What are the Rules for Breaking up?

[2stepz_ahead]

I recently broke up with a really great girl because of some small things. It had been piling up for awhile, and I didn't want to keep dragging her through a relationship where it was clear she loved me more than I could ever love her. It was on the day of her graduation, which I couldn't attend because of work, and I don't know if I did the right thing. On one hand, it makes sense to get it done as quickly as possible. On the other hand, when she looks back on that day, whether the videos or photos, she will be reminded of that break-up. I talked to some friends about it, and got mixed views. In light of this break-up, I wanna know what your guys rules for break-ups are? Where do you guys stand on breaking up through text, taking someone out for a meal to break up with them, keeping them on social media after a break up, and all that shit?

the bolded is your first mistake....

honestly...time to grow up bruh

we all have our hiccups.

breaking up thru text is bitch nigga shit. if you afraid of the girl....then how was you with her and going to protect her? thats not the man way.

why keep an connection immediately after breaking up?

you want them to see you happy or sad?

take them out to dinner? for what? to say...this aint working...ill have one more drink and you pay for your own shit?

if you had the day to spare.....that should be more important that you spend it with her..but if you broke up on her graduation day....just know...thats a time in her life she will never get back and your negative and selfish ways dimmed her light or tarnished her shine.

and for what.

if you ever get her back and you dont go 110%

just dont be surprised if she looks at you like a lil nigga

That's not a mistake. The little things make up life brah. The fact that she doesn't put as much effort into her appearance anymore, or that she gets way too attached, or that her family is super scrutinizing of my future when her sisters have married guys that don't even have half the education I have, can't be ignored forever.

If being grown is about handling business it would be childish to just trudge along in a relationship because I don't want to let go.

but you stated things that can be fixed.

bruh....a good woman does not come along often especially in this new culture.

from what you have stated...it seems like something is bothering her or she me be feeling depressed about something....so her appearance and attachment can come from not feeling worthy.

and fukk her family, my nigga. whos family aint gonna look at a nigga fukkin they daughter, sister or whoever ..kinda crazy?

they want you to be the man they think she deserves. cant fault them for that....but dont punish her because of it either.

shit ..putting it all together....she might have been feeling between a rock and a hard place.

she might have been told...you look to good to be with him, he aint shit.

or hes a young nigga hes gonna cheat.

no telling what shes hearing or have to defend.

not once did you state you sat and talked to her about it.

how do you know it aint you?

you could be projecting and shes taking it on because she loves you and dont know how to handle it.

 

[BiblicalAtheist]

Graduation day.......You super foul.

Am I supposed to pretend like everything is all gravy on her graduation, though? Give her an empty "i love you, too" when she says it to me? Smile in the pictures and fake it all for appearances, just to break up with her the next day? Something about being inauthentic like that rubbed me the wrong way, but maybe you're right and I gave too much weight to that shit and not enough to the importance of her graduation.

You're an inconsiderate idiot

You're right. I should have just pretended to love her until I died.

Or you couldve just been there for her cuz it was her day and then let her know after it was all over...Or told her beforehand what it was but u would still be there for support

My only rule is : Do it in person, that over the phone shit is for kids

So then the next day she can be all fucked up that all his niceness the day before was bullshit? She get to look back on that day and remember how fake he was actually being?

 

[2stepz_ahead]

Graduation day.......You super foul.

Am I supposed to pretend like everything is all gravy on her graduation, though? Give her an empty "i love you, too" when she says it to me? Smile in the pictures and fake it all for appearances, just to break up with her the next day? Something about being inauthentic like that rubbed me the wrong way, but maybe you're right and I gave too much weight to that shit and not enough to the importance of her graduation.

You're an inconsiderate idiot

You're right. I should have just pretended to love her until I died.

Nope, but timing is everything kid. She's worked hard to graduate, let her get her moment in the sun an address the relationship after. Learn from it, cos you'll encounter similar shit in life

right....

kinda sound like t/s was low key hating on her next level of success or some shit.

this shit couldnt wait?

