So i hear step parents are mad because they have to be.....step parents

[haute]

no i don't think it deserves applause because your simply taking care of the responsibilities that came with that particular package

I don't praise step parents no more than car or home owners

kids come with well known difficulties and responsibilities

raising someone else's kids, especially someone you're fucking and living with, means that you loved your s/o enough to love the crumb snatchers too

but I'm not patting no woman or man on the back for choosing to raise some kids, be it their kids or someone else's

 

[haute]

LMAO, word

I honestly don't expect or want praise for doing what I do but I'd be damn if someone tries to trivialize it as if it ain't shit.

U a 'Ole, step daddy wasn't there to take me to the fair' ass chick.

I guess u a non tipper to ain't cha?

lmao

I tip

but I was raised by two parents who didn't make parenting into some type of automatic saint hood

and when they divorced, my dad didn't change his view, he loved his kids, and if you could too then you could kick it, if you couldn't then you could kick rocks

but he never made parenting anymore than what it was, even when he remarried

 

[2Gee4FourRoomz]

step 2:take two and call me in the morning, act 2: take two(shit) and call me in the morning

 

[kataklysm]

Package deal?

Yes sir...take it or leave it.

 

[VIBE]

Do you and your stepfather feel indirectly responsible for her becoming a meth head...him for cheating and you for telling your mom about him cheating?

No. Apparently I didn't know my mothers sneaky ways. She's tried every drug in the book besides heroin and injecting shit. She's been a habitual user in secret her whole life, off when she was pregnant. Every party we went to she was using, both my step-father and mother admitted that. My step-father was never into drugs, only moderate drinking. My mom told me he would degrade her while using but she didn't care. So all it was was finding someone she can share this life w, and she did.

 

[2stepz_ahead]

these two are married and she is about to get her other son. but while they was dating and when they got married nothing changed, and he knew the whole time that she has kids and was attempting to get the other. at what point is it her fault.

maybe its me, but i look at it like you cant take half the baggae when you are with someone. even if you take the responsibility and she does get tough but you cant just choose to deal with it when you want nor can you be verbally abusive just because you want. its not like he moved in with her...he asked her to move with him. he put himself in this situation. nothing just popped up.

from what im readin in these posts ...basically what you guys are saying is like if a guy meets a girl and she tells him she got aids and he still fukks her raw and one day catches aids and slowly dies...its her fault for having aids but not his fault for sleeping with her knowing she got the aids and he can verbally abuse her because he caught the HIV

 

[Disciplined InSight]

This thread should've been called 'yeah, I'm selfish, fuck yo kids!"

 

[haute]

AIDS nigga

I mean

I get the flea reference

but AIDS

nigga..........

 

[2stepz_ahead]

im nt comparing aids to the kids...im more comparing the situation you get urself into know full well whats going on but for some reason want it to change for you

 

[UPTOWN]

so a freind of mine is mad because he thinks he should not have to be a step parent. he choose to be with this girl knowin that she had a kid when he moved her in. but now hes mad because he has to help raise the kid and the kid is nothing like he wants him to be.

so he tells the girl that she doesnt know whatr he has to deal with raising someone elses child. havin his finances go to someone elses child. and thinks he can pick and choose when to participate in the childs life and when he can just flat out go into a room and ignore the child.

i called him a selfish asshole and we took bet on how many people will agree with me.

and he will be readin this.

i didnt read thru the thread. but why should he have to help raise the kid??

im not with my kids mom but if she had a boyfriend he wouldnt have to spend time or money with my kid

 

[shtoopid]

i wouldn't wanna take care of somebody else kid, but if you're moving in with someone that has a kid its normal for her to expect you to take care of it.

 

[atribecalledgabi]

Just because he's with ole girl does NOT mean he has to have a hand in raising that child.

I do not agree with the assesment that he has to break his own bread, watch, raise a child that is not his... that is the parent's responsibility, not his!

If he choses to do so than he is doing the parents a favor and if he choses not to, he should not be looked down upon. He did not have a hand in making that child, he shouldn't help raise that child unless HE wants too... and if he's raising that child, he should have a say on WHATEVER!

Who cares if she had a child before they met, that's her and her baby father's business, and they should be adults and take care of THEIR responsibilities!

i had to read through this a couple times to get it....shit didn't make any more sense the fourth time i read it than the first time.

what exactly are you doing if you're living with a woman & her child is there too? ts said the couple is married so the responsibilities are shared between them. her child is one of her responsibilities. if you mean the dude shouldn't have to replace the biological father is one thing....but to say dude is gonna sit in a house with another person in it & not interact with em at all for 10+ years is retarded.

