if you play stepfather to another mans kid(s).......

[Sh0t]

Clearly, critical thinking it not the norm, so I will break it down.

I don't talk about my children when I'm on a date. Plain and simple. You have a choice to answer yes or no...yes it matters or no it doesn't. If it does, then we don't need to continue. If it doesn't, let's see where it goes...because to me, a child or kids aren't dealbreakers.

Get mad all you want, but that's how I live my life. Its not for any of you to agree with, because its not yours to live.

In regards to not accepting responsibility, my life has been talked about on here...and me admitting my fuck ups is cronicalled....so miss me with that shit.

What does any of that have to do with critical thinking?

You and I are complete strangers, but I know you have kids. So do several dozen other posters here. A man in front of you, that knows your real first name, on a date with you presumably to see if you have chemistry to date further, can't know if you have kids or not? I can understand at rebuffing attempts at digging into personal details like with whom, etc.

Let me give you a real example of critical thinking: A woman that respond to "do you have kids" with essentially "none of your business" ON A DATE is hiding something. Having kids might not be a deal breaker to YOU, but women are smart enough to understand it IS a deal breaker to many men, as this thread has detailed. Same way guys lie about things to seem more attractive, women lie about things to seem more attractive. Men lie, women lie. but numbers don't. In this case, the number is "greater than zero", as in single mothers have more than zero kids.

 

[J-GUTTA]

What does any of that have to do with critical thinking?

Let me give you a real example of critical thinking: A woman that respond to "do you have kids" with essentially "none of your business" ON A DATE is hiding something. Having kids might not be a deal breaker to YOU, but women are smart enough to understand it IS a deal breaker to many men, as this thread has detailed. Same way guys lie about things to seem more attractive, women lie about things to seem more attractive. Men lie, women lie. but numbers don't. In this case, the number is "greater than zero", as in single mothers have more than zero kids.

I think at the end it's about give me that option to fuck with you. I may not like kids. I know a lot of guys that straight don't like kids and that's all it breaks down to B.

 

[ms.jones]

What does any of that have to do with critical thinking?

You and I are complete strangers, but I know you have kids. So do several dozen other posters here. A man in front of you, that knows your real first name, on a date with you presumably to see if you have chemistry to date further, can't know if you have kids or not? I can understand at rebuffing attempts at digging into personal details like with whom, etc.

Let me give you a real example of critical thinking: A woman that respond to "do you have kids" with essentially "none of your business" ON A DATE is hiding something. Having kids might not be a deal breaker to YOU, but women are smart enough to understand it IS a deal breaker to many men, as this thread has detailed. Same way guys lie about things to seem more attractive, women lie about things to seem more attractive. Men lie, women lie. but numbers don't. In this case, the number is "greater than zero", as in single mothers have more than zero kids.

By me asking does it matter, again is giving you the option to say nay or yay. If we are on a date, and you ask the question...I tell you yes, right there it wouldn't matter how many I have, because you already know that's not for you. So, me asking that question is not hiding or omitting anything. As a man, you already know what your answer will be, regardless of how well the date is going. Either it does or it doesn't.

The people on this board knowing, who cares....I will never come in contact with them, and once I sign out, you all cease. Again, how I live my life shouldn't bear on yours.

 

[IamtheVILLE]

its getting deep

 

[Sh0t]

Some men might WANT to meet a woman with kids. They might want to merge families one day, be sterile, or whatever. Some men don't care. They might just be asking as filler, or out of a polite sense of inquiry, showing interesting in knowing you. Some men on this thread have said such.

You are trying to avoid "giving away power" by not allowing them to judge you, not really protecting your kids.

You also keep suggesting your life is somehow effecting us, I doubt that is the case with anybody. Nobody is mad because you have kids, don't talk about them on first dates, or any of that "I have haters" attitude.

 

[IamtheVILLE]

Some men might WANT to meet a woman with kids. They might want to merge families one day, be sterile, or whatever. Some men don't care. They might just be asking as filler, or out of a polite sense of inquiry, showing interesting in knowing you. Some men on this thread have said such.

You are trying to avoid "giving away power" by not allowing them to judge you, not really protecting your kids.

You also keep suggesting your life is somehow effecting us, I doubt that is the case with anybody. Nobody is mad because you have kids, don't talk about them on first dates, or any of that "I have haters" attitude.

real spit.....dun dun dun

 

[kAjUn]

I'm not fathering another man's child

Leave that for the next nigga

I'll pipe but she ain't getting no committment out a nigga unless she got mad bread

 

[Bussy_Getta]

smh ..............

 

[black caesar]

smh ..............

Speak on it. Would you be in a relationship or marry a man with kids?

 

[Bussy_Getta]

Speak on it. Would you be in a relationship or marry a man with kids?

being a step parent wouldnt bother me but alot of things come into play like age, discipline, and what happens if me and the child form a bond but me and his father end up divorcing.

.......................

 

[ICame4Pussy]

What you was SYH at? be specific too

 

[ms.jones]

Some men might WANT to meet a woman with kids. They might want to merge families one day, be sterile, or whatever. Some men don't care. They might just be asking as filler, or out of a polite sense of inquiry, showing interesting in knowing you. Some men on this thread have said such.

You are trying to avoid "giving away power" by not allowing them to judge you, not really protecting your kids.

You also keep suggesting your life is somehow effecting us, I doubt that is the case with anybody. Nobody is mad because you have kids, don't talk about them on first dates, or any of that "I have haters" attitude.