'

unless she fukked another nigga the day before....the shit could wait.

 

[Max.]

Shes gona remember u forever for the day u picked u dirty dogg hahaha...

 

[TonyDubbz]

Graduation day.......You super foul.

Am I supposed to pretend like everything is all gravy on her graduation, though? Give her an empty "i love you, too" when she says it to me? Smile in the pictures and fake it all for appearances, just to break up with her the next day? Something about being inauthentic like that rubbed me the wrong way, but maybe you're right and I gave too much weight to that shit and not enough to the importance of her graduation.

Damn nigga, so did eveyrthing just all of a sudden go wrong on her graduation day or something? cause if not you could of waited a few days or a week.. but like somebody else in here said its all good cause It aint like you broke up wit her on her Birthday or on Christmas or some shit like that, she'll be over it.

 

[Max.]

Damn, u broke up with her on her graduation day? That's some cold shit to do for some you had feelings for. Could of waited a week. I don't have a problem breaking up over the phone. Depends how much you care for the person. Face to face is best only if you don't have a crazy partner. Dont break up at your house. Dont break up in a populated area. Go to where no body is around.

Nobody around **she punches herself n calls cops sayn u hit her

Breaking up is hard regardless and there's little that can be done to sugar coat the fact that someone is getting rejected. HOWEVER as with all human interactions...it can be done with tact:

1. Never break up via text, phone or any long distance communication technology. It's fucked up...it tells the person they're unimportant.



Face to face shows respect. A lunch or a casual coffeee is the best. No dinner breakups.

2. Never break up on holidays or important days like birthdays. That goes without saying. Breaking up with her in her graduation day was a dick slap homie.

3. Be civil. No matter how angry you might be. It serves no purpose to ether the person if you're already punishing them by taking away your Love.

Get bacon and eggs thrown on ya head at ihop

 

[Max.]

I was dating a bitch for a year...i had a big interview n was super stressed out...n night before this bitch says

"I feel like all we do is fuck n eat food" mind u this bitch works 11 hour days n her schedule sucks bcuz she works at a hospital..n is cryn over time we spend together.. i dumped her right there..n got the job

 

[confucius_says]

I recently broke up with a really great girl because of some small things. It had been piling up for awhile, and I didn't want to keep dragging her through a relationship where it was clear she loved me more than I could ever love her. It was on the day of her graduation, which I couldn't attend because of work, and I don't know if I did the right thing. On one hand, it makes sense to get it done as quickly as possible. On the other hand, when she looks back on that day, whether the videos or photos, she will be reminded of that break-up. I talked to some friends about it, and got mixed views. In light of this break-up, I wanna know what your guys rules for break-ups are? Where do you guys stand on breaking up through text, taking someone out for a meal to break up with them, keeping them on social media after a break up, and all that shit?

the bolded is your first mistake....

honestly...time to grow up bruh

we all have our hiccups.

breaking up thru text is bitch nigga shit. if you afraid of the girl....then how was you with her and going to protect her? thats not the man way.

why keep an connection immediately after breaking up?

you want them to see you happy or sad?

take them out to dinner? for what? to say...this aint working...ill have one more drink and you pay for your own shit?

if you had the day to spare.....that should be more important that you spend it with her..but if you broke up on her graduation day....just know...thats a time in her life she will never get back and your negative and selfish ways dimmed her light or tarnished her shine.

and for what.

if you ever get her back and you dont go 110%

just dont be surprised if she looks at you like a lil nigga

That's not a mistake. The little things make up life brah. The fact that she doesn't put as much effort into her appearance anymore, or that she gets way too attached, or that her family is super scrutinizing of my future when her sisters have married guys that don't even have half the education I have, can't be ignored forever.