 

[kataklysm]

i had to read through this a couple times to get it....shit didn't make any more sense the fourth time i read it than the first time.

what exactly are you doing if you're living with a woman & her child is there too? ts said the couple is married so the responsibilities are shared between them. her child is one of her responsibilities. if you mean the dude shouldn't have to replace the biological father is one thing....but to say dude is gonna sit in a house with another person in it & not interact with em at all for 10+ years is retarded.

Shit wouldn't work anyways, no mother would put up with her child being treated like a ghost in their own home. What you're going to come home and greet me but completely ignore my child? Man please..take your immature ass on...

 

[kataklysm]

I like how u ladies ignore the part about the chick not allowing dude to fully play that role... I guess he should feel privileged to bare the burden of her past mistakes...

he should be happy to be part-time daddy/sponsor... u broads are mad arrogant... that "me and my kids don't need no man" posture hasn't been working out... but y'all go ahead and continue to lie to yourselves like its some treasure to deal with your chaos and dysfunction...

fuck out here...

lol..what females with children have posted in the thread but avoided that question?

I already said that I'm cool with him playing the role in it's entirety, but then again this is the first man I've let around my child and it's a serious relationship.

I can see women that have men in and out of her child's life taking exception to the latest boyfriend punishing her children, but otherwise I don't see the problem.

We used to run to our dad whining about our stepdad punishing us but neither he nor my mom was trying to hear it...maybe that's why I get it.

 

[kataklysm]

I can respect a woman saying that the man in her life has to be in her childs life...

in t/s scenario, dude seems overwhelmed by having to deal with the situation... I don't think he is selfish or a bad guy... he should probably dip though...

Agreed.

I don't think he's an asshole for NOT wanting to be around kids, especially not having kids himself, but he's naive to think he can have the mother but completely ignore her child.

I know I wouldn't have been with a single father with live-in children before I had a kid and now I wouldn't even want to date a dude that DOESN'T have a kid or two. It's like being an adult with an established career and trying to date a senior in high school..ya'll aren't on the same page.

 

[kataklysm]

*Speechless*

Why is that hard to believe?

Two main reasons:

1) I don't want anymore kids. A childless man is most likely going to want a biological child at some point.

2) A man without a child can't truly to relate to me when it comes to being a parent.

Now I don't want a man with kids everywhere but my boyfriend has two children (boy and girl) that he can financially support without keeping us in the poor house and that's perfect for my personal situation.

*shrugs*

 

[dnyce215]

i didnt read thru the thread. but why should he have to help raise the kid??

im not with my kids mom but if she had a boyfriend he wouldnt have to spend time or money with my kid

I feel you uptown on that post. but it depends on the person

 

[blackrain]

Oh for real? And who is thanking me exactly? Maybe I'm not listening.

I'm not even expecting a thank you though..that will come when she gets older. Plus her sweet moments make all of it worth it.

If you think motherhood and fatherhood are valued the same, just go look at the Mother's Day card section vs. Father's Day cards...matter of fact...the mere fact that on Father's Day there's cards for single mother's kills your point

 

[blackrain]

No offense taken, I agree. He was verbally, physically and mentally abusive to my mom. We watched him choke her out, I'd run up and pull him off and he'd leave but threaten me and my mom.

Really, she said she was gonna divorce him and it took a while, the only reason she went through w it was because she found a "Christian" man who persuaded her to divorce him. That led to the divorce and 4 years of being a meth head w the guy she left her ex for (main reason for the divorce, cheating was just the push)

My mother is a whore, her life is always about men. She was a meth head for 4 years,.

I hate her now, I dispose her bitch add. She ruined everything good about her and showed how weak minded she is. She's a very weak minded person. She's now in Vegas living w another guy, who's Mormon and she thinks she's now Mormon after being Christian since she was a kid.

During the time she was on drugs me and her ex (ex step father) talked shit out, we seen how our actions were stupid and squashed all the hate. Then wr both proceeded to try to fight her meth BF at the time.

She clean now but I hardly talk to her even though she texts me a lot..

People really don't know how dealing with a mom who is a drug addict can warp a kid's perception of things...shit most people have trouble believing a mother can be bad at all

 

[kataklysm]

People really don't know how dealing with a mom who is a drug addict can warp a kid's perception of things...shit most people have trouble believing a mother can be bad at all

That shit is hard to believe.

I mean I know I'm far from a perfect mother, but it's still hard to believe how callous and selfish women can be to the children they brought into the world.

Like this woman in Indiana that left her three daughters with a ex-con in an trailer park full of child molestors...who the fuck DOES that?? smh.