IS IT FOOLISH OF YOU TO STAY WITH THE PERSON WHO CHEATED ON YOU?

[kzzl]

That would definitely be foolish on my part. It'd be foolish on her part as well to bother coming back to me. I'm not a huge fan of accepting/giving forgiveness. So her having lost my trust, respect, and given me such power over her, things would get worst before it got better. That shit won't happen over night and it won't be regained easy. Gonna take a while before I let water be under the bridge again.

SMH. I ain't got time for all that shit. It's why I'm a care free, win some, lose some kind of guy when it comes to chicks. Fuck all that emotional investment. Besides...

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[blakfyahking]

as a person who has been on both sides of the cheating topic

I have to say that there were a lot of sincere posts dropped by some of the guys in here

women refuse to acknowledge that men and women see sex differently period

so yeah niggaz are all about their ego when 9 times out of 10 a woman needs an emotional connection to cheat

vs. a man can fuck multiple women like they are just walking fleshlights

unless you already secretly admitting to yourself that maybe you did something so fucked up that you personally feel partially responsible for your s/o cheating.................I don't see any honest mofo in here being seriously willing to take back someone who made a physical and emotional connection to someone else outside their relationship

any female who can't be honest about that is either a liar, or she has another deficiency about her (ie. low-esteem, a shady dishonest person, potential leech, etc.)

no mofo has that much pure forgiveness in their heart, nor should they

 

[Shizlansky]

A man can't take back a women

But

A women can take back a man

 

[sweetheart93]

Yes, it's foolish because cheaters don't change. Once they do it, it's easier for them to do it again. I would never take back a cheater. I've seen women do it and it's always worse when he does it again.

 

[texasdaking88]

Never a reason to cheat.. just leave..then u can fuck anybody u want.. ion wanna hear no shit about "you wasn't there for me" or some shit like that.. 9 times out of ten, when I wasn't there, you was on some typical woman shit and didn't say a thing.. part of being human is also paying for your mistakes.. if some Dick/pussy was worth you losing something you say you really want, then tough tittie..bye

She just told you that whenever shit ain't going well, she searching fa some mo Dick..

 

[Cinco]

Tried to forgive my ex, justifying it cause I had did shit.

In Reality that just gave her the pass that I "condone" her doing that

So she kept doin it.

Had my head messed up, no trust.

Never again

 

[Silverbacc_LHC47]

Been apart of these situation both ways and we decided to work it out. WORST CHOICE EVER!!! you never fully trust each other and shit is like slow death. I literally wasted 6 years of my life dragging it out. When I finally let it go I felt like South Africa at the end of a apartheid. Best move is to keep pushing.

 

[Darth Sidious]

IS IT FOOLISH OF YOU TO STAY WITH THE PERSON WHO CHEATED ON YOU? Yes

 

[ptnutz]

I know a chick (my homeboy's ex-wife actually...everybody's still cool though) that got cheated on once by her husband and she stayed with him after the whole drama. They've been married now for like 13 years or something like that. Maybe 15.

But they are the exception to the rule. Generally if you stay with someone who showed you who they were and you didn't believe them it's eventually going to burn your ass in the future. And they next time they do something it becomes exclusively your fault. There's a difference between being forgiving and being a fucking idiot.

Going back to somebody who has proven their unworthiness isnt being a good person. It's being a dumb/weak person.

Thought this deserves a bolded.

 

[NYETOPn]

What are the specs of the relationship? "Married for years with children" is assuredly a harder decision than "dating for

a couple of months". Staying in the latter situation would certainly be foolish.

 

[Meta_Conscious]

People change... That's a scientific fact... So forgiveness is not foolish in general...

 

[Black Boy King]

Cant speak for anyone else, to each his own... but this isn't even a debatable issue for me anymore. Once she cheats, that's it.

I'll forgive, we can be cool. But the relationship will not work. Trust is something hard for someone to earn back from me and generally most ppl don't go thru the effort of gaining it back. They think when I forgive em, I forget abt it and the trust is back... nah...even if I want to trust you, I cant. I really just can't. I can still have feelings for shorty but that trust is gone to oblivion.