Sunday IC conversation: wife wants her masters and be a stay at home mom

[BEAM]

.. Imagine every time you come home, the house is put together, the laundry is done, the food is made, the kids are taken care of and doing their home work or recreation shit in their room. Yes, I can also clean and cook and shop, but most people don't want to do that after a long day of work. It's like you get off work, and you're right back at it again. That's not cool for most people ..

Those things need to happen without fail tho; Just like his check needs to show up without fail.

A lot of women don't just want to be stay at home Mothers, many of them also want to not have to work / be taken care of; But of course, they still want to hold on to double standards ( especially in a relationship ) and have equal decision making liberties..

They want to have their cake and eat it too, and staying at home with the kids is a way to get both.

It's 2016. Niggas need to stop entertaining conversations like this with women, tbh.

 

[2stepz_ahead]

is the woman really gonna sacrifice her potential after being with friends who travel the world, buy whatever and have a bit more independent?

if things got right...how will she feel?

if a random rich nigga rolled up, how will she react?

these are the things that matter.

the need and want can change very quickly when things are tight just as loyalty would.

 

[So ILL]

You don't need a Master's to be a stay at home mom, all you need are excellent domestic skills.

 

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[Lurker6]

With how much money these degrees cost i dont even know how this can be a conversation sane people can have.

If you going to grad school and haven't figured out how to make these grants and scholarships work for you, you don't belong in grad school imo

I don't know, maybe my experience in the hard sciences doesn't apply if it's for an arts or social sciences masters/phd, but between the aforementioned ways of getting the money for grad school you can also get teaching assistant or even prof work to make it even more affordable. Research studentships and assistantships pay enough to cover tuition

Really tho if she doesn't plan on doing anything with her degree afterwards what's the point of even doing the work? let alone the cost

@Kai

This is the current trend do nothing bitches do to try and gain some fake self-worth and act like they bring something to the table. They'll try to use the degree as a crutch to lean on. So if she ever gets into an arguement with someone and they hit her with the "you dont even do anything, ur just a housewife" she can be like "I'm not a dumb housewife, i have a Masters".

Like Tiger Woods ex-wife. She made then news down here because the graduated with a bachelors in psychology and they had her give the commencement speech at the graduation ceremony. Nevermind the fact that she was a multimillionaire, that didnt work and it took her 9 years to get a bachelors, in a career field she wont ever work in because shes rich as fuck and doesnt need to work.

 

[Kwan Dai]

Forward thinking men wouldn't have an issue with this at all. People die, get sick, divorced, ose jobs etc. A woman having the means to go out in the work place should it become a necessity is what's important.

 

[Ghostdenithegawd]

That logic should be immediately grounds for divorce

 

[2stepz_ahead]

Forward thinking men wouldn't have an issue with this at all. People die, get sick, divorced, ose jobs etc. A woman having the means to go out in the work place should it become a necessity is what's important.

yea but....having a degree in a field of work she has no history in is not ...

nevermind

 

[Kwan Dai]

Forward thinking men wouldn't have an issue with this at all. People die, get sick, divorced, ose jobs etc. A woman having the means to go out in the work place should it become a necessity is what's important.

yea but....having a degree in a field of work she has no history in is not ...

nevermind

There are plenty of grads that don't work in the field in which they have a degree. So, your point is moot. Having a degree makes one employable. Plain and simple.

 

[BEAM]

There are plenty of grads that don't work in the field in which they have a degree. So, your point is moot. Having a degree makes one employable. Plain and simple.

She not talking about employment tho.

She's talking about long-standing debt and a two-year period of unemployment.

She not even talking about working on having a better job by the time the kid's in kindergarten.

Her being dude's Wife / the Mother of his Kids doesn't change what this is. It's 2016, you're enabling.

 

[Kwan Dai]

There are plenty of grads that don't work in the field in which they have a degree. So, your point is moot. Having a degree makes one employable. Plain and simple.

She not talking about employment tho.

She's talking about long-standing debt and a two-year period of unemployment.

She not even talking about working on having a better job by the time the kid's in kindergarten.

Her being dude's Wife / the Mother of his Kids doesn't change what this is. It's 2016, you're enabling.

I don't know what your point is?

I wouldn't have an issue with my wife obtaining her masters and then staying home with the children for however long she decided. If, we can afford the debt then it's not an issue.

 

[AP21]

 

[2stepz_ahead]

There are plenty of grads that don't work in the field in which they have a degree. So, your point is moot. Having a degree makes one employable. Plain and simple.

She not talking about employment tho.

She's talking about long-standing debt and a two-year period of unemployment.

She not even talking about working on having a better job by the time the kid's in kindergarten.

Her being dude's Wife / the Mother of his Kids doesn't change what this is. It's 2016, you're enabling.

I don't know what your point is?

I wouldn't have an issue with my wife obtaining her masters and then staying home with the children for however long she decided. If, we can afford the debt then it's not an issue.

but why not get out of debt faster...

the faster yall outta debt the more of life you can enjoy...

and what age is the chick we talking about and how long married should be another question.