If being grown is about handling business it would be childish to just trudge along in a relationship because I don't want to let go.

but you stated things that can be fixed.

bruh....a good woman does not come along often especially in this new culture.

from what you have stated...it seems like something is bothering her or she me be feeling depressed about something....so her appearance and attachment can come from not feeling worthy.

and fukk her family, my nigga. whos family aint gonna look at a nigga fukkin they daughter, sister or whoever ..kinda crazy?

they want you to be the man they think she deserves. cant fault them for that....but dont punish her because of it either.

shit ..putting it all together....she might have been feeling between a rock and a hard place.

she might have been told...you look to good to be with him, he aint shit.

or hes a young nigga hes gonna cheat.

no telling what shes hearing or have to defend.

not once did you state you sat and talked to her about it.

how do you know it aint you?

you could be projecting and shes taking it on because she loves you and dont know how to handle it.

Sounds like dude just fell out of love with her. Once you no longer love someone, not much you can do about it. Best to be honest with yourself then to waste both of your time. This is not a marriage so the damage is minimal. What kills me about people is being in a relationship knowing they don't want to be in it. They rather just be unhappy instead of being honest.

 

[2stepz_ahead]

one day this nigga gonna be about have to have surgery...

an his chick gonna put all his shit in the hospital parking lot and be like

an guess what....

he gonna ask if it could have waited til he woke up

 

[twenty2]

I recently broke up with a really great girl because of some small things. It had been piling up for awhile, and I didn't want to keep dragging her through a relationship where it was clear she loved me more than I could ever love her. It was on the day of her graduation, which I couldn't attend because of work, and I don't know if I did the right thing. On one hand, it makes sense to get it done as quickly as possible. On the other hand, when she looks back on that day, whether the videos or photos, she will be reminded of that break-up. I talked to some friends about it, and got mixed views. In light of this break-up, I wanna know what your guys rules for break-ups are? Where do you guys stand on breaking up through text, taking someone out for a meal to break up with them, keeping them on social media after a break up, and all that shit?

the bolded is your first mistake....

honestly...time to grow up bruh

we all have our hiccups.

breaking up thru text is bitch nigga shit. if you afraid of the girl....then how was you with her and going to protect her? thats not the man way.

why keep an connection immediately after breaking up?

you want them to see you happy or sad?

take them out to dinner? for what? to say...this aint working...ill have one more drink and you pay for your own shit?

if you had the day to spare.....that should be more important that you spend it with her..but if you broke up on her graduation day....just know...thats a time in her life she will never get back and your negative and selfish ways dimmed her light or tarnished her shine.

and for what.

if you ever get her back and you dont go 110%

just dont be surprised if she looks at you like a lil nigga

That's not a mistake. The little things make up life brah. The fact that she doesn't put as much effort into her appearance anymore, or that she gets way too attached, or that her family is super scrutinizing of my future when her sisters have married guys that don't even have half the education I have, can't be ignored forever.

If being grown is about handling business it would be childish to just trudge along in a relationship because I don't want to let go.

What her family thinks of you and your future is none of your business...and unless she was adopting the same ideologies she shouldn't have been held accountable. Women get "attached"...the end... Some women also may "fall off" momentarily as far as upkeep...but in this case a little understanding may have been useful. You did say she just graduated and catchin degrees ain't no slouch shit. Maybe she had a lot on her plate (for HER standards...not by yours) and was feeling a bit overwhelmed... In those times focus typically gets shifted and maybe her concentration wasn't on bein all "glamourous" or a "bad bitch" or however she views it. But something that small more than likely could've been remedied with a conversation. Ion't know... You'd know better than I...

But as far as breakup etiquette... Really all depends on what you think of or how you "feel" about the person. Based off info you've given, I'd guess you were pretty much just over her and didn't think too highly of her... But again... You'd know better than I...

 

[Max.]

@Lucien

Talk more about her apperance what did she stop doin

 

[Stew]

I recently broke up with a really great girl because of some small things. It had been piling up for awhile, and I didn't want to keep dragging her through a relationship where it was clear she loved me more than I could ever love her. It was on the day of her graduation, which I couldn't attend because of work, and I don't know if I did the right thing. On one hand, it makes sense to get it done as quickly as possible. On the other hand, when she looks back on that day, whether the videos or photos, she will be reminded of that break-up. I talked to some friends about it, and got mixed views. In light of this break-up, I wanna know what your guys rules for break-ups are? Where do you guys stand on breaking up through text, taking someone out for a meal to break up with them, keeping them on social media after a break up, and all that shit?

