Spinoff: And what would be the problem with itemized child support payments

[powerman 5000]

The dad can always request certain things for child support. In the state of Washington, the man can ask the woman to itemize all money going towards her child in support. Based off all expenses, the judge can rule for the father to pay half of all expenses. You can also request that a portion of their child support be placed in some sort of account where the child is the only person allowed access to it until the age of 18. But that must be worked out in detail with the other parent. Men don't really realize how many options they have in regards to child support. The problem is that the justice system won't promote it, and usually it gets denied based off of the payment history of the one asking for it.

Thank you for the information. All I've ever wanted to know is why( other than the obvious reasons) these options aren't made standard. I've had the privilege of seeing how some agencies of 2 different states work. The bottom line is that it isn't about the kid, it's never been about the kid. The kid is the catalyst to get the things some hurt, vengeful person wants way too often. It's not about being fair, just or accountable. I don't think it's outrages to want to know where your child support payment is going. If the government gives you money, you better believe somebody is researching and justifying why you should get it. It just seems smart to have a check and balance in place. Not to protect the person paying or to monitor the person receiving; but to ensure the kid is getting what they need. If the payment comes is $400 and the monthly expenses came to $300, enclose the statement from the bank that says there's $100 in a bank account in the kids name, what is no outrageous about this?

 

[thehonorable]

Lol

Notice I said a feeling of control

I dunno what is the problem if both parties want to have a thought of contorl in the situation anyway, it would slow down the anger factor....its fact that anger comes from the feeling of lack of control.

 

[UPTOWN]

Lmao!

Honestly

If child support was itemized most dudes would end up paying more and still complaining about the system getting over on them

My dumb ass cousin tried this shit, claimed he was paying too much, took his bm to court, after she listed everything she was paying the judge said he wasn't paying enough, some non custodial parents be it male or female sometimps just don't get how much it is to care for a child from day to day, stats show that it takes roughly a quarter of a milli to get a child to age 18, now do the math, 400 every month for 18 years is only a third of that.

And I'm definitely not against accountability some of these hos are straight up outrageous with how they care for their child, and unfortunately the courts do absolutelty nothing about it, and they should

But this idea that having accountability will get backlash from women is funny, if anything it would take some of the financial burden off the custodial parent and give the noncustodial a more realistic view of the cost to care for a child

Let's keep it 100%

This has more to do with a man feeling in control and less to do about accountability, like Ms.S said many states already do what you guys claim it is you want to see, which is put the money on a debit card so purchases can be tracked.

And no one is satisified

im sorry luv .. but when you have kids then holla at me .... ill point out the main mistake of this post .... you say its costs 250,000 to raise a child till 18 right ... now even tho thats wrong, you still are going by the 400 a month deal then comparing it to THE ENTIRE 250,000 when it should be half of that ..... the fact is ... most custodial parents hold on to the kid with their dear life so they can have the upper hand .... offer them complete coverage of half of everything related to the childs expenses or ask them to keep shit how it is and ID BET QUARTER OF A MILLI THEY WANT SHIT THE SAME. 98% of the time its not even about the kid ... its about making the non custodial reget that the relationship didnt work .... case closed LOL

 

[7figz]

The first time a state pass legislation to regulate how a women spend child support money is when every women would demand a condom no matter who she fucking. Child support is a lot of woman's end game.

Agreed fully.

All these posts about "all that matter is taking care of your child...." aren't realistic.

10,000 dollars is too much to take care of a child.

 

[7figz]

The most reasonable shit so far is what T/S said about itemizing it. If the custodial parent doesn't have receipts, then fuck it.

 

[7figz]

The best thing would be each parent keeps the child for an equal amount of time and nobody pays each other shit for support.

 

[tru_m.a.c]

an actual discussion going on for once.......

