Chi-Town Bully
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Cheating is the ultimate disrespect, aint no forgiveness after that. I wouldn't be able to trust her so it would be no point in giving them a second chance
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IS IT FOOLISH OF YOU TO STAY WITH THE PERSON WHO CHEATED ON YOU?
playmaker88
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Its like taking in a pet alligator...
Recaptimus_Prime360
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Depends. It's easy for folks to say "It's over." But it depends on the length of time the relationship has been going.
Folks who are in long term relationships, are more likely to be forgiving. Mainly b/c you think about all the time invested in the relationship. Speakin from personal experience.
Folks who are in long term relationships, are more likely to be forgiving. Mainly b/c you think about all the time invested in the relationship. Speakin from personal experience.
The Prodigalson
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MzGrahamBitches;5687993 said:Wow..that's rather selfish.
So you can see where you might fuck up and need (and want) her forgiveness, but it's impossible to believe she might fuck up and be worthy of your forgiveness after all these years of being a good woman to you?
I just don't think I buy that. I think most dudes would be more forgiving than they think if actually in the moment.
How is that selfish? It's human nature to look out for ones best interest. Whether she chose to take me back is completely up to her just like whether or not I chose to take her back which more than likely wont happen on my part. Fuck I look like forgiving someone who ran to someone else for affection? What I don't know can't hurt me, But what I do I know could hurt us both.
The Prodigalson
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AP12;5688010 said:depends on the situation...i mean if he beating you...then you foolish to stay...no one deserves a second chance to hit you again...
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MzGrahamBitches;5687957 said:I don't know, it's like this...I can invest in a man for years and years and leave him over being a human and fucking up only to start over with the next man and chance him doing the same damn thing.
When you invest in someone long term it's possible that they're going to screw up.
People were married for LIFE back in the day..you think no forgiving was going on?
A lifetime is a long time to be perfect.
DAM.. WISE WORDS FROM KATT...
I CAN RESPECT THAT
The Prodigalson;5688024 said:MzGrahamBitches;5687993 said:Wow..that's rather selfish.
So you can see where you might fuck up and need (and want) her forgiveness, but it's impossible to believe she might fuck up and be worthy of your forgiveness after all these years of being a good woman to you?
I just don't think I buy that. I think most dudes would be more forgiving than they think if actually in the moment.
How is that selfish? It's human nature to look out for ones best interest. Whether she chose to take me back is completely up to her just like whether or not I chose to take her back which more than likely wont happen on my part. Fuck I look like forgiving someone who ran to someone else for affection? What I don't know can't hurt me, But what I do I know could hurt us both.
It's selfish because you expect something from her that you can't offer yourself.
You can see where you might fuck up.
You would want her to forgive you.
But let the shoe be on the other foot and it's impossible all of a sudden?
That seems selfish to me.
AP12;5688010 said:depends on the situation...i mean if he beating you...then you foolish to stay...no one deserves a second chance to hit you again...
Share ya story, why he hit u?
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I don't think this can be genuinely and truly answered until you are put in the position to deal with such a thing.
You may feel strongly about "throwing up the deuces" now but depending on the fabric of your relationship, what has been built and the circumstances one can't say that how they feel now would be exactly how they would react and handle the situation if ever it so happened to them. Not to mention people grow and perceptions change, what you feel now may not carry through into the future or once put in that position.
The betrayal of trust is what is difficult to swallow. Deceit is unacceptable, it changes dynamic and it's difficult not to see the person in a different light.
I will say that the moment you decide to remain with a partner who cheated, you can no longer hold it against them. They have committed the crime, did the time and it was your choice to stay, you cannot throw it in their face furthermore every time an argument or disagreement ensues. It isn't fair to them and it isn't fair to you. A lot to consider when making that decision. If you hold grudges and cannot let go, its best to let go of the relationship altogether or resentment will build and things will downspiral, quick, and to the point of bitterness.
You may feel strongly about "throwing up the deuces" now but depending on the fabric of your relationship, what has been built and the circumstances one can't say that how they feel now would be exactly how they would react and handle the situation if ever it so happened to them. Not to mention people grow and perceptions change, what you feel now may not carry through into the future or once put in that position.