Boy stop. Seriously. I can choose what I want to discuss just as you can choose to disclose whatever information you please. If my kids are not up for discussion, so be it. What part of "You have a choice" that you don't understand? If you do have a problem with a woman that has a child or children, speak up. Don't expect her to be hurt because of YOUR CHOICE. That's why I ask, "Does it matter if I do or don't"? I'm giving you that chance to speak up, and say what's on your mind regarding that issue. This is a first date, not a lifetime commitment. When things get serious, that is when we discuss my family situation.

Why would I care about a guy I just met judging me? Again, if it matters to you that I have children, toodles. We will never work. Not even on a friendship level. If a female having kids is a dealbreaker for you, don't waste your time, nor mine. It's other fish out there waiting to be caught.

What I do in my life is AFFECTING you how? Why does it have to be about hate? I don't care, that's what you fail to realize. I will continue to date this way, I will continue to keep my kids out of my dating life until its deemed necessary. What's so hard for you to figure out about that? Miss me with the "hater" attitude comment.

 

[Bussy_Getta]

What you was SMH at? be specific too

i was smh'n Kajun's post

 

[blakfyahking]

damn, ms. jones in here wiling

you fucking up my fantasy of us together babes

 

[ms.jones]

damn, ms. jones in here wiling

you fucking up my fantasy of us together babes

*shrugs* Oh well.

Kids aren't up for discussion. Period. It's not hard to figure out what I'm doing. I give you a chance to step up and say nay or yea. If all we are doing is fucking, eating, and chilling all you need to know is that I'm HIV free, and I can pay the bill. Casual conversation does not have to include every aspect of my life. If and went we do get serious, that is when you will know more about them, meet them, and so forth. But until that moment, you will not know a damn thing about them.

 

[blakfyahking]

*shrugs* Oh well.

Kids aren't up for discussion. Period. It's not hard to figure out what I'm doing. I give you a chance to step up and say nay or yea. If all we are doing is fucking, eating, and chilling all you need to know is that I'm HIV free, and I can pay the bill. Casual conversation does not have to include every aspect of my life. If and went we do get serious, that is when you will know more about them, meet them, and so forth. But until that moment, you will not know a damn thing about them.

yeah but on a serious note.............that's a deal breaker for A LOT of decent dudes

you might be blocking yourself from a great guy with your counterintuitive logic

the average dude our age wouldn't have an issue with kids, but neglecting to tell me until we been choppin it up for a while would seem strange

especially since pretty much a complete stranger can walk up to me and tell that I'm a father just by seeing the babyseat in my BMW

niggaz ain't hating at all star on how you wanna rock, but you might actually be making your dating life harder than it needs to actually be if you really looking for a certain type of dude :shrugs

/no cape LOL

 

[American.Loo]

ms jones be on point with 99% of the stuff she say

but iono ... if i asked a chick if she had kids and she replied "does it matter"

that'd definitely throw me off.

and if i never asked, and you never brought them up, i'd probably assume you didnt have any (i dont know a parent on earth who NEVER mentions their kids)

so if i really fell deep for a chick, then all of a sudden, she drops the fact that she has kids outta nowhere, that'd fuck me up too

 

[texican11]

@Blakfyahking

You are wasting your time dude...By trying to expalin common sense to MsJones...

"If all we are doing is fucking, eating, and chilling all you need to know is that I'm HIV free, and I can pay the bill"-- MsJones

1)So if you guys are fucking u think he is not gonna notice your C-Section scar???

*What???...You think he gonna think you were stabbed when you were gangbanging???

-You are on funny chick MsJones

2)But keep living in your delusional world

Until you finally reliase that you spend way too much time acting like a special girl...

And u end up all alone raising 2 bastards by yourself...

crying and Praying to Baby Jesus to send you a good man...

 

[ms.jones]

@Blakfyahking

You are wasting your time dude...By trying to expalin common sense to MsJones...

"If all we are doing is fucking, eating, and chilling all you need to know is that I'm HIV free, and I can pay the bill"-- MsJones

1)So if you guys are fucking u think he is not gonna notice your C-Section scar???
*What???...You think he gonna think you were stabbed when you were gangbanging???
-You are on funny chick MsJones

2)But keep living in your delusional world
Until you finally reliase that you spend way too much time acting like a special girl...
And u end up all alone raising 2 bastards by yourself...
crying and Praying to Baby Jesus to send you a good man...

*sigh* here this bitch go....I was waiting for your ugly ass to show up....you dirty foot immigrant....mad cause your mom fucked all the cholos in the neighborhood, and you are the trick baby.

My entire existence shits on your whole family. The only thing you can say is 'Ms.Jones is a single mother blah blah blah..." Bitch suck a fat one. You are a known to be ugly, broke, an immigrant with mommie issues. So what I don't talk about my kids....how does that affect your bitch ass in any way?

Take your issues up with your whore mother. Not my fault she had to trick for refried beans to keep your nasty ass fed.

 

[ms.jones]

ms jones be on point with 99% of the stuff she say

but iono ... if i asked a chick if she had kids and she replied "does it matter"

that'd definitely throw me off.

and if i never asked, and you never brought them up, i'd probably assume you didnt have any (i dont know a parent on earth who NEVER mentions their kids)

so if i really fell deep for a chick, then all of a sudden, she drops the fact that she has kids outta nowhere, that'd fuck me up too

Real simple, "Yes it does matter to me" or "No, it doesn't."