Pros / Cons About Marriage

[HundredEyes]

Most niggas think a marriage is going smooth till it ain't. Ya bitch will know months in advance she about to divorce you.

She'll be making preparations seeing lawyers coaching the kids. Letting her friends know. Everybody will know but you.

When will you know? At the job, some random nigga walks up to your desk, "hey you so n so?" you, quizzical than a mothafuck, but cautious ready to throw hands. Yea that's me.

"Nigga you been served"

You look at the papers it say you can't go back to the crib. You call your wife she don't answer. You go to the house anyway there's either a sheriff there already or she changed the locks. Kids at grandma's.

You gotta call the homey see if you can crash on his couch. You go to the store pick up a six pack. You get in line "PAYMENT DECLINED" that bitch either cleaned out y'all joint bank account or got an injunction put on that bitch. Either way you broke.

Y'all think it's a game if you want.

 

[trilladelic]

Pro: For women it's emotional and financial security for the most part. For men if you're the type that can't sleep alone at night you'll have that I guess..

Con: It's hard to put it back together when things fall apart. I say if you plan for a wedding plan for a divorce too and hope it never happens..

On some honest shit I'd probably get married again if I could be on some Gilberto Rodriguez shit, 2 or 3 wives and they all cool with it. Other than that hell na one n done..

 

[2stepz_ahead]

A lot of niggas selfish and miserable, they can't stand themselves let alone a relationship much less a healthy marriage. What's the male equivalent of a "cat lady?" I can tell a lot of cats are looking forward to being the 47 year old nigga wearing a durag in the club.

a dog nigga...a nigga who uses his dig to make him look tough

 

[2stepz_ahead]

gloomy as it sounds zuko saying a lot of blunt truths

"Every woman is out to get you" is true?

Maybe not, but the way the divorce and child support systems are set up, it damn sure is an option to get you if she feels like it.

Didn't Kat say some shit like 'unless he cheated on me' ?

A man has no such option.

"But judge, she fucked the pool guy."

"... and the leaf-blower guy."

Sound like niggas are just afraid of divorce, not necessarily opposed to marriage.

Which is understandable...but not really the point of the thread.

To answer the point of the thread. There's no upside to marriage, no pro. There is nothing that marriage can offer a man that a noncontractual relationship doesn't.

You want steady in house pussy get a gf

You want female companionship get a gf

You want someone who will cook food go to bed with, get a gf

You want someone who will be loyal and ride or die, get a dog.

Outside of divorce, the cons of marriage are having to see the same person day in day out

Having to take on that person's debt new and old

Paying the bills in a whole house but be relegated to a single room

Having to entertain your bitch

Kids

Parent teacher conferences

In laws

Dinner and functions at in laws

Your wife's boring ass friends

The inevitability of your wife cutting off pussy

Your wife getting old fat and ugly

There are always a fresh batch of 20 yr olds that are off limits to you now.

Trading in your bike or muscle car for a minivan or some other "conventional" family car.

Having money to do whatever with, bitches always wanna do a project that cost money.your money

That's all i got for now.

the same shit thats pros an cons can be the same in a relationship. so only wives emtpy out accounts, keep kids away? alimony aint nothing but a civil suit paid out over time.

 

[2stepz_ahead]

I like when @blakfyahking talks about marriage

so I ain't shit?

 

[2stepz_ahead]

y'all sounding like white women clutching they purse an a chick is a black man walking down the same side of the street.

acting like y'all got something to take, knowing you ain't got shit but crossing the street to avoid possible danger.

no one taking half your chik fil a check

smdh

 

[2stepz_ahead]

gangbangers....don't know they going to get got...but do they avoid the gang?

niggas trynna link up to scrap...do know how it's gonna end...do they avoid the shit talking?

that big ass hoe with 5 kids 7 babydaddies but she cute an all rhem niggas paying support...but you still ebrc ....

cop pulls you over with a trunk full of illegal guns with the serials melted off an all git at least 7 bodies, but you mouthing off at the cop.

but marraige frightens you?

y'all niggas are full of shit

 

[2stepz_ahead]

here the thing...

I can cook for myself,

I can rub one out or buy a hoe,

I have my own loot.

but my wife gives my encouragement when I need it. she strokes my ego when I need it. yea, she's a pain in my ass when I don't need it, but sometimes shit don't go your way.

.

 

[2stepz_ahead]

most of yall don't know what you need or know yourselves.

I can sit an talk to my wife for hours...she stimulates me mentally. alot of chicks are too shallow an can't hold a convo lineger than 10 minutes.

we can go to the beach an play in water for hours with only each other an laugh like we have no problems.

an lastly she hears, and grants my wishes an dreams like I do her.

case an point...

wife said she wanted a certain type ring before I proposed. I heard her...an did what I did. but I also said, if I'm going to be married. I want diamonds too. why should only the woman have diamonds. she bought me a ring with diamonds. this is not stuntin...it's about a woman who listened.I made a request outside of sex an she made it happen.

that shows a certain character.

that makes me fight a bit more or have more patience with her.

it's so much more to this niggas overlook. an niggas don't hold chicks to standards...as long as they cute, fukk em right an bring home a few dollars. it's much more that that

 

[Colin$mackabi$h]

LordZuko gon give the game to you

Ya understand

Thats the reason why he came to you

Ya understand

Cause playing aint the thing to do

Ya understand

 

[Mister B.]