 

[blackdemo]

The day my bm puts me on child support is the day both of them are cut out of my life FOREVER, i dont give a flyin fuck about morals. I aint really want him anyway, im jus doin what i gotta do *kanye shrug*

 

[sonofliberty]

The day my bm puts me on child support is the day both of them are cut out of my life FOREVER, i dont give a flyin fuck about morals. I aint really want him anyway, im jus doin what i gotta do *kanye shrug*

Co' blooded

 

[7figz]

The day my bm puts me on child support is the day both of them are cut out of my life FOREVER, i dont give a flyin fuck about morals. I aint really want him anyway, im jus doin what i gotta do *kanye shrug*

I know a few brothas who feel the same way.

 

[UPTOWN]

solution

let the judge decide how much dough the child needs per month ... both parents put half on a debit card and both have access to the records to dispute charges .... all in favor say YAY

 

[UPTOWN]

judges aint shit....

but how can you argue both parents having to give up say 450 month???

that would stop the other parent from spending your dough on things that arent for your child. this is the main reason why cats dont support their kids financially nowadays... once they get hit wit domestics and then their kids mom starts living all good and buys a new car etc .. thats when niggas be like "fuck that ... i'd rather just go to jail"

and its funny how other women think " oh you doing good girl" ... but if a dude gets in a good space its "oh he must not be taking care of his kids"

these ladies out here aint making no dough like that ... they are literally using babies as a means of income ... then when the kids get older .. they have no college fund or anything ... but your baby mama stayed wit her hair done and kept a new honda accord every 5 years .... shit is scust cuzzo

 

[DEE-LICIOUS]

You know the child is being taken care of, fed, clothed. That child support money usually just goes into their bank account and gets used right along with the rest of their money. Itemizing purchases wouldn't even make sense.

I see your point, but realistically this wont work. Niggas be payin 100-200 a month and complaining like hell. Day care costs up to 150 a damn WEEK. Your lil 200 ain't shit. plz. It kills me how men wanna act like the female is being sooo underhanded and shit when they are taking care of that child 100% of the time. Kids are NOT CHEAP. Get over yourselves. If u got a problem with child support, strap the fuck up and stop making these babies.

 

[thehonorable]

You know the child is being taken care of, fed, clothed. That child support money usually just goes into their bank account and gets used right along with the rest of their money. Itemizing purchases wouldn't even make sense.

I see your point, but realistically this wont work. Niggas be payin 100-200 a month and complaining like hell. Day care costs up to 150 a damn WEEK. Your lil 200 ain't shit. plz. It kills me how men wanna act like the female is being sooo underhanded and shit when they are taking care of that child 100% of the time. Kids are NOT CHEAP. Get over yourselves. If u got a problem with child support, strap the fuck up and stop making these babies.

HOw does that last paragraph have anything to do with my plan. At all.

Why are people acting like I am saying no one gets anything until things are itemized? Is anyone even reading what I wrote...or is this just the IC where people just go off the thread title.

 

[DEE-LICIOUS]

Title. Exactly correct.

 

[thehonorable]

Title. Exactly correct.

Did you read the first post. I believe it comes out quite fair.

 

[Drgoo0285]

the obvious answer is that it's impossible to actually figure how much a child is going to need from year to year.

There are the normal things we know they need like food watter, shelter but the thing is most kids will need/should have more than that.

Take for an example education. Should the kid just stay in public school or should they go somewhere else? A child's future is almost solely based on the education you give them.

What if the kid becomes sick or injured? You are going to spend more on a sick kid than a well one.

What if the kid becomes talented in some field, shouldn't both parents support their child's abilities.

 

[7figz]

solution

let the judge decide how much dough the child needs per month ... both parents put half on a debit card and both have access to the records to dispute charges .... all in favor say YAY

Nay - I still say the parents should split the time (custody) equally and support the child themself. Mother have him half a year and pay all expenses. Father had him half a year and pays all expenses.

The problem with the court deciding is that shit ain't always realistic. My parents wouldn't be spending $800 dollars a month on each of us - let alone one of us.

 

[-JB-]

Title. Exactly correct.

Pardon me QB DEE , but I thought that title said, Titty, CARRY on Darkness

 

[DEE-LICIOUS]

Did you read the first post. I believe it comes out quite fair.

nah i didnt lol still haven't....