that she gets way too attached, or that her family is super scrutinizing of my future when her sisters have married guys that don't even have half the education I have, can't be ignored forever.

If being grown is about handling business it would be childish to just trudge along in a relationship because I don't want to let go.

Naaaaaahhhh you're in the wrong here and need to grow up no diss. Super immature and wack. If you had to make this thread to ask the question then you know you fucked up.

Remember God Don't like ugly..... Reading this post tho from her parents perspective sounds like you tryna get your life in order and she's moving up in the world and that made you insecure. You could have had the conversation about her appearance and other things bruh but those things come with maturity.

You're making excuses for her failings. When a coherent, intelligent person goes out in the dating world it is a given that they should look good, not just for themselves but for the sake of others that have to deal with them. It does not matter if it's appearance, an overly controlling family, or outright clinginess, nobody owes anybody any kind of accident forgiveness, especially not after a few short months.

You're dead wrong on that other point too as I make way more money than her. She's 40k in debt and still looking for nursing gigs. I'm making 30k+ a year, no debt, and I'm the strongest and best looking I've ever been. If I'm insecure about anything, it's that the girl I was with didn't match my expectations for the kind of girl I think I'm capable of having now that all the pieces are coming together for me.