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obnoxiouslyfresh
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housemouse;527906 said:Just wanted to get some perspective from other females and guys if they have any input. A little background. My wife is a stay at home mom. We have a toddler who will be 3 next month. He doesn't go to day care or anything like that. I work a full time job but I usually try to cook and do the dishes when I get home. If I'm not up to it then we'll usually end up ordering out or something. Our house pretty much stays dirty and I feel like my wife isn't really doing her part. She looks after our son while I'm at work but based on what I see when I'm home I feel like she's not really doing enough.
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Kat;7818045 said:We're all adults here, what gives her the right to essentially live rent and responsibility free as a grown woman? Because she has your child?
Maybe she's lost. Does she ever express the desire to do something outside of the house? Is she tired of being a stay at home mom?
She's really more of an indoor person. I try to get her out of the house but it's not really how she was raised. She was in school to be a pharmacist at one point but she dropped out long before we had a kid and goes back for a semester every now and then. Right now she's not in school though. I thought she'd be really great with kids but she's really just been getting very frustrated with our kid since he came home from the hospital. I kind feel like she'd be less frustrated if she got out of the house more often but she doesn't seem to want to.
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Not even sure if she understands the concept of being busy all day. She says she pretty much just cleans up messes that our kid makes and she does do laundry every now and then but the house is never noticeably cleaner unless somebody is coming over which usually involves me helping to get it clean.
shit happens
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Well before i give a real answer that will surely set you on the right path it's important to have proper communication skills but the question i have is
Do she got dat ass?
Do she got dat ass?
housemouse;7818075 said:Not even sure if she understands the concept of being busy all day. She says she pretty much just cleans up messes that our kid makes and she does do laundry every now and then but the house is never noticeably cleaner unless somebody is coming over which usually involves me helping to get it clean.
If your chick makes the house cleaner when others come over than when you are there, that means she prioritizes impressing others over you, really. In a relationship, as soon as other people's opinions become more important than your spouse/gf, then you are fucked. Your opinion matters most, and vice versa.
People fuck up when mother in law,gf, lunch nigga, friends, bosses, sister/brother's opinions matter more.
Nah I try to clean up after myself. I try do stuff to avoid contributing to a mess and try to advise her to do the same like throwing trash away instead of just setting it on the night stand because you don't feel like getting out of bead and taking measures to keep our kid out of shit instead of just getting mad about it later and having to clean it up. She's not tryin to do none of that though.
BiblicalAtheist
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No one on this forum is gonna be able to tell you how to get your wife to give a fuck about her house. She doesn't care and things aren't going to change until she does care.
Yeah I'm not expecting a solution. I really just wanted to know if I was the one tripping or if it was her. I've avoided being too much of an asshole about the situation because I wasn't sure if I was in the wrong. Hearing outside opinions on the situation definitely helps me see things a lot clearer.
BiblicalAtheist
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You really needed other people to say 'yeah she's being a lazy fuck'?
She say she clean up after the kid but something ain't adding up here. If it's only the 3 of yall and the kids mess is being cleaned and you say you do your part to help when you get home does that mean she is messing up and won't clean up after herself?
If so you gotta crack the whip. If it's mess that you making then that's one thing ( you need to pick your own shit up) but if it's her and her shit all over the place you need to check her for it.
If so you gotta crack the whip. If it's mess that you making then that's one thing ( you need to pick your own shit up) but if it's her and her shit all over the place you need to check her for it.
BiblicalAtheist ;7819984 said:You really needed other people to say 'yeah she's being a lazy fuck'?
Yeah she had me pretty convinced that she was workin hard while I was gone and then she always has some kind of injury every couple of months that last for a real long time and prevents her from doing basic shit. Right now it's a knee injury that she somehow got from sleeping the wrong way. I just wasn't sure if it was laziness or if some people just aren't built the same way. Both my mom and my older sister walked to work every day when they were pregnant with their first child so I'm definitely not used to seeing this kind of laziness but I didn't know if what I'm used to seeing is just my family or if people from different backgrounds would think the same thing. Had everybody come on to this thread and told me how hard it was to be a mother and that I need to do more around the house I would have figured that I was wrong and that their must be something about being a housewife that I just don't understand.
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BiblicalAtheist
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What was she like before the kid?
I think she might have done a little bit more cleaning but we didn't have as much shit back then. She actually used to cook too. She also worked with me in telemarketing at one point until I got into IT and started making money. She hasn't worked since. It's possible that our kid could be taking a tole on her. The problem with that is I want more kids and it seems like she can barely tolerate the one we have. Can't stand the way she treats him sometimes. I'm firm with him and will whoop his ass if he disobeys me but she makes it seem like she just doesn't want him around at times. I certainly hope it never comes down to divorce, child support, hate, mistrust and regret.
BiblicalAtheist
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That's a shitty situation you're in. Good luck with all that.