You sir, are a scumbag and this thread is for you.
http://community.allhiphop.com/discussion/556350/scumbag-thread-2-0#latest

And since you dont care about her feelings, surely you wouldnt mind droppin her nudes in this thread.
http://community.allhiphop.com/discussion/526449/the-playas-lounge-2-0#latest

 

[Trillfate]

Pics of the dumpee?

 

[2stepz_ahead]

I recently broke up with a really great girl because of some small things. It had been piling up for awhile, and I didn't want to keep dragging her through a relationship where it was clear she loved me more than I could ever love her. It was on the day of her graduation, which I couldn't attend because of work, and I don't know if I did the right thing. On one hand, it makes sense to get it done as quickly as possible. On the other hand, when she looks back on that day, whether the videos or photos, she will be reminded of that break-up. I talked to some friends about it, and got mixed views. In light of this break-up, I wanna know what your guys rules for break-ups are? Where do you guys stand on breaking up through text, taking someone out for a meal to break up with them, keeping them on social media after a break up, and all that shit?

the bolded is your first mistake....

honestly...time to grow up bruh

we all have our hiccups.

breaking up thru text is bitch nigga shit. if you afraid of the girl....then how was you with her and going to protect her? thats not the man way.

why keep an connection immediately after breaking up?

you want them to see you happy or sad?

take them out to dinner? for what? to say...this aint working...ill have one more drink and you pay for your own shit?

if you had the day to spare.....that should be more important that you spend it with her..but if you broke up on her graduation day....just know...thats a time in her life she will never get back and your negative and selfish ways dimmed her light or tarnished her shine.

and for what.

if you ever get her back and you dont go 110%

just dont be surprised if she looks at you like a lil nigga

That's not a mistake. The little things make up life brah. The fact that she doesn't put as much effort into her appearance anymore, or that she gets way too attached, or that her family is super scrutinizing of my future when her sisters have married guys that don't even have half the education I have, can't be ignored forever.

If being grown is about handling business it would be childish to just trudge along in a relationship because I don't want to let go.

What her family thinks of you and your future is none of your business...and unless she was adopting the same ideologies she shouldn't have been held accountable. Women get "attached"...the end... Some women also may "fall off" momentarily as far as upkeep...but in this case a little understanding may have been useful. You did say she just graduated and catchin degrees ain't no slouch shit. Maybe she had a lot on her plate (for HER standards...not by yours) and was feeling a bit overwhelmed... In those times focus typically gets shifted and maybe her concentration wasn't on bein all "glamourous" or a "bad bitch" or however she views it. But something that small more than likely could've been remedied with a conversation. Ion't know... You'd know better than I...

But as far as breakup etiquette... Really all depends on what you think of or how you "feel" about the person. Based off info you've given, I'd guess you were pretty much just over her and didn't think too highly of her... But again... You'd know better than I...

it brings into question a few things..

she showed him what was important....he didnt show her.

im trying to not insult people any more....but bruh sound high maintenance

 

[Beech Oss Neega]

Did you communicate with her about the small things that were bothering you before the breakup?

 

[LUClEN]

I recently broke up with a really great girl because of some small things. It had been piling up for awhile, and I didn't want to keep dragging her through a relationship where it was clear she loved me more than I could ever love her. It was on the day of her graduation, which I couldn't attend because of work, and I don't know if I did the right thing. On one hand, it makes sense to get it done as quickly as possible. On the other hand, when she looks back on that day, whether the videos or photos, she will be reminded of that break-up. I talked to some friends about it, and got mixed views. In light of this break-up, I wanna know what your guys rules for break-ups are? Where do you guys stand on breaking up through text, taking someone out for a meal to break up with them, keeping them on social media after a break up, and all that shit?

the bolded is your first mistake....

honestly...time to grow up bruh

we all have our hiccups.