 

[2stepz_ahead]

Forward thinking men wouldn't have an issue with this at all. People die, get sick, divorced, ose jobs etc. A woman having the means to go out in the work place should it become a necessity is what's important.

yea but....having a degree in a field of work she has no history in is not ...

nevermind

There are plenty of grads that don't work in the field in which they have a degree. So, your point is moot. Having a degree makes one employable. Plain and simple.

you need work history to be considered over other candidates.

just saying...

someone coming out of college at 24 willing to work an someone who sat at home5-10 years....

just saying

 

[Kwan Dai]

There are plenty of grads that don't work in the field in which they have a degree. So, your point is moot. Having a degree makes one employable. Plain and simple.

She not talking about employment tho.

She's talking about long-standing debt and a two-year period of unemployment.

She not even talking about working on having a better job by the time the kid's in kindergarten.

Her being dude's Wife / the Mother of his Kids doesn't change what this is. It's 2016, you're enabling.

I don't know what your point is?

I wouldn't have an issue with my wife obtaining her masters and then staying home with the children for however long she decided. If, we can afford the debt then it's not an issue.

but why not get out of debt faster...

the faster yall outta debt the more of life you can enjoy...

and what age is the chick we talking about and how long married should be another question.

Perhaps they are enjoying life by supporting each other in their endeavors. Every investment doesn't have to have a cash return. Damn. It's like that's all most of yall think about and perhaps that's why most cannot find any fulfillment in life.

 

[BEAM]

I don't know what your point is?

I wouldn't have an issue with my wife obtaining her masters and then staying home with the children for however long she decided. If, we can afford the debt then it's not an issue.

That's you, bruh; Which is why I said you're enabling.

Degree, but no job..

Debt, but no income..

New field, but no experience..

Adult, but being taken care of..

The issues pile up fairly quickly, fam.

And will she be willing to have dude hold her accountable for her stay-at-home duties the same way I'm sure she'll hold him accountable for his check magically appearing? Is the house gon be clean every day? How often is she gon make dinner? What is her job past "taking care of the kids?" Who's gon hold her accountable?

Seeing as how dude called in abt this, I'm sure they've already argued about it, which she's using her position in his life as ( a woman ) / his Wife / the Mother of his children as leverage..

 

[desertrain10]

Forward thinking men wouldn't have an issue with this at all. People die, get sick, divorced, ose jobs etc. A woman having the means to go out in the work place should it become a necessity is what's important.

can't watch the video right now, but I wonder if the wife planned on finding work after the kids reached a certain age?

while I can see how some ppl would feel as though his wife is asking a lot of her husband, i agree that it is a good insurance policy

if anything were to prevent the husband from providing, she has the tools needed to step in

 

[Kwan Dai]

Forward thinking men wouldn't have an issue with this at all. People die, get sick, divorced, ose jobs etc. A woman having the means to go out in the work place should it become a necessity is what's important.

yea but....having a degree in a field of work she has no history in is not ...

nevermind

There are plenty of grads that don't work in the field in which they have a degree. So, your point is moot. Having a degree makes one employable. Plain and simple.

you need work history to be considered over other candidates.

just saying...

someone coming out of college at 24 willing to work an someone who sat at home5-10 years....

just saying

Family. Don't make shit up. No where was it said, that the wife sat at home. And again a person with a degree is forever employable. They may not be at particular pay scale or able to step right into a leadership position but they will eventually find a decent gig.

 

[Kwan Dai]

I don't know what your point is?

I wouldn't have an issue with my wife obtaining her masters and then staying home with the children for however long she decided. If, we can afford the debt then it's not an issue.

That's you, bruh; Which is why I said you're enabling.

Degree, but no job..

Debt, but no income..

New field, but no experience..

Adult, but being taken care of..

The issues pile up fairly quickly, fam.

And will she be willing to have dude hold her accountable for her stay-at-home duties the same way I'm sure she'll hold him accountable for his check magically appearing? Is the house gon be clean every day? How often is she gon make dinner? What is her job past "taking care of the kids?" Who's gon hold her accountable?

Seeing as how dude called in abt this, I'm sure they've already argued about it, which she's using her position in his life as ( a woman ) / his Wife / the Mother of his children as leverage..

Who the hell else would it be?

I don't have problem with the caller whining or you whining. To each his own.

Degree but no job? Wrong. Her job is to maintain the family and raise the kids according to our family rules and vision.

Debt. but no income. Not a problem if, it's determined that the debt can be paid without sacrificing an opportunity for someone else within the family. Families accrue debt all the damn and most times on worse things then a Master degree. O the horror.

New field but no experience. And?

Adult but being taken care of. Not sure what planet you're from but most of the men I know are ok with taking care of their wives.

I would hope that this woman or any woman making this decision wouldn't have to be held accountable, she would be doing the damn thing knowing the sacrifices that were made for her. I would also think the husband would hold himself responsible for making sure his dough stays straight.

 

[Kwan Dai]

Forward thinking men wouldn't have an issue with this at all. People die, get sick, divorced, ose jobs etc. A woman having the means to go out in the work place should it become a necessity is what's important.

can't watch the video right now, but I wonder if the wife planned on finding work after the kids reached a certain age?

while I can see how some ppl would feel as though his wife is asking a lot of her husband, i agree that it is a good insurance policy

if anything were to prevent the husband from providing, she has the tools needed to step in

I don't see what difference it makes whether the mom eventually makes it into the workplace.

All I would ask is, my wife keep getting better and growing as a person. And she support me in getting better.

I'm married and the reality is, at some point I will be without my wife and she will be without me. When that time will be neither of us knows but you're correct it's helpful to be in a position to always be able to provide for oneself.