The betrayal of trust is what is difficult to swallow. Deceit is unacceptable, it changes dynamic and it's difficult not to see the person in a different light.
I will say that the moment you decide to remain with a partner who cheated, you can no longer hold it against them. They have committed the crime, did the time and it was your choice to stay, you cannot throw it in their face furthermore every time an argument or disagreement ensues. It isn't fair to them and it isn't fair to you. A lot to consider when making that decision. If you hold grudges and cannot let go, its best to let go of the relationship altogether or resentment will build and things will downspiral, quick, and to the point of bitterness.
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DROWORLDPEACE;5688030 said:ITS FUNNY THAT WOMEN USUALLY GIVE THE GUY A 2ND, 15TH CHANCE
BUT U CHEAT ON A DUDE ONE TIME AND HE KICKIN YO ASS OUT
Or so they claim.
I personally know of plenty of examples that would indicate otherwise, and these examples weren't even all that deep into the relationship.
I feel like if dude is that quick to jump ship when you've been down for him for years and years, he was just waiting for you to fuck up.
Nah, people fuck up....
There is a difference between cheating and having an affair...
Overheard my girl and her mother and sister talking once...they said the kind of men all three go for, they expect at least a couple of slip ups...I was surprised at this opinion.
I aint never told her I overheard that...saving it for that black day...lol...jk....
There is a difference between cheating and having an affair...
Overheard my girl and her mother and sister talking once...they said the kind of men all three go for, they expect at least a couple of slip ups...I was surprised at this opinion.
I aint never told her I overheard that...saving it for that black day...lol...jk....
playmaker88
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Only give someone 1 chance to fuck up.. fuck that shit this aint baseball
I guess marriage would be slightly more difficult because your tied together.. but........ fuck that
I guess marriage would be slightly more difficult because your tied together.. but........ fuck that
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DNB1;5688054 said:Nah, people fuck up....
There is a difference between cheating and having an affair...
Overheard my girl and her mother and sister talking once...they said the kind of men all three go for, they expect at least a couple of slip ups...I was surprised at this opinion.
I aint never told her I overheard that...saving it for that black day...lol...jk....
lol...no you're not j/k..stop playing.
The Prodigalson
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MzGrahamBitches;5688042 said:The Prodigalson;5688024 said:MzGrahamBitches;5687993 said:Wow..that's rather selfish.
So you can see where you might fuck up and need (and want) her forgiveness, but it's impossible to believe she might fuck up and be worthy of your forgiveness after all these years of being a good woman to you?
I just don't think I buy that. I think most dudes would be more forgiving than they think if actually in the moment.R
How is that selfish? It's human nature to look out for ones best interest. Whether she chose to take me back is completely up to her just like whether or not I chose to take her back which more than likely wont happen on my part. Fuck I look like forgiving someone who ran to someone else for affection? What I don't know can't hurt me, But what I do I know could hurt us both.
It's selfish because you expect something from her that you can't offer yourself.
You can see where you might fuck up.
You would want her to forgive you.
But let the shoe be on the other foot and it's impossible all of a sudden?
That seems selfish to me.
yet I'm willing to accept my fuck up and the consequences that comes with it's whether good or bad. It's not like I'm going in sayi g you're going to take me back even Pugh I cheated. That's being selfish. Me asking for forgiveness and whether she accept it or not is complexly up to her. Just like my choice in forgiving her is completely up to me.
I cheated on my ex..
we been broke up for about a year now,
but she still cool with my aunts and cousins..
we just started talking and coming around each other recently..
I forgot how close me and her was, until we got cool again..
now I feel like I fucked up by cheating on her..
I know I can get her back.. I just dont think she would ever trust me again,
and she'll always accuse me of doing shit, and that will lead to arguments,
and we'll both be miserable..
So no I dont think it would work out..
we been broke up for about a year now,
but she still cool with my aunts and cousins..
we just started talking and coming around each other recently..
I forgot how close me and her was, until we got cool again..
now I feel like I fucked up by cheating on her..
I know I can get her back.. I just dont think she would ever trust me again,
and she'll always accuse me of doing shit, and that will lead to arguments,
and we'll both be miserable..
So no I dont think it would work out..