breaking up thru text is bitch nigga shit. if you afraid of the girl....then how was you with her and going to protect her? thats not the man way.

why keep an connection immediately after breaking up?

you want them to see you happy or sad?

take them out to dinner? for what? to say...this aint working...ill have one more drink and you pay for your own shit?

if you had the day to spare.....that should be more important that you spend it with her..but if you broke up on her graduation day....just know...thats a time in her life she will never get back and your negative and selfish ways dimmed her light or tarnished her shine.

and for what.

if you ever get her back and you dont go 110%

just dont be surprised if she looks at you like a lil nigga

That's not a mistake. The little things make up life brah. The fact that she doesn't put as much effort into her appearance anymore, or that she gets way too attached, or that her family is super scrutinizing of my future when her sisters have married guys that don't even have half the education I have, can't be ignored forever.

If being grown is about handling business it would be childish to just trudge along in a relationship because I don't want to let go.

What her family thinks of you and your future is none of your business...and unless she was adopting the same ideologies she shouldn't have been held accountable. Women get "attached"...the end... Some women also may "fall off" momentarily as far as upkeep...but in this case a little understanding may have been useful. You did say she just graduated and catchin degrees ain't no slouch shit. Maybe she had a lot on her plate (for HER standards...not by yours) and was feeling a bit overwhelmed... In those times focus typically gets shifted and maybe her concentration wasn't on bein all "glamourous" or a "bad bitch" or however she views it. But something that small more than likely could've been remedied with a conversation. Ion't know... You'd know better than I...

That is absolutely my business, especially when her fam is so involved in her life and they will be a part of any future I would have with her. I need to factor that in when considering the future.

You're right about the other stuff

 

[LUClEN]

Did you communicate with her about the small things that were bothering you before the breakup?

We talked about some of it. I tried to get her to get back in the gym, that was an uphill battle I lost. We talked a lot about her fam. I didn't just drop it all on her and say "by the way it's not working".

 

[twenty2]

I recently broke up with a really great girl because of some small things. It had been piling up for awhile, and I didn't want to keep dragging her through a relationship where it was clear she loved me more than I could ever love her. It was on the day of her graduation, which I couldn't attend because of work, and I don't know if I did the right thing. On one hand, it makes sense to get it done as quickly as possible. On the other hand, when she looks back on that day, whether the videos or photos, she will be reminded of that break-up. I talked to some friends about it, and got mixed views. In light of this break-up, I wanna know what your guys rules for break-ups are? Where do you guys stand on breaking up through text, taking someone out for a meal to break up with them, keeping them on social media after a break up, and all that shit?

the bolded is your first mistake....

honestly...time to grow up bruh

we all have our hiccups.

breaking up thru text is bitch nigga shit. if you afraid of the girl....then how was you with her and going to protect her? thats not the man way.

why keep an connection immediately after breaking up?

you want them to see you happy or sad?

take them out to dinner? for what? to say...this aint working...ill have one more drink and you pay for your own shit?

if you had the day to spare.....that should be more important that you spend it with her..but if you broke up on her graduation day....just know...thats a time in her life she will never get back and your negative and selfish ways dimmed her light or tarnished her shine.

and for what.

if you ever get her back and you dont go 110%

just dont be surprised if she looks at you like a lil nigga

That's not a mistake. The little things make up life brah. The fact that she doesn't put as much effort into her appearance anymore, or that she gets way too attached, or that her family is super scrutinizing of my future when her sisters have married guys that don't even have half the education I have, can't be ignored forever.

If being grown is about handling business it would be childish to just trudge along in a relationship because I don't want to let go.

What her family thinks of you and your future is none of your business...and unless she was adopting the same ideologies she shouldn't have been held accountable. Women get "attached"...the end... Some women also may "fall off" momentarily as far as upkeep...but in this case a little understanding may have been useful. You did say she just graduated and catchin degrees ain't no slouch shit. Maybe she had a lot on her plate (for HER standards...not by yours) and was feeling a bit overwhelmed... In those times focus typically gets shifted and maybe her concentration wasn't on bein all "glamourous" or a "bad bitch" or however she views it. But something that small more than likely could've been remedied with a conversation. Ion't know... You'd know better than I...