Dude uses app to find his wife getting piped....and HE may end up in jail.

This doesn't help the pro-marriage argument. Brrrrrrrrrdot!

 

[AZTG]

I mean lets be real for a second, we always hear the negstives and never the positived. Not just about marriage or hoes cheating, but with just about everything.

Its more good people in the world then bad, and its more good stories than bad.

The bad stories always take more of a toll though, its just the human condition. Hard to stay sane over it all, but what happens happens

 

[Lefty_]

I wish y'all the best.

Take your scorned ass up the block damn.

Scorned? Nigga. I'm looking at the data. I got uncles who are divorce attorneys. I'm looking at the stats.

52% of marriages end in divorce. 70% are initiated by the woman. When you break it down racially 80% of marriages btw black people end in divorce.

But I'm not the one to argue with a walking lick. Far as I'm concerned you wanna be a stain, be a stain.

Dont get mad at me cause you wasn't hittin it right my nigga.

And since we talking walkin licks, now you speak in my language baby, you remind me of an interaction I had wit one of my homies the other day.

We was Ridin and I wanted a icy white, we was on the south side(I'm from the east) and we pulled up to the corner store that we ain't frequent, bunch of niggas standin outside lookin like it's the first and they short, I grew up thirsty so I know what it look like.

Anyway, my nigga..... we'll call him zuko today, was like, Bruh you pulled up to the flookiest store in the city, don't surprised if they get on some bullshit wit you.

And I said nah nigga, don't be surprised if they get on that bullshit wit YOU nigga. I'm good.

Walked in the store got what we got and banged out.

Basically fam, don't say I'm a walkin lick cause YOU a bitch, that don't got nothin to do with me, take your tears, and fears, poll questions and percentages to a shrink and ask em where it went wrong B.

 

[blacktux]

On my way to divorce atm, just outgrew the idea of it being necessary just like i outgrew religion.

Funny thing i got married when i was the most religious id ever been.

Basically, if getting married isn't meeting some spiritual/religious fulfillment, you would be stupid as fuck to do it as a MAN.

You see the horror stories, you know the odds against you...and you still going to do the shit?

Its said that its intelligent to learn from your own experiences, but WISE to learn from the experiences of others. Be wise....

 

[aneed123]

Dude uses app to find his wife getting piped....and HE may end up in jail.

This doesn't help the pro-marriage argument. Brrrrrrrrrdot!

Perfect example.. he gotta face charges instead of her having to pay alimony and him getting custody of their child cuz of the wife's evil ways... but let the man cheat smh

 

[aneed123]

I mean lets be real for a second, we always hear the negstives and never the positived. Not just about marriage or hoes cheating, but with just about everything.

Its more good people in the world then bad, and its more good stories than bad.

The bad stories always take more of a toll though, its just the human condition. Hard to stay sane over it all, but what happens happens

Naw homie i learned years ago the world evil ... good people with morals aren't the norm

 

[2stepz_ahead]

On my way to divorce atm, just outgrew the idea of it being necessary just like i outgrew religion.

Funny thing i got married when i was the most religious id ever been.

Basically, if getting married isn't meeting some spiritual/religious fulfillment, you would be stupid as fuck to do it as a MAN.

You see the horror stories, you know the odds against you...and you still going to do the shit?

Its said that its intelligent to learn from your own experiences, but WISE to learn from the experiences of others. Be wise....

gangbangers....don't know they going to get got...but do they avoid the gang?

niggas trynna link up to scrap...do know how it's gonna end...do they avoid the shit talking?

that big ass hoe with 5 kids 7 babydaddies but she cute an all rhem niggas paying support...but you still ebrc ....

cop pulls you over with a trunk full of illegal guns with the serials melted off an all git at least 7 bodies, but you mouthing off at the cop.

but marraige frightens you?

y'all niggas are full of shit

so you calling me a bitch, bruh?

 

[BiblicalAtheist]

I mean lets be real for a second, we always hear the negstives and never the positived. Not just about marriage or hoes cheating, but with just about everything.

Its more good people in the world then bad, and its more good stories than bad.

The bad stories always take more of a toll though, its just the human condition. Hard to stay sane over it all, but what happens happens

Naw homie i learned years ago the world evil ... good people with morals aren't the norm

Definitely more evidence to suggest earth is a place of evil where you're suppose to beat the odds and be good.

 

[blacktux]

There is NOTHING that you get in a marriage that you dont get in a long term, committed relationship. Speaking from a MALE perspective.

All of the pros stated arent exclusive to having a wife instead of a long term girlfriend. Yall need to stop.

Not scorned. Me and my ex have a great relationship. We still chill at eachothers places and do a great job co-parenting. Still have hour long talks; still LOVE eachother.

A dude doesnt have to be angry to point out statistics, experiences; the shit is just plain not an intelligent move. Stop allowing pressure (from your family, your woman, pastor etc) to guilt trip you into making dumb decisions.

 

[2stepz_ahead]

I mean lets be real for a second, we always hear the negstives and never the positived. Not just about marriage or hoes cheating, but with just about everything.

Its more good people in the world then bad, and its more good stories than bad.

The bad stories always take more of a toll though, its just the human condition. Hard to stay sane over it all, but what happens happens

Naw homie i learned years ago the world evil ... good people with morals aren't the norm

one of my old heads asked

if I was a good person having a bad days

or a bad person having a good days

shit had me thinking.

but it's more vain, ego driven, selfish people out there.