That is absolutely my business, especially when her fam is so involved in her life and they will be a part of any future I would have with her. I need to factor that in when considering the future.

You're right about the other stuff

If she was letting that rhetoric influence her then yes...I agree with you 100% because it would have had an impact on the relationship. But if she didn't pay them any mind then that background noise should have been viewed as just that...background noise...

But I'll take the bolded as "she was lettin them get in her ear"...

 

[2stepz_ahead]

I recently broke up with a really great girl because of some small things. It had been piling up for awhile, and I didn't want to keep dragging her through a relationship where it was clear she loved me more than I could ever love her. It was on the day of her graduation, which I couldn't attend because of work, and I don't know if I did the right thing. On one hand, it makes sense to get it done as quickly as possible. On the other hand, when she looks back on that day, whether the videos or photos, she will be reminded of that break-up. I talked to some friends about it, and got mixed views. In light of this break-up, I wanna know what your guys rules for break-ups are? Where do you guys stand on breaking up through text, taking someone out for a meal to break up with them, keeping them on social media after a break up, and all that shit?

the bolded is your first mistake....

honestly...time to grow up bruh

we all have our hiccups.

breaking up thru text is bitch nigga shit. if you afraid of the girl....then how was you with her and going to protect her? thats not the man way.

why keep an connection immediately after breaking up?

you want them to see you happy or sad?

take them out to dinner? for what? to say...this aint working...ill have one more drink and you pay for your own shit?

if you had the day to spare.....that should be more important that you spend it with her..but if you broke up on her graduation day....just know...thats a time in her life she will never get back and your negative and selfish ways dimmed her light or tarnished her shine.

and for what.

if you ever get her back and you dont go 110%

just dont be surprised if she looks at you like a lil nigga

That's not a mistake. The little things make up life brah. The fact that she doesn't put as much effort into her appearance anymore, or that she gets way too attached, or that her family is super scrutinizing of my future when her sisters have married guys that don't even have half the education I have, can't be ignored forever.

If being grown is about handling business it would be childish to just trudge along in a relationship because I don't want to let go.

What her family thinks of you and your future is none of your business...and unless she was adopting the same ideologies she shouldn't have been held accountable. Women get "attached"...the end... Some women also may "fall off" momentarily as far as upkeep...but in this case a little understanding may have been useful. You did say she just graduated and catchin degrees ain't no slouch shit. Maybe she had a lot on her plate (for HER standards...not by yours) and was feeling a bit overwhelmed... In those times focus typically gets shifted and maybe her concentration wasn't on bein all "glamourous" or a "bad bitch" or however she views it. But something that small more than likely could've been remedied with a conversation. Ion't know... You'd know better than I...

That is absolutely my business, especially when her fam is so involved in her life and they will be a part of any future I would have with her. I need to factor that in when considering the future.

You're right about the other stuff

If she was letting that rhetoric influence her then yes...I agree with you 100% because it would have had an impact on the relationship. But if she didn't pay them any mind then that background noise should have been viewed as just that...background noise...

But I'll take the bolded as "she was lettin them get in her ear"...

but why shouldnt she?

they been there from the beginning...

i would be more suspect of a chick who can drop or ignore her family easily.

but are their concerns about him legit?

Did you communicate with her about the small things that were bothering you before the breakup?

We talked about some of it. I tried to get her to get back in the gym, that was an uphill battle I lost. We talked a lot about her fam. I didn't just drop it all on her and say "by the way it's not working".

maybe she wasnt ready bruh..everyone aint ready when you are....thats where your love for her needed to have patience.

but you know something....you saying she just graduated.....imma chalk this up to youth and inexperience.

cuase real shit....nigga you dont know problems if thats all it took

 

[obnoxiouslyfresh]

I'm sure one of the rules include not breaking up with someone on graduation day.